If you are out there in the restaurant eating alone, some people might look at you and be like, oh, that person probably doesn't have any friends.

如果你一個人在餐廳裡吃飯，有些人可能會看著你說：哦，這個人可能沒有朋友。

So he's just eating by himself and they're going to be patronizing you, kind of look down on you.

所以他只是一個人吃飯，他們會對你嗤之以鼻，有點瞧不起你。

A lot of people kind of have this idea that if you do things alone, it means you don't really have any friends.

很多人都有這樣的想法：如果你一個人做事，就意味著你沒有朋友。

So you look more lonely.

所以你看起來更孤獨。

You don't fit in the society.

你不適合這個社會

Because you don't have those people that can do those things with you, but that's not true, it's completely okay to be alone.

因為你沒有那些可以和你一起做這些事情的人，但事實並非如此，一個人也是完全可以的。

I've always liked doing things alone, but that doesn't make me a loser.

我一直喜歡一個人做事，但這並不意味著我是個失敗者。

Where I live right now is Soul in South Korea.

我現在住的地方是韓國的 Soul。

And this is a really big city, everywhere you go, you're going to see people and they'll be just walking around enjoying their own time.

這是一座真正的大城市，無論你走到哪裡，你都會看到人們走來走去，享受自己的時光。

And there will also be a lot of people walking by themselves and, you know, minding their own business.

也會有很多人獨自行走，你知道，他們在做自己的事情。

If you really want to go to this popular spot, you kind of want to go there with your friends or you feel like it won't be really enough if you just visit there alone and enjoy your own time.

如果你真的想去這個熱門景點，你會有點想和朋友一起去，或者你會覺得一個人去享受自己的時光真的不夠。

Maybe also because I'm introverted.

也許還因為我性格內向。

My social battery would just run out.

我的社交電池就這樣耗盡了。

So I've always kind of liked doing things alone.

所以，我一直都喜歡一個人做事。

But it's okay, it's not weird at all that you want to find things by yourself, kind of feel it yourself, travel by yourself.

但沒關係，你想自己去尋找，自己去感受，自己去旅行，這一點都不奇怪。

It's because it's therapeutic and it's healing.

這是因為它具有治療和癒合的作用。

You have your own schedule.

你有自己的日程安排。

And I think it's one of the best things to do.

我認為這是最好的事情之一。

Here's the truth.

事實就是這樣。

People don't really care.

人們其實並不關心。

People don't care if you're riding a bike.

人們不在乎你是否騎自行車。

They don't care if you're playing basketball by yourself.

他們才不管你是不是一個人在打籃球。

They don't care if you're hanging out in the Han River, have a blanket of yourself, sit there and kind of read a book, eat snacks.

他們才不管你是否在漢江邊閒逛，給自己蓋一條毯子，坐在那裡看看書，吃點零食。

What matters is what those activities really mean to you, does it bring you peace, does it bring you happiness, do you feel content in the places that you're going to?

重要的是這些活動對你的真正意義，它是否能給你帶來平靜，是否能給你帶來快樂，你是否在你要去的地方感到滿足？

That's what really matters, it doesn't really matter what other people think about you.

這才是最重要的，別人怎麼看你並不重要。

It doesn't really matter if a few individuals find you cringe.

如果有幾個人覺得你令人討厭，這其實並不重要。

At the end of the day, what are they going to do about it?

到頭來，他們又能做些什麼呢？

Their attention that's fixated on you and you as a person will not last like an hour, people that look at you while you're filming, they're not going to remember you forever.

他們對你和你這個人的關注不會持續一個小時，在你拍攝時看著你的人也不會永遠記住你。

They'll forget about me 10 seconds later they walk past me.

他們走過我身邊 10 秒鐘後就會忘記我。

You're not relying on anyone else, you're learning to kind of be more independent.

你不再依賴任何人，你學會了更加獨立。

Prioritize your own time.

優先考慮自己的時間。

Kind of grow this ability to be happy by yourself, the pattern that I notice about my friends sometimes is that when they get out of a relationship, they seek reassurance from other friends by drinking with them or hanging out with them.

我注意到我的朋友們有時會有一種模式，那就是當他們從一段感情中走出來時，他們會向其他朋友尋求安慰，比如和他們一起喝酒或出去玩。

Which is not really like a bad way to deal with it, but a lot of the times they rely on what other people say about the relationship.

這種處理方式其實並不壞，但很多時候他們會依賴別人對這段關係的評價。

Instead of taking that time, embracing the pain and the heartbreak that they're going through, they're very quick to make these hangouts that help them better forget about the pain that they're going through.

他們不會花時間去擁抱他們正在經歷的痛苦和心碎，而是很快就建立起這些聚會，幫助他們更好地忘記正在經歷的痛苦。

And although I completely understand how difficult it can be.

儘管我完全理解這有多麼困難。

Knowing how to be by yourself creates emotional resilience.

知道如何獨處，就能培養情緒復原力。

And that's very important.

這一點非常重要。

So it's okay, it's okay to do things alone.

所以沒關係，一個人做事也沒關係。

It's not a wrong thing to seek your own peace.

尋求自己的平靜並不是一件錯事。

You don't have to hang out with people all the time or go to these places with your friends.

你不必總是和別人混在一起，也不必和朋友一起去這些地方。

If you feel like it, try going there alone, you'll slowly get to learn more about yourself because you're spending more time and thinking.

如果你願意，可以試著一個人去，你會慢慢了解自己，因為你要花更多的時間和思考。

I'll see you guys next time.

下次再見

Yeah.

是啊

Peace.

和平。