When you're young, you're so quick to judge.

當你年輕的時候，你會很快做出判斷。

It takes guts to do that.

這樣做需要勇氣。

The world around you changes and you have to change.

周圍的世界在變，你也必須改變。

If death comes, I wouldn't be too upset.

如果死亡降臨，我也不會太難過。

I don't want to die.

我不想死

I feel like, what's the point of living?

我覺得，活著還有什麼意義？

That's I guess my big regret.

我想這是我最大的遺憾。

Today I'm asking strangers in their 70s, 80s, and 90s what advice they would give to their younger self.

今天，我想問問 70、80 和 90 歲的陌生人，他們會給年輕的自己什麼建議。

These interviews were filmed over the last few months in different parts of the world but never shown before.

這些訪談是過去幾個月在世界各地拍攝的，但以前從未播放過。

Yet the advice that is given is some of the most powerful and interesting that I've ever heard to date.

然而，這些建議卻是我迄今為止聽到過的最有力、最有趣的建議。

So without further ado, let's jump into it.

話不多說，讓我們開始吧。

How old are you?

你多大了？

69. 71.

69.71.

What does it feel like to be 69 and 71?

69 歲和 71 歲是什麼感覺？

Well, beginning to feel a little bit older.

嗯，開始覺得自己有點老了。

I mean, up to I'd say last year, I was like in the greatest shape of my life.

我是說，直到去年，我的狀態還是我一生中最好的。

I mean, we did the Compostela in Spain and we walked.

我的意思是，我們在西班牙走過孔波斯特拉，而且是步行。

So we were training, we were in great shape, but I'm feeling, I'm beginning to feel my age this year.

所以我們一直在訓練，狀態很好，但我感覺，我今年開始覺得自己老了。

I live on my own, so it does get lonely and it just feels lonelier each year, I think.

我一個人生活，所以確實很孤獨，而且我覺得一年比一年更孤獨。

I'm still working a bit and I need to work to feel as though I'm still contributing to something.

我還在工作，我需要工作來感覺自己還在為一些事情做貢獻。

I feel like I'm a 39-year-old person trapped in a body that can't do the things I want to do anymore.

我感覺自己就像一個 39 歲的人，被困在一個無法再做我想做的事情的身體裡。

OK, updated version with Russell.

好的，我更新了羅素的版本。

Russell, how old are you?

羅素，你多大了？

I'll be 97 in November.

我到 11 月就 97 歲了。

What does it feel like to be 97 soon?

馬上就要 97 歲了，感覺如何？

It's interesting.

這很有趣。

I live with my son now and otherwise I couldn't make it.

我現在和兒子住在一起，否則我就去不了了。

I'm so limited in what I can do now.

我現在能做的太有限了。

It's so frustrating.

真讓人沮喪。

Can't go to restaurants, can't go to movies, just completely like a prisoner of old age.

不能下館子，不能看電影，完全像一個老年囚犯。

If death comes, I wouldn't be here to look such.

如果死亡來臨，我也不會在這裡看這些。

It's over, it's over.

結束了，結束了。

I've had plenty of years.

我有的是時間。

I don't want to die and yet I figure, what's the point of living?

我不想死，但我想，活著有什麼意義呢？

How old are you?

你多大了？

82.

82.

Angela?

安吉拉？

87.

87.

What does it feel like to be 82 and 87?

82 歲和 87 歲是什麼感覺？

I'm a kid.

我還是個孩子

She's a kid.

她還是個孩子

I'm a kid.

我還是個孩子

Attitude's good.

態度很好

You've got to be around young people, not around old people.

你得和年輕人在一起，而不是和老人在一起。

That's the gig.

這就是演出。

What do you do to be around young people?

你是如何與年輕人相處的？

You have them at your house.

你家裡有

You bring them in, entertain them, hang around with them.

你帶他們進來，招待他們，和他們一起玩。

That's it.

就是這樣。

Our grandchildren's friends who are at McGill, we've been having them for dinners for many years now.

我們孫子的朋友在麥吉爾大學讀書，多年來我們一直邀請他們共進晚餐。

It's depressing to be around old people all the time.

