Name: 超有效的七種聊天開場白 (7 Greatest Conversation Starters That Actually Work)
Uploaded: 2022-06-30T21:01:10.000Z
Duration: 6 min 26 s
Description: 想認識新朋友，卻講話老是支支吾吾，或者開啟一個話題後老是被句點嗎？先別急著難過！今天小 V 就要來教你「說話的藝術」，讓你講得多，不如講得巧！從此聊天不 NG！ 1have difficulty (in) 0:33 have difficulty in sth. 表示「做...有困難」，也可以用 have trouble...

So today, I am joined by my fiance, Dorian.

今天我的未婚夫 Dorian 會加入我們。

- The reason why I wanted Dorian, actually, to be in today's video is because he's probably one of the best conversationalists that I know.

- 其實我想要 Dorian來參與我們今天的影片的原因 是因為他很可能是我認識的人之中最頂尖的談話高手之一。

So, that's why I wanted him to just come on the channel and really help us all out with today's topic.

這就是為甚麼我希望他來我們頻道，在今天的主題上幫助我們。

- Thank you, very high praise, I'll take it.

- 謝謝，非常高的讚譽，我就收下了（笑聲）

I have definitely struggled with being able to get into conversations with people.

我在跟人開啟話題這方面有很大的困難。

but I've always had trouble just, and I think it's because I'm shy,

但我就是無法...我覺得是因為我比較害羞 ，

but I've always had difficulty getting into a conversation with someone.

但我總是難以開啟與他人的談話。

- Let's be honest. - Yes, and getting outta them.

- 讓我們誠實點。 - 是的，結束一場對話。

- But Dorian has been really helpful with getting me better at being a better conversationalist.

但 Dorian 非常有效地幫助我進步，成為一位更好的談話者 。

So, let's get into the best conversation starters.

所以，讓我們進到「最佳開場白」。

do you know where the restroom/bar/food area is?

你知道廁所、吧檯、食物區在哪裡嗎？

- The hardest thing in a conversation is to start it.

- 聊天最難的地方是去開啟一段對話。

That it is, like that's the most difficult thing.

它就是，就像...它是最難的事。

Once you're in it, it's relatively simple.

一旦你進到了談話當中，那就相對簡單許多了。

So, you always want to ask someone a question that's kind of disarming that they can easily answer for you,

所以你要問一個容易讓人卸下心防的問題，他們可以輕易地回答你，

So, that is like the quickest, easiest thing, and it doesn't matter on the venue,

所以它是最快、最簡單的問題，不管在哪個場地，

whether it's a big event or a conference or even a house party.

在大型活動還是會議或只是轟趴。

They won't even remember that you needed to know where the restroom or bar is.

他們甚至不會記得你需要知道廁所或吧檯在哪。

反正他們也不用知道背後的原因，

so it's not like you have to immediately leave.

I think a lot of people would say, well, okay, they told me, but now I have to leave.

我想大多數的人會覺得，嗯，好的，他們回答我了，現在我就得離開了。

now you're in the conversation, that's the beauty of it.

你現在已經進入一場對話當中了，這就是重點。

- 繼續下去吧！- 沒錯！繼續談話吧！

Number six is going up to someone and saying, hey, so where are you from exactly?

第六名：去找一個人然後說：「嘿！你來自哪裡？」

because especially if someone doesn't look like they're a part of a crew,

尤其是當一個人看起來不像某個團體的一員，

or they're kind of, I use that one a lot on, if people are off by themselves or a little small group.

或他們有點...我很常用這個，如果有落單的或一小群人。

It's usually more of a one-on-one kind of thing.

這比較適合一對一聊天時使用。

It's hard to walk up to a group and then say that,

比較難能夠走到一群人當中然後問這個，

and the group was like, well who are you talking to?

這樣的話，那群人會覺得：「你在跟誰講話？」

- Yeah, that's a good one if it's an individual person and you're just trying to make conversation,

- 是啊，如果對象只有一人的話，這招滿好用，你只是試圖要去聊天，

然後你能稍微聚焦在他們身上。

It's really easy to answer, again, you‘re just looking to start a conversation.

