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Confidence. You either got it or you don't, right?
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WRONG.
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You can achieve confidence through some very simple, but weird feeling methods,
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in which you consciously hold your mind and your body in a different way.
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First of all, you gotta trick yourself.
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"Fake it until you make it."
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There's a reason why everybody says this,
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and it's because eventually, you'll start believing in your own lie.
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Now, the second part,
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and the most awkward feeling is changing your body language.
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No hands in pockets.
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No wandering crazy eyes.
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No fidgeting.
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Stand up straight.
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Pull your shoulders back.
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Eyes ahead.
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We have a tendency to go inward.
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What you need to do is very consciously go outward.
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I highly recommend reading "What Every Body is Saying."
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It's a book by a former FBI agent about body language.
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And he teaches you "power poses"
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that they typically teach to authority figures to demonstrate dominance,
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and, you guessed it, confidence!
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Eye contact. It's incredibly uncomfortable,
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but it can be a lot of fun.
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Challenge yourself!
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Every time you and a stranger make eye contact,
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force yourself not to be the one who looks away first.
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I've gotten into a LOT of fun staring contests,
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trying to challenge myself to do this.
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Also, smile!
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Say hi to strangers.
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Talk to people in line.
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It's so simple.
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But the more you do this, the more you realize you have nothing to be afraid of!
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So as long as these strangers aren't offering you candy that you're inclined to accept,
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keep talking to them.
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Most importantly, get out of your own head.
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Just get outta there! I do this by focusing on the other person.
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So when I'm in a conversation with someone and I feel self-conscious,
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I put ALL of my focus on them.
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What are they trying to say to me?
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What are they trying to actually communicate?
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And if you can put 100% of your attention on the person in front of you,
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then there's none left to think about yourself.
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Finally, when you talk, (slowed) Slow. Down.
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Not that slow. But when we get excited, when we're performing,
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or when we're nervous, our voices tend to go higher and faster,
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which is interpreted as nerves.
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You know, when you see confident people,
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they walk and they talk and they act like they have all the time in the world.
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And there's power in taking your time.
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There's no big secret to achieving confidence.
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There are actual steps that you can take to get there.
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It's like any other skill.
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You practice, you work at it, and eventually,
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you've got the hang of it!
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And no one knows what you're thinking.
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If you just walk and talk and act like you're comfortable in your own skin,
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the rest of us will believe it.
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And you'll be a better person for it. So good luck!
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Afflicted, Inc., my second short film, should be out next week! Aah!
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I know I put a behind the scenes video out for Emergency Call,
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which is our third short film,
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and everyone was like "Where's Afflicted?"
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And it's been in post-production,
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but it is finally almost done, it should be here next week,
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I really hope you like it.
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I'm super proud of everything I'm doing so far,
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and I feel like I'm getting better and I feel like I'm learning,
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and if I keep doing this for just 10 years you know, I'll just be amazing!
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So, I'm having the time of my life. Honestly.
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And I could just..jizz. Everywhere. Like, "Thank you. Oscar. Oscar. Yes."
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But speaking of how I can even afford to do any of these creative dreams of mine,
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thank you so much to Audible for sponsoring today's episode.
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You can go to audible.com/anna for a free audiobook of your choice.
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They have over 150,000 titles to choose from,
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12 of which are karma sutra books.
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They have 12. Audio. Karma sutra books!
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So how can you not go?
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One thing I'm listening to right now is The Tommyknockers by Stephen King,
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which I LOVE because I'm just fascinated with aliens, like, fascinated with aliens.
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But yeah, you can get that, or another free audiobook of your choice
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at audible.com/anna. That's audible.com/anna.
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Thank you so much for listening, guys.
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And watching, and supporting me,
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I appreciate it, like, so much. Have a good week.
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Stay awesome, Gotham! CONFIDENCE!
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Hi, I'm Anna Akana, I have a YouTube channel, currently.
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I initially started getting into YouTube because I wanted more opportunities to act.
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As an actor, you wait around a lot for auditions, for your agent to call,
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and I wanted to do something more, and get better at storytelling.
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So that's how I ended up on the internet.
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So Afflicted, Inc. is the second short of the year,
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it's about a company whose employees are actually personified afflictions.
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So they visually look like monsters.
