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  • (ambient music)

    (環境音樂)

  • - Hey everyone.

    - 嘿,大家好。

  • It's your girl Jen and today's video

    你的女孩Jen和今天的視頻。

  • is gonna be about self-confidence.

    會是關於自信。

  • I know a lot of you guys are under the impression

    我知道你們很多人都有這樣的印象

  • that I'm a confident person and I would say

    我是一個自信的人,我會說。

  • at this point in my life, yes, I am confident in myself,

    在我生命的這一點上,是的,我對自己有信心。

  • I'm happy, I'm secure.

    我'很高興,我'很安全。

  • Obviously I still have my insecurities, I'm human,

    顯然,我還是有我的不安全感,我'人。

  • but they don't consume me like they did when I was younger.

    但他們不像我年輕時那樣消耗我。

  • And I would say that this whole confidence thing,

    而我想說的是,這整個信心的事情。

  • really came maybe the past four to five years

    真正的到來也許是在過去的四五年裡

  • so all these life lessons are pretty fresh

    所以所有這些生活經驗都很新鮮

  • so I thought I would share them with you

    所以我想我將與你分享他們

  • so let's get started.

    所以讓我們開始吧。

  • So my first rule is to stop judging other people.

    所以我的第一條規則就是不要再去評判別人。

  • This is number one because I think it's the most important

    這是第一,因為我認為這是最重要的'。

  • and if you don't apply this to your life already,

    如果你還不把這個應用到你的生活中去,已經。

  • apply it today.

    今天就申請。

  • I feel like this day and age it's so easy

    我覺得這個時代太簡單了

  • to put someone down and say nasty comments

    損人不利己

  • like eh, why would she wear that?

    像誒,她為什麼會穿的?

  • That's like my number one pet peeve

    那是我最討厭的事

  • is when people talk shit

    是當人們談論狗屎

  • about what other people are wearing.

    關於別人的穿著。

  • I feel like fashion especially, everyone has the right

    我覺得特別是時尚,每個人都有權利。

  • to wear whatever that they want

    想穿什麼就穿什麼

  • so let's say like we're at a club

    所以讓我們'說像我們'在一個俱樂部

  • and someone says something snarky

    有人說風涼話

  • about what other girl is wearing,

    關於其他女孩的穿著。

  • that really grinds my gears, like I don't like that.

    這真的磨我的齒輪,就像我不'不喜歡這樣。

  • I feel like whether someone wants to wear

    我覺得不管是誰想穿

  • like a fishnet body suit or sweats every day,

    像魚網狀體衣或每天的毛衣。

  • that's their prerogative and it does not

    這就是他們的特權,它不

  • effect your life whatsoever.

    影響你的生活。

  • And if you are about to talk smack about someone,

    而如果你想說某人的壞話。

  • pause for a second and think about

    停一停,想一想

  • whether it effects your life in any way.

    是否對你的生活有任何影響。

  • If it doesn't, let it go.

    如果沒有,就讓它去吧。

  • It really doesn't matter.

    這真的不重要'。

  • When you are hard on other people,

    當你對別人苛刻的時候。

  • you are harder on yourself.

    你對自己更苛刻。

  • Talking smack about someone else isn't gonna

    說別人的壞話是不會的

  • bring them down to your level, it's not

    把他們降到你的水準,它不

  • and have you ever noticed that the people

    你有沒有注意到,人們

  • that talk the most shit are the most painfully insecure?

    說的最多的狗屎是最痛苦的不安全感?

  • Let's just leave it at that.

    我們'就這樣吧。

  • So the next time you're about to bad mouth someone

    所以下一次你想說別人壞話的時候。

  • or judge someone, just realize that

    或評頭論足,要知道

  • it's a cheap form of conversation or thought.

    它'是一種廉價的談話或思想形式。

  • So my next tip is for those people that get a little nervous

    所以我的下一個建議是給那些有點緊張的人的

  • when they're walking in public,

    當他們'在公共場合行走時。

  • or they're afraid of being stared at.

    或者他們害怕被盯著看。

  • So when I walk in public,

    所以當我走在公共場合的時候。

  • I literally just look straight ahead.

    我真的只是直視前方。

  • I don't make any eye contact with people.

    我不與人有任何眼神交流。

  • I just literally walk my direction,

    我只是字面上走我的方向。

  • because when I was younger I was always really paranoid

    因為當我年輕的時候,我總是非常偏執的

  • about the looks that people would give me.