總是和老人在一起真讓人沮喪。

If you ask them how they are, they're going to tell you.

如果你問他們過得怎麼樣，他們會告訴你。

And that's not so much fun.

這就沒那麼好玩了。

The key is don't ask how old they are.

關鍵是不要問他們多大了。

Never ask that question.

永遠不要問這個問題。

Never ask that question.

永遠不要問這個問題。

What's one thing that when you were younger you put a lot of importance on and as you got older you realized it wasn't actually that important?

你年輕時非常看重的一件事，隨著年齡的增長，你發現它其實並不那麼重要，這件事是什麼？

I think maybe personal possessions, your clothing, your jewelry, your things that really don't count for anything.

我想也許是個人財產、你的衣服、珠寶、你的東西，這些東西其實什麼都不算。

What is more important?

什麼更重要？

Your relationships with everybody and the world and the planet.

你與每個人、世界和地球的關係。

How do you have a good relationship?

如何建立良好的關係？

How do you know what a good relationship is?

你怎麼知道什麼是良好的關係？

You feel good.

你感覺很好。

You feel comfortable.

你感覺很舒服。

You feel protected.

你會感到受到保護。

You trust the person you have the relationship with.

你信任與你有關係的人。

And hopefully you're not disappointed.

希望你們不會失望。

I put a lot of importance on what I'm doing when I was younger.

我年輕時非常重視自己的工作。

Now I'm putting more emphasis and importance on what is important to the people around me because I find that if they're functioning well, I'm functioning better too.

現在，我更加強調和重視對我周圍的人來說重要的事情，因為我發現，如果他們運作得好，我也會運作得更好。

What's one thing you put a lot of importance on when you were younger and as you got older you realized it wasn't worth worrying about?

你年輕時非常重視的一件事，隨著年齡的增長，你意識到它不值得擔心了嗎？

I guess what other people thought.

我猜別人是怎麼想的。

My mother was very influential in what I could and couldn't do, even as an adult.

我的母親對我能做什麼和不能做什麼影響很大，即使在我成年後也是如此。

She didn't want me to travel on my own.

她不想讓我獨自旅行。

And you never did it in the end?

而你最終卻沒有做到？

Not very much, no.

不是很多，沒有。

I didn't do as much traveling as I should have.

我沒有做那麼多我應該做的旅行。

That's I guess my big regret that I didn't see more of the world.

我想這是我最大的遺憾，因為我沒有看到更多的世界。

What's a big risk that you guys took that changed the outcome of your life?

你們冒過什麼大風險，改變了你們的人生結局？

Rachel.

瑞秋

You gotta have your mate with you as long as possible when you get older.

當你老了，你得讓你的伴侶陪伴你越久越好。

To be single when you get older is not good at all.

年紀大了還單身，一點都不好。

How long have you guys been married for?

你們結婚多久了？

It's going to be 60 years in October.

今年 10 月就是 60 週年了。

What has gone you 60 years?

你們 60 年來都經歷了什麼？

Still happy?

還開心嗎？

I'm assuming, right?

我在假設，對嗎？

Still happy?

還開心嗎？

Still enjoying?

還喜歡嗎？

There's a couple of days here and there that are pretty good.

偶爾有幾天還不錯。

What's the secret to a long lasting relationship?

長久關係的祕訣是什麼？

You gotta be flexible.

你必須靈活變通。

You can't be dogmatic.

你不能教條主義。

You're not always right.

你並不總是對的。

She's not always right.

她並不總是對的。

That's the way it is.

事情就是這樣。

I know what she's going to say.

我知道她要說什麼。

You told me I'm a lot of talk, so I'm talking.

你說我話多，所以我就說了。

You can't let things fester.

你不能讓事情惡化。

You got something on your head, you talk about it, you resolve it, finish it.

你腦子裡有什麼東西，你就說出來，解決它，完成它。

Can you define the word love for me?

你能給 "愛 "下個定義嗎？

I don't know what the hell that is.

我不知道那是什麼鬼東西。

I can't define it.

我無法給它下定義。

If you can smile, you're, you know, regularly, you're okay.

