Today's video is a little bit different.

今天的影片和往常有些許不同。

Lately we've been getting lots of questions from you guys and girls out there about how to travel with your significant other or tips for traveling as a couple.

近來，我們收到很多來自男生和女生，關於如何與另一半一起旅行的問題，並希望我們提供情侶旅遊的建議 。

So I figured I would introduce you, or reintroduce you, to my girlfriend, Carrie Rad.

所以，我想我要介紹，或再次介紹我的女朋友，Carrie Rad 給你們認識。

Hello Vagabuddies.

哈囉！Vagabuddies。

I do a self-care content, primarily. I do travel and lifestyle content, and I talk about ways to take care of yourself.

我的影片內容主要是自我成長。我也有做關於旅遊及生活的內容，並分享自我成長的各種方法。

First and foremost, if you have not subscribed to Carrie, do yourself a favor.

首先也是最重要的，如果你還沒有訂閱 Carrie 的頻道，那麼幫自己一個忙吧。

Check her channel out, hit that subscribe button.

去看看她的頻道，按下訂閱鍵。

Traveling as a couple can be the ultimate test to a relationship.

和伴侶一起旅行可以說是對一段關係的終極考驗。

It could probably end your relationship. A lot of really strong relationships fail when they go out and travel together because travel can be inherently stressful.

你們的關係可能因此畫下句點。許多穩定交往的情侶經歷一起旅行之後分手，因為旅行本來就會帶給人壓力。

Basically today we've come together to share with you guys and girls some of the tips that we have found out, sometimes the hard way, through nearly two years of traveling together.

基本上，今天我們合體就是要和大家分享我們在將近 2 年的共同旅行中領悟到的一些秘訣。儘管有些領悟讓我們吃足苦頭。

So to start things off, we're just going to list out some pros and cons of traveling as a couple.

在開始之前，我們先將一些共同旅行的優點及缺點羅列出來。

Pro: sex is guaranteed.

優點：絕對少不了性愛。

Con: nightlife is probably less likely to happen as a couple just because you have less incentive to go out.

缺點：和另一半一起比較不可能有夜生活，畢竟沒有什麼動力會讓你想要在晚上出去浪。

Why would you go out to eat if you have a Michelin star meal at home?

當你在家就有米其林星級餐點時，你怎麼還會想出去吃呢？

Unless of course you're actually going to a Michelin star restaurant, in which case you should totally go out to eat.

除非你真的是要去米其林星級餐廳吃飯，那你就肯定要出去吃了。

Speaking of food.

說到食物。

Pro: you can always taste more food when you're sharing.

優點：因為可以和另一半分享，所以你總是可以吃到更多種的食物。

Con: some partners eat more than other partners.

缺點：有些伴侶的食量比對方大。

Mmm. Sounds very familiar.

嗯，聽起來非常熟悉。

You have double the money to spend so when it comes to the place that you're staying, like an Airbnb, you can get a nicer space.

你有兩倍的錢可以使用，所以在挑選住宿，像是 Airbnb 之類的時候，你就可以選擇比較好的地方。

You don't need a second bed or a second room, so you're spending less, but your money goes much further.

你不需要第二張床或第二間房，因此你可以少花點錢就享受到更好的住宿體驗。

One of the cons is that if you're not careful, and you don't communicate clearly, one person may feel like they're pulling more weight ,

其中的一個缺點是如果你沒有好好注意，也沒有溝通清楚，其中一個人或許會覺得他為了另外一個人犧牲更多，

and covering the costs of the other person's all-expenses-paid vacation.

為另一半的假期出錢又出力。

Pro: you have two brains to come up with more ideas, which means more fun adventures.

優點：有兩個腦袋能夠激發更多的想法，代表能進行更多有趣的冒險。

Are you ready, Carrie?

你準備好了嗎？Carrie。

Ready.

準備好了。

Let's go.

出發囉。

The con to that is that usually one person tends to take the lead naturally, and that can leave the other person feeling like a little bit ignored or undervalued.

兩人一起旅行的缺點是通常其中一人會自然而然地主導旅程， 而另一個人就會有種被忽略或不受重視的感覺。

And it could cause resentment later on in the trip.

這可能會在之後的旅程中引發不滿。

A lot of the reason why couples tend to argue when they're traveling is all about communication.

許多伴侶會在旅途中爭吵的原因其實都來自於溝通不良。

Sometimes couple can have widely different ideas about what they want to do on their travels, and having expectation is a surefire way to get let down.

