Name: 謝謝你給我空間...... 我要告訴你一些事...... (thanks for giving me space | something I need to tell you…)
Uploaded: 2025-07-19T20:09:54.000Z
Duration: 25 min 17 s

現在進行式

This video is one that is extremely different from any other video that I've ever put out on this channel.

這段視頻與我在這個頻道上發佈的其他視頻極為不同。

未來簡單式

I honestly don't even know where it's gonna go.

老實說，我甚至不知道它將走向何方。

I knew at some point I would put out this video I just didn't know that it would be now and I'm gonna hope and pray that it goes well.

我知道總有一天我會推出這段視頻，只是沒想到會是現在，我希望並祈禱一切順利。

If you've been following me for the last little while you know that I've been off and on YouTube over the last two years.

如果你在過去的一段時間裡一直關注我，你就會知道在過去的兩年裡，我一直斷斷續續地在 YouTube 上發表文章。

Not because of COVID but actually because I've become a mom.

不是因為 COVID，而是因為我當了媽媽。

I had one in 2020 and I got pregnant and had one in 2021.

我在 2020 年生了一個，在 2021 年懷孕並生了一個。

So I had two pregnancies and two births back to back and I can tell you right now that has shifted everything for me.

是以，我先後兩次懷孕和分娩，我現在可以告訴你，這改變了我的一切。

這與我之前的狀態相比，簡直是天壤之別。

So I am a different person because of those experiences of giving birth and now becoming a mom.

是以，有了分娩和現在成為母親的這些經歷，我成了一個與眾不同的人。

I'm also at a point in my life where I feel that I am ready to show up on this channel and in front of you more as my authentic self.

我也到了人生的一個階段，我覺得我已經準備好在這個頻道和你們面前展現更真實的自我。

My mission, my intention, my purpose, whatever you want to call it moving forward is to be more of who I truly am and as a result I hope to be able to inspire you to become more of who you are authentically as well.

我的使命、我的意圖、我的目的，無論你怎麼稱呼它，都是為了讓我成為更真實的自己，是以，我希望能夠激勵你們也成為更真實的自己。

Because when you can show up and be authentic you are then going to feel more at ease with yourself.

因為當你能夠展現出真實的一面時，你就會對自己感到更加放心。

You are going to feel more confident in how you speak, how you show up, things that you do and I'm not just talking about careers okay.

你會對自己的言談舉止、表現方式和所做的事情更有信心，我說的不僅僅是事業。

I know that up until now I've been very one-dimensional.

我知道，到目前為止，我一直都很單一。

I've been very just Linda Rayner, career strategist helping you to land job offers, helping you to interview, helping you to write resumes and that's all been fantastic.

琳達-雷納（Linda Rayner）是一位職業戰略家，她幫助你找到工作，幫助你面試，幫助你寫履歷，這些都非常棒。

I'm so happy that it has helped so many people all around the world in moving forward in their careers and shifting themselves in their lives.

我很高興它能幫助全世界這麼多人在事業上取得進步，在生活中改變自己。

But I am now at a point in my life where I feel that I have more to offer.

但是，我現在正處於人生的一個階段，我覺得我可以提供更多。

I've shifted not just on the outside but from the inside as well.

我不僅在外表上發生了變化，內心也發生了變化。

I'm at a point where I want to be able to connect with you in a different way.

我現在希望能以另一種方式與你們溝通。

Repeating the words of a mentor of mine, there is power in your story and that's what I'm gonna share with you today.

重複我的一位導師的話，你的故事裡蘊含著力量，這就是我今天要和你們分享的。

There's another thing that I forgot to mention.

I have very unique gifts, abilities and talents.

我有非常獨特的天賦、能力和才能。

I mean if you call it a talent but it's sensitivities that I've never really openly shared in public.

我的意思是，如果你說這是一種天賦，但這是我從未在公開場合真正分享過的敏感性。

I mean my friends and my family know that I'm highly sensitive.

我的朋友和家人都知道我非常敏感。

There's a side to me that I am gonna talk about as we go through this and I share with you my story that I feel that if I am more open and share that with you that it is going to be healing for the both of us.

我覺得，如果我更開放地與你分享我的故事，對我們雙方都有療效。

It's gonna be healing for me because I'm gonna be able to show up more as me as my authentic self and then it's gonna be hopefully inspiring for you to show up as who you truly are and for you to share your gifts, your abilities, your talents with the world.

這對我來說是一種療愈，因為我將能以更真實的自我示人，希望這也能激勵你們以真實的自我示人，並與世界分享你們的天賦、能力和才能。

So please join me as we move through this new journey together.

