Name: 生物人學者だけど「愛について」質問ある？ | 技術支援 | WIRED.jp (生物人類学者だけど「愛について」質問ある？ | Tech Support | WIRED.jp)
Uploaded: 2022-12-26T18:26:19.000Z
Duration: 13 min 21 s

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The human brain is not built to deal with more than about 5-9 options after that the brain just spaces out.

人類的大腦不可能處理超過5-9個選項，之後大腦就會失去作用。

Helen Fisher, I'm a biological anthropologist.

海倫-費希爾，我是一名生物人類學家。

I study love and this is love support this person calls herself ruth.

我研究愛，這就是愛的支持，這個人稱自己為魯特。

Bader Love at first sight is probably right wrong.

貝德 一見鍾情可能是正確的錯誤。

Love at first sight is extremely easy to explain.

It's like the fear system or the anger system and it can be triggered instantly.

這就像恐懼系統或憤怒系統一樣，它可以被瞬間觸發。

You got to be ready for it and we all carry in our head what I call a love map an unconscious and conscious list of what you're looking for in a partner.

你必須做好準備，我們都在腦子裡裝著我稱之為愛情地圖的東西，一個無意識和有意識的清單，列出你在伴侶中尋找的東西。

But the moment comes, you're ready to fall in love.

但這一時刻的到來，你已經準備好墜入愛河。

You see somebody from across the crowd room or wherever they fit within your love map.

你從人群的另一端看到某人，或者他們在你的愛情地圖中適合的地方。

You go over and you speak to them, they smile sweetly at you.

你走過去和他們說話，他們對你甜甜地笑。

They say something that's funny or charming or interesting and boom instantly triggered that brain circuitry for romantic love attachment.

他們說了一些有趣的或迷人的或有趣的東西，嘣的一聲，立即觸發了浪漫愛情依戀的腦回路。

You have to get to know somebody to begin to feel attachment.

你必須瞭解某人，才能開始感到依戀。

Yes, this is from Celine who created love.

是的，這是來自創造了愛情的席琳。

Well love evolved from millions of years.

好吧，愛情是由數百萬年的時間演變而來的。

We have formed partnerships, pair bonding or monogamy mono means one and gamma mean spouse.

我們已經形成了夥伴關係，成對結合或一夫一妻制，mono是指一個，gamma是指配偶。

這就是它對科學家的全部意義。

People are also adulterous but they form partnerships, 97% of mammals do not pair up to rear their young people do.

人也是通姦的，但他們形成了夥伴關係，97%的哺乳動物不配對養育它們的孩子，人則是。

And along with the evolution of pair bonding came the evolution of the human brain systems for the sex drive.

伴隨著成對結合的進化，人類大腦中的性慾系統也隨之進化。

Romantic love and feelings of deep attachment.

浪漫的愛情和深深的依戀的感覺。

I and my colleagues have put 15 people into a brain scanner who had just been rejected in love and the brain goes that's the wiring just goes crazy.

我和我的同事把15個剛剛在愛情中被拒絕的人放入大腦掃描儀中，大腦的線路就會變得瘋狂。

I mean when you're madly in love with somebody and you've been dumped, it's one of the worst experiences.

我的意思是，當你瘋狂地愛上某人，而你被甩了，這是最糟糕的經歷之一。

I mean people painful love, they live for love, they kill for love and they die for love.

我的意思是人們痛苦的愛，他們為愛而活，為愛而殺，為愛而死。

And I do think that it is an addiction because we found activity in a particular brain region.

而且我確實認為這是一種成癮，因為我們在一個特定的腦區發現了活動。

That particular brain region is active in all of the addictions, all the substance addictions, all the behavioral addictions like gambling and it becomes just as active when you've been rejected in love and when this person says this ship is too much to handle but we all do handle it.

這個特殊的大腦區域在所有的成癮中都很活躍，所有的物質成癮，所有的行為成癮，如賭博，當你在愛情中被拒絕時，當這個人說這艘船太難處理時，它也會變得同樣活躍，但我們都會處理。

The vast majority of us do get over it and I've been able to prove in the brain that time does heal because it is our survival.

我們中的絕大多數人確實能克服它，我已經能夠在大腦中證明，時間確實能治癒，因為它是我們的生存之道。

It's a survival mechanism and evolved millions of years ago and it will be with us millions of years from now.

這是一種生存機制，在幾百萬年前就已經進化了，幾百萬年後它也會伴隨著我們。

Romantic love is primordial, it's adaptable and it's eternal.

浪漫的愛是原始的，它是可適應的，它是永恆的。

So this ship will always be too much to handle.