有時候雙方對於各自在旅途中希望做的事情，有著南轅北轍的想法， 然而有期望便代表肯定會有失望的時候。

Here's a scenario that's all too familiar in this day and age.

以下是一個在今時今日很常發生的情況。

Babe, do you have your phone with you? This is a perfect photo op for Instagram.

寶貝，你有帶手機嗎？這是一個可以拍出完美照片上傳 Instagram 的機會耶。

You know, I just... I really want to just unplug and I didn't bring my phone and... I don't really...

你知道，我... 我真的只想放鬆，我沒有帶手機而且... 我不是很...

I thought we were going on this trip primarily for Instagram.

我以為我們這趟旅行主要的目的就是要拍照上傳 Instagram 啊。

I didn't even bring my phone!

我連手機都沒帶欸！

We should have talked about this beforehand.

我們在這之前就應該先討論這件事。

So avoid the let down by having a long, clear conversation before you go about what your expectations are for the trip.

因此為了避免失望，還是在旅程出發以前花點時間將各自的期待講清楚說明白比較好。

What you want to get out of it, where you want to go and why, and then once you've done that, sit down and listen to your partner's take on their ideas for the trip.

表達你想要在旅程中得到什麼，你想去哪裡，為什麼， 當你表達了自己的意見之後，坐下來聽聽你的伴侶對於旅程的想法。

Then compare notes and compromise.

然後交流意見，並相互妥協。

One of the most important things that you can do is to talk about your budget, clearly.

你可以做的最重要的事情之一就是清楚的談論自己的預算。

What really works for us is just going Dutch as they say, which literally means splitting the costs fifty-fifty right down the middle.

對於我們來說分攤費用是最可行的方法，也就是將花費拆半分開。

But also try to keep it fair.

不過同時也要盡量保持公平。

You don't have to be counting every single penny because if you're getting obsessive about keeping it 100% totally even, then you might cause a little bit of bad blood.

你不需要錙銖必較，因為如果你堅持要百分百的平等，那麼可能會因此產生芥蒂。

You don't want to spend your trip thinking about every single little penny, you want to enjoy the trip.

你不想在整趟旅程中花時間思考那些小錢，你想要好好享受旅行。

Super important tip: - Eat before you get "hangry."

極度重要的建議：在「餓到生氣」以前就先吃飽。

- Yeah. - I'm the queen of hangry.

- 沒錯。- 我餓了就會生氣。

I'm the king of hangry.

我餓了也會生氣。

So things do not go well when we are hangry.

所以當我們都餓的時候，情況就不太妙。

So we've learned the hard way that we start to get kind of snappy and disrespectful when we're hungry, but it's only our stomachs talking. It's not the real you.

我們吃足了苦頭才明白當我們感到飢餓的時候，我們會開始有些易怒和無禮。不過那都只是我們的肚子在作祟，並不是我們真實的想法。

So, avoid it! Get snacks! Stock up!

所以盡量避免這種狀況！買一些零食！囤多點吃的！

Talk over breakfast about what your lunch and dinner plans are, and if they're few and far between, if you're on a road trip, or you have to cover a lot of distance, if you're traveling like via plane,

在早餐的時候就討論午餐和晚餐的計畫， 如果途中的餐廳寥寥可數，如果你是自駕旅行，或是長途旅行，或如果要搭乘飛機的話，

uh, just make sure that you're stocked up on snacks, that your tummies are full, and it will just make everything that much better.

記得確保你帶足零食，吃得飽飽的，那麼就會讓一切進行的更順利。

And anyways, when you're traveling, food is one of the best parts of travel, anyways.

無論如何，美食本來就是旅途中最棒的一部分。

So if you talk about it at breakfast, then you'll make sure you hit all of your spots that you want to go.

因此如果你們能在早餐時就討論好，那麼就一定能夠去所有你想去的地方。

What about sleeping habits, Carrie?

那麼有關於睡眠習慣呢，Carrie？

I would say generally, you are like getting ready for bed way earlier than I am.

通常來說，你比我早睡。

- Also waking up. I wake earlier than you! - And also.. oh my god, yeah.

- 起床也是。我比你早起！ - 還有... 噢天啊，沒錯。

Like, Carrie is an ultimate morning person.

Carrie 完全就是日間型人。

The reason why I like waking up really early in the morning is because I really, really like personal time and the morning when I'm having my coffee.

