Anxious?

焦慮？

Tired before you've even started doing anything?

還沒開始做什麼就累了？

Work isn't appealing for most people and I'm no different.

工作對大多數人來說都沒有吸引力，我也不例外。

At Caltech, I complained with my engineering classmates and I wondered, if I slack off, how bad would it really be?

在加州理工學院，我和工程系的同學們一起抱怨，我在想，如果我偷懶，情況到底會有多糟糕？

You might associate working with more pain, more struggle, less happiness.

你可能會把工作與更多的痛苦、更多的掙扎、更少的快樂聯繫在一起。

Thus, it's hard to outwork other people because you're literally putting yourself through more pain while other people are chilling at home watching Netflix.

是以，你很難超越別人，因為當別人在家看 Netflix 的時候，你實際上是在讓自己承受更多的痛苦。

However, there's a key that makes it easy and enjoyable to outwork your peers.

不過，有一把鑰匙可以讓你輕鬆愉快地超越同伴。

And that today is what I'm gonna share with you.

這就是今天我要和大家分享的內容。

Yay!

耶

Hey team, it's Aimee.

嘿，隊員們，我是艾米。

To become valedictorian and to get into a top 10 university, I did things like extra math outside of school, led multiple clubs, and played varsity sports.

為了成為告別演說者，為了進入排名前十的大學，我做了很多事情，比如課外補習數學、上司多個俱樂部、參加校隊運動會。

You could say that I was outworking a lot of people, right?

你可以說我比很多人都能幹，對嗎？

You might think I had to be miserable, right?

你可能會認為我一定很悲慘，對嗎？

To this day, when I work more than other people, like right now when I'm working way more hours than a typical 9-to-5 job, I can say that I've always been content.

時至今日，當我比別人工作得更多的時候，比如現在，我的工作時間比一般朝九晚五的工作要多得多，我可以說我一直都很滿足。

And no, I've actually never burned out.

不，實際上我從來沒有倦怠過。

Knock on wood.

敲敲木頭

But I think that what I'm gonna share with you in this video is the key that helps me be able to do this sustainably.

但我認為，我要在這段視頻中與大家分享的內容，是幫助我能夠持續做到這一點的關鍵所在。

On the plane while flying to my sister's graduation, she also graduated from Caltech.

在飛往我姐姐畢業典禮的飛機上，她也是從加州理工學院畢業的。

Ooh, go orange beavers!

哦，橙色海狸加油

I listened to this amazing TED talk.

我聽了這個精彩的 TED 演講。

It was There's More to Life Than Being Happy by Emily Smith.

是艾米莉-史密斯（Emily Smith）的《生活不止有快樂》（There's More to Life Than Being Happy）。

She explained that when people think all there is to life is to be happy and they chase happiness, people actually end up being way more depressed.

她解釋說，當人們認為生活的全部就是快樂，並追逐快樂時，實際上人們最終會變得更加抑鬱。

As famous author George Orwell says, men can only be happy when they do not assume that the object of life is happiness.

正如著名作家喬治-奧威爾所說，只有當人們不認為生活的目標就是幸福時，他們才能獲得幸福。

Like think about the United States as a first world country.

就像把美國視為第一世界國家一樣。

Our lives are actually really good if you think about it and you can watch this video on your phone or your laptop.

如果你仔細想想，我們的生活其實真的很美好，你可以在手機或筆記本電腦上觀看這段視頻。

You probably have hot running water.

您可能有自來熱水。

You probably have so many things that you take for granted but that make your life comfortable and nice.

你可能擁有很多理所當然的東西，但它們讓你的生活變得舒適而美好。

However, why are the depression rates so high?

然而，為什麼抑鬱症的發病率如此之高呢？

Why do kids have such bad mental health these days?

為什麼現在的孩子心理健康如此糟糕？

Emily Smith explains that the solution is not to chase happiness but is to find meaning in life.

艾米莉-史密斯解釋說，解決辦法不是追逐幸福，而是找到生活的意義。

If you're working and studying and you go about life on autopilot believing that you need to take more breaks to make yourself happier, you need more self-care to make yourself feel better, then you're more likely to feel the sense of despair like asking yourself, is this all there is?

如果你在工作和學習中，以自動駕駛的方式生活，認為你需要更多的休息來讓自己更快樂，你需要更多的自我保健來讓自己感覺更好，那麼你就更有可能感到絕望，就像問自己，這就是全部嗎？

That's why that ironically to live a better happier life, we have to reframe our mindset into making the things we do meaningful, not happier.

