Jun (J): We made a video earlier where our wives talked about the unexpected

parts of having relationships with Japanese men,

and so today we're doing OUR version.

In Japanese.

Ryosuke (Ryo): In Japanese!

J: Finally, Japanese. Let's get started!

Ryo: Yes!

J: Let's say whatever we want, as much as we want.

Ryo: Okay.

J: We can't really express ourselves well in English, usually.

Ryo: Right.

Grace (G): Uh oh...

J: We shall speak today.

So, first strange thing...

Ryo: Strange...

J: I have one thing.

When we started living together,

I found out she doesn't take a bath every day.

G: Oh no... Ryo: Right!

Rachel usually takes a bath every other day, right?

Rachel (Ra): Yeah, around there.

J: And when I asked her the reason...

Ryo: This sounds interesting.

Ra: It's bad for my hair.

J: Her hair will get damaged. Ra: It's bad for white people's hair.

Ryo: Grace is like that, too.

G: I shampoo my hair once, twice a week.

Ryo: Yeah, she doesn't wash her hair at all.

J: You don't wash with shampoo?

G: Nope.

J: You wash with water? G: Nope.

Ryo: She doesn't even use water.

G: I put my hair in a ponytail and wash my body.

Ryo: Of course she sweats, so she showers to get rid of the sweat.

Washes her face and body.

But she doesn't wash her hair.

J: Hearing that for the first time it seems unthinkable to us.

Ryo: More than that... filthy!

J: It made me wonder a bit...

But it isn't actually like that.

Her hair's completely clean, and it isn't a problem at all.

Ryo: Right. Right.

J: She doesn't use a hair dryer.

G: Yeah, I don't use one either.

J: Her hair dries naturally.

R: Because that's also bad for my hair!

J: Same for you?

Ryo: Same. G: I don't even have a hair dryer.

J: You don't have a dryer?!

Ryo: Yeah, we don't have one.

G: We had a male friend stay with us,

and he asked where our dryer was.

I had to say we don't have one.

J: I asked you that, too. G: We don't need it.

Ryo: What else...

She always, always wants to save money.

For example, when we moved and needed to buy furniture,

I thought we could go to Ikea or Nitori*.

[*Both inexpensive furniture stores]

G: It's way too expensive.

Ryo: No way!

Ra: There are also thrift stores.

Ryo: Right, thrift stores! G: We went there, too.

Ra: And Facebook groups.

G: Right! We have one in Tokyo.

Ra: We used that, too.

J: There are Facebook groups where people in the same region can

sell or give their used stuff to each other.

We also used thrift shops.

Ryo: Yeah, she likes used stuff, too.

G: Even for clothes. Ryo: Yeah, clothes too.

Ra: Yessss

J: You get like 80% of your clothes used. Ra: I buy almost everything used!

Ra: Yep.

G: I got these boots used!

Cowboy boots~

Ra: I got this, this, and this used.

G: Wow, that's a lot!

Ryo: She doesn't buy clothes or furniture new at all anymore.

Ra: Because it's too expensive.

G: I think that if you gave me a bracelet and told that it costs $200

I would be kind of like "Omg..."

But if you told me "It costs $200... But I got it on sale for $30!!"

I'd be really, really happy and I would love it!

J: Of course it depends on the person, but Grace and Rachel

always try to save money.

Ryo: Yeah. Lucky. I feel lucky.

Ra: I'd rather eat something delicious.

G: And travel. Ryo: Certainly.

Ra: Traveling is better.

J: They don't spend much on physical objects.

J: Well, it depends on the person. Ryo: Of course.

Ra: Right.

J: We talked about it before, but beards.

Ryo: Oh, beards.

G: I love them!

J: In Japan we have to be clean. Ryo: Every single day we have to shave.

G: It's so sad.

Ryo: Always shaving.

J: It's important to be clean and hygienic, so we all have to shave.

Ryo: Cleanliness.

J: But she likes me to have a little bit of stubble.

