Welcome back to Lavendaire.

歡迎回到拉文戴爾

It's Aileen.

是艾琳

Today is the second video in our Transform Your Life series.

今天是 "改變你的生活 "系列的第二個視頻。

So if you're just joining in, this is a series where the goal is to transform our lives in all areas and just get a really powerful start to 2025.

所以，如果你剛剛加入，這是一個系列，目標是在各個領域改變我們的生活，為 2025 年開個好頭。

Each video in the series will give you actionable takeaways and guided exercises to help you become your best self and transform your life in the new year.

該系列的每個視頻都將為您提供可操作的方法和指導練習，幫助您成為最好的自己，在新的一年裡改變自己的生活。

So we're posting videos every Wednesday on this channel until the end of January for the series.

是以，在一月底之前，我們每週三都會在這個頻道上發佈系列視頻。

So make sure you're subscribed and you click that bell to be notified of all the new videos.

是以，請確保您已訂閱並點擊鈴聲，以便收到所有新視頻的通知。

Here's a preview of the topics we have coming up.

以下是我們即將推出的主題預覽。

Last week we covered how to reinvent yourself, so how to become your ideal self.

上週，我們介紹瞭如何重塑自我，即如何成為理想中的自己。

That one was really fun, really actionable with six steps.

這本書非常有趣，有六個步驟，非常具有可操作性。

And with all these videos, I'm including free Notion template worksheets that you can do along with the series.

在所有這些視頻中，我還提供了免費的 "概念模板 "工作表，你可以在觀看系列視頻的同時進行練習。

So the series has been inspired by our Artist of Life Workbook, which is our bestselling workbook to help you plan your best year yet.

是以，這個系列的靈感來自於我們的《生活藝術家工作手冊》，這是我們最暢銷的工作手冊，可以幫助你規劃最美好的一年。

There's so many guided exercises for self discovery, self love, goal setting, and so much more, but I'm a person that loves worksheets and exercises and actionables.

有很多關於自我發現、自愛、目標設定等方面的指導性練習，但我是一個喜歡工作表、練習和可操作練習的人。

And so that's why I wanted to put this series together for those of you who want to do this as well for the new year.

是以，我想為那些想在新的一年裡也這樣做的人準備這個系列。

So if you're into this and you want a system to keep you accountable throughout the rest of the year, then check out the Artist of Life Workbook at shop.lavendaire.com.

是以，如果你也想這樣做，並希望有一個系統讓你在今年餘下的時間裡負起責任，那麼請訪問 shop.lavendaire.com 查看《生活藝術家工作手冊》。

Alright, so today's topic is life design, how to design a life you absolutely love.

好了，今天的主題是 "生活設計"，即如何設計一種你絕對熱愛的生活。

This is one of my favorite topics to talk about.

這是我最喜歡談論的話題之一。

It's one of the cornerstone topics of Lavendaire.

這是 Lavendaire 的基石話題之一。

It's about life design or lifestyle design, whatever you want to call it.

這是關於生活設計或生活方式設計，無論你怎麼稱呼它。

But the whole point is just envisioning and clarifying what you want with this one precious life that you have.

但關鍵在於，你要設想並明確自己想要的是什麼，這才是你寶貴的人生。

So there are six steps that I'll share today.

是以，我今天要分享六個步驟。

And the first step is simply clarify your dream life vision.

而第一步就是要明確你的夢想生活願景。

I've done this exercise so many times with you guys on this channel, but to reiterate, this is a really important exercise that I think everyone, literally every single person needs to do.

我已經在這個頻道上和你們做了很多次這樣的練習，但我要重申，這是一個非常重要的練習，我認為每個人，實際上每個人都需要做。

You need to start clarifying what you want.

你需要開始明確自己想要什麼。

So envision, okay, what is the dream life that I want?

那麼設想一下，好吧，我想要的夢想生活是什麼？

What would make me happy?

怎樣才能讓我快樂？

What would make me fulfilled?

怎樣才能讓我滿足？

What would feel meaningful?

什麼會讓人覺得有意義？

What kind of life would I live if I could have all the best things in the world?

如果我能擁有世界上所有最好的東西，我會過上什麼樣的生活？

Everything I wanted.

我想要的一切

Don't limit yourself, right?