這就是為什麼具有諷刺意味的是，要想生活得更美好、更快樂，我們必須重新調整心態，讓我們所做的事情變得更有意義，而不是更快樂。

Now you might be thinking, Amy, why do you keep telling me just to think differently?

現在你可能會想，艾米，為什麼你總是告訴我換位思考？

That's not helpful.

這一點用都沒有。

I want actionable steps.

我想要可行的步驟。

See, that's the issue with a lot of the content on YouTube nowadays.

這就是現在 YouTube 上很多內容的問題所在。

It's all things like wake up at 6am, eat healthy foods, like you've heard it all before.

諸如早上 6 點起床、吃健康食品之類的事情，好像你以前都聽過。

But what you're missing is the mindset part of yin yang.

但你缺少的是陰陽的心態部分。

Action and mindset go together in a self-perpetuating cycle where most of the time we struggle with doing the right actions because we don't have the right mindset.

行動和心態是一個自我循環的過程，在這個過程中，大部分時間我們都在為採取正確的行動而掙扎，因為我們沒有正確的心態。

So the key is to reframe in your mind each of the things you're doing as whether they're giving you meaning.

是以，關鍵是要在腦海中重新構思你正在做的每一件事，它們是否給你帶來了意義。

But what is meaning in life?

但什麼才是生活的意義？

Emily Smith shares that according to a renowned psychologist, meaning comes from belonging and serving something beyond yourself and from developing the best within you.

艾米麗-史密斯分享說，根據一位著名心理學家的觀點，意義來自於對超越自我的東西的歸屬和服務，來自於發展自己內心最美好的東西。

After I heard this, my mind was blown.

聽完之後，我茅塞頓開。

Because I finally understood why I could work so hard.

因為我終於明白，為什麼我可以如此努力地工作。

It's because I felt enjoyment and fulfillment in improving my human capital by developing myself and helping others, making myself someone who is also greater able to help others in the future.

這是因為我在通過發展自己和幫助他人來提高人力資本的過程中感受到了樂趣和成就感，使自己在未來也更有能力幫助他人。

Work has a negative connotation, but waking up and having something to strive for, something you need to pursue, brings joy.

工作有負面的含義，但一覺醒來，有了奮鬥的目標，有了需要追求的東西，就會帶來快樂。

That's why several of my friends told me that their uber rich friends are depressed.

這就是為什麼我的幾個朋友告訴我，他們的超級富豪朋友都很抑鬱。

They can sit around playing video games and scrolling on their phones and buying as many Louis Vuitton bags as they want, but they don't feel like there's a meaning to their lives.

他們可以坐在那裡玩電子遊戲，在手機上滾動，想買多少路易威登包包就買多少包包，但他們不覺得自己的生活有什麼意義。

Now that we know the key is reframing, let's reframe five common things.

既然我們知道關鍵在於重新構思，那就讓我們來重新構思五件常見的事情吧。

Number one, work itself.

第一，工作本身。

Think about work not as something you're forced to do or something that might get you a result, but think of it as you moving toward something you already know you can achieve.

不要把工作看成是你被迫去做的事情，或者是可能會讓你得到結果的事情，而要把它看成是你朝著自己已經知道能夠實現的目標前進。

My friend Taiki told me just yesterday that he feels anything in the world, he can achieve it if he wants to.

我的朋友 Taiki 昨天告訴我，他覺得世界上任何事情，只要他想，就一定能實現。

And that's exactly the attitude you need.

這正是你需要的態度。

Believe that whatever you're pursuing, that that is already part of your destiny and all you have to do is continue putting in the actions to get there.

要相信，無論你在追求什麼，那都已經是你命運的一部分，你要做的就是繼續付出行動去實現它。

So believe in the potential that you were already born with and understand that everything in your life that's happened to you, all of your knowledge, experiences, relationships, are there for a reason to get you somewhere you're meant to be.

所以，請相信你與生俱來的潛能，並明白你生命中發生的一切，你所有的知識、經歷、人際關係，都是有原因的，都是為了讓你到達你註定要去的地方。

Here's how I use reframing to become valedictorian.

以下是我如何利用重構來成為告別演說家。

I believe that it was already in the cards for me to rank number one, as long as I put in the work.

我相信，只要我付出努力，排名第一早已是板上釘釘的事。

If it's so definite that I will get the result I want, then why wouldn't I do those steps?