如果你能微笑，你就正常，你就沒事。

A lot of it is it's caring, it's respect.

很多時候，這是一種關懷，一種尊重。

And I mean, love.

我的意思是，愛。

What's love?

愛是什麼？

He's crazy for her, you know.

他為她瘋狂，你知道的。

Life worked very well when, after I met, my first husband died.

在我遇到我的第一任丈夫之後，他去世了。

After I married John, life was just very, very good.

我和約翰結婚後，生活非常非常美好。

We've been fortunate enough to always travel, so we've been almost everywhere.

我們有幸經常旅行，所以幾乎去過所有地方。

We've just had a wonderful life.

我們的生活很美好。

We're very lucky.

我們非常幸運。

So you guys are both on your second marriage.

你們都是二婚吧？

Can you define the word love?

你能給 "愛 "下個定義嗎？

I'd say love is care.

我想說，愛就是關懷。

It's a big word, but I think love means caring for someone.

這是一個很大的詞，但我認為愛意味著關心一個人。

It lasts.

它很持久。

It just lasts.

它就這樣持續著。

My wife died a couple of years ago, and my son moved into my apartment.

幾年前，我的妻子去世了，我的兒子搬進了我的公寓。

He's making life livable for me.

他讓我的生活充滿活力。

How long were you and your wife together before she passed?

您妻子去世前，您和她在一起多久了？

About 65 years.

約 65 歲

Can you define the word love?

你能給 "愛 "下個定義嗎？

It's hard to put into words, but it's a feeling of completeness, and I miss her.

這種感覺難以言表，但卻是一種完整的感覺，我很想念她。

What's a big mistake that you made or a big regret you have that you learned a valuable lesson from?

你犯過什麼大錯，有過什麼大遺憾，卻從中汲取了寶貴的教訓？

Perhaps I would have made more of an effort to have found a partner after my husband died, and I didn't.

也許在我丈夫去世後，我會更加努力地尋找伴侶，但我沒有。

And, you know, in a way, I became stronger because I had to take care of everything myself.

而且，你知道，從某種程度上說，我變得更堅強了，因為我必須自己打理一切。

But, you know, it would have been nice at this stage in my life to have a partner that I could, you know, walk with and talk with and travel with and so on.

但是，你知道，在我人生的這個階段，如果能有一個伴侶就好了，你知道，我可以和他一起散步、哈拉、旅行等等。

A lot of people go through life wishing they would have learned certain things sooner or someone would have taught them something sooner.

很多人在一生中都希望自己能早點學會某些東西，或者有人能早點教他們一些東西。

What is a truth about life that you wish more people understood?

您希望更多的人明白的生活真理是什麼？

It's to accept differences, to try and understand the reasons why people behave as they do, even though their behavior might not be your type of behavior.

這就是接受差異，試著理解人們行為的原因，即使他們的行為可能不是你所喜歡的類型。

I guess watching politics the way we watch politics or the way politics confronts us every day, before you jump to the conclusion that X is evil and Y is great, you try and look at the bigger picture and what makes people the way they are.

我想，以我們觀察政治的方式，或者說以我們每天面對政治的方式來觀察政治，在你妄下結論說 X 是邪惡的，Y 是偉大的之前，你要試著從更大的角度來看待問題，看看是什麼讓人們變成這樣。

When you're young, you're so quick to judge.

當你年輕的時候，你會很快做出判斷。

This is my view and off I go sort of thing.

這就是我的觀點，然後我就走了。

I would say being kind is not enough of that.

我想說，僅有善意是不夠的。

You know, the word that keeps coming to me is respect.

你知道，我一直想到的一個詞是尊重。

You don't pick fights.

你不挑事。

Respect.

尊重。

You have to have your parents teach you those things.

你必須讓父母教你這些東西。

You don't know what it is when you're a kid, right?

當你還是個孩子時，你不知道它是什麼，對嗎？

You watch your parents, how they react.

你要觀察父母，看他們的反應。

You follow them.

你跟著他們。

And both our parents had very good marriages.

我們的父母都有很好的婚姻。

Yeah, and they were not rich.

是的，他們並不富有。

Money was not the issue.