不要限制自己，對嗎？

What life would I live and die happy, die completely like, oh my god, that was just the best thing ever.

我將會過什麼樣的生活，然後幸福地死去，完全像這樣死去，哦，我的天哪，這簡直是最棒的事情。

So I love dreaming big and I encourage everyone to do it, because the sky's the limit.

是以，我喜歡做大夢想，我鼓勵每個人都這樣做，因為天空是無限的。

Literally aim high, because even if you don't get there all the way, at least you get pretty high.

從字面上理解，就是要把目標定得高高的，因為即使你不能完全達到目標，至少也能達到相當高的高度。

If you aim low, that's all you're gonna get.

如果你的目標很低，那你就只能得到這些。

So don't limit yourself and dream big and be as broad or specific as you want.

是以，不要限制自己，要有遠大的夢想，想怎麼寬泛就怎麼寬泛，想怎麼具體就怎麼具體。

Maybe some of you don't know quite what you want.

也許有些人還不知道自己想要什麼。

So start with whatever comes to mind.

那就從想到的任何事情開始吧。

I want to be happy.

我想要快樂。

I want to have a family, right?

我想有個家，對嗎？

I want to have loyal friends.

我想擁有忠誠的朋友。

Or you could be really specific, like I want to have this career.

或者你可以說得非常具體，比如我想從事這個職業。

I want to achieve these things.

我想實現這些目標。

I want to wake up at this time and do this during my day.

我想在這個時間醒來，並在一天中這樣做。

You know, you could think about, okay, what is the ideal day?

你可以想一想，理想的一天是怎樣的？

What is the ideal week?

理想的一週是怎樣的？

What hobbies do I do?

我有什麼愛好？

How do I spend my weekends?

我如何度過週末？

How do I spend my vacation time?

如何利用假期？

Who is around me in my life?

在我的生活中，誰在我身邊？

What are the people and relationships I have in my life?

我生命中的人和關係是什麼？

What kind of work do I do?

我做什麼工作？

How do I show up in the world?

我怎樣才能出現在這個世界上？

How do I give back in the world, if any?

我如何回報世界？

Literally, there are so many angles you can come to this with, but everyone's life, everyone's desires are different.

從字面上看，你可以從很多角度來看待這個問題，但每個人的生活、每個人的願望都是不同的。

So go at it.

那就開始吧。

Moving on to step two, define your core values.

第二步，確定你的核心價值觀。

So this is where you reflect on yourself and your life and ask yourself, what truly matters to me?

是以，這時候你要反思自己和自己的生活，問問自己，什麼對我真正重要？

And what matters the most?

什麼最重要？

So in step one, you probably dreamed a bunch of things and a lot of them, there might be a lot there, right?

所以，在第一步，你可能夢到了一堆東西，其中有很多，可能有很多，對嗎？

And some things might be more important than others.

有些事情可能比其他事情更重要。

There's definitely a priority scale.

肯定有一個優先級。

So the following questions kind of helps you pinpoint what really matters and what's truly important.

是以，下面的問題可以幫助你確定什麼才是真正重要的，什麼才是真正重要的。

So we're starting with values, because values are the internal principles that drive us as human beings.

是以，我們從價值觀入手，因為價值觀是驅動我們作為人類的內在原則。

They drive our lives and the way we live our lives, the things that we prioritize.

它們驅動著我們的生活，驅動著我們的生活方式，驅動著我們優先考慮的事情。

And I love this question, what matters to you?

我喜歡這個問題，什麼對你來說最重要？

What are your values?

你的價值觀是什麼？

Because it's different for everyone, right?

因為每個人的情況都不一樣，對嗎？

Some people might value honesty, integrity, compassion.

有些人可能看重誠實、正直和同情心。

Other people might value ambition, passion, action.

其他人可能更看重雄心、激情和行動。

And there are so many things that are worth valuing in the world, but everyone has different priority scale.

世界上值得珍視的東西有很多，但每個人的優先級不同。

Some people might value family over work.

有些人可能會把家庭看得比工作更重要。

Some people vice versa.

有些人則相反。

Some people value social connections.

有些人重視社會關係。

Some people value their solo time more.

有些人更珍惜獨處的時間。

There's just so many ways to answer this question, but it begins with self-reflection.