是以，這艘船總是讓人難以應付。

How to try and fall in love during a pandemic dating apps aren't really doing it, they're doing it for a lot of people.

如何在大流行期間嘗試談戀愛，約會應用程序並沒有真正做到這一點，它們為很多人做了這件事。

About 40% of singles in America said that they met their last first date on the internet.

美國約有40%的單身人士表示，他們在互聯網上遇到了他們最後的第一次約會。

They hear the too thick mistakes that they make.

他們聽到自己犯的太厚的錯誤。

Perhaps this person is making them to first mistake, is there the human brain is not built to deal with more than about 5 to 9 options After that the brain just spaces out.

也許這個人正在讓他們犯第一個錯誤，人類的大腦不能處理超過5到9個選項，之後大腦就會空出來。

So the first thing that you've got to do is after you've met nine people and that's what this person needs to do.

是以，你要做的第一件事是在你遇到九個人之後，這就是這個人需要做的事。

Get off the internet, say get off of it and get to know at least one of these people better.

離開互聯網，說離開就離開，至少要對這些人中的一個人有更多的瞭解。

The more you get to know somebody, the better you tend to like.

你越是瞭解某人，你就越是傾向於喜歡。

Think of reasons to say yes yes instead of no, we have this big brain region linked with negativity bias were built to remember the negative and when you have just met somebody, you know so little about them that you overweight.

想一想說 "是 "而不是 "不 "的理由，我們有一個與消極偏見有關的大腦區，是為了記住消極的東西，當你剛認識某人時，你對他的瞭解太少，以至於你的體重過重。

Those few things that you know, and so you'll say, oh I don't know, she likes cats.

你知道的那幾件事，所以你會說，哦，我不知道，她喜歡貓。

Think of reasons to say yes, I call it positive illusions, the ability to overlook what you don't like about somebody and focus on what you do.

想一想說 "是 "的理由，我稱它為積極的幻想，即忽略你不喜歡某人的地方而專注於你喜歡的地方的能力。

This is from somebody called the jinn bunny to.

Alas, you can, you know, these are different brain systems, sex drive and romantic love or different brain systems and you can be madly in love with somebody and also sleep around.

唉，你可以，你知道，這些是不同的大腦系統，性慾和浪漫的愛情或不同的大腦系統，你可以瘋狂地愛上某人，也可以到處睡覺。

As a matter of fact, I do think that the brain is unfortunately built for both.

事實上，我確實認為大腦很不幸是為這兩種情況而建的。

I've looked at adultery in 40 cultures and you see it everywhere in the world, even in places where you could get your head chopped off for it, we seem to have the ability to be madly in love with some person and deeply attached to that person and also sneak around.

我研究過40種文化中的通姦行為，你在世界任何地方都能看到它，甚至在那些你可能是以而被砍頭的地方，我們似乎有能力瘋狂地愛著某個人，並深深地依戀著那個人，同時也偷偷摸摸地。

I call it a dual human reproductive strategy, tremendous drive to fall in love former partnership and have your babies and also to cheat.

我稱其為人類的雙重生殖策略，巨大的驅動力讓我們愛上了以前的夥伴關係，生下了你的孩子，同時也讓我們的孩子出軌。

Gavino google search, how does attraction work?

加維諾谷歌搜索，吸引力是如何運作的？

Why do you fall in love with one person rather than another?

為什麼你會愛上一個人而不是另一個人？

There's all kinds of cultural reasons that we tend to fall in love with the time, I mean is right.

有各種各樣的文化原因，我們往往會愛上這個時間，我的意思是對的。

We tend to fall in love with somebody who's around proximity is important.

我們傾向於愛上某個人，他周圍的接近度很重要。

We tend to fall in love with somebody from the same ethnic and socioeconomic background, somebody of the same level of education and there's four basic brain systems that each one of them is associated with a constellation a suite, a group of personality traits.

我們傾向於與來自相同種族和社會經濟背景的人相愛，與具有相同教育水準的人相愛，有四個基本的大腦系統，每個系統都與一個星座、一套、一組人格特徵相關。

Dopamine serotonin testosterone and estrogen systems.

多巴胺-血清素-睪酮和雌激素系統。

I created a questionnaire to see to what degree you express the traits in all four of these basic brain systems has now been taken by over 15 million people in 40 countries and I'm able to watch who's naturally drawn to whom.

我創建了一個調查問卷，看看你在多大程度上表達了這四個基本大腦系統的特徵，現在已經有40個國家的1500多萬人參加了調查，我能夠觀察到誰會自然地被誰吸引。

If you're very high on the traits in the dopamine system, risk taking novelty, seeking, curious, creative, you tend to be drawn to people like yourself.