如果我肯定會得到我想要的結果，那我為什麼不做這些步驟呢？

All I'm doing is making my ideal future happen.

我所做的一切都是為了實現我理想中的未來。

Number two, watching TV.

第二，看電視。

There's absolutely nothing wrong with watching TV.

看電視絕對沒有錯。

I watched Legend of Korra literally today while I was eating lunch.

今天吃午飯的時候，我真的看了《科拉傳奇》。

But many people after work and school will spend all of the rest of their waking hours in front of the TV, on YouTube, flipping through Netflix.

但許多人在下班和放學後，會把剩下的清醒時間全部花在電視機前、YouTube 上、翻閱 Netflix 上。

Life is beautiful because of our experiences and memories.

生活因我們的經歷和記憶而美麗。

So we need to reframe watching TV as not giving yourself new memories.

是以，我們需要把看電視重新定義為不給自己留下新的記憶。

In five years, you will not remember the drama that happened on Grey's Anatomy.

五年後，你將不會記得《實習醫生格蕾》中發生的戲劇性事件。

So pick me.

那就選我吧

Choose me.

選我吧

Love me.

愛我

Or the 12 seasons of Gossip Girl.

或者是 12 季的《緋聞女孩》。

Are there 12 seasons?

有 12 個季節嗎？

I don't know.

我不知道。

See, I don't watch these shows.

你看，我不看這些節目。

Entertainment is something you use to fill space when you're bored.

娛樂是你無聊時用來填補空間的東西。

That's why movies are for plane rides.

這就是為什麼坐飛機時要看電影。

When you're waiting somewhere, you try to entertain yourself.

當你在某個地方等待時，你會嘗試娛樂自己。

If you have excitement towards life and the experiences you can have, there's no need to be filling that time as if there's nothing else to do with your life.

如果你對生活和你可以擁有的經歷感到興奮，就沒有必要把時間填滿，好像你的生活沒有其他事情可做。

Movies and shows are still great, but I really try to watch them with other people so that it becomes a memory and a bonding experience.

電影和節目仍然很棒，但我真的很想和其他人一起看，這樣它就會成為一種記憶和親情體驗。

Number three, of course, I had to cover this one.

第三，當然，我必須報道這個。

Scrolling on your phone.

在手機上滾動。

Believe it or not, I tried getting into TikTok.

信不信由你，我試過進入 TikTok。

During lockdown, during spring of 2020, I downloaded TikTok and I tried to scroll through the For You page.

在 2020 年春天的禁閉期間，我下載了 TikTok，並嘗試滾動瀏覽 "給你 "頁面。

But each time, the moment I hit something I didn't like, I closed the app because I was like, ew.

但每次，當我碰到不喜歡的東西時，我就會關閉應用程序，因為我覺得 "噁心"。

And I eventually stopped trying.

我最終停止了嘗試。

I gave up trying to consume short form content completely because why would I want to risk wasting my time on something I don't like?

我完全放棄了閱讀短小精悍的內容，因為我為什麼要冒險把時間浪費在我不喜歡的東西上呢？

I don't even want the mere possibility of my eyes and brain getting hit with something it didn't want to see in the first place.

我甚至不想讓我的眼睛和大腦受到它一開始就不想看到的東西的衝擊。

Yeah, sure, there are tips and hacks, but every time you save those videos, do you ever go back and actually use those?

是的，當然，有一些技巧和黑客，但每次你保存這些視頻時，你會回去真正使用它們嗎？

In fact, sometimes if I watch a YouTube short, not by scrolling, but by clicking on it through the homepage, I find out facts that I did not need to know.

事實上，有時我在觀看 YouTube 短片時，不是通過滾動，而是通過點擊主頁，就會發現一些我不需要知道的事實。

I don't need to know about that.

我不需要知道這些。

You keep that to yourself.

你自己留著吧。

Like, I did not need to know that Ariana Grande's voice has changed again.

比如，我不需要知道阿麗亞娜-格蘭德的聲音又變了。

Like, that's just purely being out of control.

就像，那只是純粹的失控。

And see, I don't like that.

你看，我不喜歡這樣。

So that's what I reframe scrolling as.

是以，我將滾動重新定義為 "滾動"。

It's a lack of control because in life, with all the things that are outside of our control, why would we want to put one more thing outside of our control?

這是一種缺乏控制，因為在生活中，我們無法控制的事情太多了，為什麼我們還要把更多的事情置於我們的控制之外呢？

If I want a solution for glossy hair or how to get straight A's, I'll go purposefully search it up on YouTube, learn, and close it.

