字幕列表 影片播放 列印所有字幕 列印翻譯字幕 列印英文字幕 Okay. So this past weekend a really good friend of mine lives in New York called and said 這禮拜我一位住在紐約的好朋友打電話問我說 How are you feeling about the 99 conference? 你覺得99會議怎麼樣? And my answer was what do you think is the least invasive way 我回答他:「你認為一年級生該如何 To extract eyeball juice from a first-grader 弄乾眼淚?」 And his response was -- oh god! Are you in that place? 他回答說:「天啊!原來你有去聽演講!」 And I think they’re really…this is here’s the idea. 我覺得他們真的,以下是我的想法 There’s a total pink eye epidemic in my son’s class. 我兒子的班上正流行紅眼症 And if I could get some of the juice, I could give myself pink eye would you be a legitimate excuse not to go. 如果我有那種病毒淚液,我會讓自己得到紅眼症,你會允許我以正當理由而缺席吧 And I can even like …you know… do a selfie with like a big eye and then it would be legit. 我甚至可以自拍紅眼照,證明我是合理缺席 And he said, I thought you were excited and I said I was excited. 而他說我很興奮,我說我真的很興奮 But as I was working on my keynote 但當我在主持演講時 I realized that I kind of trick myself into believing that this was my tribe. 發現我自欺欺人,我以為這是我自己的小圈圈 And then I realized that my obsession with funds doesn’t really make me one of you. 之後,我才意識到我對基金的著迷根本不及在座的各位 And he said…what is going one when you thought you were one of them? 他說,你怎麼會把自己當成觀眾之一呢? And I said I don’t know I have to think about it. 我說,我不知道,我得好好想想 And he said your researcher doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re not …you know … a creative. 他說,你的研究不代表你不創新 I said no. these are the creative. These are the people that no one saw in the high school. 我說你錯了,這些是創新的研究,沒有人在中學看過 And everybody wants to be when they grow up. 但大家長大後都想要體驗看看 I’m a researcher. No one’s sits with when I was in high school. No one still sits with us. 而我是個研究員,中學時沒人陪我一起研究,沒人陪我們一起研究 So I thought about it. I thought..okay. some researcher study connection, study vulnerability, I study love. 所以我仔細想了一下,有些研究員研究相關性,有的研究弱點,我研究愛情 And then I realized why I thought you were my tribe. 而為什麼我覺得你屬於我的小圈圈 I think it’s because design is a function of connection. 我認為是因為設計是關聯性的一種功能 There’s nothing more vulnerable than creativity. 創意的弱點最多 And what is art? If it’s not love. 而藝術又是什麼?如果不是愛情 So it make sense to me, to be here. 那就合理了 And then I thought, okay. 99 percent perspiration said don’t talk about inspirational stuff. 我想,百分之99的人都會說別說流汗會鼓舞人心 Talk about the how to. 怎麼會這樣呢? So you know my names. Sometimes I named my keynote presentations things that will make me feel better about being here. 你們都知道我的綽號,有時候,我在演講時,用綽號稱呼我自己,會讓我感覺比較自在 So this one called sweaty creatives. 而這種情形稱為sweaty creatives Because I know what its mean to be a sweaty creative. 因為我知道sweaty creatives的意思 Because I create all the time when I write the way I translate my research when I talk. 因為當我演講時,我創造了翻譯我的研究的方式 And I know what the perspiration feels like. And so what I wanna talk about today is the perspiration that no one talks about very often. 我知道流汗是什麼樣的感覺,所以我今天 想要講的是沒有人提過的「流汗」 And that’s not the perspirations from the hard work and the laborious part of creating. 不是那種辛苦工作後所留流的汗 It’s the perspiration from fear. 而是緊張所造成的汗 From the cold sweat. The stuff that pops up on our eyebrows when it’s not supposed to be there. 