In a lot of cases, it means you are unhappy with the way things are and rather than dealing with the way things are in your current relationship, like you kind of seek an escape from someone else.

在許多情況下，劈腿意味你對現階段感情不滿意，不去正視此段關係中的問題而選擇向別的人尋找逃避的出口。

I have been cheated on and it really really sucks.

我被劈腿過，那感覺實在是糟透了。

I had a boyfriend in college who would cheat on me all the time. And I had told him at one point like

我大學時交過一個總是一再背叛我的男友，我有一次直接告訴他，

"Look! If you gonna do it, just like tell me and like we'll talk about it, but don't keep it from me."

「嘿！如果你要劈腿就直說，我們可以談談，但就是不要隱瞞我。」

Like that was the bare minimum that I asked for, and then he still would keep it from me.

這是我的最低要求，但是他依舊背著我亂來。

He was away for the summer and he would come back to Boston to visit me.

他暑期暫時不在，回來後他就到波士頓找我。

And our visits were always very sweet. We'd sort of hang out all day and like have ice cream and walk through the Boston Common.

我們的約會行程非常甜蜜。我們會到處閒逛一整天、吃冰淇淋、去波士頓公園散步。

And then you know at night, he would go see a couple more friends and then he'd leave

約會結束後的晚上，他去拜訪幾個朋友之後就又離開了。

After that summer, I found out that like he'd have ice cream with me during the day, and then like screw his ex-girlfriend at night...yeah.

後來直到暑假結束後，我才發現他白天會和我吃冰淇淋晚上就去跟他的前女友上床 ... 就是這樣 。

It was the first time I understood the kind of fear and anger people feel to the point where they only know how to react physically.

那是我第一次真正體會到的，所謂的恐懼和憤怒憤怒到只知道做出生理反應 。

By just combusting into tears and throwing a hairdryer.

如放聲大哭或失去理智地狂甩吹風機。

[Have you ever cheated on someone?]

[你有劈腿過嗎？]

Yeah, I have cheated on someone, but it was never like—it's never been like an affair.

是的，我曾經劈腿，但那不算是偷情。

So I was on a break which was really weird but I feel like a lot of people have been through it,

那時我處於暫時分手的狀態，有點怪，但我想應該很多人都有過這種經驗，

and then I decided on my own accord that it would be okay to pursue another person or allow someone to pursue me,

然後我自己決定我其實可以去找新的對象或是給別人追，

so... but I think in certain situations, people think that's cheating which I actually think is too.

但我覺得在某些情況下，人們會認為那就是劈腿，老實說我也這麼認為。

I have never cheated on someone. I have been the one the cheater has cheated on someone with.

我沒有劈腿過，但我曾經當過第三者。

One time I had no idea until after the fact and one time and I kinda knew...yeah.

有一次我真的完全不知情，直到後來我就發現了。

I kind of rationalized it like there's been so many times where I've done the right thing, where I've told someone, "No, you break up with your girlfriend and then you can talk to me."

我有點把劈腿這件事合理化。有好多時候我都是做對的事，我會告訴那個人：「不，你先跟女朋友分手，再來跟我聊天。」

And then they eventually break up. Something always happens but they never ended up with me so this time maybe I'm supposed to do the wrong thing.

最後他們分手了。之後都一定會發生一些狀況，但他們最後都不會跟我在一起，所以這次我也許本來就該做錯的事。

Maybe that works out sometimes and it really doesn't.

或許那有時候會成功，但最後真的不會成功。

It's just really painful and messy and awful.

那實在是一件非常令人痛心、骯髒又糟糕的行為。

In some capacity cheating is like, for me and my situation, it was like getting back at the person versus like me taking the high road and being a better person

對我來說，劈腿在某種程度上是報復一個人的手段或是我就做出正確但艱難的選擇，成為一個更好的人。

So, it's like, um, terrible...it's terrible. It's a horrible feeling. It makes me feel sick.

所以被劈腿的感覺實在很 .. .很糟糕，那感覺爛透了，會讓我覺得噁心。