我喜歡早起的原因是我真的、真的很享受早上起床啜飲著咖啡時的那種一個人的時光。

It feels like the rest of the world is still asleep, and then there's a bonus because when he wakes up in the morning, coffee has already been made!

有種除了我以外整個世界都還在熟睡的感覺，而且另外還有一個優點就是當他醒來的時候，咖啡也已經煮好了！

Goals.

這就是感情的里程碑。

But that brings us to our next talking point, which is valuing personal space and personal time.

但這帶我們到下一個談論的重點，就是重視個人空間和時間。

Travel can foster immense personal growth, especially solo travel.

旅行能夠大幅促進個人的成長，特別是單人旅行。

But traveling as a couple sometimes you don't have that space to kind of let your wings spread a little bit and really dive into your destination and dive a little bit deeper into yourself.

可是雙人旅行時常讓人感到缺乏能夠讓你完全舒展身心的空間，無法對目的地做深度的探索以及進行自我的沈澱。

A lot of the questions that we got which we will be answering in specifics over on Carrie's channel on the video that we're doing on her channel,

我們將另外做一個影片來回答所有收到的問題，影片會放在 Carrie 頻道中。

were about how to kind of figure out your travel itinerary when one partner wants to do one thing and the other partner wants to do something totally different.

那些問題都是關於如何解決在旅途中當一個人想要做一件事，而另一個人卻想做完全不同的事情時該怎麼做的困擾。

And I think that the easy solution to that is just accepting that... hey ,we're two people here.

我認為最簡單的解決方法就是接受兩個人是獨立的個體這個事實。

We might have different desires when it comes to what we're going to do in a destination, and giving each other the time to do that.

當我們在同一個目的地時，我們對於想做的事情會有不同的期望，那麼就給對方時間去做他想要做的。

And use that time and space to embrace your individuality and explore an adventure and create moments with yourself,

並利用那些時間和空間擁抱自我，探索冒險，替自己創造難忘的時刻，

and then at the end of the day when you guys reunite, you can talk about your travels and your experiences, and all the adventures you had during that day.

在一天結束後，當你們重聚，你們可以討論自己的旅程和體驗，以及所有在當天裡發生的奇遇。

And at the end of the day, that just brings you closer.

這讓你們更貼近彼此。

And it doesn't even need to be a full day. It could be something as small as like,

而且這不一定得花上一整天。它可以只是，

"Cool. I'll see you in an hour or two. We can meet at this little coffee shop, and we can kind of rendezvous."

「好，我們一、兩個小時後見。我們可以在這家小咖啡館碰面約會。」

- Like, for example, Carrie might - Go to a market!

- 比方說，Carrie 可能要去 - 去市場！

Yeah, and go shopping, and I would go on like a trail run or go surfing, and those two activities might seem like polar opposites, but if you give each other a little bit of room to breathe, it can all be fit in.

對，去買點東西，而我則是去越野跑或衝浪。這兩個活動看似南轅北轍，不過如果你們能給對方一點喘息的空間，那麼就都沒有問題。

Which brings us to our next point: compromise.

這也將我們帶到下一個重點：妥協。

Let's take a little quick second here... Okay Google, what is the definition of compromise?

我們等一下... Google 大神，妥協的定義是什麼？

Compromise: an agreement or a settlement of the dispute that is reached by each side making concessions.

妥協：雙方共同達成讓步以解決一個協議或爭議。

Which basically means both sides are equally unhappy with the final product.

也就是說兩方對於最終的結果都一樣的不開心。

- No. That is not what compromise means. - No?

- 不是。妥協的意思才不是這樣呢！- 不是嗎？

What does it mean then?

那是什麼意思呢？

- It just means to be understanding of your partner's plan, and what they want to do and to make sacrifices. - Mm-hmm.

- 它只是代表理解伴侶的計畫和他們希望做的事情，並且做出一些犧牲。-嗯嗯。

Sometimes when you're on a trip, it's impossible to do the two things that both of you want to do at the same time.

當你在旅行的時候，要能夠同時做兩個人都想要做的事情是不可能的。

When that is the case, be the bigger person and like concede a little bit and say,

當這個情況發生時，選擇做那個大方的人，讓步並且告訴對方，

All right, cool. Well, today we'll do the thing that you want to do, and hopefully tomorrow, we can do the thing that I want to do.

