And comparison is the deadliest thing we can do to ourselves because we will always come up short.

比較是我們對自己做的最致命的事情，因為我們總是會有不足，

And all it does is exaggerate all of our insecurities.

它只會誇大我們所有的不安全感。

It's okay to enjoy other people's success, but you let them live their lives and you live your life.

享受別人的成功是可以的，但你要讓他們過他們的生活，你要過你自己的生活。

Oh, and by the way, they're curating their social media, that's not really their way.

哦，順便一提，他們正在精心管理他們的社交媒體，這不太是他們的風格。

And so you're making decisions based on how you feel, based on their curated things.

所以你根據你的感覺，根據他們精心挑選的東西做出決定。

I know. I've talked to so many millennials.

我懂。我和很多千禧一代聊過天。

I know somebody who's out of work, really depressed and yet she goes and does all these things, so she has the appearance of this amazing successful life.

我認識一個失業且感到非常沮喪的人，但她卻參與了各種活動，所以她看起來過著成功的生活。

And so she may be making those decisions based on what her friends who knows what sort of weird, twisted, exaggerated, you know, circle of depression this is forming.

因此，她可能根據她的朋友的想法做出這些決定，不知道這種奇怪、扭曲、夸張的抑鬱循環正在形成什麼樣的影響。

So go back to the rules of the infinite game.

那麼回到無窮遊戲的規則。

Your friends are there to admire. Your friends are there to say, God, I'm so happy for them.

你的朋友是用來欣賞的。你的朋友是用來說：「天啊，我為他們感到如此開心。」

What are they doing that I can learn from?

他們正在做些什麼，我可以從中學到什麼呢？

I'll give you an example.

我給你舉個例子。

So we can all fall into this trap.

所以我們都可能陷入這個陷阱。

So, you know, in my business, authors and speakers and folks like us, we're all comparing ourselves to each other and sometimes it can get silly and competitive.

在我的行業中，像作家、演講者以及像我們這樣的人，我們都在互相比較，有時可能變得愚蠢和競爭。

And there was, you know, sometimes I go on Amazon, I check the rankings of my books to see that I still have a job.

有時我會上亞馬遜，檢查我的書的排名，看看我是否還在榜上。

And now and then, there was this one author who I hated for no reason.

偶爾，有這樣一位作者，我毫無理由地討厭他。

He's very smart.

他非常聰明。

His work is incredibly good.

他的作品好得令人難以置信。

He's incredibly well-respected. I respect him, but I hate him.

他非常受人尊敬。我尊重他，但我討厭他。

And I would check the rankings of his books.

我會檢查他的書的排名。

And when I was ahead, I'd be like, "Yes."

當我領先時，我會說：「好耶。」

And when he was ahead, I was like.

當他領先時，我會很憤怒。

It would drive me crazy.

這會讓我發瘋。

And I had this weird abstract competition, same thing, right?

我和他產生了一種奇怪的抽象競爭感，同樣的道理，對吧？

Social media happened to be Amazon rankings and I would check in all the time.

社交媒體就好像亞馬遜排名，我經常查看。

I'd always check in, mine, his, mine, his, nobody else, just mine and his.

我總是會查看，我的，他的，我的，他的，沒有其他人，只有我和他。

Anyway, we were... I was at an event and we were interviewed together on the same stage and the interviewer decided to let us introduce each other.

無論如何，我當時參加了一個活動，我們在同一個舞台上接受了採訪，採訪者決定讓我們互相介紹。

So I went first.

我先說。

I had to introduce him and this is what I said, I looked at him and I said, "You make me very insecure."

我不得不介紹他，這是我說的話，我看著他說：「你讓我感到非常不安。」

I said, "Because all of your strengths are all of my weaknesses and every time I see you do well, it just reminds me what I'm bad at."

我繼續說：「因為你的所有優勢都是我的所有弱點，每次看到你做得好，都讓我想起我不擅長的地方。」

That's how I opened up.

我就這樣開場。

He turned to me and he said, "Funny, I feel the same way about you."

他轉過身來對我說，：「有趣地是，我對你也有同樣的感覺。」

And now we love each other because I realized that he's really good at what I'm bad at.

現在我們欣賞彼此，因為我意識到他在我不擅長的方面真的很出色。

So by me getting to know him and really learning to love him, I'm realizing I'm getting better at those things and I'm taking more pride in the things that I'm good at,

透過了解他並真心喜愛他，我發現自己在那些方面變得更強，並對我擅長的事物感到更自豪。

rather than thinking I have to be good at everything he's good at.

而不是認為我必須在他擅長的每件事上都表現得很好。

Right?

對吧？

So that is healthy to grow our own strengths and rather than be intimidated by the strengths of others.

這是健康的，我們應該發展自己的優勢，而不是被別人的優勢嚇到。