Name: 【MarieTV】覺得被低估？三個重點你一定要知道 (Feeling Underappreciated? Here’s What To Do About It.)
Uploaded: 2024-07-07T21:01:20.000Z
Duration: 6 min 25 s

Well, hello. I'm Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the best place to be if you want to create a business and a life that you love, and I think you do.

嗨大家，我是瑪莉·芙萊奧（美國跨多行業專家），你正在收看的是 Marie TV，這將是讓你學習創造你所熱愛的事業與生活的最佳選擇，我相信你會喜歡的。

Yes. I do. And this is Q&A Tuesday and today's question comes from Nishala and she writes:

沒錯，我也是。而今天是週二的你問我答時間，今天的問題來自妮莎拉，上面寫道：

"Dear Marie, what do you do when nobody appreciates you?

「親愛的瑪莉，當妳碰上無人賞識的情況時，妳怎麼做？

I've been appointed as the head of my department at a nonprofit and I've been super excited about it ever since.

我在一家非營利公司指派擔任部門主管，我從來沒有這麼興奮過。

Although it's a lot of work, we're educating 120 underprivileged children this year and I'll be training 60 teachers,

雖然工作量不小，像我們今年要培育 120 位來自弱勢家庭的小朋友，我個人就要訓練60位教師，

I absolutely love what I do, which is why I've put a ton of effort in to do my best and make this year successful.

但我非常熱愛這份工作，這也是為什麼我投入大量心血，將事情做到最好，得以達成今年的目標，

I've spent hours and hours of my day designing lesson plan templates and making sure classes run smoothly,

我每天花了許多時間 設計課程計畫範本，以及確保課程進行是否順利，

but I've barely gotten a word of praise from the team I'm working with.

但我卻很少被團隊中一起共事的人稱讚，

I know that's superficial to wanna be constantly praised, but I feel demotivated at this point.

我知道想一直被稱讚這聽起來未免有點膚淺，但我那時候真的非常沮喪，我是不是哪裡做錯了？

Am I on the wrong track? Why is my hard work not being appreciated? A bucket of love, Nishala."

為什麼我的努力沒能讓人賞識呢？獻上無限的愛與祝福，妮莎拉。」

Nishala, this was a great question but there is something I wanna point out to you.

妮莎拉，妳問的問題非常好，不過有件事我就直接開門見山告訴妳了，

Unlike many of our other readers, I noticed you didn't start off with any praise for mua.

就是其他讀者都會先讚美我一番，而「妳」卻沒有。

Now, I am totally playing with you, girl. Nishala, we know you write us a ton and you're always expressing gratitude and my point here isn't that you should praise me,

好啦，跟妳開個小玩笑啦，我們知道你給我們寫了很多信，你總是表達感激之情，我的意思不是你應該讚揚我，

it's just that sometimes, it doesn't occur to us to always do it.

而是有時候我們常常忘記應該多做這件事。

I mean, all of us forget rom time to time because when we see someone who is good at what they do, we think, "They don't need to hear it," or "They know it already," so why bother?

我的意思是，我們有時候會很健忘，因為我們看有些人在某些方面很優秀時，會覺得他們應該不會想再聽到讚美，或他們早就習以為常了，所以何必自討苦吃呢？

But the truth is that all of us can relate to craving more praise and not getting it so I wanna share three things that I think will really help.

但事實上我們都明白，人都渴望能獲得更多讚美，但總是可遇不可求，所以我有三大重點要分享給你們，相信這對你們會很有幫助。

Number one, the big cheese often gets little praise.

第一，領導人物往往得到最少的讚美，

怎樣，你以為我就不需要愛嗎？ (譯註: 此處big cheese是指一個企業中的中心領導人物，而非指起司)

So whether it's right or wrong, most people just assume that the boss doesn't really need any praise.

不管你認同與否，大多數人都認為大老闆不太需要任何讚美。

They assume it's the boss's job to work really hard and to be amazing, and as the head of your department you are seen as the boss.

他們認為老闆的使命就是努力工作，還有為之驚人，妳說妳目前擔任部門主管，那麼看來妳就是這位中心領導人物。

And I know you're working your butt off and you're doing a great job, but your team may just assume you're doing that because you're awesome.

我知道妳在工作時費盡心血，這真的非常棒，但妳的團隊可能是覺得，妳之所以有辦法做這些事情是因為妳真的非常優秀。

They don't give you praise because it just doesn't occur to them.

他們沒讚美妳，只是剛好他們沒有想到要這麼做。

Now, I know this doesn't solve your problem, but just remember, just because you're not getting acknowledgment, doesn't mean that people don't appreciate you.

我知道這樣聽起來還是沒有解決妳的問題，但請妳謹記，只因為妳沒備受賞識或讚美肯定，這並不代表大家不懂妳的才能。

第二，現在就開始當個讚美小天使吧。

So the best thing to do in any area of life when you feel like you're lacking something is to give to others that which you feel that you lack.

不管在哪個生活圈，只要妳覺得好像欠缺了什麼東西，最好的辦法就是從自己開始做起，讓它感染周遭的人事物。

So in your case this is all about praise and appreciation.

所以就妳的情況來說，所需要的就是讚美與賞識，

So I want you to become the appreciation fairy.

因此我希望妳能開始成為一位讚美小天使。

Marie, you have the best ideas. I mean, where do you come up with these ideas?

瑪莉，妳想的點子都超級讚，妳怎麼能常有那麼多的好點子？

And I mean, that outfit. What is that? Is that a jumpsuit? Damn girl! I appreciate you.