冷汗,不應該從眉毛上冒出來 Because we’re presenting idea are talking about something that we care about 因為那表示我們正在講我們在意的事 And then we’re begging our body not to sweat. 而且我們希望身體不要冒冷汗 Like when they said, we’re filming you against black. Can you wear something else? 就像他們說的一樣,舞台背景顏色是黑色,你可以換其他顏色的衣服嗎? I’m like no. 我說不行 That 99 percent perspiration think I’m done with that. I got that. 我都開始冒冷汗了,我確實冒冷汗了 I won’t be wearing. I’ll be wear….oh yea my option will be navy. 但我不會換其他顏色的衣服,我可能會穿海軍藍 So I know about sweaty creative. So I wanna tell you about something that changed my life. 所以我知道sweaty creative,我想要告訴你們改變我人生的事情 As a creative person and it’s a quote from Theodore Roosevelt. 身為一個有創意的人,這是老羅斯福說過的話 And it is completely, I mean I know it sounds cheesy and cliché that quote can change your life. 我知道名言能改變你的人生已經是老掉牙的事了 But sometimes when you hear something, when you need to hear it, you’re ready to hear it. 但有時候,你聽到那些事,你必須聽到,你也準備好要聽了 Something swift inside of you. 你很快就會懂那些事 And so my story is that I’m a researcher and I never thought I would have a big public career. 我是一位研究員,我從沒想過我會在大眾面前表現 And so I did the TED talk and it went very viral. 包括為TED演講 And in the wake of that I was kind of everywhere for a couple of months on every CNN.com NPR. 那場演講後,將近一個月的CNN和NPR新聞都可以看到我 It was everywhere and something I wasn’t use to. 到處都報導我的新聞,但以前從沒有這樣過 And the marching orders from my therapist and my husband were do not read the comments online. 治療學家和我丈夫都要求我不要看線上評論 So I read all the comments online. 所以我就看了所有的線上評論 It’s a one morning. I woke up and there were two or three new articles out. 一天早上,我一起床就看到兩三篇新聞 And I started reading the comments. 我開始看評論 And they were devastating. 那些評論威脅性很大 They weren’t about my work. They were about me and were super personal. 他們不是針對我的工作,而是針對我這個人 And they were the thing that creative people play in their mind and then give up doing what they really wanna do. 就是那些評論讓人想要放棄他們想做的事情 Like if I ask every single one of you, you would try…what would you try if you knew people would never say this about you. 例如,我問在座各位,如果有人說你做了你從來沒做過的事情 What would that, what would this be? 你會怎麼樣?是什麼東西讓你有這種感覺? It would those comments in that morning. 是那天早上的評論 Of course she embraces imperfection, what choice does she have, look how she looks 當然她面對了自己的不完美,她選擇了她所擁有的、她欣賞她該看的東西 I feel sorry for her kids. Last research marble tops. 我為她的孩子感到抱歉,上個主題,大理石檯面 Just mean personal attacks the things that really up until that moment had inspired me to stay very small in my life and in my career. 意思是個人攻擊對我的人生和事業影響非常小 Just so that I can avoid these things. 所以我可以避免這些事情發生 So that morning, even the kids leave, I stay home. I get on the couch. 那天早上,小孩都出去了,我還待在家裡,我在沙發上 And I watch eight hours of ‘Downton Abbey’ 看了八小時的「唐頓莊園」 And when it’s over, I don’t wanna turn off Downton Abbey. Cause the minute you turn off Downton Abbey, 它都結束了,我還想繼續看「唐頓莊園」,因為你一轉台 then it’s like soccer practice and dinner and back to the mean people. 就像看球賽和吃晚餐一樣,背後總是有人在評論你 And maybe should I get botox? And maybe you know…if I can stand still when I talk 我應該要去打肉毒桿菌嗎?還是…如果我繼續講話 So I get my laptop and I do a search for who was the president of United States during the Downton Abbey era. 