Name: 你真的想你所想吗 (Who decides what you think? Not you... | Staffan Ehde | TEDxYouth@Helsingborg)
Uploaded: 2018-08-06T08:25:56.000Z
Duration: 18 min 3 s

Translator: Ivana Krivokuća Reviewer: Mile Živković

譯者：Ivana KrivokućaIvana Krivokuća 審校:Mile Živković

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So how many of you want to conquer the world for the better?

那麼，你們有多少人想征服世界，讓世界變得更好？

好的，好的。很好，我們為什麼不說呢？我們為什麼不說呢？

You want to... Audience: Conquer the world...

Staffan Ehde: ... world for the better, yes.

Staffan Ehde:...世界變得更好，是的。

When I was at your age, I thought that old people were boring, to be honest.

當我在你這個年紀的時候，說實話，我覺得老人家很無聊。

To me, it looked like they had everything, and yet they complained.

在我看來，他們好像什麼都有了，但他們卻在抱怨。

So I decided, when I was going to grow old, I was not going to be like them.

所以我決定，當我要老去的時候，我不要像他們一樣。

But the sad news is that most of us in this room

但可悲的是，我們在座的大多數人...

are going to end up being just that boring.

So how come that some young people that are resourceful,

所以，怎麼會有一些機靈的年輕人。

they have everything, accomplish nothing,

他們什麼都有，什麼都沒有完成。

and some people that are sourceful and have nothing, can change the world?

而一些源源不斷、一無所有的人，能改變世界嗎？

That's what we are going to look at today.

這'就是我們今天要研究的問題。

And I'm not talking to you from and old man's perspective,

而我'不是從和老人的角度和你說話。

I'm talking to you from somebody who just sailed for three years.

我'從一個剛出海三年的人跟你說話。

No, it was not my idea, it was my wife's idea.

不，這不是我的主意，是我妻子的主意。

So she promoted me to my own incompetence by deciding

所以她把我升為自己的無能，決定了

And you know, the skipper is the guy who takes all the important decisions,

而你知道，船長是那個做所有重要決定的人。

and then my wife decides what is important.

然後我的妻子決定什麼是重要的。

So, when you're out there sitting in the cockpit

所以，當你在外面坐在駕駛艙裡的時候。

and the waves are about four meters high,

and the wind is blowing through the rig with the 40 knots strength,

而風正以40節的強度吹過鑽機。

and you're sitting there by yourself, because the other ones are sleeping,

而你'自己坐在那裡，因為其他的人都在睡覺。

And I got really interested in what is that voice.

Who is it that is trying to call me back to my comfort zone?

Why is it so hard to make something different

為什麼做一些不一樣的東西這麼難？

with this voice coming from within, doing actual damage to me?

這個聲音來自內部，對我造成實際傷害？

I have my son, he's three years old, he's standing next to me by a hill.

我有我的兒子，他'三歲，他'站在我旁邊的一座小山旁。

a really steep hill with a gravel road that goes.

一個非常陡峭的山坡，有一條碎石路，去。

the next second he's running like crazy down that road.

下一秒，他就像瘋了一樣在那條路上跑。

His legs are like drumsticks, you know, a small three-year-old.

他的腿就像鼓槌，你知道的，一個小三歲的孩子。

And of course, I start to shout, "Stop it! You're going to kill yourself!"

當然，我開始大喊："別這樣!你'要自殺了!"

And of course, he takes off, he starts to fly like a bird.

當然，他起飛了，他開始像鳥兒一樣飛翔。

but by some reason, women are better at that,

但由於某些原因，女人在這方面比較擅長。

so my wife takes over, and she tells me to get some water and some napkins

所以我的妻子接管， 她告訴我得到一些水和一些餐巾紙。

So I walk away, I get some water and napkins, come back.

所以我走了，我得到一些水和餐巾紙，回來。

Now he's just sobbing, he's not crying anymore.

And what do you think I'm saying? What do you think I'm going to say to him?

那你覺得我說什麼呢？你覺得我會對他說什麼？

I'm saying, "Take no risks, it's going to hurt."

我'說："不要冒險，會受傷的。"

Now, if that wasn't enough, we had a few more messages for our kids.

現在，如果這還不夠的話，我們還有一些消息要告訴我們的孩子。

And I'm going to read everything for you. No, I'm not.

我會為你讀完所有的東西。不，我不會

The one that I love the most is, "You are just like your father."

我最喜歡的一句話是："你就像你父親一樣。"

Anyway, the next question you should ask yourself is:

總之，接下來你應該問自己的問題是。

how many times do we give that message to our kids?

我們要給孩子多少次這樣的資訊？

Actually, there is a research group in Australia

who measured a thousand "normal" families

to see how many negative messages do we give our kids.

來看看我們給孩子的負面資訊有多少。

And they came to an average that says that we're serving our kids

他們得出一個平均數，說我們'服務於我們的孩子們

with 23 negative messages per day for the first 18 years,

This little kid is actually my first daughter.

這個小孩子其實是我的第一個女兒。

And the only programming she has in her brain now

而她現在腦子裡唯一的程序是：

eat, fight, and if it doesn't work, run, and reproduce yourself.

吃，打，如果不行，就跑，然後自己繁殖。

Those are the four only codes that we are born with.

這就是我們與生俱來的四種唯一的代碼。

If there is anything I want you to remember from this speech

如果我想讓你們從這次演講中記住什麼的話

Your brain doesn't know what's right or wrong.

你的大腦不知道什麼是對的，什麼是錯的。

This is something that we program as parents to our kids,

這是我們作為家長對孩子的程式化。

because something that is okay here is not okay in China,

因為在這裡可以的東西，在中國是不行的。

So of course, I can tell my kid, "Don't pick your nose and eat it".

所以，我當然可以告訴孩子，"不要摳鼻子吃"。

But maybe I don't have to do it all the time.

And maybe I shouldn't call my kid an idiot, for instance.

而且也許我不應該叫我的孩子為白痴，比如說。

Think of these lines as 148,000 lines of code

把這幾行代碼看成是148000行代碼。

that you would feed into a computer to create a great software

你會把它輸入電腦，以創建一個偉大的軟件。

You start off with 148,000 lines of "don't".

你從14.8萬行的 "不要'不要 "開始。

And it's not only that, the brain wants to confirm all these lines.

而且它'不僅如此，大腦還想確認所有這些線路。

所以，如果我'被告知，我小時候很笨拙。

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