There are uplifting people, there are neutral people, and there are not uplifting people.

有振奮人心的人，有中立的人，也有不振奮人心的人。

Let's define what this is, what they are.

讓我們來定義一下這是什麼，它們是什麼。

An uplifting person, I spend five minutes with an uplifting person, I walk away, I feel great and go like, wow, that was an amazing conversation.

我和一個讓人振奮的人相處五分鐘後，我就會離開，感覺很好，就像，哇，那是一次很棒的談話。

A neutral person, I spend five minutes with them, I walk away, I'm still the same.

一箇中立的人，我和他相處五分鐘，然後離開，我還是老樣子。

A not uplifting person, I spend five minutes with them, I walk away and I go like, oh my

一個不振奮人心的人，我和他相處了五分鐘，我離開的時候，我想，哦，我的天啊

God, that was exhausting.

天哪，真是累死我了。

And you've probably experienced that in your life.

你可能在生活中也有過這樣的經歷。

Then there are two types of energy vampire.

那麼就有兩種能量吸血鬼。

The next question is, are they a transient energy vampire or inherently an energy vampire?

接下來的問題是，他們是短暫的能量吸血鬼，還是天生的能量吸血鬼？

What's a transient energy vampire?

什麼是瞬態能量吸血鬼？

Just say John is going through a hard time in life because his dad is dying of cancer, for example, and for three years he consumes a lot of energy.

比方說，約翰正處於人生的艱難時期，因為他的父親死於癌症，三年來他消耗了大量的精力。

He's always down, you need to uplift him, he's feeling very sad.

他總是很低落，你需要讓他振作起來，他感覺很悲傷。

It's okay.

沒關係。

You give him that energy because he's your friend and that's what we do.

你給他能量，因為他是你的朋友，這就是我們要做的。

We express compassion, empathy and love and we support our friends during difficult times.

我們表達同情心、同理心和愛心，在朋友遇到困難時給予支持。

What's someone who's inherently an energy vampire?

什麼是天生的能量吸血鬼？

Someone who's inherently an energy vampire has always been this way.

與生俱來就是能量吸血鬼的人總是這樣。

So how do we deal with someone who's inherently an energy vampire?

那麼，我們該如何對付天生就是能量吸血鬼的人呢？

My guru taught me the best way to do this is to practice the art of being affectionately detached but always kind, gentle, sincere and loving towards them.

我的導師教導我，最好的方法就是練習對他們保持親切、溫和、真誠和愛的藝術。

What does this mean?

這意味著什麼？

So just say John is inherently an energy vampire.

所以只能說約翰天生就是個能量吸血鬼。

I live in New York City.

我住在紐約。

I'm walking down Fifth Avenue.

我正走在第五大道上。

I see John walking towards me.

我看到約翰朝我走來。

What do I do?

我該怎麼辦？

Do I cross the street?

我要過馬路嗎？

That's not very nice.

這可不太好。

I meet John.

我見到了約翰。

John meets me.

約翰來見我

What do you say when two people meet each other?

當兩個人相遇時，你會說什麼？

I know what you guys say in Australia.

我知道你們澳大利亞人是怎麼說的。

G'day.

日安

How's it going, mate?

怎麼樣，夥計？

Right?

對不對？

Do I say that?

我這麼說過嗎？

No.

不

Do you know why I don't ask how are you?

你知道我為什麼不問你好嗎？

Because I don't want to know.

因為我不想知道。

It's true.

這是真的。

You have to understand I'm in the monk business.

你要知道，我是做和尚生意的。

When I ask somebody how are you, they tell me their entire life story.

當我問別人你好嗎時，他們會告訴我他們的整個人生故事。

It's the confession time.

懺悔的時刻到了

So I don't even ask how are you.

所以我都不問你好嗎。

John asks me how are you.

約翰問我你好嗎？

I say I'm doing very well.

我說我做得很好。

Thank you very much.

非常感謝。

And then I reply, what a beautiful day in Sydney.

然後我回復說，雪梨的天氣真好。

It's true.

這是真的。

I'm being sincere.

我是真誠的。

I'm being kind.

我是好心。

And then I say to him, please excuse me.

然後我對他說，請原諒。

I have something really important to do.

我有很重要的事情要做。

It's true.

這是真的。

My life is finite and I'm very clear what my purpose is.

我的生命是有限的，我非常清楚自己的目標是什麼。

I'm not lying.

我沒有撒謊。

And then what do people say at the end of a conversation?

然後，人們在談話結束時會說什麼？

It was a pleasure meeting you.

很高興見到你。

Actually it wasn't.