所以我打開筆電,研究唐頓莊園時期的美國總統是誰 Have you ever done that like you’re numbing a TV or movie and when it’s over you just like 你曾經沉浸在一部電視劇或電影裡,影片都演完了 Stay in that space by learning more about the actors and what’s going on. 你還想繼續待在原位,了解更多演員和劇情嗎? I’ve been doing this long enough to know that like you’re laughing with me. 我常常做這種事,所以我知道你們為什麼笑我 So I put it in and Theodore Roosevelt comes up and the quote comes up. 我開始搜尋後,出現老羅斯福的資料和名言 And I read it. And this is what it says. It’s a quote from a speech that he gave. 我就讀了那些資料,他在一場演講中講出這句名言 At the early 1900s,that the time he were born. 在20世紀初期,他剛出生的時候 And a lot of people called me in the arena speech and this is the passage that changed. 很多人要我在競技場裡演講,而改變了我 Changes my life. 改變了我的人生 It’s not the critics who counts, it’s not the man who points out, how the strong man stumbles, 改變的不是數不完的評論,也不是挑出強人犯錯的那個人 Or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. 或是有作為的人會比較有利 The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by blood sweat and blood. 這個好處是屬於在這競技場裡,臉部沾染了血汗的人 Who at the best, in the end knows the triumph of high achievement. 最優秀的人,在最後會奪得最高成就的勝利 And who at worst, if he fails, he fails daring greatly. 而表現差的人,如果失敗了,他會敗地一蹋糊塗 So the moment that I read that, I close my laptop. And this is what shifted me. 所以我看到評論後,我闔上筆電,而那改變了我 Three huge things. First, my spent the last 12 years studying vulnerability. 有三個原因,第一,我花了12年時間研究弱點 And that quote was the everything I know about vulnerability. 而老羅斯福的那句名言就是我對弱點的認識 It is not about winning. It’s not about losing. It’s about showing up and being seen. 這無關輸贏,只和露面和被看到有關 The second thing -- this is who I want to be. 第二,這就是我想成為的人 I want to create. I want to make thing that didn’t exist before I touch them. 我想要創新,我想要創造還沒接觸過的事物 I want to show up and be seen in my work and in my life. 我想要露面且在工作和人生中被其他人看到 And if you’re going to show up and be seen. There’s only one guarantee. 如果你要露面並且被其他人看到,只有一個保證 And that is you’ll get your ass kicked. 就是走著瞧 That is the guarantee. That’s the only certainty you have. 這就是唯一保證,這是唯一確定的事 If you want to go in the arena, and spend anytime in there. Whatsoever, especially, if you commit to creating in your life. 如果你想要進入競技場待一會兒,特別是如果你根本沒開創過自己的人生 You’ll get your ass kick. 你更應該進去看看 So you have to decide, at that moment, I think for all of us, if the courage is the value we hold 所以你那時候必須做決定,我覺得對我們來說,如果勇氣是我們把握住的價值 This is the consequence. You can’t avoid it. 這就是結果,你無法避免 The third thing, which really set me free, and I think my husband me are still argued, this is some more dangerous. 第三,是讓我真正放鬆的事,也是我丈夫和我仍在爭論的事,這有點危險 It’s kind of a new philosophy about criticism which is this 這是有關評論的新哲學 If you’re not in the arena, also getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback. 如果你不在該競技場內,也沒有走進去看看,我不會對你的反應有興趣 That’s it. 就是這樣 I …you know if you have constructive information, feedback to give me, I want it. 如果你有建設性的資訊,回應我,我會想要你的回應 I’m academic. I’m hard writer for wrestling the stuff like that. 我以純理論的方式思考,我很認真地那樣思考 Hey! Forgot all this literature. Hey! You should have done this. Or terrible sentence structure over here. 忘了它們吧!你應該要這樣做!不然可怕的事情就會籠罩著你 Like let’s go! Let’s do it. I love that. 我喜歡這樣,走吧!