Name: 別再自怨自艾！戀愛教練三步驟教你走出犯錯低潮 (How To Not Let Your Mistakes Ruin You)
Uploaded: 2023-06-23T21:01:10.000Z
Duration: 4 min 54 s

過去簡單式

So I was on The Today Show on Friday as a...

I am (there) every couple of weeks for those of you that watch.

我每隔兩週就會上那個節目回答觀眾問題。

The only difference was, in this particular performance, they asked me a question and I said,

唯一不同的地方在於，這次的訪談中，他們問了我一個問題，而我回答：

"Oh, there are three things that I normally say in response to this question."

「關於這個問題，我有三點要說。」

And I went, "Number one, blah blah blah." A really good answer.

然後我說：「第一點，什麼什麼…」很棒的答案。

「第二點…」然後我完全忘記要講什麼了。

This someone who's gotta enjoy your love life again,

這是個需要再次享受感情生活的人，

and I have three ways of doing that, especially on Valentines.

我有三個方法可以達成，特別是在情人節時 。

One, stop idealizing other people's crappy relationships.

第一，停止理想化別人爛透了的感情生活。

Just 'cause someone is in a relationship, it doesn't make them happier than you are.

Secondly, make sure that, when you...when you...

You know what's funny? I knew you lost it when you started that.

好笑的是，你一開口我就知道你忘記了。

-I got too much laughter on number one. -Yeah, you did.

-第一點你們太捧場了。 -沒錯。

Make sure that when you go out with your guy.

Lisa has been married for almost twenty six years...

This would have been years ago, a really horrific embarrassing moment for me.

如果是在多年前，這對我來說會是個恐怖、丟臉的經驗。

It was my... It literally would've been my worst nightmare, going on TV in live forgetting what I was going to say.

這會是我最糟糕的惡夢真實上演，現場轉播我卻忘記要講什麼。

我大笑帶過，他們也大笑帶過。

It became a kind of a funny part of the segment.

那變成了那段節目好笑的部分。

There's a quote I really enjoy, and that's that,

"Life is ten percent what happens and ninety percent how you react to what happens."

「人生的百分之十取決於你身上發生了什麼事，百分之九十則取決於你的反應。」

I'm a big believer in the idea that so many people make mistakes,

and it's not the mistake that ruins them,

it's the way they react to their mistake that ruins them.

而是他們的應對方式毀了他們。

They either have an overblown reaction which draws so much attention to it, it's crazy,

他們要不是反應太誇張，反而過於在意此事。

不然就是他們決定再也不做那件事了。

I made a mistake, I'm never doing that again.

一但犯了錯，就再也不嘗試了。

It's was embarrassing, I don't want to embarrass myself again.

太丟臉了，我不想再丟臉一次。

It's not the mistake, it's their lack of action after the mistake.

阻擋你的不是錯誤本身，而是在犯錯後卻缺乏作為

So I want to give you three things to remember when you make your next mistake.

我想要你下次犯錯時能記住以下這三點。

One, remember that you're not that special when you make a mistake.

第一，記得犯錯並沒有什麼特別的。

Other people are making mistakes too all the time.

Am I the only person who's ever forgot what they were gonna say on TV?

我是唯一一個上電視忘詞的人嗎？

I shouldn't indulge and get all playing a violin for myself, and I'm the victim, I can't believe it, I'm such an idiot.

我不該放縱，陷入情緒中自怨自艾，把自己當成受害者，「不敢相信，我真是笨蛋。」

That would be to make myself too special.

Once we realize that, we can be humbled by that, and go,

一但了解這點，就會知道自己沒什麼特別的，就能理解

「這是正常的，大家都一樣。」

Many of us make a mistake, and then we overreact to the mistake.

When we overreact to the mistake, it draws attention to it.

When it draws attention to it, other people think there must be some gravitas to the mistake.

一但吸引大家的注意，其他人就會覺得這個錯誤一定很嚴重。

A mistake is one little moment in the whole timeline of everything that you do.

錯誤只是你一生中所做過的事中，一個小小瞬間而已。

If you keep going, you'll be measured on your averages,

如果繼續做其他事，大家會看到你的平均表現，

but just get on to doing the next thing you do well,

但如果繼續做下一件你擅長的事，

so that you'll now be remembered for something different.

其他人對你的印象就不會是那個錯誤。

In other words, just stick another layer on top of it.

換句話說，在錯誤上再疊上另一層。

That mistake is just one layer right now.

I don't know how many of you watched West Wing,

不知道你們有沒有看過「白宮風雲」，

and the president in West Wing, played by the wonderful Martin Sheen,

「白宮風雲」裡的總統由厲害的馬丁·辛飾演，

he always used to say at the end of a meeting, at the end of a problem solving session,

在會議結束或是解決問題的討論後，他總是會說：

And it always stuck with me the simplicity of the phrase "What's next?"

「接下來呢？」這句話簡單的含義一直烙印在我腦海。

once you've drawn a line under it, you've drawn a line under it,

一但把問題解決了，就是結束了。

People talk about life being short, but in many ways, life is long.

很多人說人生苦短，但從很多角度來看，人生其實很長 。

There's a lot of potential along the way to be a success, to do things great.

一生中有很多潛在機會能幫助你成功，達成很棒的目標。

There's also a lot of potential along the way to screw up.

一生中你也有很多機會把事情搞砸。

人一生中肯定會搞砸某些事的，

and we're gonna screw up a lot, especially if we're out there playing the game.

會常常搞砸，特別是你真的有認真體驗生活的時候。

If we're out there doing things, we are bound to screw up a lot.

如果真的有在認真生活，那一定會常常搞砸的。

Get OK with that, make that OK in your mind.

習慣這些事情，在心裡跟自己說這是 OK 的。

And remember, you're gonna be hurt more by your reactions to your mistake, than you'll be hurt by the mistakes themselves.

記住，你對錯誤的反應比錯誤本身更可能給你帶來傷害。

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