沒關係。今天我們做你想做的事，希望明天，我們可以做我想做的事。

Mm-hmm, but also I think that talking about everything that you want to do beforehand like we mentioned before

嗯嗯，但同時我認為在事前就將所有你希望做的事情討論清楚，像我們之前提到過的那樣，

is a really great way to avoid having to sacrifice too much and avoid having to compromise all of the time.

這是一個很棒的方式來避免彼此做出過多的犧牲與妥協。

If you have a game plan, it pretty much solves that problem.

如果你有一個對策，就能夠解決大部分的問題。

Which brings me to our next point, which is have a plan, but don't over plan.

這將帶我們到下一個重點，就是擬定計畫很好，但不需要過度計畫。

Over planning is a guaranteed way to totally destroy the spontaneity and the carefree aspect of travel.

過度計畫是一個肯定會將旅行中的自發性和悠閒自在的特點摧毀的一個方式。

When you over plan something, you feel the stress.

當你過度計畫一件事，你便會感受到壓力。

You feel like you need to be doing something, or you need to be somewhere at a certain time, and that really just kind of removes you from the moment,

你會覺得必須完成某件事或者必須在特定的時間去某個地方，而這樣只會使你沒辦法享受當下，

and it's really going to negatively affect your trip.

過度計畫絕對會負面影響你的旅程。

For us, the best part of traveling together is disconnecting and relaxing.

對於我們來說，一起旅行最棒的一個部份就是能夠抽離和放鬆。

If you have a plan set in place and you're worrying about that all the time, you're not going to be able to relax.

如果你總是必須照著計畫走，那麼你將無法放鬆下來。

The best thing about travelling together, what I love most, is having a full day with no plans, and we can either stay in bed all day if we want to or we can go on some crazy adventures.

一起旅行最棒的事之中，我最愛的一點就是整天都沒有計畫，讓我能隨心所欲地整天賴在床上或者我們可以去做一些瘋狂的冒險。

And I think having that option when you wake up in the morning, depending on how you're feeling, is really important.

我認為早上起床的時候知道自己有照著當天的心情去選擇的餘地是非常重要的。

So for example, Carrie and I went to Costa Rica for two weeks last summer. It was an amazing trip.

舉例來說，我和 Carrie 去年夏天去了哥斯大黎加兩個禮拜。那是個非常令人難忘的旅行。

It was a real big unplug. Neither of us had taken like a proper vacation.

它讓我們徹底的放鬆，因為我們兩個人從來沒有真正地度假過。

I know we travel a lot, but traveling for work and traveling for pleasure sometimes are two very different things.

我知道我們經常旅行，不過為了工作而旅行和為了玩樂而旅行是兩件完全不同的事情。

So when we went to Costa Rica, we had a really loose plan.

當我們去哥斯大黎加時，我們的計畫很鬆散。

I knew that I wanted to spend a couple days in Playa Hermosa, and I wanted to spend a couple of days in the far south of the country at a wave called Pavones.

我知道我想要在 Playa Hermosa 住幾天，然後也想要在最南部一個叫做 Pavones 的地方衝浪幾天。

There was a lot of distance to be covered in between those two things, and Carrie was like, " Where are we going to stay in between?"

這兩個地方相隔著遙遠的距離，於是 Carrie 便問：「那我們在往返兩地之間要住哪裡？」

We kind of just played it by ear, and that was one of the best calls.

結果我們見機行事，而那是我們最好的決定之一。

It was really neat just going on a road trip and not having a plan, and we did cover so much distance.

這是一個很妙的，沒有事先計畫的自駕旅行，而我們行駛了很長的距離。

But we enjoyed every minute of it, and when Alex was surfing a lot, my plan—and we talked about beforehand—was to just disconnect and relax, soak up the sun, read, take naps.

不過我們享受其中的每一刻，當 Alex 去衝浪時，我的計畫（我們在之前就討論好了）就只是抽離和放鬆，沐浴陽光，閱讀，小憩。

I just wanted to do whatever I wanted every single day, and when he was gone surfing, I had a lot of me time, and it was amazing.

我只想每天做任何我想要做的事，當他去衝浪時，我有很多自己的時間，那真的很棒。

On a side note: Carrie did forget to put sunscreen on the first day we were there.

附帶一提：Carrie 在我們到達的第一天忘記擦防曬。

- I knew you were going to say that when I said I soaked up the sun. - And you got a...

- 我剛講到自己在沐浴陽光的時候，我就知道你要提這個了。 - 然後你...