所以，請和我一起，共同走過這段新的旅程。

I haven't even gotten to the story yet but hopefully you'll get something out of this.

我還沒講到故事呢，但希望你能從中有所收穫。

I was born and raised in Toronto, Canada.

My mom and dad were refugees originally coming from Vietnam.

我的父母最初是從越南來的難民。

They went to Thailand and they ended up in refugee camps there and my dad came to Canada first and my mom came after.

他們去了泰國，最後住進了那裡的難民營，我爸爸先來到加拿大，我媽媽隨後也來到了加拿大。

實際上，她對我的生意很有幫助。

Some of you may have talked to her before.

你們中的一些人可能曾經和她交談過。

Her voice actually sounds very similar to mine.

實際上，她的聲音聽起來和我的非常相似。

A lot of people think that it's me when they're talking to her.

很多人跟她說話時都以為是我。

So up until the age of seven or eight I grew up I would say in a very average lower middle class family.

七八歲之前，我在一個普通的中下層家庭長大。

My parents and I lived in a small little semi-detached bungalow in Toronto, the four of us, up until the age of seven.

七歲之前，我和父母一直住在多倫多的一棟半獨立式小平房裡。

When I was seven a big shift happened in my family whereby my parents had successfully been able to were able to sponsor my seven aunts and uncles and my grandfather to come to Canada all the way from Vietnam.

在我七歲那年，我的家庭發生了一次重大轉變，我的父母成功地資助我的七個姑姑、姑父和祖父從越南遠道而來加拿大。

They were gonna live and move in with us into our tiny little semi-detached bungalow.

他們要和我們住在一起，搬進我們的半獨立式小平房。

And at that point in my life I had never been exposed to really my motherland, people from my motherland, which is Vietnam, that culture, that Asian culture.

在我人生的那個階段，我從未真正接觸過我的祖國，我祖國的人民，也就是越南，那種文化，那種亞洲文化。

I mean I had my parents that exposed me to it but people that came directly from that country and we're starting a new life in this country.

我的意思是，我的父母讓我接觸到了它，但人們直接來自那個國家，我們在這個國家開始了新的生活。

I also didn't know about the differences in how adults treated children.

我也不知道大人對待孩子的方式有什麼不同。

This is really, you know, this is very personal what I'm sharing with you but I think it's necessary because it it gains insight into how I saw the world at that time.

這真的是，你知道，這是我非常個人化的分享，但我認為這很有必要，因為它能讓我深入瞭解我當時是如何看待這個世界的。

I find that in Asian countries in general adults very much place a hierarchy on everybody in terms of, you know, if I'm an adult and you're a child I am more powerful than you, I'm smarter than you, I'm better than you, and as a result because you're a child and you don't know as much you are not valued as much and you know your opinion is not worth anything.

我發現，在亞洲國家，一般來說，成年人對每個人都有一個等級制度，你知道，如果我是一個成年人，而你是一個孩子，我就比你更強大，我比你更聰明，我比你更好，是以，因為你是一個孩子，你不知道那麼多，你就不被重視，你知道你的意見不值一提。

If anything don't even try to give an opinion because that would be seen as rude.

如果有的話，甚至不要試圖發表意見，因為那會被視為無禮。

Children just aren't as valued in my opinion.

在我看來，孩子們並不那麼受重視。

Okay maybe things have shifted now that society has changed but back then at least that's how a lot of adults saw the world because that's how they were raised.

好吧，也許現在社會已經發生了變化，但在當時，至少很多成年人都是這樣看待這個世界的，因為他們就是這樣長大的。

My parents were raised that way, my aunts and uncles were raised that way, it was very much hierarchical, very militant like and as a result I was exposed to that type of treatment where I started to feel that I wasn't very smart.

我的父母是這樣長大的，我的叔叔阿姨也是這樣長大的，等級森嚴，非常激進，是以我受到了這種待遇，我開始覺得自己不是很聰明。

I started to feel not confident in who I was, I didn't feel very valuable and worthy.

我開始對自己的身份不自信，覺得自己沒有什麼價值和價值。

Okay not gonna cry but that's how I grew up okay and I think a lot of people can relate to this when you are born to parents who have these expectations, excuse me, but it's not just expectations to be honest with you it's not expectations it's actually insecurities within themselves.

