video I’m going to teach you how to win your ex back by simply texting on your phone.

I know, I know…there’s a lot more to winning your ex back than sending some text messages.

But texting can be an extremely effective method of establishing rapport, trust, and

attraction with your ex... if executed correctly. BUT if you have no idea what you’re doing,

then texting your ex can be a one-way ticket to “staying single and looking desperate.”

So watch this video to the very end if you want to learn exactly how to “text your

ex back” correctly.

A lot of clients ask me… should I call or text my ex? Personally, I believe texting

is a much safer way to communicate with your ex. It doesn’t require you to have a full-blown,

face-to-face conversation and it’s extremely non-invasive. Your ex is free to reply to

you whenever he or she wants, and you’re able to reply to your ex’s text whenever

you want too. This sort of dynamic allows you time to think about what to say before

you actually say it.

With most of the clients that I coach, I tell them that texting is usually the best route

when communicating with their exes, but in some cases, texting might not be the right

move. For instance, if you and your ex never texted one another during your relationship,

it might be weird to all of a sudden start texting him or her. So keep this in mind before

employing the tips that I reveal in this video.

Now, before I get started with what to text your ex, I’m going to first teach you what

NOT to do, so you know, right off the bat, what you absolutely SHOULD NOT do if you want

to get your ex back through texting. And let me tell you, after coaching people for 10

years, I can say that the vast majority of people DO commit these huge texting errors…

and theses mistakes can sometimes decimate any chance of rekindling a relationship with

an ex.

I always like the saying… “When emotions run high, logic runs low.” When you’re

reeling from a tough breakup, chances are you’re not thinking clearly. You’re heartbroken,

desperate, depressed, and you’re just not yourself. And most importantly, you’re not

thinking logically! And when logic goes out the window, people tend to send 3 kinds of

BAD text messages. These are text messages that you might be guilty of, so it’s important

you listen closely to what I’m about to say…

The first kind of bad text message people like to send to their ex after a breakup is

what I like the “Hate Text.” While venting can be therapeutic, saying mean things to

your ex will ruin your chances of ever rebuilding a relationship with him or her. If you find

yourself angry with your ex, then give yourself a moment to cool down before you pick up your

phone. While being angry and emotional is COMPLETELY NORMAL for a person in your situation,

it’s wise to not act on these emotions if you want to win your ex back. I mean…what

is your goal right now? To get in that “one last shot” at your ex? Or to win them back

and make them love you again? Think about it this way: people tend to gravitate towards

things that make them feel good, and if your ex associates negative feelings with YOU,

the less likely it is they’ll feel attracted to you again, let alone talk to you. So take

a chill pill, relax, and live to fight another day.

The second “bad text” or “bad text messages”, I should say, are what I like to call “Spam

Texts”. When emotions are running and high and you’re feeling desperate, all you want

to do is just pick up your phone and start texting your ex NON STOP! The problem is…

nobody likes spam and nobody wants to talk to someone who’s frantic and desperate.

Put yourself in the shoes of someone who’s receiving 20 or 30 messages a day from someone

you don’t even want to talk to! Maybe you’ve even been there yourself. Annoying, right?

One client told me that he sent 67 text messages over the course of 2 days to his ex without

getting a single reply… and needless to say, this man didn’t get his ex back. No

surprise there.

The last texting “no-no” is the “Overemotional Text”. These are texts that come across

as extremely needy. Anything along the lines of, “You broke you my heart” or “I don’t

think I can love another again.”…stuff like that will kill any sort of attraction

that your ex has of you. At the time, you might think that these text messages sound

honest and sweet, but in reality, showing neediness to such a high degree will drive

your ex far, far away.

By sending any of these three text messages, you turn yourself into what I call “The

Texting Terrorist.” You’re forcing your ex to feel hurt and annoyed by you… and

in some cases, you’ll even scare your ex off completely.

Now I know what some of you might be thinking…”Oh crap, I totally made all of these texting

mistakes! Am I screwed or is there a chance of salvaging my situation?” The quick answer

is yes, there is a chance you can recover from these mistakes and there is a chance

you can get back on the road of winning your ex back, but you’ll have to follow my instructions

very carefully.

If you’ve committed some of these errors, then it’s important to get your ex back

to what I call “Emotional Neutral.” Right now, your ex is feeling annoyed or angered

by your text messages – and rightfully so. So the next logical step is to remove all

the negative feelings your ex has of you by sending a quick apology text and employing

the no-contact strategy. If this is the first video you’ve seen by me, the no-contact

involves not contacting your ex for a certain period of time. You’ve probably seen some

relationship gurus here on YouTube disagree with this tactic… but through my experience

and research, the no-contact strategy is absolutely necessary in most situations. There are certain

exceptions to this rule, but for the vast majority of you, no-contact is a must.

So if you’ve been sending any of these hurtful or desperate text messages, the quickest way

to get your ex to rebound is to first send a quick apology text… something quick and

short.

Say something like…”Sorry I’ve been emotional the last few days. Other things

have been stressing me on top of this breakout and I lashed out. Wish you luck.”

And that’s it. This text message accomplishes two things – you apologize to your ex and

you give yourself an excuse for acting inappropriately. After you send this, you MUST engage in no-contact

for a period of at least 30 days. It doesn’t matter if your ex texts you back or asks you

how you’re doing, etc., when I say no contact, I really do mean NO CONTACT. So literally

ZERO text messages during this time. This is very important for several reasons.

See, right now your ex thinks that YOU’RE chasing him or her. They think that they have

all the power and that, if they wanted to, they could have you back whenever they wanted.