    關於人們會給我的表情。

  • I'd be like, ugh like why did they look at me?

    我'會像,唉像他們為什麼看我?

  • Do they think that I look stupid?

    他們覺得我看起來很傻嗎?

  • Do they think I look dumb?

    他們覺得我看起來很傻嗎?

  • And all these things, all these thoughts

    所有這些事情,所有這些想法

  • would rush into my head and make me feel even more insecure.

    會衝進我的腦海,讓我更沒有安全感。

  • So my solution was to literally stop looking at other people

    所以我的解決方法就是不再看別人

  • and continue just walking my way.

    並繼續只是走我的路。

  • And I've come to realize that if people are looking at you,

    而我'已經意識到,如果人們在看你。

  • number one chances are it's not really negative.

    一號機會是它'不是真的負。

  • Or number two, they're probably looking at you

    或第二,他們可能在看你

  • because you looked at them.

    因為你看著他們。

  • I don't know I just like to avoid that situation altogether

    我不知道,我只是想完全避免這種情況。

  • so I don't make any eye contact when I'm walking

    所以我走的時候不與人目光接觸。

  • on the street and I just look straight ahead.

    在街上,我只是直視前方。

  • Tip number three is to listen to a badass playlist.

    第三招是聽一個壞蛋的播放列表。

  • Like most people, music has a huge impact on my life.

    和大多數人一樣,音樂對我的生活有著巨大的影響。

  • And don't underestimate the power of music,

    而且不要低估音樂的力量。

  • it can really change you.

    它可以真正改變你。

  • So when I was in college, when I would wear

    所以,當我在大學裡,當我穿上

  • like a crazy outfit, something really bold,

    像一個瘋狂的裝備, 東西真的很大膽。

  • I would just put on my playlist, walk straight ahead,

    我就會放上我的播放列表,徑直往前走。

  • and it would literally be like I was in my own world.

    它將從字面上看就像我在我自己的世界裡。

  • Definitely, take the time out

    一定要,抽出時間來

  • to curate your own badass playlist.

    來策劃你自己的壞蛋播放列表。

  • Put all the bangers in there,

    把所有的啤酒瓶都放進去。

  • stuff that makes your heart pound.

    讓你心跳加速的東西。

  • Stuff that makes you feel powerful and confident.

    讓你感到強大和自信的東西。

  • It's so important.

    它'是如此重要。

  • I am gonna leave a link to my playlist

    我要留下一個鏈接到我的播放列表。

  • that makes me feel confident in the down bar.

    這讓我對下杆有信心。

  • Just be warned it's gonna be a random slew of songs,

    只是要注意它'會是一個隨機的一系列歌曲。

  • but each song is really near and dear to my heart.

    但每一首歌都是我的心頭好。

  • You can see like, I don't know,

    你可以看到像,我不'不知道。

  • I have like random taste in music.

    我對音樂的品味很隨意。

  • And also if you guys have a confidence like song

    還有,如果你們有信心,像歌一樣的

  • that makes you feel amazing put it in the comments

    這讓你感覺很神奇 把它在評論中

  • down below cause I would love to listen to it.

    下面的原因,我很想聽它。

  • Tip number four is to expand yourself, to stretch yourself.

    技巧四是拓展自己,延伸自己。

  • I think it's so important because if you want to grow

    我認為它是如此重要,因為如果你想增長

  • you're gonna have to stretch,

    你要去必須伸展。

  • and when you stretch it's gonna hurt a little bit,

    和當你伸展它'的會有點疼。

  • but that's the only way you're gonna grow.

    但這是你成長的唯一途徑。

  • For example, when I was younger I was terrified of driving.

    比如,我年輕的時候很怕開車。

  • Like literally so anxious on the road.

    就像真的在路上那麼著急。

  • Like my heart would beat really fast

    就像我的心臟會跳得很快

  • and there were sometimes where I just like

    有的時候,我只是喜歡

  • wouldn't even go to certain places

    我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說,我是說。

  • because I didn't want to drive.

    因為我不想開車。

  • But fortunately I had to conquer my fears

    但幸運的是,我必須戰勝我的恐懼。

  • and when I lived in Davis and I wanted to go home

    當我住在戴維斯,我想回家的時候

  • I had to drive six hours down so

    我不得不開車六個小時下來,所以

  • that constant driving over and over and over again

    兜兜轉轉

  • just made me more comfortable with the road.

