Toxic traits aren't always obvious.

毒性特徵並不總是很明顯。

They can go unchecked for a while, it can be challenging to look inwards and consider whether you have these traits,

這些徵兆可能不被察覺好一陣子，向內自省並思考自己是否有這些特徵可能有挑戰性，

but it can also give you the opportunity to become a better friend, family member and significant other.

但這是個讓你成為更好朋友、同事、家人和另一半的機會。

In this video, we'll be learning about six signs that you're becoming a toxic person.

今天的影片中，我們將了解正在成為「有毒人」的六個跡象。

If you notice you have some of these tendencies, there's no need to feel down on yourself.

如果你注意到你有其中一些傾向，沒必要對自己感到失望。

The goal is to help you reflect and see if there are any areas for improvement in your communication style or behaviors that you could benefit from changing.

重要的是幫助你反思，看看你的溝通風格或行為是否有需要改進，而你可以從改變中受益。

So, let's jump into it.

開始吧。

Number one, you're argumentative.

第一，好辯。

Do you find yourself constantly getting into arguments or feeling excited when a conflict arises?

你是否發現自己經常陷入爭論，或在衝突發生時感到興奮？

If so, you could be acting in a toxic manner to those around you by causing unnecessary disagreements.

如果是這樣，你的行為很可能危害周遭的人，造成不必要的分歧。

Of course, it's normal to argue occasionally with the people in your life, disagreements happen from time to time.

當然，生活中偶爾與人爭吵是正常的，分歧時常會有。

But if it's a constant pattern and you find it hard to keep your relationships peaceful, it may be worth considering whether you're starting fights that could be avoided.

但是，如果這是常態，你發現自己很難保持和平關係，那可能得思考自己是否會挑起可避免的爭吵。

Number two, you never own up to mistakes.

第二，從不承認錯誤。

We all make mistakes and sometimes even hurt people unintentionally.

我們都會犯錯，有時甚至會無意中傷害別人。

But the way we act after these slip ups can make a huge difference in our relationships.

但在這些失誤後的行為會大大的影響人際關係。

How do you respond in these situations?

在這些情況下，你是如何應對的？

One telltale sign that you can't admit to your wrongdoings is that you often say, "I'm sorry that you feel..." instead of saying "I'm sorry that I..."

不承認自己錯誤的其中一個信號是，你經常說：「我很抱歉，你覺得...」而不是「我很抱歉，我...」

Instead of taking responsibility and apologizing when you mess up, you might tend to shift the blame to someone or something else.

當你搞砸的時候，你可能傾向把責任推給別人或其他東西，而不是承擔責任和道歉。

One way to avoid this toxic behavior is to listen to someone else's concerns before you become defensive and focus on fixing the issue at hand rather than being right.

避免這種有毒行為的方法之一是在起防衛心前先傾聽別人的擔憂，專注於解決手頭的問題而不堅持自己正確。

Number three, you can't seem to avoid drama.

第三，似乎無法避開戲劇性場面。

If you always find yourself in drama, whether it's at work, school, or in your personal life,

如果發現自己總是處在戲劇性場面中心，無論是在工作、學校，還是個人生活中，

it can be helpful to self reflect and ask why.

自我反思並探詢緣由會有幫助。

Is everyone else in the wrong or is there something you can change to maintain more peaceful relationships?

是他人的錯，還是你有些地方需要改變才能維持更和平的關係？

Some people have different personalities and just don't get along.

有些人是性格不同，無法相處。

But there may also be a different cause,

但也可能是不同的原因。

for example, does drama make you feel important because the attention is on you?

例如，戲劇場面讓你覺得自己很重要，因為注意力都集中在你身上？

Does it entertain you?

這些鬧劇讓你開心嗎？

If so, this could be a toxic behavior that may have a negative effect on you and others in your life.

如果是這樣，這可能是種有毒行為，可能對你和你生活中的人產生負面影響。

Number four, you are jealous and possessive.

第四，嫉妒心和佔有慾。

You find yourself getting jealous of your friends or partners?

發現自己嫉妒朋友或伴侶？

To consider this question further, notice how you feel when people you're close to hang out with others.