She even asks me not to shave on the weekends.

Stubble and five o'clock shadows have a bad image here.

Ryo: Like this? Ra: I like this amount. Stubble.

Ryo: Is this too much?

Ra: It depends on the person. [A lot of people] like beards like that.

G: Personally, I don't really like mustaches. But I like this.

J: Goatee.

Ryo: When I shave she gets upset.

Her ring starts coming off her finger like this...

"Wait a minute, Grace!!"

Ryo: She likes beards. G: I love them.

Ryo: That's why she even has one here.

G: I don't know if they can see it.

J: Exactly how much do you like beards??

Ryo: Beard-lover.

G: I have a beard.

J: It depends on the person, but it seems like beards like this and goatees

can be considered attractive? Sexy?

Ra: Yeah, sexy. G: Very sexy!

Ryo: It seems pretty common. Ra: Manly.

Ryo: Right. There are a lot of guys overseas who have beards.

J: They look sexy with beards.

In Japan, being clean and fresh is better.

Ryo: Yeah, it's the opposite. G: No-Shave November.

Ra: Right!

Ryo: Right. I did No-Shave November.

Also, going back to furniture.

If we go to the thrift store and they don't have what we want,

Grace will make it.

J: Oh yeah.

Ryo: So we go to a home center and she grabs this and that and then just HAMMER HAMMER

J: DIY (Do It Yourself) G: I love DIY!

G: It's fun. Ra: It's fun, isn't it.

G: And it's easy. Ryo: You do that, too??

J: She likes DIY. Ra: Yeah, I like it!

J: Well, I like it too so we go to home centers a lot.

Ra: And you feel proud of yourself. G: Yeah!!

Ryo: So you like DIY, too.

G: When I was a kid in Texas, my family made a tree house.

We built it with a little saw when I was ten.

Ryo: In trees?

G: Yeah, we made a tree house. I was hammering and using electric tools.

To me, that's very fun.

Ra: Right!

G: I'm sad we don't have power tools. Ra: I know!

Ra: In America, my family built our house.

G: Really? Ryo: They built it??

Ra: The whole thing. G: Woah!

J: And they're not even carpenters.

Ra: Right.

Ryo: Amazing! G: That's incredible.

Ryo: Wow. G: Much fun.

J: It seems like it's pretty common in America for people to make things themselves.

J: I was really surprised.

Ryo: I had the image of building stuff being a guy's thing,

so I was surprised that actually women like them do it, too.

Ra: I think guys are expected to know how to build and fix stuff in America.

Like cars and house stuff.

G: Plumbing.

Ra: Yeah, and here when I asked Jun if he knows how to change oil in a car or something,

he said "I don't know. You just take it to the shop."

I'm like "Why don't you do it yourself!"

J: Because we have the "shaken" inspections.

Ryo: Oh yeah. G: Right.

G: We don't have them in America. Ra: Yeah, not really.

J: We have to pay and have them fixed by professionals because of the law.

Ryo: It'd end up costing more.

J: It's normal to change things like tires yourself.

Ra: If you do it yourself in America, you save a lot of money.

Ryo: I really like that mindset/ G: For sure.

Ryo: "I'll do it myself so I can save money!"

Ra: Yep.

J: Saying "I love you."

G: I love you. Ryo: I love you, too!

J: We're used to it now. Ryo: Yeah, I can say it now.

J: We don't say "I love you" here. Ryo: We absolutely don't say it.

J: It took me a while to get used to it. Ryo: Yeah.

J: "I love you" and "Aishiteru" are a little different here.

"Aishiteru" is pretty weighty. Ryo: It's rare.

Ryo: If someone says it, it's like OMG.

J: It's like what someone would say with their last dying breath.

It's not something we're used to saying so freely.

Ryo: It's just not something we say.

J: Well for now these are some of the things we could remember.

If we think of anything else, let's meet up again.

Ra&G: Yep.

J: If we do, I hope you'll enjoy that video, too.

All: Thanks for watching!