Most people know this and they know how powerful it is in building likability, but they often fall into the trap of giving generic praise, such as "you're a great teacher."

大多數人都知道這一點，也知道這對建立好感度有多大的作用，但他們往往會掉進「你是個很棒的老師」這樣泛泛而談的表揚陷阱。

Let's refine this approach. First, the power of specificity.

讓我們先來完善一下這種方法。首先，具體化的力量。

Instead of saying "you're a great teacher", say "I love the way you attend to each student individually. You're such a great teacher."

與其說：「你是個好老師」，說：「我喜歡你關注每個學生的方式。你真是個好老師 。」

Notice how this added detail, not only makes the compliment more believable, it makes it more memorable.

請注意，這個新增的細節不僅讓讚美更加可信，也讓人更加難忘。

Second, personalize it.

第二，客製化。

If you want to add an extra layer of connection, use their name!

如果你想增加一層連結，可以用他們的名字！

Compare again. "I love the way you attend to each student individually. You're such a great teacher."

再次進行比較。『我喜歡你單獨關注每個學生的方式。你真是個好老師。」

"Hey James, I love the way you attend to each and every single student individually. You're such a great teacher."

「嘿，詹姆斯，我喜歡你照顧每一位學生的方式。你真是個好老師。」

It's a small tweak but it adds personal touch and it goes a long way.

這只是一個小小的調整，但卻增加了個人風格，而且效果顯著。

Third, authenticity is key.

第三，真實性是關鍵。

Remember the foundation of a meaningful compliment is sincerity. Be genuine in your admiration and steer clear of flattery.

請記住，有意義的讚美的基礎是真誠，要真誠地表達你的讚美之情，避免阿諛奉承。

People can feel the difference.

人們可以感受到其中的不同。

Let me show you what I mean.

讓我告訴你我的意思。

Craig. I love the way the glasses that you're wearing. [It] brings out your eyes.

克雷格，我喜歡你戴著眼鏡的樣子，讓你的眼睛更有神了。

Peter. You are one of the most handsome and tallest guys I've ever met.

彼得，你是我見過的最英俊、最高大的男人之一。

Can we, can we give it a go?

我們能試試嗎？

Yeah. Yeah, absolutely.

好啊，當然。

Look at your hair. It really brings out your personality.

看看你的頭髮，它凸顯出了你的性格。

I don't think anyone's ever done that before.

我覺得以前沒人這麼做過。

What are they, what do they call that? Poorly made birds nest?

要怎麼稱呼你的髮型？做工粗糙的鳥巢？

How about, how about 37-year-old balding guy who bought a cheap wig?

還是，37 歲的禿頂男子買了一頂廉價假髮，怎麼樣？

One more important rule to keep in mind: after giving sincere compliments, not the ones my team bloody gave me, don't ask for any favors.

在給予真誠的讚美之後，還要牢記一條重要規則，而不是我的團隊血淋淋地給我的讚美：不要要求任何幫助。

Compliments should be a gift, not a transaction.

讚美應該是一種禮物，而不是交易。

And in the spirit of knowledge application, think of one of your friends here on social media, tag them in the comments and practice sharing with them a sincere compliment here.

本著知識、應用的精神，想一想你在社交媒體上的朋友，在評論中標記他們，並在這裡練習與他們分享真誠的讚美。

I'll kick us off with one.

我用一個當作示範。

@dragonslayer 1984 Eugene. I love the way you're always able to identify my biggest insecurities and exploit them online.

用戶 @dragonslayer 1984 Eugene，我喜歡你總是能夠發現我最大的不安全感並在網路上利用它們。

Fxxk you, Eugene.

去你的，尤金。

That's good, Rav. I love that.

很好，拉夫，我喜歡。