這非常好回答，你只是想要開啟一場對話。

You don't wanna hit them with a heavy question, that's pretty weird.

你不是想要丟個很沉重的問題，那樣很奇怪。

Number five is actually something that Dorian has taught me and has worked very well,

第五名是 Dorian 教過我的而且非常有用，

and that is if someone is holding a plate of food or a drink,

就是如果有人正拿著一盤食物或飲料，

you just go up to them like, oh hey, that looks really good, what is that?

你就走上前，嘿！那看起來很棒，那是甚麼？

It like, again, they can answer it very simply.

and then you have the conversation of "oh, is it good?"

然後你的對話就可以繼續聊說：「喔！那好吃嗎？」

Like, oh, what do you like to drink normally?

或是說，「喔！你平常都喜歡喝什麼？」

or do you eat that kind of food normally,

或「你平常會吃那種食物嗎？」

or even then you go into... the beauty is, all of these conversation starters,

或你可以繼續說... 最棒的地方就是，剛剛所講的開場白，

you can use all the other ones to keep the conversation going.

你都可以拿其他的用來繼續對談。

Oh, "hey, actually, do you know where the restroom is?" or... whatever.

「嘿！你知道廁所在哪嗎？」或都可以。

You know... you could use, you can combine them all together and now you're in a pretty decent conversation.

你知道，你可以把所有東西結合在一起，然後你就有一場非常流暢的對話了。

So, again, that's just a great opening line,

'cause someone's got something in their hands,

- Number four on the list is very similar to number five,

and that is when you go up to someone and you say,

那就是你上前跟某人談話，你說，

「嘿！我真的很喜歡你的衣服。」

- And my answer is, Ashley got it for me.

- 而我的答案是「Ashley 買給我的。」

So, I always try to, especially if I just can't think of anything,

所以尤其是我想不到任何話題的時候，

I'll just compliment them on something that they're wearing,

and ask them where did they get it, or something like that.

Number three is, so "what was the best part of your day?"

第三名是，「你今天發生最棒的事是什麼？」

- I included this one because I was asked this question maybe like 10, 15 years ago,

- 我把這句加進來是因為我大概在 10、15 年以前被問過這題，

I was an entertainment executive for a long time.

我過去當了很久的娛樂部執行長。

So, I was at meetings, meeting new people all the time,

所以我總是經常開會，並碰到很多人，

and out of all the years I was doing all that,

interfacing with a lot of strangers and new people,

接觸很多陌生人跟遇到新的人，

one person asked me that question and it stuck with me ever since,

有個人問我那個問題然後我就再也忘不了，

It made me feel good that someone would ask that question.

有人問了這個問題讓我感覺很好。

Bit of a gamble, depending on the group, obviously.

但有點風險，還是要取決於你身處在哪裡。

But I would say that that is one that will kind of put someone back on their heels just a little bit.

但我會說這個問題有可能會讓人感到有點不自在。

So, if you're not really that comfortable with that kind of, it's a bit of a bold question to start with,

所以，如果你對問這種大膽的問題感到不舒服，

but I will tell you I've remembered that question ever since that day,

但我會跟你說自從那天之後我就忘不了了，

and I felt like it was a really, really good one.

I've used it on other people, and they said the same thing, like, "That's like a great question".

我曾經用在別人身上，他們也跟我有一樣的想法「這是個非常好的問題。」

- And then they... - People will remember you by that.

-然後他們... - 人們會因此記得你。

- Number two is something that I use a lot,

and I know Dorian does as well, and that is,

so, "what brought you here tonight or today?" et cetera.

「你今晚怎麼會來？」或今天，等等。

So, this is great if you're at a bar or some kind of event that's not hosted by someone specifically,

這很好用，如果你在酒吧或是一些不是由某人特別主辦的活動的話，

but it's a really easy way to get into a conversation.

So, someone has a reason for going everywhere.

每個人都有去一些地方的理由。

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