Name: 如果你這樣做，成年後交朋友就容易多了。 (Making Friends As an Adult Is So Much Easier If You Do This)
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Hey there, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV.

It's the place to be to create a business and life you love.

Now, if you are stuck behind your screen and struggling to meet more people in real life,

Today's question comes from Wendy who writes:

I did B-School a few years back, and really appreciate you and your team.”

“In business, I'm comfortable being vulnerable online, but I realized that I'm not at all

comfortable talking to people in person about what I do.

I've recently moved to New York City, and there's no shortage of humans.

However, I'm struggling to get out from behind the screen and have real conversations.

In a world that makes it easy to hide behind our computers, what are surefire tools to

get me out of my comfort zone and into the world?

So many people watching right now can relate.

Because, you know, working from home, it does have its benefits, like a flexible schedule

and time freedom and, hey, you get to choose whether or not you want to wear pants.

And even if you love people, talking about what you do doesn't come naturally to all

I mean, I used to go to parties and as soon as I would get that dreaded question, “What

I mean, I didn't like the term life coach, so I'd often say, “Uh, you know what?

I write things and I make videos and I help people.

But, hey, do you know where the bathroom is?”

However, like most things in life, this is totally figureoutable.

So here are three surefire steps to help get you going.

Now, to be clear, this is not about stretching out your hammies while you get to know someone.

So you asked about getting outside of your comfort zone.

Now, if you feel comfortable introducing yourself to, let's say, one person a day, then set

a stretch goal and introduce yourself to five.

And if five feels kind of easy, go to ten.

And do this for a week or three weeks and watch how quickly you grow.

Step number two is be interested, not interesting.

Most of us want other people to find us and our businesses interesting and captivating

From the moment I saw her I knew everything was figureoutable.

But you want to know what makes people really interested in you?

I mean, you could offer them a genuine compliment, you could ask some questions, or have some

Toilet paper over or under, what do you think?

Now, if you feel uncomfortable starting with a weird question, you can say, “Hey, you

I have a weird question for you,” because, hey, who doesn't love a good weird question?

No matter what your approach, be that person who genuinely wants to know more about others,

and then listen to them like they are the only person on the planet.

Because the best connections rarely come from you talking.

Finally, step number three is have a party line.

Now, I'm not talking about an elevator pitch or a static way to answer the question, “So,

Those things can get stale and boring fast.

But what I am talking about is just a simple line that you can use to introduce yourself

So when I'm at a party or a group event and I want to meet someone, I just walk up

to them and say, “Hey, I don't think we've met before.

It's simple, it's easy, and, I gotta say, it works every single time.

Those are three steps to help you get out there and start meeting more people.

And I want you to notice something – none of what I shared addresses what you do, and

Because here's what I've found, when you focus on making genuine connections with other

humans, the “what you do part,” that tends to unfold naturally when the time is right.

And you're gonna wind up describing your work in the context of the human that's

And, most important, it'll be fresh and it won't be formulic.

And if you want even more on this topic, be sure to watch our video called Networking

Basics: Eight Tips to Networking Without Being Fakey Pants.

And, of course, we have a brilliant interview with Susan Cain on Networking for Introverts.

And I'll put both of those links below this video.

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