錢不是問題。

You know, they were not rich, but they were rich in every other way.

你知道，他們並不富有，但他們在其他方面都很富有。

And as you say, you never knew you were poor.

正如你所說，你從不知道自己很窮。

I never knew I was poor.

我從來不知道自己很窮。

And I was poor when I was young.

我年輕時也很窮。

Not everyone had food on the table because somebody brought it over.

並不是每個人的餐桌上都有食物，因為有人送來了食物。

That was life.

這就是生活。

What did you guys do for a living?

你們是做什麼工作的？

I'm a nurse.

我是一名護士。

I'm a physician.

我是一名醫生。

Did you love what you did?

你喜歡自己的工作嗎？

If you don't enjoy work, you're really in trouble.

如果你不喜歡工作，那你就真的有麻煩了。

Let me tell you.

讓我告訴你

A lot of people work in jobs they're not happy with.

很多人從事著自己並不滿意的工作。

And you know what?

你知道嗎？

It shows on their face and their demeanor.

這可以從他們的表情和舉止中看出來。

Their attitude.

他們的態度

Yeah.

是啊

What's your advice to that?

對此你有什麼建議？

How do we do what we love?

我們如何做自己喜歡的事情？

Do it.

動手吧

Do it.

動手吧

You have to adapt.

你必須適應。

Nothing's gonna be a straight line.

沒有什麼是直線的

The world around you changes and you have to change.

周圍的世界在變，你也必須改變。

If you don't, if you're an unadaptable person, you're never gonna be happy even if you have a good job.

如果你不這樣做，如果你是一個不適應環境的人，即使你有一份好工作，你也永遠不會快樂。

Yeah.

是啊

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If you could go back in time knowing what you know today and give your younger self one piece of advice, what would you say to him?

如果你能回到過去，瞭解你今天所知道的一切，並給年輕的自己一個建議，你會對他說什麼？

Speak up more.

多說話。

I did a lot of just listening and packing knowledge away, but I didn't really express it until I was a lot older.

我經常只是聽，把知識打包，但直到我長大很多才真正表達出來。

It takes guts to do that.

這樣做需要勇氣。

You do learn more by risking like that than you do by keeping things to yourself.

比起悶在心裡，這樣的冒險確實能讓你學到更多。

I would have saved a lot more money along the way because I am working because I need to, as well as to be connected, but I do actually need it financially.

我本來可以一路上省下更多的錢，因為我工作是因為我需要，也是為了聯繫，但我在經濟上確實需要它。

You know what?

你知道嗎？

You learn as you go along, and we don't give our kids advices.

我們不會給孩子任何建議。

People have to learn.

人們必須學習。

They put one foot in front of the other and they learn as they go along.

他們腳踏實地，邊幹邊學。

And experiment.

還有實驗。

Don't always go with your neighbors next door.

不要總是和隔壁鄰居一起去。

There's a guy across the street.

街對面有個人

You should know what he's like too because if you know what other people are like, you'll appreciate more people around you too.

你也應該知道他是什麼樣的人，因為如果你知道其他人是什麼樣的人，你也會欣賞身邊更多的人。

Is there something that you had specifically or no, an advice for your younger self?

你有什麼特別的建議給年輕的自己嗎？

No, I don't think anything else.

不，我沒有別的想法。

No.

不

I mean, we're perfect.

我的意思是，我們是完美的。

We're tens, you know.

我們是幾十個人，你知道的。

Jesus, Murphy.

天啊 墨菲

We're going to end up on the garbage floor in this interview.

在這次採訪中，我們最終會被扔進垃圾桶。

You said that your family showed you the last time that we interviewed you, right?

你說上次我們採訪你時，你的家人給你看了，是嗎？

Oh yeah.

哦，是的。

I've seen it on television.

我在電視上看過。

I was pleased to see it.

我很高興看到它。

And my whole family and friends enjoyed it.

我的家人和朋友都很喜歡。

I never thought I'd miss you guys again.

我從沒想過我會再次想念你們。

Still walking.

還在走

We're still meeting you in the same park.

我們還是在同一個公園見面。

No fuck.

沒有他媽的。