Do you have a hard time in the dating world?

你在約會方面有遇到困難嗎？

Maybe you feel you don't have the good looks to attract others romantically.

也許你認為自己的外表不好，無法吸引別人。

But people don't just look for a captivating face when searching for a potential partner.

但是人們在尋找潛在伴侶時並非只有看重迷人的外貌。

When looking for a great partner, they want someone with a great personality, someone they connect with.

當尋找一個好的伴侶時，他們想要的是一個有著好個性的人，一個他們可以產生連結的人。

It's wise to remember appearance isn't everything.

記住，外表不是一切。

But maybe you are searching for some tips on how to be attractive, tips that have nothing to do with looks at all.

但也許你正在尋找一些關於如何變得有吸引力的小撇步，而這些小撇步與外表無關。

Then you're in the right place.

那麼你來對地方了。

Here are some tips on how to be attractive without simply having good looks.

以下是一些關於如何在沒有好外表的情況下變得有吸引力的小方法。

Number one, be a leader

第一，成為一個領導者。

In a study group with your crush, taking the lead might be a way to impress them.

在與你心儀的人一起學習時，帶領他們可能是一種讓他們印象深刻的方式。

In a 2014 study, researchers explored whether feelings towards other people influence the perception of others' attractiveness.

在一項 2014 年的研究中，研究人員探討了感覺對其他人的態度是否影響了對其他人吸引力的看法。

Having their subjects in groups, they found subordinates rated their group leader as significantly more attractive than leaders outside their group.

他們讓受試者分組，發現隊員認為他們的小組隊長比其他小組的隊長更有吸引力。

So how can you show your crush that you're a leader?

那麼你該如何向你的暗戀對象表現出你是一個領導者呢？

Guide the next group project, throw out some ideas, teach others.

帶領下一個小組項目吧，並提出一些想法，教導其他人。

There are many ways you can prove that you're a capable and apparently attractive group leader.

有很多方法可以證明你是一個有能力和有吸引力的小組領導者。

Number two, show you're available.

第二，表現出你是單身。

This is one of the main signs to gain someone's romantic interest.

這是可以讓別人對自己有興趣的主要跡象之一。

Show that you're open to dating them.

表明你願意跟他們約會。

Author Nicholas Booth writes in his book, How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You in 90 Minutes or Less, notes that psychologist Dr. Monica Moore found that it's not always the good-looking who get approached the most.

作者尼古拉斯·布斯在他的書《如何在90分鐘或更短的時間內讓某人愛上你》中指出，心理學家莫妮卡·摩爾發現，並非總是長得好看的人才會得到最多人的青睞，

The ones who signal their availability and confidence through basic flirting techniques, like eye contact and smiles.

就是那些會利用基本的調情技巧，如眼神接觸和微笑，表現出接受約會和有自信的人。

Just signaling your interest in someone gets you halfway there, whether you're a man or a woman.

只要表明你對某人有興趣，無論性別，你都已經成功了一半。

Number three, own a pet.

第三，養寵物。

If you've been thinking about adopting a pet, now is the time, my friend.

如果你一直有在考慮養寵物，那現在就是時候了，我的朋友。

In 2008, two French social psychologists decided to conduct an experiment.

在 2008 年，兩位法國社會心理學家決定進行一個實驗，

They had a dashing young Frenchman named Antoine approached 240 random chosen women to ask for their phone number in hopes of a date.

他們讓一位英俊的年輕法國男子 Antoine，向 240 位隨機選擇的女性索要他們的電話號碼，希望能與其約會。

Half of the women were approached by just Antoine.

有一半的女性是 Antoine 獨自一人接近的。

The other half, Antoine approached them with an adorably great dog named Gwendu by his side.

另一半女性，Antoine 則是帶著一隻可愛的狗狗 Gwendu 接近她們。

A small 10% of women gave Antoine their number when he was alone, but Antoine's odds went up to 30% when Gwendu was his wingman.

只有 10% 的女性在 Antoine 獨自一人時給了他電話號碼，但當 Gwendo 成為他的搭擋時，Antoine 的機會增加到了 30%。

This is likely due to the idea that owning a pet shows that you can handle responsibility, you're caring, committed and dogs are just really cute.

這可能是因為養寵物表明你能承擔責任，有愛心，有責任心，而且狗狗真的很可愛。

Need further proof a pet will make you more approachable?

需要更多證據證明擁有寵物會讓你更易於親近嗎？

In a research study led by University of Nevada Las Vegas, anthropologist Peter Gray found that 36% of men and 35% of women were more attracted to someone who owned a pet.

在內華達大學拉斯維加斯分校的一項研究中，人類學家彼得·格雷領導了一項研究，發現 36% 的男性和 35% 的女性更喜歡擁有寵物的人。

If you adopt a rescue animal, your odds only grow.

如果你收養了一隻救援動物，你的機會更只會增加。

49% of men and 64% of women were more attracted to someone who adopted a pet.

49% 的男性和 64% 的女性更喜歡收養寵物的人。

Also, if you don't like pets, then it doesn't look too good for you.

而且，如果你不喜歡寵物，那情況可不太妙。

54% of men and 75% of women said they wouldn't consider dating someone who didn't like pets at all.

