Name: 【浪子兄弟】別讓旅遊毀了戀情！情侶出遊該注意的事 (12 Surprisingly Simple Tips for Traveling as a Couple)
Uploaded: 2022-01-12T21:01:10.000Z
Duration: 14 min 8 s

現在進行式

What is going on ladies and gentlemen, Vagabuddies? Welcome back to the channel.

最近好嗎？各位女士、先生們，我的 Vagabuddies，歡迎回來我的頻道。

今天的影片和往常有些許不同。

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Lately we've been getting lots of questions from you guys and girls out there about how to travel with your significant other or tips for traveling as a couple.

近來，我們收到很多來自男生和女生，關於如何與另一半一起旅行的問題，並希望我們提供情侶旅遊的建議 。

So I figured I would introduce you, or reintroduce you, to my girlfriend, Carrie Rad.

所以，我想我要介紹，或再次介紹我的女朋友，Carrie Rad 給你們認識。

I do a self-care content, primarily. I do travel and lifestyle content, and I talk about ways to take care of yourself.

我的影片內容主要是自我成長。我也有做關於旅遊及生活的內容，並分享自我成長的各種方法。

First and foremost, if you have not subscribed to Carrie, do yourself a favor.

首先也是最重要的，如果你還沒有訂閱 Carrie 的頻道，那麼幫自己一個忙吧。

Check her channel out, hit that subscribe button.

去看看她的頻道，按下訂閱鍵。

Traveling as a couple can be the ultimate test to a relationship.

和伴侶一起旅行可以說是對一段關係的終極考驗。

It could probably end your relationship. A lot of really strong relationships fail when they go out and travel together because travel can be inherently stressful.

你們的關係可能因此畫下句點。許多穩定交往的情侶經歷一起旅行之後分手，因為旅行本來就會帶給人壓力。

Basically today we've come together to share with you guys and girls some of the tips that we have found out, sometimes the hard way, through nearly two years of traveling together.

基本上，今天我們合體就是要和大家分享我們在將近 2 年的共同旅行中領悟到的一些秘訣。儘管有些領悟讓我們吃足苦頭。

So to start things off, we're just going to list out some pros and cons of traveling as a couple.

在開始之前，我們先將一些共同旅行的優點及缺點羅列出來。

Con: nightlife is probably less likely to happen as a couple just because you have less incentive to go out.

缺點：和另一半一起比較不可能有夜生活，畢竟沒有什麼動力會讓你想要在晚上出去浪。

Why would you go out to eat if you have a Michelin star meal at home?

當你在家就有米其林星級餐點時，你怎麼還會想出去吃呢？

Unless of course you're actually going to a Michelin star restaurant, in which case you should totally go out to eat.

除非你真的是要去米其林星級餐廳吃飯，那你就肯定要出去吃了。

Pro: you can always taste more food when you're sharing.

優點：因為可以和另一半分享，所以你總是可以吃到更多種的食物。

Con: some partners eat more than other partners.

缺點：有些伴侶的食量比對方大。

You have double the money to spend so when it comes to the place that you're staying, like an Airbnb, you can get a nicer space.

你有兩倍的錢可以使用，所以在挑選住宿，像是 Airbnb 之類的時候，你就可以選擇比較好的地方。

You don't need a second bed or a second room, so you're spending less, but your money goes much further.

你不需要第二張床或第二間房，因此你可以少花點錢就享受到更好的住宿體驗。

One of the cons is that if you're not careful, and you don't communicate clearly, one person may feel like they're pulling more weight ,

其中的一個缺點是如果你沒有好好注意，也沒有溝通清楚，其中一個人或許會覺得他為了另外一個人犧牲更多，

and covering the costs of the other person's all-expenses-paid vacation.

Pro: you have two brains to come up with more ideas, which means more fun adventures.

優點：有兩個腦袋能夠激發更多的想法，代表能進行更多有趣的冒險。

The con to that is that usually one person tends to take the lead naturally, and that can leave the other person feeling like a little bit ignored or undervalued.

兩人一起旅行的缺點是通常其中一人會自然而然地主導旅程， 而另一個人就會有種被忽略或不受重視的感覺。

And it could cause resentment later on in the trip.

這可能會在之後的旅程中引發不滿。

A lot of the reason why couples tend to argue when they're traveling is all about communication.

許多伴侶會在旅途中爭吵的原因其實都來自於溝通不良。

Sometimes couple can have widely different ideas about what they want to do on their travels, and having expectation is a surefire way to get let down.

有時候雙方對於各自在旅途中希望做的事情，有著南轅北轍的想法， 然而有期望便代表肯定會有失望的時候。

Here's a scenario that's all too familiar in this day and age.

以下是一個在今時今日很常發生的情況。

Babe, do you have your phone with you? This is a perfect photo op for Instagram.

寶貝，你有帶手機嗎？這是一個可以拍出完美照片上傳 Instagram 的機會耶。

You know, I just... I really want to just unplug and I didn't bring my phone and... I don't really...