回答這個問題的方法有很多，但首先要從自我檢討開始。

What matters to you?

什麼對你重要？

After you've brainstormed your list of values, now do your best to try to prioritize them or at the very least, star the most important ones.

在您集思廣益列出您的價值觀清單後，現在請盡最大努力嘗試將它們排出優先順序，或至少將最重要的價值觀分門別類。

Maybe you star three most important values or five most important values.

也許你有三個最重要的價值觀或五個最重要的價值觀。

Really, this is where you ask yourself, okay, what matters most?

真的，這時候你要問自己，好吧，什麼最重要？

And the beauty of this exercise is it can change throughout your life over time, right?

這種練習的美妙之處在於，它可以隨著時間的推移在你的一生中不斷變化，對嗎？

When you're young, you might value some things.

年輕時，你可能會看重一些東西。

And when you're older, your values might change.

當你老了，你的價值觀可能會改變。

And so this is a list that you constantly can look at and ask yourself, does this feel aligned, right?

是以，你可以經常看看這份清單，然後問問自己，這感覺是否一致，對嗎？

If things change, maybe your values have to shift and realign.

如果情況發生了變化，也許你的價值觀就必須轉變和調整。

So if you finished picking your top values, I'd love for you to share down below.

是以，如果您已經選出了自己的首要價值觀，我希望您能在下面與大家分享。

What are your top three values that you chose for yourself?

您為自己選擇的三大價值觀是什麼？

Step three, it's time to redefine success on your terms.

第三步，是時候按照自己的意願重新定義成功了。

Too often, most of us go through life and we grow up with notions of success that other people have kind of implanted into our mind.

很多時候，我們中的大多數人都是在別人植入我們腦海的成功觀念中長大的。

And this is something that people don't do on purpose, but it just naturally happens when we grow up and operate in society, right?

這並不是人們故意為之，而是在我們長大成人、步入社會後自然而然地發生的，對嗎？

You might take in the notions of success from your parents, from your peers, from what the media tells you.

你可能會從父母、同齡人和媒體那裡接受成功的觀念。

And there's so much out there that it can feel like you're driven by what others want.

外面有太多的東西，讓人感覺自己被別人的需求所驅使。

And it's not something that you actually want for yourself.

這不是你自己真正想要的東西。

So this is so important is to take the time to ask yourself, what does success mean to me?

是以，花時間問問自己，成功對我來說意味著什麼，這一點非常重要。

And what do I do?

我該怎麼辦？

What kind of things make me feel successful?

什麼樣的事情能讓我感到成功？

So often, what we are truly chasing in success is not really the external achievement itself, but it's the feeling we get for achieving those external successes.

很多時候，我們真正追逐的成功，其實並不是外在的成就本身，而是獲得這些外在成功後的感覺。

So for example, people might think that making a lot of money is what's going to make you feel successful.

是以，舉個例子，人們可能會認為，賺很多錢才會讓你感覺成功。

But the feeling that people want to get when they want to make a lot of money is they want to feel secure.

但是，當人們想要賺大錢時，他們想要的感覺是安全感。

They want to feel abundant.

他們希望感到充實。

They want to feel like they can afford whatever they want, or they want to feel like they can take care of themselves and their family.

他們想感覺自己能買得起任何想要的東西，或者他們想感覺自己能照顧好自己和家人。

So it's more about the feeling that you get from achieving that success.

所以，這更多的是你從成功中獲得的感覺。

And that is why there are certain people who chase money.

這就是某些人追逐金錢的原因。

They might be super wealthy and they don't even feel like it's enough.

他們可能是超級富豪，但他們甚至覺得這還不夠。

They don't feel like it's satisfied that feeling that they're craving, the feeling of, I have enough.

他們不覺得這滿足了他們渴望的那種感覺，那種 "我已經足夠了 "的感覺。

And so they keep chasing money and they keep doing these things to stress themselves out, even though they already have so much.

是以，他們不停地追逐金錢，不停地做這些事情來給自己施加壓力，儘管他們已經擁有了很多。

That's why you see people who have everything.

這就是為什麼你會看到那些擁有一切的人。

They seem to have everything, but they're really depressed and they're a mess in their life.

他們看似擁有一切，但他們真的很沮喪，生活一團糟。

So it's not about just the external.