其實不然。

Let's do lunch.

我們去吃午飯吧

Why?

為什麼？

See you later.

再見

Not really.

其實不然。

Don't want to.

不想

Why do we say the things we don't mean and ask the questions we don't want answers to?

為什麼我們會說一些言不由衷的話，問一些我們不想知道答案的問題？

So at the end of a conversation, I say have a wonderful day, which is true.

所以在談話結束時，我會說 "祝你今天過得愉快"，這是真的。

I know he's inherently an energy vampire, but I do wish he has a wonderful day.

我知道他本來就是個精力充沛的吸血鬼，但我還是希望他能度過美好的一天。

So the concept of being affectionately detached is to not engage with someone, right?

所以，"親切疏離 "的概念就是不與某人接觸，對嗎？

Just to be kind, to be gentle, to be sincere and loving towards them, but not engaging with them.

只是要和藹、溫柔，對他們真誠、充滿愛心，但不要與他們打交道。

What's another way to protect yourself from an energy vampire?

還有什麼方法可以保護自己不被能量吸血鬼傷害？

Is to place the burden of responsibility on them.

就是把責任推給他們。

What does that mean?

這是什麼意思？

I travel all around the world.

我周遊世界。

I speak, people come up to me and they want to ask questions.

我發言時，人們會走過來問我問題。

I always give them my personal email address.

我總是把我的個人郵箱地址告訴他們。

I tell them, please don't share it with anybody.

我告訴他們，請不要與任何人分享。

Can you put your question down on this email and send it to me?

您能把問題寫在這封電子郵件上併發給我嗎？

Sometime it'll give me time to reflect on it and I can give you a proper response.

這樣我就有時間反思了，也可以給你一個適當的答覆。

And they always say, for sure, I'll put it all down in email and I'll send it to you.

他們總是說，當然，我會把這些都寫在電子郵件裡，然後發給你。

You know how many people email me?

你知道有多少人給我發電子郵件嗎？

Nobody emails me.

沒人給我發郵件

Simple little task, right?

簡單的小任務，不是嗎？

I'm not asking them to do yoga, to meditate, to breathe out of one nostril.

我沒有要求他們做瑜伽、冥想、用一個鼻孔呼吸。

Just send me an email with your problems and they don't do it.

只要給我發一封電子郵件，告訴我你的問題，他們就不會這樣做。

So place the burden of responsibility on someone.

那就把責任推給別人吧。

If you're somebody who's developed a particular skill, you're an expert in a particular niche and a particular area, and you find that people want your time, they want your energy, the one simple way to protect yourself is to place the burden of responsibility on them.

如果你掌握了一項特殊技能，是某一特定領域的專家，你發現人們需要你的時間和精力，那麼保護自己的一個簡單方法就是把責任推給他們。

Give them a simple task to do and see if they do it.

給他們佈置一項簡單的任務，看看他們是否能完成。

And if they fulfill that task and come back to you, then go out of your way to help them.

如果他們完成了任務並回到你身邊，那麼你就要不遺餘力地幫助他們。

So I always tell people to treat energy the same way you treat money.

是以，我總是告訴人們要像對待金錢一樣對待能源。

It's a finite resource that needs to be wisely managed, wisely reallocated, and wisely invested.

這是一種有限的資源，需要進行明智的管理、明智的重新分配和明智的投資。

Because if you only have this much energy, in fact, if I took 10% of my energy and I gave it to John, that's 10% I could have given to my spouse, my business, the things and people that I love.

因為如果你只有這麼多精力，事實上，如果我把我精力的 10%給了約翰，那我就有 10%的精力可以給我的配偶、我的事業、我愛的事情和人。

If I took a watering can and I watered a garden bed, would the weeds grow or the flowers grow?

如果我拿著一個澆水壺給花園澆水，是雜草叢生還是鮮花盛開？

Both, right?

兩者都有，對嗎？

Water has no ability to discriminate between the weeds and the flowers.

水無法區分雜草和花朵。

Whatever I water starts to grow.

我澆灌什麼，它就長什麼。

Energy is the same way as well.

能源也是如此。

If I took energy and I invested it into something negative, it will grow and become more negative.

如果我把能量投入到消極的事物中，它就會成長，變得更加消極。

If I took energy, invested it into something positive, it will grow and become more positive.

如果我把精力投入到積極的事情上，它就會成長，變得更加積極。

Energy has no ability to discriminate between what's positive and what's negative.

能量無法區分正負。

Whatever you invest energy into starts to grow and manifest in your life.

無論你投入什麼能量，都會在你的生活中開始成長和顯現。