    只是讓我在路上更加得心應手。

  • I wasn't scared about switching lanes any more

    我再也不怕換車道了。

  • and honestly if I can tell my 19-year-old self now

    說實話,如果我能告訴我19歲的自己,現在

  • that I would be completely fine on the road

    我完全可以在路上

  • with no anxiety I would've been floored, literally.

    與沒有焦慮,我會'已經被浮動,字面上。

  • Stop avoiding stuff that you don't want to do

    不要再逃避你不想做的事情了

  • because it's so important for you.

    因為它對你是如此重要。

  • The more you do something the easier it becomes.

    你做的事情越多,就越容易。

  • My last life lesson is you will grow

    我最後的人生感悟是你會成長

  • into who you are as long as you absorb.

    成你是誰,只要你吸收。

  • So my senior quote in high school was be yourself,

    所以我高中時的聯考名言是做自己。

  • everyone else is taken by Oscar Wilde.

    其他人都被奧斯卡-王爾德帶走了。

  • And this was a mantra that I really fixated on

    而這是我真正固定下來的一句口頭禪。

  • and I just kind of obsessed over

    我只是一種迷戀

  • because at the time, I didn't know who I was

    因為當時,我不知道我是誰

  • and I desperately just wanted to be me,

    我拼命地只想做自己。

  • but I didn't know who I was yet.

    但我還不知道自己是誰。

  • And now that I look back, it is perfectly fine

    現在回過頭來看,它是非常好的。

  • to not know who you are.

    不知道自己是誰。

  • It is a gradual process and everyone has different times

    這是一個循序漸進的過程,每個人都有不同的時間。

  • on when they start becoming comfortable with themselves.

    在他們開始對自己感到舒服的時候。

  • But all you gotta do to get to that process

    但你要做的就是去完成這個過程。

  • is just absorb as much as you can.

    就是儘可能多的吸收。

  • I feel like the world is just like a big chaotic place

    我覺得這個世界就像一個大的混亂的地方。

  • with tons of different information just flinging at you

    鋪天蓋地的資訊向你襲來

  • and your brain is just like a sift

    而你的大腦就像一個篩子

  • that's just like catching as much as it can

    這就像抓住了儘可能多的東西,它可以

  • and what comes out of the sift it all just like

    篩出來的東西就像

  • goes in a big pot and it marinates

    在一個小耳朵裡,它醃製

  • goes in a big pot and it marinates

    在一個小耳朵裡,它醃製

  • and what is in that pot like that's your soul,

    而那鍋裡的東西就像那'是你的靈魂。

  • that's who you are.

    你就是這樣的人

  • And the only way you know who you are is by absorbing

    而你知道自己是誰的唯一方法是通過吸收

  • as much and experiencing as much stuff as you can.

    儘可能的多,經歷的東西也多。

  • So don't hold back.

    所以,不要忍氣吞聲。

  • Watch those movies you've always wanted to watch,

    看那些你'一直想看的電影。

  • talk to those people, wear what you want to wear,

    和那些人說話,穿你想穿的東西。

  • go to those concerts, watch those documentaries,

    去那些音樂會,看那些紀錄片。

  • listen to podcasts.

    聽播客。

  • I'm literally just saying everything

    我只是說說而已。

  • that's coming in my mind.

    那'在我腦海中浮現。

  • Now is the time to develop your interests.

    現在是發展自己興趣的時候了。

  • And it's so important to do that

    而它是如此的重要,做到這一點。

  • because that is gonna really shape who you are

    因為這將真正塑造你的身份

  • and I think it's a beautiful thing

    我認為這是一個美麗的事情。

  • because in the end we're all just like

    因為最終我們都像

  • little bits and pieces of everything

    七七八八

  • that we've ever experienced

    我們所經歷的

  • and I think that is such a beautiful thing.

    我認為這是一個美麗的事情。

  • This is just a process that I would just want everyone

    這只是一個過程,我只是想讓大家

  • to start on because it's so important

    因為它是如此重要。

  • and such a gift to really be comfortable with yourself,

    以及這樣的禮物,讓自己真正的舒服。

  • and it's something that everyone can achieve.

    而這是每個人都能實現的事情。