是以，這不僅僅是外在的問題。

Of course the external has to do with it, but so much of it has to do with the internal and the feeling.

當然，這與外部因素有關，但很大程度上與內心和感覺有關。

So this is where you want to define what does success mean to me and what is the feeling that I'm truly going for?

所以，這就是你要定義成功對我意味著什麼，我真正要追求的感覺是什麼？

By the way, I have a video that goes even deeper into this exercise if you'd like to try that.

順便說一下，如果你想嘗試的話，我有一個視頻可以更深入地介紹這個練習。

It is Redefining Happiness and Success, so I'll link it here and down below for you to check out.

它就是《重新定義幸福與成功》，我將把它鏈接到這裡和下面，供大家查看。

Step four, identify your priorities.

第四步，確定優先事項。

So this is the step where you ask yourself, what do I truly desire and what do I truly need?

是以，在這一步，你要問自己：我真正渴望什麼，我真正需要什麼？

So in step one, we kind of let ourselves dream big and wide.

是以，在第一步，我們要讓自己的夢想大而廣。

And then we start to narrow things down by, okay, what do I really care about?

然後我們開始縮小範圍，好吧，我真正關心的是什麼？

What does success mean to me?

成功對我意味著什麼？

So this step is where you look at what you wrote in the previous three answers and then you start to prioritize, okay, given what I shared and reflected on so far, what does that mean for me now?

在這一步中，你要回顧自己在前三個答案中所寫的內容，然後開始排定優先順序：好的，鑑於我目前所分享和反思的內容，這對我現在意味著什麼？

What do I care about?

我關心什麼？

What do I truly need?

我真正需要什麼？

Maybe you have this crazy dream, but do I really need that right now?

也許你有這個瘋狂的夢想，但我現在真的需要嗎？

What is the important thing to focus on now?

現在最重要的是什麼？

Maybe it is, okay, there's this one goal that is very important.

也許是，好吧，有一個目標非常重要。

Or maybe it's, I need to shift my mindset or I need to shift my identity somehow in order to be the person to achieve these dreams.

又或者是，我需要轉變我的心態，或者我需要轉變我的身份，以便成為實現這些夢想的人。

So this step is so open-ended because it's different for everyone, but this is your time to reflect and prioritize.

這一步是開放式的，因為每個人的情況不同，但這是你反思和確定優先次序的時間。

Okay, what is the next thing to focus on?

好了，接下來要關注什麼？

What do I really need?

我到底需要什麼？

Step five is to reflect and realign.

第五步是反思和調整。

So this is another reflection exercise.

是以，這又是一次反思練習。

This is actually the self-reflection wheel that's taken from our Artists of Life Workbook.

這其實就是我們的《藝術家生活工作手冊》中的自我檢討輪。

It's one of my favorite exercises to do every quarter to reflect on how you're doing in every area of life.

這是我最喜歡做的練習之一，每季度做一次，反思自己在生活各個領域的表現。

So this is just another way, another framework to help you reflect on all the different areas of your life.

是以，這只是另一種方法，另一個幫助你反思生活中所有不同領域的框架。

You're rating from 1-10.

您的評分為 1-10 分。

How am I doing in my career, in my personal life, in my relationships, in my finances, in my hobbies?

我在事業、個人生活、人際關係、財務和業餘愛好方面的表現如何？

There are so many areas of life.

生活中有許多領域。

And of course, they all weigh different values to you.

當然，它們對你的價值也各不相同。

Again, some may value career over relationships.

同樣，有些人可能更看重事業而不是人際關係。

Some might value relationships over career.

有些人可能會把人際關係看得比事業更重要。

So anyway, the point of this exercise is to kind of gauge how you're doing in all these different areas.

是以，無論如何，這個練習的重點是衡量你在所有這些不同領域的表現。

And from there, you can reflect on, okay, if I say I value family, I rated myself a 3 out of 10.

由此，你可以反思，好吧，如果我說我重視家庭，那麼我給自己打了 3 分（滿分 10 分）。

It means that is an area that maybe I should work to improve.

這意味著，我也許應該在這方面努力改進。

And so this gives you so much clarity on what you choose to work on, or maybe choose not to work on.

