Name: 【MarieTV】如何找尋專屬於你的成功 (How To Find Your Own Definition of Success)
Uploaded: 2017-10-19T03:57:59.000Z
Duration: 5 min 30 s

喜歡我身上的流蘇造型嗎？我超喜歡的

現在進行式

Or is it a little widget? I'm waving my fringe flag.

它其實也算得上是裝飾物吼？你看，我在擺動我的流蘇

to 不定詞

Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

嘿，我是瑪莉．芙萊奧（美國跨多行業專家），你正在收看的是Marie TV，這裡能讓你學會創造

and a life that you love. And it's Q&A Tuesday , one of my favorite days of the week , because

你所熱愛的事業與生活，今天是星期二的你問我答時間，是我一周裡最愛的一天

there’s Q’s and there are A’s. And today’s Q comes from Miss Claire and Claire writes:

因為這代表解惑的時間又到了，今天的問題來自克萊爾小姐，上面寫道：

“Dear Marie, love your show and your sound, human advice. I don't own a business or anything,

「親愛的瑪莉妳好，我好喜歡妳的節目跟妳的聲音，以及人性化的建議，目前的我還沒擁有自己的事業

I’m only a recent creative writing graduate. I’ve always had piles of passion and drive,

只是個最近剛畢業的創意寫作家，我總是持有滿腔熱血的情懷，驅策我向前邁進

but right now I’m working part time as a waitress and feeling very aimless. I love

但現在的我在餐廳打工，當服務生，覺得毫無目標，我喜歡

where I’m working and where I’m at in my life, but how do I continue to feel fulfilled

我工作的地方，也喜歡我住的地方，但我該怎麼做，才能做到除了在社會上

and successful outside of what the rest of society deems ‘success’? I.E. big job,

普遍認定的「成功」之外，繼續實現夢想與追求成功呢？好比說，找到一份好工作

big money. I don't need a lot, but I would like to feel fulfilled and accomplished in

賺大錢，其實我要的並不多，但我就是想要完成某件事情

some way. Thanks for all you do, Claire.”

以獲得成就感，非常感謝妳的協助，克萊爾上」

Claire, amazing question. I wanna start off with the good stuff. You said I don't need

克萊爾，這問題問得太好了。首先，我想先從好的這一面說起，妳說妳要的

that much to be happy, I love where I’m working, and I love where I’m at in life.

其實並不多，就能很快樂，妳熱愛妳工作的地方、也熱愛現在住的地方

Hallelujah! (Hallelujah~) That is a rare and beautiful thing, so congratulations.

哈雷路亞！（哈雷路亞~）這真是少見又幸福的事情，所以很恭喜妳！

Now let’s see if we can help you with the rest.

接下來，我們就來看看，剩下的部分能怎麼幫助妳

Number one, there is no such thing as “only.” So in your question you wrote I don't own

第一，「世上沒有什麼事是只有怎麼樣才比較好」，所以從妳的描述中提到，妳還未擁有

a business or anything, I’m only a creative writing graduate. It sounds like you’re

任何事業，也只是個剛畢業的創意寫作家，這麼聽起來妳好像將妳自己

holding yourself as less. Here’s something that you need to get. Your work does not equal

畫地自限，這邊希望妳能了解一件事，妳從事的工作並不代表

your worth. Entrepreneurs are not better than non entrepreneurs. And working on Wall Street

妳的個人價值，企業家也不一定就比非企業家厲害，在華爾街上班

isn’t better than working as a waitress. There’s no such thing as “only” in anything.

不一定就比當女服務生來得好，世上沒有東西是只有怎麼樣才比較好的

Our true worth doesn't come from the work we do, it comes from who we are as human beings.

我們真正的價值不在於我們做什麼樣的工作，而是我們是怎麼樣的人

Now, I know sometimes that’s easier said than done, but if you want to be in charge

雖然我知道有時候說比做還容易，但如果你想掌握自己的幸福

of your happiness you need to remember that.

Number two is begin with the end in mind. So you said that you were feeling aimless

第二點，「以終為始」，妳提到妳覺得毫無目標

and this writing exercise, good for a creative writer, is really gonna help you figure out

但這樣的寫作訓練，對一個創意寫作家來說是很棒的，它能幫助妳釐清自己

where to set your sights. So it’s based on Stephen Covey’s idea of begin with the

建立屬於自己的觀點。「以終為始」這樣的觀念其實是以史蒂芬・柯维提出的觀念 (譯註：Stephen Covey是美國的管理學大師，著有《與成功有約》及其他暢銷書籍，於2012年因嚴重車禍逝世)

end in mind. And when I say end I actually mean the end of your life. So imagine, it’s

為藍本，而我所謂的終，意即生命的終點，所以試著想像一下

It’s your last day on earth and you’re thinking back on the journey. What kind of

今天是你在地球上的最後一天，你開始回想起過去的人生，你會想要

memories do you want to have? What kind of adventures will you have taken? Are there

擁有什麼樣的回憶？你不畏恐懼做了什麼樣的冒險？你去過

certain places you went, friends you made, and things you did with them?

