Name: 9 種讓你在群體中更自在的方法 (9 Ways to Feel More Comfortable in Groups)
Uploaded: 2025-06-18T18:23:29.000Z
Duration: 13 min 24 s

I hate being in a group, I hate having to hang out in a group.

我討厭在人群中，我討厭在人群中閒逛。

Anything to do with groups, I'm like done, hate it, get me out of here.

任何與團體有關的事情，我都想做，討厭它，讓我離開這裡。

Maybe I'm socially awkward, I don't know, but this is actually a lesson for me and you, okay?

也許我不善於社交，我不知道 但這其實是給你我上的一課，好嗎？

And the backstory of this is I recently joined the gardening community, and it was the first time the group was meeting.

這件事的背景是，我最近加入了園藝社區，那是該小組第一次聚會。

So I was on my bike, I get off my bike, and I see all these people, I'm like, humans, what do I say?

我騎著自行車，從車上下來，看到這些人，我就想，人類，我該說些什麼呢？

And the person who's the leader of the group says, hey, what's your name?

領隊的人說，嘿，你叫什麼名字？

So I remember what my friend told me, and she's not shy like I am.

所以我想起了我朋友告訴我的話，她不像我那麼害羞。

She says, Ronnie, when you go in a group, first thing you do, introduce yourself to everyone.

她說，羅尼，當你參加一個團體時，你要做的第一件事就是向大家介紹自己。

So first person I see sitting down, hey, I'm Ronnie, nice to meet you.

所以，我看到的第一個人坐下，嘿，我是羅尼，很高興見到你。

Okay, next person, hey, I'm Ronnie, nice to meet you.

好了，下一位，嘿，我是羅尼，很高興認識你。

Oh, hey, my name's Emily, oh, okay, this person talks, good.

哦，嘿，我叫艾米麗，哦，好的，這個人會說話，很好。

Next, I'm like, I'm not going to remember anyone's names, but hold on.

接下來，我想，我記不住任何人的名字了，但是等一下。

I went to every single person in that group, I think there were seven people, could be six, I don't know, don't remember.

我去找了小組裡的每一個人，我想有七個人，也可能是六個，我不知道，不記得了。

Because when you're in a situation where there's a whole group of people that don't know each other, everyone feels uncomfortable.

因為當你面對一群互不相識的人時，每個人都會感到不自在。

Because a simple thing like of knowing the person's name, it makes you go, oh, okay, I know that person's name now.

因為一件簡單的事情，比如知道一個人的名字，就會讓你覺得，哦，好吧，我現在知道那個人的名字了。

If you make the effort to introduce yourself, then the people feel more comfortable with you.

如果你努力介紹自己，那麼人們就會覺得和你在一起更舒服。

They know your name, and this is the best technique, you can suss people out.

他們知道你的名字，這就是最好的技巧，你可以把別人摸得一清二楚。

To suss people out or sniff them out, you can kind of determine if the people, you see what people you like or dislike.

要想把人看出來或嗅出來，你可以判斷一下這些人，看看你喜歡或不喜歡什麼樣的人。

所以，我給我遇到的每個人一個機會。

I'm like, cool, everyone's weird, everyone's awesome.

我想，酷，每個人都很奇怪，每個人都很棒。

But some people, when I introduce myself to them, they're like, oh, this person's boring.

但有些人，當我向他們介紹自己時，他們會說，哦，這個人真無聊。

So, I can determine what people I think are cool, what people I want to hang with in the group.

是以，我可以確定哪些人我覺得很酷，哪些人我想和他們一起玩。

So, you know, this person thinks this person's cool, I don't, that's fine.

所以，你知道，這個人覺得這個人很酷，我不覺得，沒關係。

And you don't have to think everyone's boring.

你也不必覺得每個人都很無聊。

So, I do this, and I'm like, okay, this is a group, but I notice that nobody else does this.

所以，我這樣做，我想，好吧，這是一個小組，但我注意到沒有其他人這樣做。

More people come and join the group, I rock up, hey, I'm Ronnie, nice to meet you, blah, blah, blah.

更多的人來加入這個小組，我就搖身一變，嘿，我是羅尼，很高興認識你，等等等等。

So, don't give me the excuse like, I'm shy.

所以，別給我找藉口說我害羞。

It's like, me too, but make the effort, especially if English, if you're in a group of people that English is not your first language, okay?

我也一樣，但要努力，特別是如果英語不是你的母語，如果你和一群人在一起，英語不是你的母語，好嗎？

So, I already told you to introduce yourself.

所以，我已經讓你自我介紹了。

Now, what you're going to do, and what I should have done is I should have been like, hey, Julie, have you met Trevor?

現在，你要做的，我應該做的是 我應該說，嘿，朱莉，你見過特雷弗嗎？

And by introducing people, you know, okay, so Julie, here's Kevin, blah, blah, people are shy.

通過介紹別人，你知道，好吧，朱莉，這是凱文，等等等等，人們都很害羞。

They need you to be the connector because you've already come in the group and been like, hey, I'm Ronnie, blah, and people go, oh, okay, Ronnie knows people.

他們需要你成為連接者，因為你已經進入了這個團隊，就像 "嘿，我是羅尼 "那樣，人們就會說，哦，好吧，羅尼認識人。

They're like, oh, I really want to meet...

他們會說，哦，我真的很想見見......

所以，我就說，嘿，朱莉，過來。

So, you connect people together, and that helps them.

是以，你把人們聯繫在一起，就能幫助他們。

Now, you might think, well, Ronnie, like, what...

現在，你可能會想，好吧，羅尼，就像...

You're in a classroom, you've got a group of people, they're nervous, they're shy, they don't want to be there, they're excited, they're nervous, they have to pee.

你在教室裡，有一群人，他們緊張，他們害羞，他們不想去，他們興奮，他們緊張，他們要尿尿。

It's your job as a teacher to be the connector.

作為一名教師，你的職責就是成為連接者。

You have to get people comfortable in your classroom, and you've got to keep...

你必須讓人們在你的教室裡感到舒適，你必須保持...

Get people talking or shutting up, depending on what you're doing over there.

讓人們說話或閉嘴，取決於你在那邊做什麼。

So, once you've got the other people connected, you start maybe talking about something.

所以，一旦你把其他人聯繫起來，你就可以開始談論一些事情了。

So, let's say I break off and I'm like, oh yeah, hey.

所以，比方說，我分手了，我想，哦，是的，嘿嘿。

So, what I've done is I've taken one person out of the group, but I notice that there's people outside of the group that don't have anyone to talk to, and you have to include the other people.

所以，我的做法是，我把一個人從小組中剔除，但我注意到，小組外的人沒有人可以交談，你必須把其他人也包括進來。

比如，嘿，託尼，過來，夥計。

I want you to meet John, he likes the same bands as you.

我想讓你見見約翰，他和你喜歡同樣的樂隊。

If you're talking about movies, and you know this guy likes movies, and this girl likes movies, you can have a movie discussion.

如果你們在談論電影，你知道這個男生喜歡電影，這個女生喜歡電影，你們就可以討論電影。

Do your part to never let someone stand outside of the group, unless they've, you know, around...

儘自己的一份力量，永遠不要讓別人站在隊伍之外，除非他們，你知道，周圍...

I don't know, on a phone call or something, but make sure that everyone feels wanted in the group.

我不知道，打電話什麼的，但一定要讓每個人都覺得自己在小組裡是被需要的。

I live in a huge metropolitan city where we have millions of people.

我生活在一個擁有數百萬人口的大都市。