好吧，我不會哭，但我就是這樣長大的，我想很多人都能體會到這一點，當你出生在父母有這些期望的家庭時，不好意思，但這不僅僅是期望，老實說，這不是期望，實際上是他們內心的不安全感。

They grew up feeling insecure within themselves and as a result of that indirectly or directly they're passing on that energy to you as a child and you know what it still happens to this day regardless of if your parents were born and raised in another country it doesn't even matter where they were born and raised if they grew up feeling not worthy not valuable they likely unconsciously will then pass that on to you in terms of making you feel the way that way about yourself if they don't recognize that that's how they're operating.

他們在成長過程中對自己缺乏安全感，是以間接或直接地將這種能量傳遞給了孩童時期的你，你知道嗎，這種情況至今仍在發生，不管你的父母是否在另一個國家出生和長大，甚至不管他們在哪裡出生和長大，如果他們在成長過程中覺得自己不值得、不值得珍惜，那麼他們很可能會不自覺地將這種感覺傳遞給你，讓你對自己產生這種感覺，如果他們沒有意識到這就是他們的運作方式的話。

Okay so that was how my childhood was I just grew up feeling not very smart not very valued not valued not worthy and that led me to then growing up eventually moving forward to high school where I was super overachiever.

好吧，這就是我的童年，我從小就覺得自己不是很聰明，不被重視，不被看重，沒有價值，這導致我長大後最終進入了高中，在那裡我是個超常發揮的人。

I loved school by the way growing up elementary school I was always I guess the teacher's pet because I just loved learning and I loved interacting with the teachers I loved sharing with my class I loved reading to my class I loved showing up and doing show-and-tell I loved going up to the chalkboard and writing out words and spelling words when we had spelling tests like I just loved everything about and learning and when I went home though it was the teachers saw me a certain way when I went to school but when I went home the adults saw me a different way so there I was living in these two worlds and that's why I think I was so drawn to school and I loved school and then that kind of carried forward in into high school where I realized hey if I just keep doing well in school that the way that my teachers have always seen me the students in my classes have always seen me maybe that's gonna shift in terms of how my the adults and the family members in my family are gonna see me they're gonna see that I'm worthy that I'm valuable that I'm good too that I'm smart and so I strived really hard in high school I was on all the extracurricular activities I was on student council I got the best sets of grades I mean I was very high strung high anxiety always wanting to prove my worth my value and you know it worked when I graduated I won a ton of awards okay in grade 12 I got a ton of awards I was the valedictorian I had a full speech prepared that I delivered at my graduation everything that I did in high school led to that moment where I could show to my parents look at me I'm worthy I'm valuable I'm smart I want you to be proud and that carried forward into university where I went into university feeling like okay I just gotta study hard also get good grades and then I'll end up with a really good steady stable prestigious business job of some sort and some of you know this part of the story where I ended up falling into the world of accounting because how did I do that well there was a workshop at school where we had to select sort of the career path that we wanted to head on because then that would determine the courses that we would take and so they showed different charts they showed like this bar chart and it was all based on salary income and they showed you know what HR and marketing would make salary wise then they showed what finance would make they also showed then what accountants would make I mean for some reason in the business program that I was in that's all they showed for everything was valued based on how could how much could I make how am I gonna be seen by others how are people going to value me I mean that started long before I even entered university I already knew that it was gonna be based on money how people were gonna see me as an adult so I started taking those accounting courses I started working at a major accounting firm I actually even back then I knew how to interview I it was just a natural skill that I was able to do I nailed all those interviews with the big four accounting firms I got every single job offer and I was able to pick and choose which firm I wanted to work for and so I did I worked for Princeton Young EY I graduated university starting work as a full-time employee at EY at this big for accounting firm I thought okay well I think I've made it but there was deep unhappiness and discontentment inside of me in those years as an auditor where you would go to different clients and you would sit in their rooms that they designate for the auditors where you would work till 12 1 2 3 a.m. in the evening I was very unhappy and that was the start of my early adulthood where I really started to question what have I been striving for this is not what I want and then at the same time I also felt like a huge failure I felt all those feelings again that I felt as a little kid that I wasn't smart enough I wasn't valuable I wasn't worthy I was depressed I would almost say like I was so insecure and that was when I thought okay I don't want to do this anymore I told my parents I sat them down I had enough guts within me to just say listen you've seen how unhappy I've been in the last few years I'm no longer wanting to do this path anymore I am now ready to shift and I want to do work that is more fulfilling for me because I felt like it had to be based on career for me to feel valuable and I think a lot of people are probably going through that right now maybe that's where you're at where you're thinking okay if I just find a better job that's more interesting to me more in line with what I'm good at then I'm gonna feel better and you know what part of that is true and so if that's what you're feeling absolutely go for it that's what I needed at that time but didn't realize there was more that I need to discover which I'll explain so I switched career paths I then became a headhunter a recruiter I discovered I was really good at talking to people finding good people helping people with their resumes with their with their interviews helping them to sell