你知道，我... 我真的只想放鬆，我沒有帶手機而且... 我不是很...

I thought we were going on this trip primarily for Instagram.

我以為我們這趟旅行主要的目的就是要拍照上傳 Instagram 啊。

We should have talked about this beforehand.

我們在這之前就應該先討論這件事。

So avoid the let down by having a long, clear conversation before you go about what your expectations are for the trip.

因此為了避免失望，還是在旅程出發以前花點時間將各自的期待講清楚說明白比較好。

What you want to get out of it, where you want to go and why, and then once you've done that, sit down and listen to your partner's take on their ideas for the trip.

表達你想要在旅程中得到什麼，你想去哪裡，為什麼， 當你表達了自己的意見之後，坐下來聽聽你的伴侶對於旅程的想法。

One of the most important things that you can do is to talk about your budget, clearly.

你可以做的最重要的事情之一就是清楚的談論自己的預算。

What really works for us is just going Dutch as they say, which literally means splitting the costs fifty-fifty right down the middle.

對於我們來說分攤費用是最可行的方法，也就是將花費拆半分開。

You don't have to be counting every single penny because if you're getting obsessive about keeping it 100% totally even, then you might cause a little bit of bad blood.

你不需要錙銖必較，因為如果你堅持要百分百的平等，那麼可能會因此產生芥蒂。

You don't want to spend your trip thinking about every single little penny, you want to enjoy the trip.

你不想在整趟旅程中花時間思考那些小錢，你想要好好享受旅行。

Super important tip: - Eat before you get "hangry."

極度重要的建議：在「餓到生氣」以前就先吃飽。

So things do not go well when we are hangry.

所以當我們都餓的時候，情況就不太妙。

So we've learned the hard way that we start to get kind of snappy and disrespectful when we're hungry, but it's only our stomachs talking. It's not the real you.

我們吃足了苦頭才明白當我們感到飢餓的時候，我們會開始有些易怒和無禮。不過那都只是我們的肚子在作祟，並不是我們真實的想法。

所以盡量避免這種狀況！買一些零食！囤多點吃的！

Talk over breakfast about what your lunch and dinner plans are, and if they're few and far between, if you're on a road trip, or you have to cover a lot of distance, if you're traveling like via plane,

在早餐的時候就討論午餐和晚餐的計畫， 如果途中的餐廳寥寥可數，如果你是自駕旅行，或是長途旅行，或如果要搭乘飛機的話，

uh, just make sure that you're stocked up on snacks, that your tummies are full, and it will just make everything that much better.

記得確保你帶足零食，吃得飽飽的，那麼就會讓一切進行的更順利。

And anyways, when you're traveling, food is one of the best parts of travel, anyways.

無論如何，美食本來就是旅途中最棒的一部分。

So if you talk about it at breakfast, then you'll make sure you hit all of your spots that you want to go.

因此如果你們能在早餐時就討論好，那麼就一定能夠去所有你想去的地方。

那麼有關於睡眠習慣呢，Carrie？

I would say generally, you are like getting ready for bed way earlier than I am.

- Also waking up.  I wake earlier than you! - And also.. oh my god, yeah.

- 起床也是。我比你早起！ - 還有... 噢天啊，沒錯。

Like, Carrie is an ultimate morning person.

The reason why I like waking up really early in the morning is because I really, really like personal time and the morning when I'm having my coffee.

我喜歡早起的原因是我真的、真的很享受早上起床啜飲著咖啡時的那種一個人的時光。

It feels like the rest of the world is still asleep, and then there's a bonus because when he wakes up in the morning, coffee has already been made!

有種除了我以外整個世界都還在熟睡的感覺，而且另外還有一個優點就是當他醒來的時候，咖啡也已經煮好了！

But that brings us to our next talking point, which is valuing personal space and personal time.

但這帶我們到下一個談論的重點，就是重視個人空間和時間。

Travel can foster immense personal growth, especially solo travel.

旅行能夠大幅促進個人的成長，特別是單人旅行。

But traveling as a couple sometimes you don't have that space to kind of let your wings spread a little bit and really dive into your destination and dive a little bit deeper into yourself.

可是雙人旅行時常讓人感到缺乏能夠讓你完全舒展身心的空間，無法對目的地做深度的探索以及進行自我的沈澱。

A lot of the questions that we got which we will be answering in specifics over on Carrie's channel on the video that we're doing on her channel,

我們將另外做一個影片來回答所有收到的問題，影片會放在 Carrie 頻道中。

were about how to kind of figure out your travel itinerary when one partner wants to do one thing and the other partner wants to do something totally different.

那些問題都是關於如何解決在旅途中當一個人想要做一件事，而另一個人卻想做完全不同的事情時該怎麼做的困擾。

And I think that the easy solution to that is just accepting that... hey ,we're two people here.

我認為最簡單的解決方法就是接受兩個人是獨立的個體這個事實。

We might have different desires when it comes to what we're going to do in a destination, and giving each other the time to do that.

