But you say you’re just a friend.

但是你說我們只是朋友

You say you're just a friend.

你說我們只是朋友

WellCasters have you been singing that song recently?

各位 WellCasters 最近有唱到這首歌嗎？

If ya are. Sounds like you’ve been friend zoned.

如果有的話，聽起來你已經被喜歡的人歸類成朋友了

Not that I’m happy about it.

不是說我對這件事感到很有趣

Sorry I just realized like he he.

抱歉，我只是，嘿嘿

But hey. If that Austin Mahone guy who's got 2.5 million Twitter followers can trip and fall into the dreaded friend abyss?

但，嘿！像是推特追蹤人數破250萬的 Austin Mahone都會陷入這樣的窘境

What’s your average person supposed to do? Well WellCasters.

那普通人又該怎麼辦呢？觀眾們

You’re in luck. Sort of.

你們有福了。應該啦

We have some suggestions on how to trade your buddy label for a shiny new girlfriend or boyfriend badge of honor.

我們會提供一些小建議，讓你們晉升成男女朋友

Now before you get all excited. Please know that these are just ideas.

不要太興奮了，提醒一下這只是一些小撇步

Alright. We can’t make any guarantees.

好嗎？我們也不能保證一定會成功

And we're gonna trust that you will use your discretion.

我們相信你們會自己做好衡量的

Tip one. Be confident.

小撇步一：要有自信

It’s natural to get shy or self conscious around your crush.

當然在喜歡的旁邊感到害羞是很正常的

Especially if you’ve recently upgraded them from friend.

尤其是你最近才把你對他的感覺從朋友

To object of my undying affection.

變成心儀的對象

But even if you have to fake it at first.

你也必須要假裝

Stand up tall, make direct eye contact and smile.

站挺一點、做眼神接觸並且對他微笑

You know like that episode where we told you to be an eagle and not a turtle.

你記得之前那一集說要當一個老鷹而不是一個烏龜嗎

I still don't know what that means, but anyway.

我還是不太懂那是什麼意思

You get the point?

但你懂的

People are drawn to confident people.

人們會被有自信的人吸引

And wanna know what they have goin' on.

而且想了解他們是怎麼樣的人

The important thing here is that you need to demonstrate that you know your own worth.

重要的是，你要展現你自己的價值

Before you can expect someone else to recognize it.

不要只期望別人會發現你的價值

Tip two.

小撇步二

Don’t be a doormat.

不要當好好先生(什麼都順他的意)

Respect is an essential part of any relationship.

尊重是一段感情中很重要的一部分

And it's up to you to draw the boundaries.

你要畫出界線

You might be tempted to respond to your crush's every need.

雖然你會很想要滿足你心儀的對象所有需求

That’s natural.

這很正常

But this'll probably backfire as your friend will see you as someone with very very low self esteem.

但這可能造成反效果，讓他感覺你是一個沒什麼自尊的人

Don’t get yourself stuck in a situation where you’re constantly giving rides, buying gifts and ultimately feeling used.

不要讓自己陷入永遠都在接送、送禮物的人，最後只會感覺是被利用了

Tip three.

小撇步三

Don’t put them on a pedestal.

不要把他們想的完美無缺一樣

Hey. Just like you have a few flaws so do they.

就像你一樣，大家都有缺點的

We promise. You’re being unfair to your friend and setting yourself up for disappointment.

我們保證。你這樣想對他並不公平，而且會讓自己失望

When you discover that they tell the same joke every single time they meet a new person.

當你發現他每次認識新朋友的時候都講一樣的笑話時

It's super annoying.

超級惱人的

Your behavior is gonna show that you’re a little overly attached also.

你的行為表現顯示你有點太黏了

When new people come around you’re gonna get jealous, you’re gonna act weird.

當他認識新朋友時，你會吃醋而且表現得很怪異

Just chill out.

放輕鬆吧

Tip four. Do your research.

小撇步四：要做功課

You've probably spent way too much time daydreaming about this perfect relationship with this perfect person.

你可能花太多時間在做白日夢，想像跟這個完美的人有一段完美的戀情

How you'll frolic on the beach and never leave each other’s sides

在海邊漫遊，而且永遠待在對方的身邊

But do you know what their needs are?

但你真的知道她得需求嗎？

Maybe they prefer more distance in a relationship.

或許他希望有點距離的戀情

And they need more space.

他們需要多一點的空間

Remember the other person isn’t you.

記住，別人不是你

They’re not gonna meet every single one of your expectations

他們沒辦法符合你所有的期望

and I’m sorry but neither will you.

我很抱歉，但就連你自己都無法符合自己所有的期望

Especially if you don't take time to figure out what the other person wants out of a relationship.

尤其當你沒有花時間好好去了解對方想要什麼樣的戀情

So, ask!

所以，就問吧！

Want more tips? Okay.

想要其他小撇步嗎？Okay!

Tune in next time for our anti-friend zone follow-up.

記得要看下集的「不只想當朋友」影片

Well. That’s all for me today WellCasters.

今天的節目到此結束

Would you do me a kindness?

你可以幫我個忙嗎？

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