進一步了解這個問題，注意親近的人與其他人相處時，自己的感覺如何。

If you feel a sense of possessiveness or have the urge to control them,

如果感覺到佔有慾或有控制他們的衝動。

this could be a toxic behavior to monitor more closely.

這可能是需密切監控的有毒行為。

Communicating openly with your friends or partner about setting reasonable boundaries can be beneficial.

與朋友或伴侶攤開來溝通，並設定合理邊界會有幫助。

It's also important to be self aware when feelings of jealousy come up.

嫉妒的感覺出現時，自我意識也很重要。

Remember just because a friend enjoys hanging out with someone else, that doesn't mean your relationship is less important to them?

請記住，朋友喜歡和別人一起玩，並不意味你們的關係對他們來說不那麼重要了。

Number five, you are overly competitive

第五，爭強好鬥。

Under normal circumstances, competition is healthy.

正常情況下，競爭是健康的。

Most of us want to excel and feel like we are above average, but it's also important to celebrate other's success and lift them up,

大多數人都想出人頭地，高於平均，但慶祝他人的成功並鼓勵他們也很重要。

especially those you love.

特別是對你所愛的人。

How do you feel when you hear about a loved one's success?

當聽到親人成功時，你有什麼感覺？

Are you happy for them or do you feel the need to downplay it?

你是為他們高興，還是覺得有必要淡化它？

If you find yourself diminishing others wins and only celebrating your own, you might be engaging in toxic behaviors.

如果你發現自己貶低別人的勝利，只慶祝自己的，你可能正在毒害他人。

There is room for all of us to win.

成功機會很夠的。

Everyone's journey is different and others accomplishments don't take away from your own.

每個人的旅程都不同，別人的成就不會影響你的成就。

Then, number six, you are extremely critical of others.

第六，對他人極為挑剔。

When you have a close relationship with someone, you might poke fun at each other every once in a while.

當你與某人關係密切時，你可能會偶爾取笑一下對方。

This might even be a way to bond with your friend or partner to show how comfortable you are with them,

這甚至可能是種與朋友或伴侶聯繫感情方式，體現你與他們的關係是多融洽。

but you might cross a line and make someone feel negative about themselves.

但你可能會越線，讓別人自卑。

When you point out someone's flaws, it can sometimes do more harm than good.

指出某人缺陷時，有時造成的傷害會比益處更多。

These criticisms don't always have to be serious mocking people or speaking in a disrespectful tone, whether it's sarcasm or not can be a toxic way of communicating.

這些苛責不一定是嚴肅的，嘲笑別人或用不尊重的語氣說話，無論是否是諷刺，都可能是毒性溝通方式。

If you catch yourself cracking jokes or making comments that tear others down,

如果發現自己在嘲笑或發表貶低別人的言論，

ask yourself whether it could be affecting their self esteem.

問問自己，這是否會影響他們的自尊心。

So, did you relate to any of these points?

你是否有以上提到這些情況呢？

If you made it to the end of this video, take a moment to appreciate yourself for learning more about toxic traits and considering where you can improve in your relationships.

如果看到了這支影片的最後，花點時間讚賞自己學習了更多毒性特徵的知識，且有思考在自己在關係中哪些方面能有所改進吧。

That in itself is an achievement.

這本身就是項成就了。

Whether you recognize any of these traits in yourself or not, remember that everyone has room to improve.

無論你是否在自己身上看到這些特徵，請記住，每個人都有改進的空間。

Your desire to reflect on your own habits will make you a better friend, co-worker, family member, you name it.

有反思的想法將使你成為一個更好的朋友、同事、家人，任何角色。

Asking others for feedback on your communication style, including what they want to see you do more or less of can be a simple way to avoid toxic behavior and improve your relationships.

詢問其他人對您的溝通方式的反饋，包括他們希望看到您或多或少做的事情，是避免不良行為和改善人際關係的簡單方法。

If you found this video helpful, like and share it with friends that might find insight in it too.

如果你覺得這支影片有幫助，請點讚並與可能從中得到見解的朋友分享。

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記得訂閱頻道，並開啟小鈴鐺，收取通知。

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謝謝觀看。

Until next time.

下次見。