So what you need to do is to take that power away from them so that they begin to start

chasing YOU instead.

For example, imagine your ex sends you a message 15 days into the no-contact period and he

or she gets no reply for several days. Your ex will start constantly checking his or her

phone, waiting for a response. This will make your ex emotional and he or she will wonder

why you aren’t replying…and this is exactly why no-contact works so brilliantly. It turns

the tables upside down and makes your ex WANT to talk to you.

Of course, no-contact is only a small step towards getting your ex back, but if you want

to learn my full, proven system, then just head over to BreakupBrad.com and checkout

the full length video on my website. That’s BreakupBrad.com – and I’ll link to that

video in the description below.

A lot of men and women ask me…how long should my no contact period be? And the answer to

that fully depends on the severity of your breakup. How much begging and pleading did

you do directly after the breakup? Did you send angry text messages to him or her? Did

you send any of the three so-called “bad text” messages I described earlier? Ask

yourself these questions and BE HONEST with yourself. If you committed several of these

errors and you know your ex is annoyed or angry at you, you probably need to wait more

than 30 days. In some cases, I recommend clients not contact their ex for 60 days or more – again,

this all depends on his or her specific situation.

So let’s fast forward this timeline and say that you’ve done everything perfectly.

You quickly apologized, you engaged in No Contact, and you do all of the other things

that I recommend in my Ex Factor Guide program. What now? How do you go from “No Contact”

to having a positive conversation with your ex? And, by the way, that is the goal right

now. At this point in time, your only goal should be to establish positive rapport with

your ex. You’re not going to make them fall madly in love with you again just by sending

a few messages to them…but building rapport is a crucial beginning.

So what kind of text should you be sending? In my Ex Factor Guide, I go through dozens

of text messaging examples, but in this video, I’ll go through three kinds of text messages

that are sure to establish a good basis for reconnecting with your ex.

Text number one is something that I like to call my “Big Interest” text message. Remember,

nobody wants to receive a super boring text like “hey” or “what’s up”…not

only do these texts lack purpose, but it doesn’t make your ex feel any emotions at all. You

want to send something that makes them feel good…AND that has actual value. To let you

know what I mean, let’s jump into an example of a “Big Interest” text message…

You could send your ex something like…

“Hey, just heard that the ‘Foo Fighters’ are coming into town in June…just remembered

how much you loved them. Hope everything is going well.”

And that’s it! For now, this is all you need to send to your text message to eventually

get started and reconnect. So why does this text message work? Well, for one, you have

a very clear purpose as to why you’re texting your ex. You’re not begging, you’re not

pleading or getting angry…you’re simply letting him or her know about something that

may be a huge interest to them. Secondly, you don’t force a conversation. You end

the reply with, “hope everything is going well.” Your ex can reply to your text or

they can simply ignore it if they want… but if you did everything correctly up until

this point, you should be getting a positive response from your ex.

The second ice-breaker text message is a little more advanced, so use it with caution. I call

it my “Good Reminder” text message. The goal of this text message is to remind your

ex of a positive experience you two shared while you were together, without appearing

awkward or weird. Let’s jump into an example text…

You could say something like…

“Hey, remember that amazing dinner we had on the corner of Yates and Blanshard St.?

What was the name of that restaurant again? I want to take a friend there.”

Depending on where you’re at with your ex, this message can do wonders. In this particular

text message, you’re reminding your ex of the amazing dinner you two shared together…and

this will force your ex to think about that positive experience. Secondly, this text message

is great because it incites a little bit of jealousy and mystery. Your ex might be thinking…”WHO

are you taking to dinner and why?” Again, this text message is extremely effective if

you send it at the right time. If you feel like your ex is still annoyed by you, then

sending this text will only ensure that WON’T get a reply back.

The third text message is one of my favorites. It’s called the “Smile Text”. Now, this

text message should only be used if you handled your breakup properly – as in, you didn’t

beg or plead, and you didn’t get angry. Let’s jump into an example, shall we?

Say something like…

“I just stumbled upon my old copy of Harry Potter and The Half Blood Prince and it made

me think about you for the first time in awhile…and it put a smile on my face!”

Again, like the last two text messages, your text message has a purpose. You’re trying

to reel your ex in emotionally with something positive and interesting. You aren’t trying

to stir up any drama or the set the world on fire, you’re simply reconnecting and

building rapport. Attraction, love, romance, etc., are things that will come much later

in this process. And again, if you want to learn THE ENTIRE method on how to get your

ex to come back to you, just simply watch the full video presentation on my website,

BreakBrad.com

Hopefully, if you’ve done everything correctly, your ex will respond to you in a positive

way, but there are a few things you need to remember when trying to carry a conversation

with him or her.

Rule number one: Put a “delay” in between all of your text messages. At this point,

you’ll want to appear as nonchalant as possible, and putting a solid delay in between text

messages can do just that. So instead of replying to his or her text messages right away, wait

an hour or more. This will create some level of anticipation in your ex, and will also

help remove any sort of “desperate” or “needy” sentiment your ex still may have

of you. Also, if you’ve just reconnected after the no contact period, then you should

only be exchanging a few text messages a day – no more than 6 or 7 text messages in any

given day.

Rule number two: Keep your replies brief, but don’t forget some basic principles.

If you were to send huge, long, rambling text messages, your might appear a little desperate

for attention. So keep the text messages as short as possible, but not so short that you

kill the conversation. Keep talking about things that interest your ex and ask honest