Name: 斯拉沃伊-齊澤克談合成性和 "做自己" (Slavoj Žižek on Synthetic Sex and "Being Yourself")
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情態副詞

The problem I see with online dating is that it always automatically involves this aspect

of self-commodification or self-manipulation. When you date online you have to present yourself

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there in a certain way putting forward certain qualities. You present an image of yourself.

You focus on your ideal of how other people should perceive you. But I think that’s

not how love functions even at the very simple level. And so called I think the English term

is endearing foibles, elementary ingredient on love. You cannot ever fall in love with

the perfect person. There must be some tiny small disturbing element and it is only through

noticing this element that you say but in spite of that imperfection I love him or her.

This is why a funny story. They made in Europe, not in the United States some decades ago

when the two big modeling stars were Claudia Schiffer and Cindy Crawford. They made in

France I think a big opinion poll like whom would you prefer to live with. Cindy Crawford

won. You know why? Because of that birth, that particular small mole here, whatever,

The idea was Claudia Schiffer is too perfect. There must be some tiny element of imperfection.

And now let me tell you a totally crazy personal experience which happened to me. I was talking

once in a faraway country somewhere in Latin America. Of course I will not say where. A

still very attractive lady sexually, late thirties, who told me of a strange thing that

happened to her. She told me that when her last lover saw her naked before making love

that he told her if you were just to lose three, four pounds your body would have been

perfect. And I told her just don’t lost three or four pounds. Because, you know, like

if she were effectively to lost three or four pounds she wouldn’t be perfect. She would

just be plain. The illusion of perfection is created precisely by this excess. It’s

too much but then you imagine or without this it would have been perfect. If you say – if

you take away this excess you don’t get perfect, you know. This is what in psychoanalytic

theory we call object cause of desire. Not object of desire, object of desire I think

in this case is a woman or a man or whatever. But the cause of desire in the sense of what

makes you fall in love is always a sign of imperfection. So that’s for me a big problem

in I don’t, I’m not doing it so I don’t know enough of it how to include into online

I don’t find a problem with online dating in the idea that you are not spontaneous,

et cetera. Listen, we are never spontaneous. If there is a big lesson of all those Big

Brother and other reality shows it’s that even when we are just ourselves in private

life we always play being ourselves. And I think this is in a way a good thing. I mean

when people say no, you know, all these actor studio methodology – express yourself, be

who you really are. Well I think most people are monsters secretly. I think – I like

to live in a society where you do whatever you want. Just please don’t express yourself

too much, you know. I like people who know how to control themselves. I believe in proper

manners. So this aspect of health controlling that you stage a certain image of yourself,

this doesn’t bother me with online date, no. I even think now, I mean, if you allow

me to conclude with another paradox. It would be so interesting to demonstrate how precisely

when we act in an apparently wild way, you know, like let’s say – it’s not true

but let’s say we are talking in a nice polite way. Then for whatever reason you get mad

at me or I get mad at you. And I explode.

I start to swear using all dirty words blah, blah, blah. Now one would have thought the

this one. In normal conversation we control ourselves. Then when I cannot any longer control

myself I explode. No, I claim precisely this moment of explosion are the most precisely

trained structures artificial if you want. I notice this, you know how it’s a beautiful

anecdote, I like it. With my friends I notice that when we meet in a group to discuss just

to have fun we have to go through a certain ritual of humiliating each other with extremely

– it’s not for our viewers to know if you know like the usual way we characterize

its other which what I – it’s the bulk of stuff what I will do to your mother, your

dead mother, I will dig her out of her grave and do things to her sexually. The most tasteless

thing. Then after ten minutes of talking dirty we tell to each other okay, we paid our tribute

to ugliness. We got rid of it. Now we can finally be what we are and talk in a nice

polite way, you know. Again, what I like is that it is – we have a certain perverse

superego duty to talk dirty. And after you get rid of that we can believe what we are.

This is why I have always. That’s why I’m not practicing for sadomasochist sexuality.

I notice especially 15, 20 years ago because they were close to my theory I met many sadomasicist

lesbians. And I can tell you I never met nicer, more kind girls or women. It is as if they

were able to enact all the dirty disgusting stuff out there so that then they could afford

when you paid your tribute to your superego to be nice, kind and so on and so on. So to

do the lust joke in this series maybe some viewers know it but I love it. I think this

is one of my otherwise in my series of boring repetitive jokes may be a better one. Where

are we today with sexuality. The Guardian, the British newspaper, asked me is romance

still alive today. And my idea, my answer to them was let’s imagine an ideal sexual

situation today. Let’s say I meet a lady, we are attracted to each other, we say okay,

you are – all the usual stuff – your place, my place, whatever we meet there. Then what

happens then. I come with, she comes with her plastic penis electric dildo. I come with

some horrible thing. I saw it. It’s called something like stimulating training unit,

whatever. It’s basically a plastic vagina, a hole. But you can – it’s wonderful technologically.

You can regulate everything. How much it squeezes you. How strongly it shakes and so on. So

my idea of a perfect date is the following one.

We met. Then I put, she puts her plastic penis dildo into my stimulating training unit is

the name of this product. Into my plastic vagina. We plug them in and the machines are

doing it for us. They’re buzzing in the background and I’m free to do whatever I

want and she. We have a nice talk, we have tea, we talk about movies. What can be – we

paid our superego full tribute. Machines are doing – now where would have been here a

true romance. Let’s say I talk with a lady with the lady because we really like each

other. And, you know, when I’m pouring her tea or she to me quite by chance our hands

touch. We go on touching. Maybe we even end up in bed. But it’s not the usual oppressive

sex where you worry about performance. No, all that is taken care of by the stupid machines.