Name: 如何做自己的朋友 (How to be a Friend to Yourself)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T06:51:14.000Z
Duration: 4 min 11 s

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因為我們理所當然想像一個朋友

because of the extent to which we know how

our first instinct is rarely to tell them

我們的第一直覺很少會是告訴他們

we don't tell them they're getting what they deserve

我們不會告訴朋友他就只值得這樣被對待

we try to re-assure them that they're essentially likeable

我們會向他們再三保證他們著實值得喜愛

how to deploy strategies of wisdom and consolation

be doing with ourselves, in our own heads.

在自己的腦海中，應用在自己身上

Firstly, a good friend likes you pretty much as you already are

首先 一個好朋友喜歡你之所以是你

ambition they have about how you could change

或是他們認為你還可以改變得更好的企圖

When they propose that you might try a different tack

當他們建議你或許可以嘗試不同

they're not saying that you have to change or be abandoned

他們不會說 你要不就改變 要不就被拋棄

we would properly benefit, from overcoming.

good friends also constantly keep in mind

They don't think anything wrong (background cheering)

with the odd compliment (background cheering)

and emphasis on our strengths. (background cheering)

Our folly, doesn't exclude them from the circle of their love.

我們的荒唐 不會讓我們被排除在他們愛的圈圈之外

這些性格缺陷的發展讓我們能夠應付

保證會讓我們的成年生活有麻煩

we didn't deliberately set out to be like this.

We didn't realistically, have a lot of better options

實際上 我們可能也沒有太多更好的選擇

before we ever really understand what's at stake

遠在我們能真正了解那是什麼之前

或是我們的選擇將帶來什麼結果

We steering blind in all our large moves around love

我們在愛的大決定上蒙著眼掌舵

but we can't possibly know whether we're going to flourish there

但我們無法知道會在那裡如何開花結果

We have to select a career path when we're still young

我們必須在還年輕的時候做出職涯抉擇

and we don't know what our latent needs will be

而我們不知道這需要具備什麼樣的才能

We have to make a commitment to another person

before we understand what it will be like

捆綁住我們以及他人的生活之前

their own and humanity's vivid experience of messing up

就把自己以及人類栩栩如生的搞砸經驗

我們這個特定的狀況 也許是獨一無二的

but that the general structure, is common.

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如何做自己的朋友 (How to be a Friend to Yourself)

constantly

relevant

commitment

essentially