what does it look like?

同情心。

Come with me to 915 South Bloodworth Street

同情心看起來是什麼樣的？

in Raleigh, North Carolina, where I grew up.

請跟我一起來到北卡羅萊納州

If you come in you will see us: evening time,

南布拉德沃斯大街915号，我成長的地方。

at table -- set for ten but not always all seats filled --

如果你進來，你會在晚上看到我們，

at the point when dinner is ready to be served.

十個人圍成一桌，但並不是每個位子上都有人。

Since mom had eight kids,

晚餐準備好的時候，

sometimes she said she couldn't tell who was who and where they were.

因為媽媽有八個孩子，

Before we could eat, she would ask,

有時她說她分不清誰是誰，都在哪兒。

"Are all the children in?"

但我們吃飯之前，她會問:

And if someone happened to be missing,

「所有的孩子們都在嗎？」

we would have to, we say, "Fix a plate" for that person, put it in the oven,

如果有人偶爾不在，

then we could say grace, and we could eat.

我們就會說，留一盤飯菜給他，放到烤箱裡。

Also, while we were at the table,

接著我們感恩禱告，然後開始吃飯。

there was a ritual in our family:

所以，當大家坐在桌子前面的時候，

when something significant had happened for any one of us --

這是我們家的一個儀式，

whether mom had just been elected as the president of the PTA,

當任何人身上發生意義重大的事情時，

or whether dad had gotten an assignment at the college of our denomination,

比如當媽媽被選舉為家長教師會（PTA）的主席的時候，

or whether someone had won the jabberwocky contest for talent --

或者當爸爸得到一份我們大學的教會的工作時。

the ritual at the family was, once the announcement is made,

或者有誰贏得口才比賽的時候，

we must take five, ten minutes to do what we call "make over" that person --

我們家庭的傳統儀式就是，在宣佈完之後，

that is, to make a fuss over the one who had been honored in some way.

我們必須花五到十分鐘時間來跟那個人總結一下，

For when one is honored, all are honored.

就是，認認真真的表揚一下那個獲得榮譽的人，

Also, we had to make a report on our extended "visited" members,

就是一個人光榮，所有人都光榮。

that is, extended members of the family,

同樣，我們還必須向我們的家族的客人報告一下。

sick and elderly, shut in.

那就是，家庭的親屬，

My task was, at least once a week, to visit Mother Lassiter

那些無法外出的病人和年長的人。

who lived on East Street,

我的任務是，至少一週一次去拜訪東街的

Mother Williamson who lived on Bledsoe Avenue,

拉斯特大媽，

and Mother Lathers who lived on Oberlin Road.

以及布萊索大道的威廉森大媽，

Why? Because they were old and infirm,

還有歐柏林路的拉舒大媽。

and we needed to go by to see if they needed anything.

為什麼？因為她們年邁體弱。

For mom said, "To be family, is to care and share and to look out for one another.

所以我們需要過去看看她們是不是需要任何東西。

They are our family."

媽媽說過：「成為一個家庭，就是要關心和分享，並且去照顧別人。

And, of course, sometimes there was a bonus for going.

她們也是我們家庭的成員。」

They would offer sweets or money.

當然，偶爾也會有獎勵。

Mom says, "If they ask you what it costs to either go shopping for them,

她們會準備一些糖果和零花錢。

you must always say, 'Nothing.'

媽媽說:「如果她們問你買東西花了多少錢，

And if they insist, say, 'Whatever you mind to give me.'"

你必須說，「不要錢。」

This was the nature of being at that table.

如果她們堅持你就說:「不管怎樣你隨便給一點。」

In fact, she indicated that if we would do that,

這是我們飯桌上的人的天性。

not only would we have the joy of receiving the gratitude

事實上，她表現出了，如果我們那樣去做，

from the members of the extended family,

不只是我們會有收到親屬

but she said, "Even God will smile, and when God smiles,

的感激的喜悅，

there is peace, and justice, and joy."

她還說:「上帝也會微笑，且當上帝微笑的時候，

So, at the table at 915, I learned something about compassion.

世間就充滿了和平，公正和喜悅。」

Of course, it was a minister's family,

所以，在915的飯桌上，我學到了關於同情心很多東西。

so we had to add God into it.

當然，這是一個牧師的家庭，

And so, I came to think that mama eternal, mama eternal,

所以我們必須把上帝也算進去。

is always wondering: Are all the children in?

因此，我一直在想永恆的媽媽

And if we had been faithful in caring and sharing,

一直在問：「所有的孩子都在嗎？」

we had the sense that justice and peace would have a chance in the world.

並且，如果我們堅持關心和分享，

Now, it was not always wonderful at that table.

我們就堅信這個世界上公正和和平終會實現。

Let me explain a point at which we did not rise to the occasion.