哪些地方，交了哪些朋友，甚至和他們一起做過什麼事？

So don't just think about this, actually write it down. I promise, you’re gonna uncover

別光只是用想的，不如實際將它寫下來，我保證，你肯定會發現

some pretty awesome ideas that might just be worth aiming for.

一些非常棒的主意，甚而值得當作目標執行

Number three, flesh out the details. So you said that you wanna feel fulfilled and accomplished.

第三點，「為目標賦予更完整的定義」，妳提到妳想要完成某些事物，好得到成就感

Well, what exactly does that mean to you? I’d love you to get specific. Does that

這句話對妳來說到底是什麼意思？我希望妳能表示地明確些，這是代表

mean that you write every day? Does it mean that you publish a novel? Would you feel accomplished

妳想每天寫作？還是代表妳想出版一本小說？還是說妳每天能起床、穿上內褲

if you just got up and put on some underwear? I certainly do. I want you to get clear and

這樣妳就覺得滿足了？我的話肯定是啦，我希望妳能將目標說得更加具體明確

specific and make sure that you include some things that you can do on a daily basis so

並且確保妳每天都能持續做某些事情，如此一來

every day you get to feel fulfilled and accomplished.

妳每天都能感受到完成事情的滿足感

Now, before we wrap this up I just want to comment about this whole idea of success.

在我們結束這部影片之前，我想要就「成功」這件事，說說自己的看法

You know, even society can’t clearly define it. For some people success means tons of

你知道嗎，就算是這個社會，也無法清楚地明確定義。對有些人來說，「成功」代表

money and for other people it means doing what you love and some money. And for other

賺到很多錢，對有些人說，那代表作自己喜愛的事，並且賺到一些錢

people success is all about being with your friends and your family. And still others

而對某些人說，和朋友家人相處就是件成功的事，甚至還有些人

just wanna do whatever they need to do to have enough time to swim with the dolphins

覺得做好該做的事情就好，這樣才有時間跟海豚一起游泳

and watch some zombie movies. No matter what it is, it’s important that you define success

看場殭屍電影，不管是什麼，最重要的還是你自己對成功的定義

for you and for me I happen to love Maya Angelou's version, which is this week’s tweetable.

是什麼，如果問我的話，我比較傾向馬婭．安傑盧的說法，也就是本周的推特轉發訊息 (譯註：Maya Angelou是一位美國女作家和詩人，於2014年逝世)

“Success is liking who you are, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.”

「成功就是喜歡你自己、喜歡自己正在做的事，並且喜愛自己做事的方式」

So remember Claire, the only definition of success that matters is yours. So that was

所以記得囉，克萊爾，成功的定義和重要性都決定於妳，所以以上就是

my A to your Q, I hope you enjoyed it. Thanks so much for asking. And now I would love to

我針對妳的問題予以的解答，希望妳喜歡這些分享，非常感謝妳提出問題，現在我想聽聽看

hear from you. What is your definition of success? Paint us a picture in the comments below.

你們的想法意見，你們對成功的定義是什麼？盡情在影片下面的留言區表達你的意見吧

Now, as always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at the wonderful land

如往常一樣，每一集結束後，在MarieForieo.com這個美好的網站裡

of MarieForleo.com, so go there and leave a comment now.

都會出現熱烈的討論，所以現在就請你到網站上，留下你的想法吧

Did you like this video and my fringe? If so, subscribe to our channel and, of course,

你喜歡這部影片跟我的流蘇嗎？如果喜歡，不妨訂閱我們的頻道，如果願意將它

we’d be so grateful if you shared this video with your friends. And if you want even more

分享給你的朋友們那當然是再好不過的，如果你想要更多超讚的資源

awesome resources to create a business and life that you love, plus some personal updates

去創造你熱愛的事業及生活，或者想要我只會在email裡

from me that I only get to talk about in email, come on over to MarieForleo.com and make sure

提到的個人洞見的話，那就來MarieForleo.com網站

Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special

繼續闖蕩你的事業，並繼續朝著你的夢想邁進，因為這世界正需要

gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I can’t wait to see you

你那獨一無二的天賦，非常感謝你的收看，我們下回再於