我們去試試看吧! But if you’re in the cheap seats not putting yourself on the line and just talking about how I can do it better. 但如果你只是光說不做 I’m in no way interested in your feedback. 我也不會對你的回應感興趣 So I know about this wedding creative. What I want to do today I wanna talk very specifically about the arena. 我懂婚禮佈置,我今天特別要說的就是競技場 This is where we sweat. How many of you know this feeling by just looking at the picture. 我們就在這裡全身冒汗,有多少人光看著照片就已經有這種感覺了? Yea. Show in hands. How many of you know this feeling. 舉手表示,有多少人知道這種感覺? So this is what we do down here. Like I don’t know what you do down here. 我們當時就在這下面,我也不知道你在那下面做什麼 But I set up camp down here. I like string up twinkle light. I order take out food. I live down here. Sometimes. 但我在那裡紮營,我喜歡吊燈,我還叫了外送食物,我還會在那裡住幾天 Just dreaming about the day that I come up. And how awesome it’s gonna be. Like I stay down here a lot. 回想起離開那裡的日子,覺得人生真是美好,就像我現在坐在這裡一樣 And here’s what we do. 我們當時這樣做 What the arena right there, you can see it the light’s there. 競技場在那裡,你看的到亮光的那個方向 And the fear is this. I’m scared. Lots of self-doubt. Comparison. Anxiety. 當時我很害怕,我非常沒自信、焦慮 Uncertainty. And so what’s most people do when they walk into the arena. 又善變,大部分人走進競技場會做什麼呢? And those things are gonna to greed them up top. What do you do? 他們會變貪婪,你該怎麼辦呢? Your armed out right? This is why I would imagine all days. They got all their stuff on. 你的手一定脫臼了,對不對?這就是為什麼我整天都在幻想,他們一直拿著他們的東西 But god! That stuff is heavy. And that stuff is suffocating. And the problem is when your armed up. 天啊!那些東西都很重,而且會讓人窒息,最重要的問題是手臂脫臼了 Against vulnerability. You shut yourself off. And I said this to audiences before but I have never said it to audiences this more true than today. 抵抗脆弱,你要遠離他們,我之前就對觀眾說過,但我從來都沒有對觀眾說的像今天這樣真實 The second, when you arm are up, you armed up in this hallway. 第二,當你舉起手,你的手就會碰到走廊 You shut yourself off from everything. That you do and that you love. 你要遠離所有東西,遠離你想要的和你愛的東西 Because vulnerability is certainly a part of fear and self-doubt and grief and uncertainty and shame. 因為弱點絕對是造成恐懼、沒自信、悲傷、善變又自覺羞恥的原因 But it’s also the birthplace of these. 但它同時也創造了這些感覺 It’s the birthplace of love, of belonging, of joy, trust, empathy. 它讓你有愛、歸屬感、歡樂、信任及同情心 Creativity and innovation. 創意、創新 Without vulnerability, you cannot create. 沒有弱點,就沒有創意 So what I think you’re asked to do as a creative on a daily basis is walk through this hall. 所以你每天都該走過這道走廊 Get to the top of the stairs, and get naked. 站上最高的台階,呈現真實的自己 Of course. 當然 Get naked. Get really real. Put yourself out there and walk out there. 讓最真實的自己站上台階 So people can see you and see what you’ve made, see what you’re doing. 人們就可以看見你,看到你的本性、你的行為 So when we walk out. This is what we see. 所以當我們走出去,這就是我們所看到的東西 Lots of seats. Lots of people. But we focus on this. 很多座位、很多人,但我們把重點放在這裡 The critics. 評論家 I used to think the best way to put you work out to the world is to make sure the critics are not in the arena. 我曾想過讓你們適應這個世界最好的辦法是確保評論家不在競技場中 But you have no control over who’s in the arena. 但你沒辦法控制進入競技場的人 And the best way I have found is to know that they’re there and to know exactly what they’re going to say to you. 而最好的辦法就是知道他們在哪裡,並知道他們要評論你什麼 Cause each of you know. 