I promise you, even people that care about you will inadvertently waste a decade of your life if you let them.

我跟你保重，如果你放任的話，即使是關心你的人也會無意中浪費你十年的生命。

And they will still care about you and they'll still say they love you and they'll still feel guilty about it afterwards, but it won't stop them (from) doing it.

他們還是會在乎你、說愛你，在事後也會感到愧疚，但這不會阻止他們浪費你的時間。

Because people do what's comfortable for them, not what's right for you.

因為人會做對自己，而不是對你有利的事情。

You know, the people you surround yourself with have a phenomenal impact on your life.

你身邊的人會對你的生活產生很深刻的影響。

The people we're surrounded by have a greater bearing on our life and our success in life than what's built into the genes at birth.

我們周圍的人對我們的生活和我們的成就的影響比出生時植入的基因的影響更大。

There's genetic conditioning, there's environmental conditioning. Well, this environmental conditioning goes on all the way through life.

有遺傳因素，有環境因素。 但環境因素會影響人的一生。

You will find as you improve the quality of your life, improve your thinking, you're gonna attract a different group of people into your life. And they are going to add to your life.

你會發現，當你提高生活品質，改善你的思維時，你會吸引不同的人進入你的生命。 他們會成為你生活中的一部分。

See, the people we're surrounded by, their thinking is going right into our mind.

我們周圍的人的想法會影響我們的思緒。

We want to mix with people who are really making it happen.

我們想和那些對的人混在一起。

Take a look at your five people that you're with most often, and ask yourself, if I have children, would I want them to grow up be like that?

看看你最常與之相處的五個人，問問自己，如果我有孩子，我是否希望他們長大會像這些朋友。

If the answer's no, you better start looking for some new friends.

如果答案是否定的，你最好開始尋找一些新的朋友。

If the answer's yes, you're already in the right circle of people.

如果答案是肯定的，你已經在正確的圈子裡了。

Think about what I'm saying. The people we're surrounded with have a phenomenal impact on our life and help make us who we are.

想想我說的：我們周遭的人對我們的生活有深刻的影響，幫助我們成就自己。

If you have a piece of really good news, a really true good friend will mirror and match that excitement with you.

如果你有一個好消息，真心的好朋友會同樣為你感到興奮。

Someone who's not as happy for you will come in with dream killer questions.

一個不那麼為你高興的人，會提出潑你冷水的問題。

What kind of person am I becoming because of this relationship?

因為這段關係，我成為什麼樣的人？

Is it helping me to grow mentally and emotionally and spiritually?

它是否在精神上、情感上和心靈上幫助我成長？

Am I becoming a better person because of this relationship?

我是否因為這段友誼關係而成為一個更好的人？

Do they bring out the best in me?

他們是否讓我能將最好的一面展現出來？

Do they inspire me?

他們是否激勵了我？

Do they encouraged me to develop my greatness?

他們有鼓勵我發展我的優點嗎？

Do they make me stretch?

他們有讓我發揮能力嗎？

See, you've got to look at the people in your life and find out, what kind of person are you becoming because of that relationship?

你得看看你生活中的人，並找出你因為這段關係而成為什麼樣的人。

If you don't get the wrong people out of your life, you'll never meet the right ones.

如果你不把錯的人趕出你的生活，你就永遠不會遇到正確的人。

You deserve to be around people who support you.

你應該和支持你的人在一起。

You are worthy of incredible relationships.

你值得擁有美好的關係。

The life you want is going to require you to say no.

你想要的生活需要你學會說不。

Saying no, doesn't make you a bad person. It doesn't make you selfish.

拒絕不會讓你成為糟糕的人，也不會讓你成為自私的人。

In fact, it makes you confident, it makes you strong and it makes you honest.

事實上，它會讓你有自信、讓你堅強、讓你誠實。