54% 的男性和 75% 的女性說他們不會考慮跟討厭寵物的人約會。

Come on, not even a pet chinchilla? They're so fluffy.

拜託！連寵物龍貓都不喜歡嗎？。牠們這麼毛茸茸耶。

Number four, play a ausical instrument.

第四，演奏音樂。

A 2014 research study found that those who could compose and play complex music were seen as more attractive by women.

一項 2014 年的研究發現，那些能創作和演奏複雜音樂的人在女性眼中更有吸引力。

According to the lead researcher at the University College Dublin, the ability to create complex music could be indicative of advanced cognitive abilities.

據都柏林大學的首席研究員稱，創作複雜音樂的能力可能代表高級的認知能力。

They go on to say that consequently, women may acquire genetic benefits for offspring by selecting musicians able to create more complex music as sexual partners.

他們接著說，因此，女性通過選擇能夠創作更複雜音樂的音樂家作為性伴侣，可能會獲得後代的基因優勢。

Time to get to practicing.

該練習演奏樂器了。

Number five, show confidence and open body language.

第五，表現出自信和開放的身體語言。

You ever heard confidence is key?

你有沒有聽說過自信是關鍵？

Well, it may just be helpful in finding a romantic partner.

它對於尋找戀愛伴侶也可能有幫助喔。

Displaying a bit of confidence is often seen as attractive. Why?

展現出一點自信通常被認為是有吸引力的。為什麼呢？

Well, everyone wants to be confident, so seeing someone who is is admirable.

因為每個人都想要自信，所以看到自信的人會讓人欽佩。

One way you can appear more confident is to display open body language, keep your chest and torso more open and try not to cross your arms as much.

你可以顯得更有自信的一種方式是展示開放的身體語言，讓胸部和身體保持開放，盡量不要雙手插著。

Closed body language can give off the impression that you aren't available or simply don't want to talk.

封閉的身體語言會給人一種你非單身或不想交談的印象。

And remember, availability is key.

同時，要記住，表現出「我是單身」很重要。

Number six, don't just use small talk.

第六點，不要只聊些無關緊要的話題。

Research from Harvard found that deep conversations and meaningfully talking about yourself can help activate the very same regions of your brain (that) delicious food or sex activates.

哈佛大學的研究發現，深入的對話和有意義的自我談話可以幫助刺激大腦跟美味的食物或性刺激相同的區域。

The study states that over a 45-minute period, subject pairs carried out self-disclosure and relationship-building tasks that gradually escalated in intensity.

研究指出，在 45 分鐘的時間內，研究對象進行了自我披露和建立關係的任務並逐漸加深聊天的內容。

Study one found greater post-interaction closeness with these tasks versus comparable small talk tasks.

第一個研究發現，與閒聊相比，這些任務可以產生更多的互動親密感。

So it might be a great idea to get into those deep engaging discussions on your next date, as opposed to the weather.

因此，在下一次約會中進行深入的有意義的對話，而不是只是聊天天氣，可能是一個好主意。

And number seven, hang around a group of friends.

第七，跟一群朋友玩在一起。

Research shows that people tend to find others more attractive when they're in groups rather than on their own.

研究表明，人們往往會認為一個人在群體中比獨自一人更有吸引力。

This is called the cheerleader effect and has been proven through tests by psychologists to be consistent.

這被稱為啦啦隊效應，經過心理學家的測試證明是一致的。

Researchers Edward Vall and Drew Walker of the University of California San Diego conducted five experiments where subjects would rate people based on photographs of them.

聖地牙哥加利福尼亞大學的 Edward Vall 和 Drew Walker 進行了五個實驗，讓受試者根據照片對人進行評分。

They found that subjects rated people more attractive when they were pictured in a group of the same gender, compared to an individual photograph of someone pictured alone.

他們發現，當人們在同性別的群體中出現時，他們會比獨自一人的照片更有吸引力。

As the study suggests, individual faces will seem more attractive when presented in a group because they will appear more similar to the average group face, which is more attractive than group members' individual faces.

正如研究表明的那樣，個人面孔在群體中出現時會顯得更有吸引力，因為看起來與普通群體面孔更相似，比群體成員的個人面孔更具吸引力。

So if you see a cute individual at a bar or a dinner party, it might be worth it to go get them to notice you first while you're chatting with your group of friends

所以，如果你在酒吧或晚宴上看到一個迷人的對象，當你正在和你的朋友聊天時，讓他們先注意到你可能是值得的。

And it never hurts to bring a lot of wingmen, especially if it's your French dog, Gwendu.

帶一些朋友幫忙搭訕並不會有什麼壞處，尤其如果其中一個朋友是你的法鬥 Gwendu 的話。

So which tips will you use to appear more attractive to others?

你會使用哪些技巧來讓自己對他人更具吸引力呢？

Is there someone you're hoping to impress?

你是否希望給哪個人留下好印象嗎？

Has your pet helped you get a date before?

你的寵物以前幫助你得到約會的機會嗎？

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在下面的評論中與我們分享。

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如果你喜歡這個影片，別忘了按讚並跟朋友分享。

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非常感謝你的觀看。