因為你們每一個人都知道 The tree seats that will always be taken when you walk into the arena, when you share your work with someone. 你走進競技場,要和別人一起工作時,木椅就會被拿走 The three seats will always be taken. Our shame, scarcity and comparison. 木椅總是會被拿走,我們的羞恥心、缺憾和比較心理 Shame. Completely universal human emotion. We all have it. 羞恥心,全人類都有的情緒,我們每個人都有 It’s that groom that whisper you’re not enough. 你甚至會和別人說自己的羞恥心還不夠 Or if you’re feeling really confident. 或如果你真的很有自信 I guess this was … I went to this like in it…like the god’s talking. 我覺得那好像上帝的箴言 I went back and forth from like a ping pong table with groom ones. 我就像在球桌上的乒乓球一樣,不安地來回走動 Back from. Oh my god! I’m not enough. I’m not enough. To I can do this. I can totally do…oh! Who do you think you are 天啊!我還不夠,還不夠,我一定可以做到,一定可以達成,你覺得你是誰啊? That’s the other groom one. That’s how it works. Like look at you too big for your britches. 另外一位新郎,是這樣達成的,看看你,根本穿不下馬褲 I clearly have texts for this groom ones. And now everyone says too big for the britches. 我清楚地寫下全文給這個新郎看,而現在,所有人都說馬褲太緊了 But that’s my groom one says. So shame always has a seat. 但那句話是新郎先說的,所以到處都可以產生羞恥心 The other seat that’s always taken is scarcity. 而另一位是缺憾 What am I doing, that everyone, what am I doing it’s original. 我正在做的事有獨創性 Everyone else is doing this. 150 people are doing it who are better trained then I am. 其他人也在做這件事,150位經過訓練,比我優秀的人都在做這件事 What am I contributing? Did this really matter. 我貢獻了什麼?這真的那麼重要嗎? The third seat always comparison. 第三位是比較心理 How many of you have ever struggle with comparison? Oh my god! Comparison is a nightmare. 有多少人曾和比較心理奮鬥過?我的天啊!比較心理真是個噩夢 I made a pact not to talk to anyone in the green room cause that’s what I was afraid. 我發誓不會要任何人進入演員休息室,因為我也害怕進入那裡 And that I would end up doing. 我也會禁止那樣的行為 So what are you talking about? That’s interesting cause I’m going first. 所以你們在說什麼呢?那很有趣,因為我要當第一個進入演員休息室的人 And so if it sounds super good and I think I suck comparatively, I may say that. 而且如果聽起來很酷的話,老實說,我的比較心態一定會很嚴重 And I’m catching a flight to Dallas. 我正在去達拉斯的途中 Comparison is always there. 比較心理總是會發生 The fourth seat I left open for you. 而第四件事我開放給你們自由發揮 You got it in the fourth seat. Is it a teacher, is the the parents, is it a shitty coworker? 你發現這是在第四位,是老師、家長,還是討厭的同事? Maybe one of you had one of those. 說不定有人就有其中一項 The thing is I don’t care what people think. I don’t worry about the critics in the arena. 我不在意別人的想法,我不擔心在競技場內的評論 Since a huge red flag up for me. we’re hard-wired for connection when we stop caring what people think 因為一面大紅旗迎向我,不關心人們的想法,我們就像電腦的硬接線一樣 We lose our capacity for connection. We would become defined by what people think. 我們不再互相聯繫,我們可能變成別人定義的那個樣子 We lose our capacity to be vulnerable. 我們不再有弱點 Not caring what people think is its own kind of hostile. Trust me. 相信我,不關心其他人的想法是非常不友善的行為 So rather than locking these spokes out in the arena, what I’m gonna invite you to do. 所以我寧可你們把評論鎖在競技場裡 This way maybe. 我這種方式 Is reserved seats for them. Which doesn’t seem like a good thing to do. 是為他們自己預約位置,聽起來好像不是件好事 But I’ve 13,000 pieces of data and I’ve been in this work for 12 years. 但我已經有1萬3千份資料,我已經從事這項工作12年 And what I’ve found, what I‘ve learned from these folks and try to apply it in my own life that has changed my life. 