但是，那個飯桌並不總是美好的。

It was Christmas, and at our family, oh, what a morning.

我來解釋一下我們為什麼不能應付自如。

Christmas morning, where we open up our gifts,

那是聖誕節，在我們家的一個早晨，

where we have special prayers, and where we get to the old upright piano

聖誕節的早晨，我們打開禮物，

and we would sing carols. It was a very intimate moment.

在那兒唸著特別的祈禱文，並且在舊鋼琴前

In fact, you could come down to the tree to get your gifts and get ready to sing,

唱著聖詩。那是一個非常親密的時刻。

and then get ready for breakfast without even taking a bath or getting dressed,

事實上，你可以直接從房間下來聖誕樹旁拿禮物，接著準備唱聖詩，

except that daddy messed it up.

然後甚至不用洗澡或者打扮好就可以吃早餐，

There was a member of his staff who did not have any place

但爸爸卻把一切搞砸了。

on that particular Christmas to celebrate.

因為他的一名同事沒有地方去

And daddy brought Elder Revels to the Christmas family celebration.

慶祝那一年的聖誕節。

We thought he must be out of his mind.

因此爸爸帶著他同事勒韋長老來參加家庭慶祝。

This is our time. This is intimate time.

我們認為他一定是瘋了。

This is when we can just be who we are,

這是屬於我們的時刻。這是個親密的時刻。

and now we have this stuffy brother

這是我們可以做我們真正的自己，

with his shirt and tie on, while we are still in our PJs.

但是現在我們有了這個讓人鬱悶的哥兒，

Why would daddy bring Elder Revels?

在我們仍然穿著睡衣的時候他卻穿著西裝和領帶。

Any other time, but not to the Christmas celebration.

為什麼爸爸要帶勒韋長老過來？

And mom overheard us and said,

任何時候都行，就是不要在聖誕節。

"Well, you know what? If you really understand the nature of this celebration,

媽媽無意中聽到我們的話，便說:

it is that this is a time where you extend the circle of love.

「你們知道嗎？如果你真的理解慶祝的真意，

That's what the celebration is all about.

慶祝是你真正延伸你的愛的時刻。

It's time to make space, to share the enjoyment of life in a beloved community."

這才是慶祝的真意。

So, we sucked up.

該挪出個位子，與他在一個相親相愛的家庭裡分享生命的喜悅。」

(Laughter)

於是，我們都忍過去了。

But growing up at 915, compassion was not a word to be debated;

（笑聲）

it was a sensibility to how we are together.

但在915長大，同情心並不是個用來辯論的詞彙，

We are sisters and brothers united together.

它是一種我們如何患難於共的情感。

And, like Chief Seattle said, "We did not spin the web of life.

我們兄弟姐妹們心心相連。

We're all strands in it.

就像是西雅圖酋長所說: 「我們並不是在織生命的這張大網。

And whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves."

我們只是在裡面的絲縷。

Now that's compassion.

所以不管我們對這張網做什麼，都是對自己做的。」

So, let me tell you, I kind of look at the world this way.

這就是同情心。

I see pictures, and something says, "Now, that's compassion."

所以，我告訴你，我是這麼來看這個世界的。

A harvested field of grain, with some grain in the corners,

我看有些圖片，它們像是在說:「看，那便是同情心。」

reminding me of the Hebrew tradition

一塊收割完的穀田，一些穀物在角落裡堆著

that you may indeed harvest,

提醒著我猶太人的傳統

but you must always leave some on the edges,

你也許確實收割了，

just in case there's someone who has not

但你必須留下點東西在一旁

had the share necessary for good nurture.

留給那些沒有得到足夠的

Talk about a picture of compassion.

來維持養育的人。

I see -- always, it stirs my heart --

這才是談及同情心的一張圖。

a picture of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

我看到一直震撼我心的

walking arm in arm with Andy Young and Rabbi Heschel

馬丁路德.金博士的一張照片。

and maybe Thich Nhat Hanh and some of the other saints assembled,

跟安迪•楊(Andy Young)和猶太教教士克士奧 Heschel (Rabbi Heschel）手挽手往前走

walking across the bridge and going into Selma.

也許是一行禪師（Thich Nhat Hanh）和其它的聖徒，

Just a photograph.

向前走過橋然後去塞爾瑪（Selma）。

Arm in arm for struggle.

只是一張照片。

Suffering together in a common hope that we can be brothers and sisters

手挽手的奮鬥。

without the accidents of our birth or our ethnicity

即使沒有血緣和宗教關係，為了一個共同的希望患難與共

robbing us of a sense of unity of being.

能成為兄弟姐妹。

So, there's another picture. Here, this one. I really do like this picture.

改變了我們的統一感。

When Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was assassinated,

然後，還有另外一張照片。我真的很喜歡這張照片。

that day, everybody in my community was upset.