當我們在同一個目的地時，我們對於想做的事情會有不同的期望，那麼就給對方時間去做他想要做的。

And use that time and space to embrace your individuality and explore an adventure and create moments with yourself,

並利用那些時間和空間擁抱自我，探索冒險，替自己創造難忘的時刻，

and then at the end of the day when you guys reunite, you can talk about your travels and your experiences, and all the adventures you had during that day.

在一天結束後，當你們重聚，你們可以討論自己的旅程和體驗，以及所有在當天裡發生的奇遇。

And at the end of the day, that just brings you closer.

And it doesn't even need to be a full day. It could be something as small as like,

而且這不一定得花上一整天。它可以只是，

"Cool. I'll see you in an hour or two. We can meet at this little coffee shop, and we can kind of rendezvous."

「好，我們一、兩個小時後見。我們可以在這家小咖啡館碰面約會。」

- Like, for example, Carrie might - Go to a market!

- 比方說，Carrie 可能要去 - 去市場！

Yeah, and go shopping, and I would go on like a trail run or go surfing, and those two activities might seem like polar opposites, but if you give each other a little bit of room to breathe, it can all be fit in.

對，去買點東西，而我則是去越野跑或衝浪。這兩個活動看似南轅北轍，不過如果你們能給對方一點喘息的空間，那麼就都沒有問題。

Which brings us to our next point: compromise.

這也將我們帶到下一個重點：妥協。

Let's take a little quick second here... Okay Google, what is the definition of compromise?

我們等一下...  Google 大神，妥協的定義是什麼？

Compromise: an agreement or a settlement of the dispute that is reached by each side making concessions.

妥協：雙方共同達成讓步以解決一個協議或爭議。

Which basically means both sides are equally unhappy with the final product.

也就是說兩方對於最終的結果都一樣的不開心。

- No. That is not what compromise means. - No?

- 不是。妥協的意思才不是這樣呢！- 不是嗎？

- It just means to be understanding of your partner's plan, and what they want to do and to make sacrifices. - Mm-hmm.

- 它只是代表理解伴侶的計畫和他們希望做的事情，並且做出一些犧牲。-嗯嗯。

Sometimes when you're on a trip, it's impossible to do the two things that both of you want to do at the same time.

當你在旅行的時候，要能夠同時做兩個人都想要做的事情是不可能的。

When that is the case, be the bigger person and like concede a little bit and say,

當這個情況發生時，選擇做那個大方的人，讓步並且告訴對方，

All right, cool. Well, today we'll do the thing that you want to do, and hopefully tomorrow, we can do the thing that I want to do.

沒關係。今天我們做你想做的事，希望明天，我們可以做我想做的事。

Mm-hmm, but also I think that talking about everything that you want to do beforehand like we mentioned before

嗯嗯，但同時我認為在事前就將所有你希望做的事情討論清楚，像我們之前提到過的那樣，

is a really great way to avoid having to sacrifice too much and avoid having to compromise all of the time.

這是一個很棒的方式來避免彼此做出過多的犧牲與妥協。

If you have a game plan, it pretty much solves that problem.

如果你有一個對策，就能夠解決大部分的問題。

Which brings me to our next point, which is have a plan, but don't over plan.

這將帶我們到下一個重點，就是擬定計畫很好，但不需要過度計畫。

Over planning is a guaranteed way to totally destroy the spontaneity and the carefree aspect of travel.

過度計畫是一個肯定會將旅行中的自發性和悠閒自在的特點摧毀的一個方式。

When you over plan something, you feel the stress.

當你過度計畫一件事，你便會感受到壓力。

You feel like you need to be doing something, or you need to be somewhere at a certain time, and that really just kind of removes you from the moment,

你會覺得必須完成某件事或者必須在特定的時間去某個地方，而這樣只會使你沒辦法享受當下，

and it's really going to negatively affect your trip.

過度計畫絕對會負面影響你的旅程。

For us, the best part of traveling together is disconnecting and relaxing.

對於我們來說，一起旅行最棒的一個部份就是能夠抽離和放鬆。

If you have a plan set in place and you're worrying about that all the time, you're not going to be able to relax.

如果你總是必須照著計畫走，那麼你將無法放鬆下來。

The best thing about travelling together, what I love most, is having a full day with no plans, and we can either stay in bed all day if we want to or we can go on some crazy adventures.

一起旅行最棒的事之中，我最愛的一點就是整天都沒有計畫，讓我能隨心所欲地整天賴在床上或者我們可以去做一些瘋狂的冒險。

And I think having that option when you wake up in the morning, depending on how you're feeling, is really important.

我認為早上起床的時候知道自己有照著當天的心情去選擇的餘地是非常重要的。

So for example, Carrie and I went to Costa Rica for two weeks last summer. It was an amazing trip.

舉例來說，我和 Carrie 去年夏天去了哥斯大黎加兩個禮拜。那是個非常令人難忘的旅行。