而我從這些人身上學習,並運用在我身上的事情已經改變我了 Is to reserve a seat to take the critics to watch and simply say what I’m trying to do something new. 而這件事就是預約座位、聽取評論,並告訴大家我正在嘗試的新事物 And hard and original. I’m trying to be creative and I’m trying to innovate to say I see you. 最有獨創性卻也最困難,我試著要更有創意,我也嘗試用創新的方式告訴你我看到你了 I hear you. But I’m gonna show up and do this anyway. 我聽到你了,我至少會露出真面目 And I’ve got a seat for you and you’re welcome to come. But I’m not interested in your feedback. 我已經為你找到位置,而且非常歡迎你到來,但我仍然對你的回應不感興趣 The other piece is tough is to me, if you’re going to spend your life in the arena. 另一件事對我來說非常困難,如果你會在競技場花上畢生時間 If you’re gonna spend your life showing up, really showing up. 如果你會花畢生時間露出真面目 There’s a couple things that you need. The first is the clarity of values. 你需要幾件事情,第一,清晰的價值觀 You have it. Like I know…when I came out here I knew I could screw this completely up. 你一定有,像我,我一進來這裡,我就知道我一定會把所有事情搞砸 I can get boo off stage. Bad things could happen but I don’t have a choice. 我會在台上聽到觀眾的噓聲,壞事一定會發生,但我沒有選擇 Because courage is my value. I have to do this. Whether it’s successful or not is irrelevant. 因為勇氣是我的價值,不論成不成功,恰不恰當,我一定要這樣做 So a real clarity of values is important. The other thing is you gotta have at least one person in your life 所以有清晰的價值觀很重要,另外一件事是至少有一個人 Who’s willing to pick you up and dust you off and look at you when you fail which hopefully you will. 願意扶持你,為你除去塵土,並在你失敗時,幫助你 Cause if you’re not failing, you’re not really showing up. 因為如果你沒有失敗,你不會露出真面目 But who’s willing to look at you when you fail and say…man! That sucked! 但你失敗時,誰願意幫助你並對你說你真是糟透了! Yeah! It was totally as bad as you thought. But you’re brave. 你一定覺得這真是糟透了,但你很勇敢 And let’s get you cleaned up and because you’re gonna go back in. 把身上的塵土拍乾淨吧!因為你就要捲土重來了 And this is someone who loves you not despite your imperfection and vulnerability because of them. 這個人很愛你,因為他不討厭你的黨派和弱點 And they should have great seats in arena. Like I forgot for decade. I forgot to invite these people into my arena. 而且他們應該也要在競技場中擁有席次,像我就忘記為十年留座位,我忘記邀請這些朋友進入我的競技場 Because you know…it’s hold up I was going to say Carl Marx but it’s Groucho Marx. Difference. 因為我要說Carl Marx,但卻是Groucho Marx,差異 I’m a social worker. Weary a lot more Carl than Groucho. 我從事社會福利工作,處理Carl比Groucho更疲累 I don’t wanna belong to a club that won’t let me in. 我不想要加入一個不歡迎我的社團 I forgot to invite people cause I thought if you’re my fan, if you’re here supporting me how important could you be? 我忘記邀請大家因為我覺得如果你是我的粉絲,如果你在這裡支持我,你對我來說會有多重要呢? Like I’m trying to win over the people who hate me. 就像我在嘗試說服那些討厭我的人 You simply love me. you simply hold my hair up when I’m puking. 你喜歡我,就會在我嘔吐時,幫我拉著頭髮,以免弄髒頭髮 You pay bills with me and raise kids with me. how important could you be? 你我都在為孩子繳學費,你覺得你有多重要? I’m looking for the stranger in the mall. That’s whom I’m trying to win over. 我在購物中心裡尋找陌生人,而那些人就是我想要說服的人 Yes or no? okay. 對還是錯呢?好 The last part is so I guess the real specific how to are this. 最後一部分是我認為最特別的部分 The world keeps going whether you know it or not. 不論你知不知道,世界仍繼續運行 The critics are in the arena whether you identify them and think of the message that keep us small. 不論你怎麼看待他人的評論,他都還是在競技場裡 They’re there whether you do that or not. 