Especially coming from your boyfriend.

尤其是男朋友傳的。

Kevin was this awesome guy I met online.

Kevin 是我在網路上認識的一個很好的男生。

He went to another school and he had a cool car.

他在另一所學校上學，有一輛很酷的車。

We talked all the time.

我們一直在聊天。

He made me feel good.

他讓我感覺很好。

He was like my own private adventure.

他就像是我的私人冒險一樣。

It was exciting and fun.

這很令人興奮和有趣。

When he started asking for revealing pictures, I guess I just thought it was normal.

當他開始要求我拍一些暴露的照片時，我想我一開始只是覺得這很正常。

At first, it was embarrassing.

一開始有點尷尬。

But I was like, it's just a bikini top, and he said he really loved me.

但我當時想，只是一件比基尼上衣，而且他說他真的很愛我。

And yeah, it felt kind of good knowing somebody wanted to see me,

知道有人想看我的感覺還不錯，

epecially when I didn't always feel that good about myself.

尤其是當我對自己沒有那麼有自信的時候。

But it got to be so much pressure.

但壓力變得太大了。

He kept asking for more and for me to take off my bra.

他不停地要求我傳更多，要我把胸罩脫掉。

It made me think about how much I really knew Kevin.

這讓我思考我到底有多瞭解 Kevin。

We'd only actually hung out in person a few times.

我們只見過幾次面。

The last time we ended up at some guy's house party and things got really physical.

上一次，我們參加了一個男人的派對，事情變得非常親密。

I didn't say anything but I kind of felt like that was all he wanted.

我什麼也沒說，但我覺得他想要的就是這些。

A lot of his behavior was coming off so creepy.

他的很多行為都變得不正常了。

When I stopped sending them, he got pissed.

當我停止傳給他時，他生氣了。

I just wanted him to chill out with the requests but he started sending like, immature threats.

我只是希望他停止這些要求，但他開始發一些幼稚的威脅。

Seriously? Really?

認真嗎？真的嗎？

So it was going downhill fast.

所以情況急轉直下。

I tried to ignore him but he was blowing up my phone.

我試著忽視他，但他一直打給我。

Then the plot thickened.

然後，情況變得更復雜了。

Jonathan.

Jonathan。

Hey, Kim.

嘿，Kim。

Have you seen your picture up?

你看到自己的照片了嗎？

Oh my God.

我的天啊。

He posted one of my pictures.

他發了我的一張照片。

I had never felt betrayed like that before.

我從未有過這種被背叛的感覺。

Our private relationship, my trust was being used against me.

我們的私人關係，我的信任被用來對付我。

It was beyond over and I let him know it.

一切都結束了，我讓他知道這一點。

But Kevin still has my photos and I can't control what he does with them.

但 Kevin 仍然擁有我的照片，我無法控制他如何處理這些照片。

I loved how my relationship with him felt so private until it made me feel powerless.

我喜歡我與他的關係感覺如此私密，直到它讓我感到無助。

Be careful, online relationships can be dangerous.

要小心，網路戀愛可能會有危險。

That sense of privacy feels safe and exciting.

這種隱私感既安全又令人興奮。

But that privacy can also isolate you and lead to manipulation.

但這種隱私也會讓你孤立無援，導致被人操縱。

But no matter what you've agreed to in the past, you can change your mind.

但是，無論你們過去同意了什麼，你們都可以改變主意，

And that decision should always be respected.

而且這一決定始終應該得到尊重。

She's right.

她是對的。

Actually, Kim, can I, can I say something?

事實上，Kim，我能說幾句嗎？

Please do.

請說。

If you're the person pressuring someone to do something they're not comfortable with after they've said no, you're acting like a predator.

如果你在別人拒絕後，還強迫他們做他們不喜歡的事，那你的行為就像一個掠奪者。

Being in a relationship means respecting the other person's choices.

戀愛意味著尊重對方的選擇。

And I can't believe I have to say this, but if you're demanding nudes, sharing them or threatening to share them, that's disgusting.

我真不敢相信我必須這麼說，但如果你要求裸照並分享或威脅要分享這些裸照，那就太噁心了。

Not to mention illegal.

更不用說這違法。

Anyone who does that loses all respect.

任何這樣做的人都會失去所有的尊重。

Thanks, Jonathan.

謝謝你，Jonathan。

No problem.

不客氣。

Sorry for interrupting.

抱歉打斷了。

If you find yourself in a similar situation and you're struggling with what to do, talk to someone you trust.

如果你發現自己也遇到了類似的情況，並且正在糾結該怎麼辦，請與你信任的人聊一聊。

What happened to me has been hard to move past, but talking about it has helped a lot.

發生在我身上的事情讓我很難釋懷，但談論這件事對我幫助很大，

And hopefully, it can help you too.

希望也能對你有所幫助。