這樣，你就能更清楚地知道自己選擇做什麼，或者選擇不做什麼。

Maybe you rate yourself low in an area, but you're like, I choose to sacrifice that area because I care more about these other areas.

也許你對自己的某個方面評價不高，但你會想，我選擇犧牲這個方面，因為我更在乎其他方面。

Number six, the final step is to set your next important goal and break it down into the next smaller steps that you can take towards that goal.

第六步，最後一步是設定下一個重要目標，並將其分解為實現該目標的下一個更小的步驟。

So this step is similar to video one, the one about reinventing yourself.

是以，這一步與視頻一中的 "重塑自我 "類似。

Of course, after doing all this reflection is, we want to break it down into the very next actionable step that we can take.

當然，在做了這些反思之後，我們要將其分解為我們可以採取的下一個可行步驟。

And so it's helpful to kind of prioritize, okay, one goal that is important on this journey of designing my ideal life.

是以，在設計我的理想生活的旅程中，優先考慮一個重要的目標是很有幫助的。

And whatever that goal is, whether it's like a career goal or a personal goal, whatever it is, break that down into smaller and smaller bits and then choose one to take next, right?

不管這個目標是什麼，是職業目標還是個人目標，不管是什麼，都要把它分解成越來越小的部分，然後選擇一個進行下一步，對嗎？

This is the next action step that I will take.

這就是我要採取的下一步行動。

I think the easiest way to approach our goals, no matter how big they are, is to break them down into smaller and smaller chunks, because the smaller they are, the more approachable they seem.

我認為，無論我們的目標有多大，最簡單的方法就是把它們分解成越來越小的塊，因為目標越小，看起來就越容易接近。

When you just set a big goal and you leave it at that, you just look at the goal and you're like, I don't know what to do with that, right?

當你只設定了一個大目標，然後就把它拋諸腦後，你看著這個目標就會想，我不知道該拿它怎麼辦，對嗎？

Like I have no idea how to get there.

就像我不知道如何到達那裡一樣。

And so even though you might not know every single step to get there, you can at least brainstorm, okay, what would be some steps that make logical sense?

是以，儘管你可能不知道達到目標的每一個步驟，但你至少可以集思廣益，好吧，有哪些步驟是合乎邏輯的？

Like what would be some next steps that could take me in the right direction?

比如說，下一步該怎麼做才能把我引向正確的方向？

All that matters in this journey is that you are taking steps in the right direction, because the more you take steps forward, the more the next steps will reveal themselves.

在這段旅程中，最重要的是你朝著正確的方向邁出了腳步，因為你邁出的腳步越多，下一步就會越明顯。

That's how life works.

生活就是這樣。

It unfolds as you take action.

它隨著你的行動而展開。

Things start to make sense as you're on the path.

當你走上這條路時，一切都會變得有意義。

So you don't have to feel like you need to figure it all out at once now.

所以，你不必覺得現在就需要一下子想明白。

Like you don't have to understand the path, but you just need to take action on the right path.

就像你不必瞭解道路，但你只需要在正確的道路上採取行動。

Congratulations, that's it for today's exercise.

恭喜你，今天的練習到此為止。

If you'd like to use our Notion templates, they're completely free.

如果您想使用我們的 Notion 模板，它們完全免費。

I'll include the link down below for you to get the template for this entire series.

我將在下面提供鏈接，供你獲取整個系列的模板。

And don't forget, we are posting new videos in the series every single Wednesday until the end of January.

別忘了，在一月底之前，我們每週三都會發布該系列的新視頻。

So next week we have a video on setting our 2025 goals.

是以，下週我們將播放一段關於制定 2025 年目標的視頻。

So we're getting even more nitty gritty and actionable.

是以，我們的工作更加細緻入微，更具可操作性。

If you want to watch more in the series, you can check out the playlist here and down below.

如果您想觀看該系列的更多內容，可以查看此處和下方的播放列表。

Don't forget to check out our new 2025 Artist of Life Workbook.

別忘了查看我們新推出的《2025 生活藝術家工作手冊》。

If you want more exercises to become your best self and create your dream life, you can find it at shop.lavendaire.com.

如果您想了解更多關於如何成為最好的自己、創造夢想生活的練習，請訪問 shop.lavendaire.com。

You can open below for all of our links and upcoming events.