You soaked up the sun, but like, your buns soaked up the sun.

你確實是吸收了陽光，但那比較像是你的屁股吸收了陽光。

You got a third degree booty burn, baby.

寶貝，你的屁股幾乎要三度灼傷了。

I had a booty burn. Wear sunscreen!

我的屁股曬傷了。要記得擦防曬！

Okay, we're getting towards the end of our tips for you guys and girls out there, but one of the most important ones is just to slow down.

好的，我們要提供給大家的建議已然接近尾聲，不過其中最重要的一點是放慢腳步。

Relax. Take it easy.

放鬆。不要緊張。

Take in the moment of being there together as a couple, and make sure that you're aware in the moment.

把握兩個人一起旅行的時光，並確保自己珍惜當下的每一刻。

Keep your mindset as I'm here with my significant other, the person that I love, and I want to embrace every moment that we have together.

保持好的心態，了解到自己和重要的另一半正一起身處此地，自己深愛著身邊的那個人，並想要擁抱在一起的每一刻。

Also, just realize that, you know, travel can be stressful if you let it be stressful.

同時，要明白如果你讓旅行變得有壓力，那麼它就會帶來壓力。

It's pretty much guaranteed that something is going to go wrong on your trip.

我們可以跟你打包票，每一趟旅程總會有出錯的時候。

You might miss a flight. You might get a flat tire.

或許你錯過了班機，或是車子爆胎。

Just look at it as part of the adventure.

但只要把這些都當作冒險的一部分就行了。

Realize that you're there with your best travel companion, and, you know, it's all just part of the journey.

了解到你正和一個最棒的旅行夥伴在一起，你們的經歷都只是旅程的一部分。

So the more you can kind of remove yourself from the expectations, remove yourself from the stress and the hustle and bustle of life at home, it's just going to really allow you to soak it up that much more.

你越能夠將自己從期望中抽離，從壓力中抽離，從喧嘩忙碌的現實生活中抽離，它便越能夠讓你享受旅行中的方方面面。

And when you look back at it, it's always those tough moments that end up being the most memorable ones from a trip.

而當你回過頭去看時，在旅程中最令人難以忘懷的總是那些最艱難的時刻。

Just being on a trip with your significant other, you grow so much as a couple.

和最重要的另一半一起旅行，便能作為伴侶一起成長。

You learn so much about each other, and it just overall can be so great for your relationship.

你們會更了解彼此，而整體說來這對於你們的關係是很有幫助的。

Which is our last piece of advice, which is use your trip together as an opportunity to fall in love again,

而這也是我們的最後一個建議：利用你們一起出遊的機會再一次相愛，

to remind yourself what you really love about your partner and why you've chosen to be with that person.

提醒自己為什麼如此深愛著你的伴侶，還有為什麼你會選擇和他在一起。

Remember that you're there with somebody that you love, so give them the time and attention that they want too.

要記得你是和自己愛人一起出遊，所以記得要給他們想要的時間和關注。

Because at the end of the day, that's really what you're doing as a couple when you're on vacations together. You're reconnecting.

因為最終，那就是為什麼你們要一起度假的原因。你們正重新認識彼此。

And I think it's important to remember that.

我認為記得這點是很重要的。

All right ladies and gentlemen, well that is all. If you enjoyed this video, give it a big thumbs up,

女士先生們，今天的影片到這邊告一段落。如果你喜歡這支影片，請幫我按讚，

tag your significant other or the people or couples that you travel with, and let us know your comments, your tips down in the comment section.

標記你的另一半或和你一起旅行的人或者情侶，並在討論區裡告訴我們你的建議吧。

If you have not already subscribed to Carrie's channel [carrierad], make sure you head over there and do that.

如果你們還沒有訂閱 Carrie 的頻道 [carrierad]，請務必到那裡訂閱。

While you're over there, check out the collab video that we shot answering your questions about how to travel better as a couple.

當你在 Carrie 的頻道時，看看我們合作拍攝的影片。我們在那裡回答了有關如何讓雙人旅行更美好的問題。

Yes. Thank you guys for watching. Thank you for having me over on this channel.

是的。感謝你們的觀賞，還有謝謝你讓我作客你的頻道。

- Yeah, stay curious, keep exploring, and we will see you on the road. - That's it!

- 是的，保持好奇，繼續探索，我們在旅途中相見。- 就這樣囉！

Peace.

掰囉。