當馬丁路德.金博士被暗殺後，

You heard about riots all across the land.

那天，我們社區裡所有人都很傷心。

Bobby Kennedy was scheduled to bring an inner city message in Indianapolis.

你會聽到國家到處都有暴亂。

This is the picture. They said,

鮑勃甘迺迪本來計畫從印地安那波里斯帶來一個內城消息。

"It's going to be too volatile for you to go."

這就是那張圖。他們說:

He insisted, "I must go."

「那裡將會動盪不定，你不能去。"

So, sitting on a flatbed truck,

他堅持:「我必須去。」

the elders of the community are there,

所以，坐在卡車上，

and Bobby stands up and says to the people,

社區裡的長老們，

"I have bad news for you.

然後鮑勃站起來告訴人們:

Some of you may not have heard that Dr. King has been assassinated.

「我有一個壞消息告訴你們。

I know that you are angry,

有些人也許還沒聽說當馬丁路德•金博士被暗殺了，

and I know that you would almost wish to have the opportunity

我理解你們很生氣，

to enter now into activities of revenge. But,"

並且我理解你們希望現在就有機會

he said, "what I really want you to know is that I know how you feel.

去參與報仇的運動，但是

Because I had someone dear to me snatched away.

他說:「我希望你們知道，我理解你們的感覺。

I know how you feel."

因為我的親人被死神帶走了。

And he said, "I hope that you will have the strength to do what I did.

所以我理解你們的感受。」

I allowed my anger, my bitterness, my grief to simmer a while,

然後他說:「我希望你們有力量去做我所做的，

and then I made up my mind that I was going to make a different world,

我允許我的憤怒、痛苦和悲傷，慢慢在內心燃燒一陣子，

and we can do that together."

然後我便立志要創造一個嶄新的世界，

That's a picture. Compassion? I think I see it.

我們可以一起達成。」

I saw it when the Dalai Lama came to the Riverside Church while I was a pastor,

在這張圖片。 同情心？我覺得我看到它了。

and he invited representatives of faith traditions from all around the world.

我看到它是在我是牧師的時候達賴喇嘛到河濱教堂時

He asked them to give a message,

他邀請了來自全球的信仰代表。

and they each read in their own language a central affirmation,

他請他們傳遞一個信息，

and that was some version of the golden rule:

然後他們每個人都用自己的語言去理解，

"As you would that others would do unto you,

那便是另外版本的黃金法則。

do also unto them."

「你應對待別人,

Twelve in their ecclesiastical or cultural or tribal attire

像對待自己一樣。」(推己及人)

affirming one message.

12個身著喇嘛服裝或者民族服裝的人

We are so connected that we must treat each other

重申著同一個信息。

as if an action toward you is an action toward myself.

我們連接如此緊密，我們必須像所有的行為都

One more picture while I'm stinking and thinking about the Riverside Church:

對待自己一樣去對待大家。

9/11. Last night at Chagrin Fall,

還有一個圖片是我正在思考關於河濱教堂的時候。

a newspaperman and a television guy said,

9/11。 昨晚正在懊惱的時刻，

"That evening, when a service was held at the Riverside Church,

一個報攤小販和一個電視男說，

we carried it on our station in this city.

那天晚上，當河濱教堂在進行禮拜的時候，

It was," he said, "one of the most powerful moments of life together.

我們便在城市裡的車站內進行。

We were all suffering.

「那時刻” 他說:「是歷史上生命連接最為緊密的時候。」

But you invited representatives of all of the traditions to come,

我們都在經受苦難，

and you invited them.

但你邀請所有宗教傳統的代表來參加，

'Find out what it is in your tradition

你邀請他們

that tells us what to do when we have been humiliated,

找出在你的傳統思想中

when we have been despised and rejected.'

當我們被羞辱的時候要怎麼做

And they all spoke out of their own traditions,

當我們被鄙視和拒絕的時候我們要做什麼。

a word about the healing power of solidarity, one with the other."

然後,一個接一個, 他們都說出他們自己的傳統中

I developed a sense of compassion sort of as second nature,

於治療團結一致的力量。

but I became a preacher.

好，現在我發現同情心是一種第二天性，

Now, as a preacher, I got a job. I got to preach the stuff,

但我成為了一個講道士。

but I got to do it too.

現在，作為一個講道士，我的工作就是佈道和說教，

Or, as Father Divine in Harlem used to say to folks,

但我亦應該以身作則。

"Some people preach the Gospel.

或者，就像是哈林區的帝凡神父告訴人們的一樣，

I have to tangibilitate the Gospel."

「一些人說教福音書。

So, the real issue is: How do you tangibilitate compassion?

我必須說出福音書的真實性。」

How do you make it real?