如果你在多巴胺系統中的特質非常高，冒險新奇，尋求，好奇，有創造力，你往往會被像你一樣的人吸引。

If you are very high on the traits of the serotonin system, you tend to be traditional, conventional.

如果你在血清素系統的特質上非常高，你就會傾向於傳統、常規。

Follow the rules, respect, authority, detail oriented rather than theoretical.

遵循規則，尊重，權威，注重細節而不是理論。

You're also drawn to people like yourself.

So if you're very high testosterone, you tend to be analytical, logical, direct decisive, good at things like math, engineering, computers, music, music is very structural and you're drawn to your opposite high estrogen people and this is man as well as women.

是以，如果你是非常高的睪丸激素，你傾向於分析、邏輯、直接果斷，擅長數學、工程、計算機、音樂等事情，音樂是非常結構性的，你會被你對面的高雌激素的人吸引，這是男人也是女人。

Many more women in that category, they tend to see the big picture.

這類人中有很多女性，她們往往能看到大局。

They think long term, they're very imaginative, very good at reading, posture, gesture, tone of voice.

他們考慮得很長遠，他們非常有想象力，非常善於閱讀，姿態，手勢，語氣。

This is what the problem is with most personality question today, they put you in one bucket or another, we express all four brain systems and the traits in each, but we express some more than others.

這就是今天大多數人格問題的問題所在，他們把你放在一個桶裡或另一個桶裡，我們表達所有四個大腦系統和每個系統的特徵，但我們表達一些比其他更多。

Now there's all kinds of circumstances where people are drawn to their opposite in ways because they had a battle of affair, They've been running around all their lives and now they want something more stable.

現在有各種各樣的情況，人們被吸引到他們的對面，因為他們有一場外遇之戰，他們一生都在奔波，現在他們想要更穩定的東西。

So they go for the traditional, even if they're very risk taking this human variety.

所以他們去找傳統的，即使是非常冒險的這個人類品種。

But the bottom line is there's patterns to culture, there's patterns to nature and there's patterns to personality.

但底線是文化有模式，自然有模式，人格有模式。

This is from sad short friend to how does someone know if they're feeling romantic or platonic attraction?

這是從悲傷的短友到有人如何知道他們是否感到浪漫或柏拉圖式的吸引？

There's a little list of traits that are associated with feelings of romantic love and they are not associated with platonic attraction.

有一個與浪漫愛情的感覺相關的小清單，它們與柏拉圖式的吸引沒有關係。

The first thing that happens when you fall in love is somebody takes on special meaning everything about them becomes special.

當你墜入愛河時，發生的第一件事是某人具有特殊的意義，他們的一切都變得特殊。

The car they drive looks different from every other car in the parking lot, the house that they live in the street that they live on, the music that they like when it's a platonic, not everything is special about this human being, you like them.

他們開的車看起來和停車場裡的其他車都不一樣，他們住的房子，他們住的街道，他們喜歡的音樂，當是柏拉圖式的，不是這個人的一切都很特別，你喜歡他們。

I mean you're attracted to them, you'll find them amusing or funny or interesting, but you don't you don't you're not obsessed with them.

我的意思是你被他們吸引，你會發現他們很有趣，或者很好玩，或者很有意思，但是你不會你不會你不會迷戀他們。

But if you have to think about one, just one trait that is most distinctive between the two.

但是，如果你必須考慮一個，只是一個在兩者之間最獨特的特徵。

When you're madly in love with somebody in the romantic attraction, you are obsessed and in a platonic attraction, you don't think about them night and day, this person is reprogrammed coach is online dating killing romance.

當你在浪漫的吸引力中瘋狂地愛上某人時，你會迷戀，而在柏拉圖式的吸引力中，你不會夜以繼日地想著他們，這個人被重新編程的教練是網上約會殺死浪漫的。

This is a basic brain system, it evolved millions of years ago, it's like hunger or thirst or anger or fear.

這是一個基本的大腦系統，它在幾百萬年前就已經進化了，它就像飢餓或口渴或憤怒或恐懼。

我的下一個目標是來自於需要一個更好的。

I wonder what's actually going on through our bodies when we think we're in love, like what chemicals are enhanced.

我想知道，當我們認為自己在戀愛時，我們的身體究竟發生了什麼，比如哪些化學物質被增強了。

I and my colleagues have put over 100 people into a brain scanner who were madly in love.

我和我的同事已經把100多個瘋狂戀愛的人放進了大腦掃描儀。

The first group were people who were happily in love.

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