themselves that they could get those job offers because I could see abilities and talents and potential in and I was able to then match that to opportunities that I knew would be good for them and I helped many people find jobs and that was great I was felt very proud of myself I started to see myself a little bit differently I started to open myself more to feeling that maybe you know I actually am worthy of something but of course it still was limited because I still based my self-worth off of how much I was making my salary and I think everyone to an extent does this if you make a lot of money you feel a little bit better about yourself when you compare yourself to other people because you feel more valuable you feel more worthy but it's all fake feeling it's not genuine self-worth so three and a half years of doing that I've been there done that I've reached I've hit all these records I've placed hundreds of people and what else do I want to do do I want to keep doing this forever no I was ready to evolve I've reached I have reached a point in my personal development where I wanted to do something more because I was seeing a lot of people who were not doing well in interviews not getting job offers and as a result of that they were just left to the wayside and so I wanted to be able to support those people and to be honest those were the majority of people you know as much as I was able to place people in job jobs there were hundreds of other people that I just like ignored because they couldn't answer an interview question properly because they didn't prepare their resume the right way so I knew that there was an opportunity to help those people and that was when I then went through a huge shift in my life as an adult where I started sharing what I knew on YouTube and sharing all the strategies and advice and lessons that I learned as a recruiter and just from myself and putting that out there on the internet and that's how I got to where I am today so that's been great but like I said very early on in this video in the last two years things have shifted for me in the sense that I've become a mother and being becoming a working mom changes your perspective on who you are and what you want to offer the world so much for some women it doesn't happen that way but for me it has happened where now I look at my children and I go I want to be here for my children I want to be present for them but in order for me to be present and fulfilled and inspiring towards them and showing them what that means as they grow up I need to feel fulfilled and inspired within myself and I started to question and ask myself well who am I now when I do go back to YouTube which I guess is starting now do I want to continue on the path of being that one-dimensional Linda Rayner career strategist or am I ready now to share more of who I truly am the lessons that I've learned from my personal life that have then led to the professional life that I've created the experiences that I've gained and also just somehow the innate knowledge and wisdom that is within me that is bursting at the seams that wants to be shared that wants to be openly expressed I asked myself that question and I said you know what I'm ready to do this because why I am sensing when I try to read the energy of what's going on within this world and with the people that watch this channel there is a lot of uncertainty that people are experiencing right now within themselves and certainty meaning you just don't know where you're going you just don't know what direction you want to head and you have an idea you have an inkling that where you're at in your life is not necessarily where you want to be forever and you're looking towards something to grow into to evolve into you want to grow and evolve and and shift but something's holding you back you want to feel more fulfilled you want to feel more inspired but again something's holding you back and when I say something's holding you back it has everything to do with what I've discovered to be emotional blockages within me so much of how I was raised growing up and that I've had to heal over the years was the idea of not feeling worthy not feeling good enough not feeling smart enough not feeling confident within myself not feeling secure and not feeling at ease in my own body using my voice just not none of that I've had to push through that in order to just even show up on YouTube but now that I've gone through this healing over these last seven years I've gone through a lot of inner self work I've reached out to healers and therapists and counselors and coaches and and all those types of individuals mentors and just been able to hone in within myself a greater understanding of who I am and I've been able to release and process those emotional blockages that have stopped me up until this point of really speaking my voice so now that we're here to present day one thing that I really want to talk about is the idea that if you feel that you're not good enough if you feel that you're not worthy if there's this feeling within you that's just like this unsettled deep unhappiness when you wake up in the morning there's just some sort of discontent and you walk around feeling disgruntled and you and you just don't know why you can't shake this feeling you just accept that maybe this is just how life is and you feel gloomy inside even though you have a good job or in your daily life on the outside you may appear to people that you are fine and that you're happy with your life but really inside you're not it's time to be honest with yourself it's time to ask yourself how do I really feel about myself who am I really because the moment that you decide to open yourself up to who you truly are and you're starting to be more curious about what's going on within you that's holding you back from pursuing the life of your dreams from going after that fully inspired fulfilled life the moment that you can start to turn inwards and stop looking for outward validation outward praise or that next job or that next house or that next car as soon as you can start to turn inward everything will