不論你做不做,他們都還是在那裡 What I have found in my life and what I’ve found in my research which fueled what I did in my life. 我的人生和研究中發現的事情都為自己的作為帶來刺激 Is that the people who have the most courage, who are willing to show and to be the most vulnerable are the ones who very clear about who the critics are. 那些最有勇氣、最願意展露本性和弱點的人最了解評論 The ones who reserve seats for them and said I hear you, I get it. I know where messaging is coming from. 那些會為自己預約位置,且說我知道訊息從哪裡來的人 I’m not buying it anymore. So to get very clear. 我不再花大錢了,所以快搞懂它 The last thing which I think is the hardest is this. 我覺得最困難的事情就是最後這件事 One of these seats needs to be reserved for you. One of these seats needs to be reserved for me. 其中一個位置必須為你自己預約,其中一個位置必須為我預約 I need when we look up. And we’re putting an idea, our piece of art, our design forward. 我需要坐在那個位置上觀察,而且我們要把想法、藝術品和設計放進去 Who do you think is the biggest critic in the arena normally is? yourself. 你認為誰是競技場中最大的評論家?就是你自己 And so definitely me. like I have never watched either of those TED talks. 我也一定是,我沒看過TED其他演講 Cause it’s not in service of the work for me, and I try to do things are only in service at my work. 因為那不是我服務的範圍,而且我嘗試管好自己的工作範圍就好 Because what would it serve me to watch it? I was sitting there and go oh my god! It’s stuck in your stomach. Oh my god! 我會想看什麼呢?我坐在那裡會發現它陷在我的胃裡,我的天啊! That not what you’re gonna say. You know. 那絕對不是你要講的事 We are so self-critical. And one of the things that I think happens and I think this happens a lot. 我們都嚴以律己,其中我認為會發生,且很發生的事 It happens in different professions. I think I see it a lot with creative is there is an ideal of what you’re supposed to be. 發生在不同職業上,我認為我它常發生是因為我們常要求自己應該要成為什麼樣子 And what a lot of us end up doing is we orphaned the parts of ourselves that do fit that ideal I suppose to be. 而大多數人最後都無力達成原本對自己的要求 And what it would leaves when we orphaned all those parts of us. It’s just leaves the critics. 我們無力達成要求時,它就會離開我們,它就會帶我們離開評論 And so reserving the seat is this. 所以這就是預約位置 Where we came from. How we started. 我們從哪裡開始,就在哪裡結束 Our families. That’s me the oldest of course. 我們的家人,那是我最開始的課題 The lost years. the years where I was so lost and confused and hurt and disillusioned. 迷失的那幾年,那幾年我迷失了自我、我對自己很困惑,甚至傷害自己並幻想破滅 That I thought the only pack of freedom was a flock cosido haircut. 我認為唯一的自由就是科西多髮型 The higher the hair the closer to God. We say in Texas. 在德州,這是最接近上帝的髮型 The people who love us, the moment that make us who we are. 那些愛我們的人,讓我們成為自己 And in that share should be this person. 而最後應該要和這個人分享 The person who believes in what we’re doing and why we’re doing it. 那些人相信我們的作為,也知道為什麼我們要這樣做 And the person who says yea!it’s so scary to show up. It feels dangerous to be seen. 而說展露本性是瘋狂事的那些人被其他人看到是很危險的 It’s terrifying. But it is not a scary dangerous or terrifying is getting to the end of our lives and thinking what if I would have shown up. 太可怕了,但人生結束時,想著如果我會露出本性時,並不是那麼可怕且危險 What would it been different. 那會非常特別 So here’s sweaty creative. Thank you for having me today. Thank you. 以上就是今天的sweaty creative,感謝大家
A2 初級 中文 美國腔 評論 弱點 預約 演講 人生 研究 不必在意別人眼光!Brené Brown: Why Your Critics Aren't The Ones Who Count 5704 396 Go Tutor 發佈於 2014 年 12 月 21 日 更多分享 分享 收藏 回報 影片單字