所以，真正的問題是： 你怎麼說同情心的真實性？

My faith has constantly lifted up the ideal,

你怎麼讓它變成現實？

and challenged me when I fell beneath it.

我的信仰不斷將理想昇華，

In my tradition, there is a gift that we have made to other traditions --

並且一旦我落後就不斷挑戰我。

to everybody around the world who knows the story of the "Good Samaritan."

在我的傳統裡，我們為其它的傳統做了個禮物 ，

Many people think of it primarily in terms of charity,

世界上每一個人都知道撒瑪利亞人的故事。

random acts of kindness.

許多人認為首當其衝的應該是慈善，

But for those who really study that text a little more thoroughly,

隨機的善行。

you will discover that a question has been raised

但對於這些真正研究或者更理解的人來說，

that leads to this parable.

你會發現一個問題慢慢浮現上來，

The question was: "What is the greatest commandment?"

導致了這個寓意。

And, according to Jesus, the word comes forth,

這個問題是：“什麼才是最偉大的戒律？”

"You must love yourself,

根據耶穌，這個詞彙出來了，

you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind and soul,

「你必須愛自己，

and your neighbor as yourself."

你必須像愛你自己一樣全心全意愛你的主你的上帝，

And then the person asked, "Well, what do you mean, 'neighbor?'"

以及你的鄰居。」

And he answered it by telling the story of the man who fell among thieves,

然後人們問道，「那麼，你是指什麼，鄰居？」

and how religious authorities went the other way,

然後他講了一個男人落到賊窩的故事來回答這個問題，

and how their supporters in the congregation went the other way;

有些宗教掌權者避開他繞去另一條路，

but an unsuspecting, despised person came along,

又有些教會的支持者避開他繞去另一條路，

saw the man in need,

但沒有料到，一位被歧視的人走近他，

provided oil and wine for his wounds,

看到那有需要幫助的人，

put him on his own transportation,

提供了油和酒來治療他的傷口，

and took him to the inn

把他安置在自己的交通工具上，

and asked the innkeeper, "Take care of him."

然後送他到旅館

And he said, "Here, this is the initial investment,

並且告訴侍應生:「好好照顧他。」

but if needs continue, make sure that you provide them.

然後說:「這裡有一筆錢作首期，

And whatever else is needed, I will provide it and pay for it when I return."

如果還有需要，你要確保他受到照料。

This always seemed to me to be a deepening

不管他還需要什麼，等我回來我會把錢給你。」

of the sense of what it means to be a Good Samaritan.

這對於我來說加深了

A Good Samaritan is not simply one whose heart is touched

成為一個善人的意義。

in an immediate act of care and charity,

一個善人不是僅僅簡單的容易受到感動，

but one who provides a system of sustained care -- I like that,

不僅是一個當下的關心和善行，

'a system of sustained care ' -- in the inn, take care.

而是能夠提供持續性的關心的人 --我喜歡那樣--

I think maybe it's one time when the Bible talks about a healthcare system

在旅館裡持續的關心和照顧。

and a commitment to do whatever is necessary --

我想也許有一次當聖經論及醫療系統

that all God's children would have their needs cared for,

以及承諾要做任何必須的事情，

so that we could answer when mommy eternal asks, "In regards to health,

也就是所有上帝的孩子們的需求都被照顧到，

are all the children in?" And we could say yes.

因此當永恆的媽媽問及:「關於健康，

Oh, what a joy it has been to be a person seeking to tangibilitate compassion.

所有的孩子都在嗎？」 然後我們可以回答是的。

I recall that my work as a pastor

一個去證明同情心的真實性的人是多麼快樂啊。

has always involved caring for their spiritual needs;

我回想我作為一個牧師的時候

being concerned for housing, for healthcare,

總是牽涉到關注他們的精神所需，

for the prisoners, for the infirm, for children --

關注屋宇、醫療、

even the foster care children for whom no one can even keep a record

犯人、年邁體弱的老人、兒童，

where they started off, where they are going.

甚至那些沒人知道他們從哪裡來、要往哪兒去、

To be a pastor is to care for these individual needs.

被領養的小孩們。

But now, to be a Good Samaritan -- and I always say,

作為一個牧師就是要關心這些個人之所需。

and to be a good American -- for me,

但是現在，作為一個大善人，我總是說

is not simply to congratulate myself for the individual acts of care.

並且做為一個善良的美國人，對於我來說，

Compassion takes on a corporate dynamic.

不是簡單的慶幸自己對於個人的關心行為，

I believe that whatever we did around that table at Bloodworth Street

同情心需要全體的動力。

must be done around tables and rituals of faith

我堅信我們在布拉德大街圍繞著飯桌所做的一切，

until we become that family, that family together

就是必須在飯桌上以及信仰儀式前完成

that understands the nature of our unity.

直到我們變成了一個大家庭，在一起的大家庭，