shift for you you will be able to tap into and understand who you truly are now this is the part where I just realized I also didn't include in my story over the last seven years I got married to my husband in 2015 we moved into a house outside of Toronto and in that house a lot of stuff happened only my friends and family know this and they still think I'm crazy when I share those stories with them or repeat those stories to them I can just tell you that a lot of stuff happened in that house where there was a lot of activity okay so weird I know this is like taking a completely different turn isn't it I was sensing that there were spirits hanging around me in the house they were coming and going in the house and then physical things were happening okay I'm getting chills as I mentioned this really freaky okay things were happening in that house and I never had even tuned in really too much to this other sensitivity that I had and the sensitivity that I had that my husband did not have was the of feeling other energies that's just one side okay I was feeling other energies things would happen in the house that made me realize okay I have some sort of weird ability and it was confirmed because I actually got external individuals who were very sensitive okay this is really strange but as I was just talking about me being able to sense things and sense energies in my old house because I've since moved my camera just first of all I got chills I got these chills in my body like I physically felt them and then my camera stopped recording and I had no clue it just silently stopped recording usually when it stops recording there's a sound off of my camera this time no sound no nothing I don't know what that means I don't know if it means anything at all I'm maybe making too much of it but let me just say that why I wanted to share that little piece with you is because that was a time in my life where once I started to realize I was sensing things that were not in my control and not things that I was making up because I'm the one that's experiencing this more and sensing this more and my husband wasn't I realized I have sensitivities within me in general and then I started to work on that and tune in on that because it started to really showcase itself to me anytime that I was helping someone a coaching client for example or if I was talking to just even friends or people that I knew and we would get into deep conversations I had and continue to have this sensitivity where I'm able to tap into someone's emotions emotional blockages I'm able to understand where they're at mentally emotionally even spiritually I can sense what's going on with someone and then I'm able to reflect that back to them share that with them and then potentially depending on the situation give them strategies advice tips or whatever to shift out of that to move forward because I find that there is power in understanding you if you can understand why you feel the way you feel if you're feeling like I said disgruntled unhappy uncertain about yourself if you can understand where that's coming from coming from why that's happening and sometimes it takes somebody who you don't know at all to sort of reflect that back to you if you can get that that's so powerful I mean that's essentially what therapy is hopefully moving forward on this channel I can share with you what I've learned what I've gained insights on that I've gone through that and also people that I know have gone through or are going through I can share that with you and hopefully give you a different perspective shift the way that you see it and the way you see yourself and then allow that emotional blockage to release so that you can move forward in your life and become more of who you truly are and be able to tap into your inner wisdom as well I think we all have intuition I know I have intuition I think we all have it to some degree but we are blocked from it if we tell ourselves that it doesn't exist or that we don't have it we block ourselves off from it we can all feel energy we can all sense we just don't necessarily know how to harness it and use it and this is what I want to be able to openly talk about with you because there's you know there's always this fear in the past that I would be this woo-woo girl that you know talking about spiritual stuff and it's not all spiritual that I'm talking about I like to keep things practical as you know I like to keep things grounded and so there's a mix of all of that in what I want to move forward and share with you so as we're getting to the towards the end of this video what I want to say here is this if you are at a point in your life where you are feeling stuck feeling lost feeling uncertain within yourself you are wanting to move into more of who you truly are you want to become more authentic you want to find and pursue your purpose your mission whatever you want to call it you want to live your life more intentionally you want to show up more authentically more as your honest self then you're at the right place because I want to join that journey with you I am looking forward to being here to support guide you and then for you then to also hopefully support and guide me in this process as we can move forward and fulfill our dreams and pursue the lives that we are meant to here I am really looking forward to what this is going to unfold into I'm not gonna set huge expectations on myself or for all of this I can only really do what I'm able to at every moment I'm just going to keep it to what my current abilities are right now and that is to just share share what I know share what I've learned and I will continue to do that so this is just the beginning I hope you'll join with join me on this path things are evolving things are changing and let's do that together why not thank you so much for watching I will talk to you soon

我喜歡上學，順便說一下，在我小學的成長過程中，我一直是老師的寵兒，因為我喜歡學習，喜歡與老師互動，喜歡與同學們分享，喜歡給同學們朗讀，喜歡出現在同學們面前做表演和講述。我喜歡走到黑板前寫單詞，在拼寫測試時拼寫單詞，我喜歡關於學習的一切，而當我回家時，老師們會以某種方式看待我，但當我回家時，大人們會以另一種方式看待我。所以我覺得我被學校吸引了，我喜歡學校，然後這種感覺一直延續到高中，我意識到，如果我在學校一直表現得很好，我的老師一直是這樣看我的，我班上的同學一直是這樣看我的，也許這就會改變我的大人和我家裡的