而且，哇嗚，妳身上穿的那是什麼？最時尚的連身衣嗎？妳美翻了！我很欣賞妳，

Now, look, you're not giving praise in order to get it back.

現在仔細聽囉，你不是因為想獲得讚美才去讚美別人，

You wanna be the gift that you want to receive.

而是你變成你自己也想收到的那份禮物，

Now, if you haven't seen our episode about appreciation languages in the workplace, you'd better watch it. It's right here.

如果你還沒看過我們之前有關「教你如何在工作場合讚美他人」的影片，最好去看看吧，連結放在畫面旁邊囉，

And then you want to get yourself the book "The Five Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace" by Mr. Gary Chapman. It's amazing and it'll change your life and the life of your team.

或許你還會想買一本蓋瑞．巧門先生寫的《從讚賞開始，改變你的職場關係》來看，這本書真的很神奇，它會改變你的人生，以及整個團隊。

Now, this is something really simple and you can do this outside of work and you only need one person to get started.

這其實相當簡單，在工作之外也適用，而且只需要一個同伴就能開始進行。

It's a concept called bragging and I learned it from my friend Regina Thomashauer. It's brilliant.

這其實是源自於「吹牛」的概念，也是從我朋友雷吉娜．托馬蕭爾身上學到的，這招真的很神！

So rather than spending your time complaining about work or how crappy everything is or how people take you for granted,

所以與其浪費時間在抱怨你的工作、所有事情都爛透了，又或是大家都把你做的事視為理所當然，

you wanna flip that around and start bragging about all the incredible things that you're creating.

不妨轉個心境，開始吹捧所有你創造出來的美好事物，

You're really acknowledging yourself and acknowledging what you're putting out into the world.

這能讓你肯定自我，肯定所有你為這個世界貢獻的事情。

So, for example, if you and I were doing this together, Nishala, you would say to me, "Marie, I brag that this week I created the most amazing templates for my classroom."

打個比方來說，妮莎拉，我和妳一起互相讚揚，妳會跟我說：「瑪莉，我覺得自己這禮拜為我們班寫的範本真的是宇宙無敵讚，」

And then I would say, "You know what? That's awesome, girl.

我就會說：「真的假的，那真的是太棒了！

You know, those 60 teachers are gonna feel so much more confident and that confidence is going to be passed onto their kids, which is gonna impact generations to come."

妳知道嗎，那 60 位老師教學信心一定會大增，而這樣的自信心也會傳染給他們的孩子們，甚至影響他們未來世代的子孫。」

By the way, I mean every single word I just said, so great job.

對了，我剛剛說的每一句話都是真心的喔，所以妳真的做得很棒啦。

And if you love this idea of bragging, you should really check out my friend Regina's work because it's awesome.

如果你們喜歡互相吹捧這樣的點子，你們還真應該去看看我朋友雷吉娜的網站，真的非常棒。

Now, before we wrap up, I want you to remember this: Do not get too praise dependent.

好啦，在節目進入尾聲之前，我希望你們記住這點，別太依賴讚美，

Because attaching too much importance to external praise actually makes you more vulnerable to harsh criticism from others too.

這是因為太過在乎外在的讚美與掌聲，這也容易讓你在受到他人批評時變得格外脆弱。

I want you to keep doing an awesome job, keep doing your best, and practice being your own source of internal validation.

我希望你們繼續努力目前的事業，凡事都盡力做到最好，並且培養自我肯定的那股支持來源。

Alrighty Nishala, that was my A to your Q, I really hope it helps.

好啦，妮莎拉，以上就是針對妳提出的問題，提供的回覆，希望真的能幫助到妳。

Now, I would love to hear from you. You know, genuine appreciation is a gift that makes all of us feel great, so I would love to know who are three people that you genuinely appreciate and why.

現在我想聽聽看你們的意見，你們知道嗎，深入心坎裡的讚美，是能讓所有人都感到快樂的禮物，所以我想知道哪3個人是你想給予最真誠的讚美，原因是什麼。

Tell me about it in the comments below and, more importantly, go tell them.

說說看並在底下留言，還有別忘了最重要的，親口告訴他們。

And if you think they'd feel great seeing their name in print, why don't you write a great comment, send those people a link to this page, and tell them to scroll down to your name.

如果你認為他們看到自己的名字在上面會更高興，何不將你的留言寫好之後，把這個網址的連結寄給他們，並且告訴他們往下滑到有你名字的那一頁呢？

As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go there and leave a comment now.

如往常一樣，每一集結束後，MarieForleo.com 網站裡都會出現熱烈的討論，所以現在就請你到網站上留下你的想法吧！

Did you like this video? If so, subscribe to our channel and we would be so appreciative if you shared this video with your friends.

你喜歡這一集影片嗎？如果喜歡，請你訂閱我們的頻道，若能將這部影片分享給你朋友的話，那當然是再好不過了。

And if you want even more awesome resources to create a business and life that you love, plus some personal insights from me that I only talk about in email, come on over to MarieForleo.com and sign up for email updates.

如果你想要更多超讚的資源去創造你熱愛的事業及生活，或者想要我只會在 email 裡提到的個人洞見的話，那就來 MarieForleo.com 網站，並且註冊以利收到電子報的通知。

Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special gift that only you have.

繼續闖蕩你的事業，並繼續朝著你的夢想邁進，因為這世界正需要你那獨一無二的天賦。

Thank you so much for watching and I'll catch you next time on MarieTV.

非常感謝你的收看，我們下回再於 Marie TV 上見囉！