如果我想得到一頭亮麗秀髮的解決方案，或者想知道如何拿到全 A，我會特意去 YouTube 上搜索，學習，然後關閉它。

I didn't ask to be told I should buy things I don't need and that I never even knew existed.

我並沒有要求別人告訴我應該買一些我不需要的東西，我甚至從來都不知道這些東西的存在。

Number four, video games.

第四，電子遊戲。

I really liked games when I was a kid because I did have time to play them with my sister and I found that fun.

我小時候非常喜歡玩遊戲，因為我有時間和姐姐一起玩，我覺得那很有趣。

But I think a lot of times we get addicted to games online of getting that extra level, those extra points.

但我認為，很多時候我們會沉迷於在線遊戲，以獲得額外的關卡、額外的分數。

I don't play any games now because I'm so addicted to this game of life.

我現在不玩任何遊戲了，因為我沉迷於這場人生遊戲。

I am so excited about the work I can put into my YouTube channel and in my relationships and gaining value from that and leveling up myself in real life.

我很高興能在我的 YouTube 頻道和人際關係中付出努力，並從中獲得價值，在現實生活中提升自己。

So that's how you reframe games, whether it's on your phone, on your PC, on the PS5, on the Switch.

是以，無論是在手機上、電腦上，還是在 PS5 和 Switch 上，你都可以這樣重構遊戲。

Earn things in real life, whether it's money, new opportunities, skills, and level up in real life.

在現實生活中賺取東西，無論是金錢、新機會還是技能，並在現實生活中提升等級。

Five, spend quality time with loved ones.

五，與親人共度美好時光。

Why do I put this on this list?

我為什麼把它放在這個名單上？

It's because I think when we are told too much to cherish our loved ones or to be productive or anything else, when you hear that hundreds and hundreds of times, you become desensitized to that advice where it becomes something that you're resistant to doing.

這是因為我認為，當我們被告知太多要珍惜我們所愛的人、要有生產力或其他任何事情時，當你聽到成百上千次這樣的話時，你就會對這些建議變得麻木不仁，從而成為你抗拒去做的事情。

Like you tell yourself you should work hard all the time, but the more you hear it and the more you think, oh, I should do this, the less likely you really want to do that.

就像你總是告訴自己應該努力工作，但你聽得越多，想得越多 "哦，我應該這麼做"，你就越不可能真的想這麼做。

It is so important to recharge and spend quality time with your loved ones, but I think that myself included, we don't prioritize that enough.

充電和與親人共度美好時光非常重要，但我認為，包括我自己在內，我們都沒有把這一點放在足夠重要的位置。

So on the screen, I'm going to pop up this graph to put some things into perspective.

是以，我將在螢幕上彈出這張圖，以說明一些問題。

Whether it's family or some friends, the time you spend with them decreases dramatically while you actually spend more time with your co-workers.

無論是家人還是朋友，你與他們在一起的時間都會大大減少，而實際上你與同事在一起的時間會更多。

On your deathbed, you're not going to wish that you spent more time at the office.

在你臨終前，你不會希望自己在辦公室多待一些時間。

You're going to wish that you spent more quality time with people you love.

你會希望花更多的時間與你愛的人在一起。

You're also going to wish that you did more things to make them proud.

你也會希望自己能做更多讓他們驕傲的事情。

Thinking that way helps us actually follow through and cherish time with family and friends.

這樣的想法有助於我們真正堅持到底，珍惜與家人和朋友在一起的時光。

Those are the five common actions that we want to do or not do and how to reframe them.

這就是我們想做或不想做的五種常見行為，以及如何重塑它們。

That way, it's easier and more enjoyable for you to do the actions you know are good for you.

這樣，你就能更輕鬆、更愉快地做你知道對你有益的事情。

The last one is really important indirectly because when you recharge and you get energized by interactions with other human beings, that makes you more excited to work on something that goes beyond yourself.

最後一點真的很重要，因為當你通過與其他人的互動來充電並獲得能量時，你就會更有動力去做一些超越自我的事情。

And it makes you more excited to belong to a certain group.

這也會讓你更加興奮地歸屬於某個群體。

And finally, it makes you want to continue developing yourself.

最後，它讓你想要繼續發展自己。

All of these contributing to finding meaning in life.

所有這些都有助於找到生活的意義。

As Albert Einstein says, I heard he's pretty smart, so we better listen to him.

正如愛因斯坦所說，我聽說他很聰明，所以我們最好聽他的。

Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.

不求成功，但求有價值。

I truly believe that now more than ever, to live happier, better lives, we need to have the right mindset first.

我真的相信，現在比以往任何時候都更需要有正確的心態，才能生活得更快樂、更美好。

So if you want to learn more about yin yang, you can check out this video where I talk about the concept and how I got through a disability that I had.

所以，如果你想了解更多關於陰陽的知識，可以看看這段視頻，我在視頻中講述了陰陽的概念，以及我是如何克服殘疾的。

Please, please, please, please, please, please, don't break my heart.

求求你，求求你，求求你，別傷我的心。

Okay, that's the Sabrina Carpenter song.

好吧，那是 Sabrina Carpenter 的歌。

But please, please, please, let me know your thoughts and your experience with trying to work harder and how to find meaning in your life.

但是，請讓我知道你的想法，以及你在努力工作和如何找到生活意義方面的經驗。

I would love our comment section to be like a Reddit thread where we read each other's experiences and have conversations because that all helps us grow together in our A-team.

我希望我們的評論區能像 Reddit 上的主題一樣，讓我們閱讀彼此的經驗並進行對話，因為這有助於我們在 A-團隊中共同成長。

Thanks, until next time.

謝謝，下次再見。

This is update number two of my applications.

這是我申請的第二次更新。

Throughout this weekend, actually it's Monday.

整個週末，實際上是週一。

Throughout the past three days, I have been using what's called Applicant Lab.

在過去的三天裡，我一直在使用所謂的 "申請人實驗室"。

And it's a platform that helps me go through all of the different steps and gives advice about how to apply to this program.

這個平臺可以幫助我完成所有不同的步驟，並就如何申請這個項目提供建議。

Really, you know, practicing what I preach, we should definitely, definitely be willing to spend money on resources when we spend money on clothes and eating out all the time.

真的，你知道，言出必行，當我們把錢花在衣服和外出就餐上時，我們絕對絕對應該捨得把錢花在資源上。

So this has been extremely helpful because I had to use a consultant when I was in high school.

這對我的幫助非常大，因為我上高中時不得不使用顧問。

And I think that's definitely one of the things that would have dramatically changed my results.

我認為，這絕對是能顯著改變我的結果的因素之一。

One of the things to do as soon as possible that I did and I recommend for applying to anything is to sign up for any mailing lists or communications about events.

我建議申請者儘快做的一件事就是註冊任何郵件列表或有關活動的通訊。

I've been watching videos with advice about what the admissions committee is looking for, what the admissions committee's background is, and what their goal is of admitting certain applicants.

我一直在看視頻，裡面有關於招生委員會在尋找什麼、招生委員會的背景是什麼以及他們錄取某些申請者的目標是什麼的建議。

For many cases like this program, it's about the branding of the school.

在很多情況下，比如這個項目，它關係到學校的品牌。

So they want to admit people where they can be famous and super successful in the future and also donate back to the school.

是以，他們希望招收的學生將來能成名成家，還能回饋學校。

Your fate is in their hands, it's about serving them.

你的命運掌握在他們手中，要為他們服務。

It's about understanding their motivations and how that ties to your goals.

這就需要了解他們的動機以及這些動機如何與您的目標相聯繫。

So it's honestly kind of a struggle right now.

老實說，我現在很糾結。

I feel like throughout the years, my brain has deteriorate, deteriorated.

我覺得這些年來，我的大腦每況愈下。

That doesn't say something, I don't know what does.

這還不能說明什麼，我不知道還有什麼能說明什麼。

Because of all the distractions and little to-do tasks that feel like all high priority, right?

因為所有的煩心事和待辦事項感覺都很重要，不是嗎？

So it's like pretty hard.

所以說，這很難。

I'm trying to get my mind committed as much as my body is committed and just making sure I'm not going through the emotions.

我正試圖讓我的思想和我的身體一樣投入，並確保我不會被情緒所左右。

Anyway, maybe it's been a while since I've been challenged in this specific way, even though YouTube and other work has been challenging.

總之，也許我已經很久沒有接受過這種特定方式的挑戰了，儘管 YouTube 和其他工作一直充滿挑戰。

But I just kind of feel like, oh, do I really have it in me anymore?

但我只是覺得，哦，我真的有這個能力了嗎？

But I believe that I can still give my all and I just need some time to get myself in the zone.

但我相信，我仍然可以全力以赴，只是需要一些時間讓自己進入狀態。