Maybe you feel self conscious with your partner or you've never had sex and feel anxious about your first time, No matter how experienced you are, today's video may help you become more comfortable with your sexuality, which can play a huge role in your mental health and relationships.

也許你對你的伴侶感到自覺，或者你從來沒有過性行為，對你的第一次感到焦慮，無論你有多大的經驗，今天的視頻可能會幫助你對你的性行為變得更加舒適，這對你的心理健康和關係會起到巨大的作用。

Keep watching to learn five ways.

繼續觀看，瞭解五種方法。

You can become more sexually confident.

你可以變得更有性自信。

Number one, know what you like, What are your greatest fantasies and what things turn you off.

第一，知道你喜歡什麼，你最大的幻想是什麼，什麼東西讓你感到厭惡。

Taking time to think about your likes and dislikes can help boost your sexual confidence.

花點時間思考你的喜好和不喜歡，可以幫助提高你的性自信。

It allows you to communicate your needs to your partner and feel more at ease going into the experience whether you have a partner or not, you can think about what you'd like to try and explore what feels best so that you help someone else satisfy you.

它允許你向你的伴侶傳達你的需求，並感到更安心地去體驗，無論你是否有伴侶，你都可以思考你想嘗試什麼，探索什麼感覺最好，從而幫助別人滿足你。

After all, no one knows your body better than you do.

畢竟，沒有人比你更瞭解你的身體。

Number two communicate with your partner.

第二，與你的伴侶溝通。

Communication is key, especially when it comes to sex to become more sexually confident, Talk to your partner about your preferences and ask them what they're into.

溝通是關鍵，特別是當涉及到性愛時，要變得更有性自信，與你的伴侶談談你的喜好，問問他們喜歡什麼。

The more you understand what your partner likes and dislikes.

你越是瞭解你的伴侶喜歡什麼和不喜歡什麼。

The easier it'll be for you to satisfy them, which in turn, can boost your sexual confidence, starting the conversation can help you feel closer to your partner, both in and out of the bedroom, chances are they'll appreciate you.

你就越容易滿足他們，這反過來可以提高你的性自信，開始談話可以幫助你感到與你的伴侶更親近，無論是在臥室裡還是在臥室外，他們有可能會感激你。

Facilitating an open and honest space to share your fantasies.

促進一個開放和誠實的空間來分享你的幻想。

You might even be surprised to find out how much you have in common.

你甚至可能驚訝地發現你們有這麼多的共同點。

Remember that no matter what you or your partner's preferences, sex should always be safe.

請記住，無論你或你的伴侶有什麼偏好，性生活都應該是安全的。

And consensual.

而且是兩廂情願的。

Number three, focus on pleasure, not just performance.

第三，專注於快樂，而不僅僅是表現。

If you lack sexual confidence, you might be thinking a lot about performing.

如果你缺乏性自信，你可能會對錶演有很多想法。

Maybe you worry about how you look or sound during sex instead of just enjoying it.

也許你擔心你在性生活中的樣子或聲音，而不是僅僅享受它。

But take a second to think about your past sexual experiences or if you haven't had any yet, imagine how it would be.

但花點時間想想你過去的性經歷，或者如果你還沒有任何性經歷，想象一下那會是怎樣的。

Are you picking the other person apart and criticizing them in your mind or are you thinking about how you are performing and focusing on the feelings you're experiencing, chances are your partner isn't criticizing you as harshly as you think.

你是在心中挑剔對方，責備對方，還是在思考自己的表現，關注自己的感受，有可能你的伴侶並沒有像你想的那樣嚴厲地責備你。

Like you, they're probably just happy to be there and busy focusing on other things.

像你一樣，他們可能只是高興地在那裡，並忙於關注其他事情。

So relax and enjoy it.

是以，放鬆並享受它。

This will help you have a better experience and boost your sexual confidence.

這將幫助你獲得更好的體驗，並增強你的性自信。

Also remember that what you've seen in movies or online often is not realistic.

還要記住，你在電影或網上看到的東西往往是不現實的。

It's a performance just because you don't act the same as people you may have seen on screen doesn't mean you should feel embarrassed about it.

這是一種表演，只是因為你的行為和你可能在螢幕上看到的人不一樣，並不意味著你應該為此感到尷尬。

Number four, challenge your negative beliefs around sex.

第四，挑戰你在性方面的負面信念。

Did you grow up in a household where you received negative messages about sex, even if you didn't.

你是否在一個收到關於性的負面資訊的家庭中長大，即使你沒有。

Sometimes the messages we get from the media and society can cause us to feel less sexually confident.

有時，我們從媒體和社會上得到的資訊會使我們感到性生活不夠自信。

Remember that this is your life and your experience, negative messages shouldn't affect how you feel about sex or yourself, you deserve to have positive sexual experiences and knowing this, believing this can help you feel more confident in that.

記住這是你的生活和你的經歷，負面的資訊不應該影響你對性或你自己的感覺，你應該有積極的性體驗，知道這一點，相信這一點可以幫助你在這方面感到更自信。

And number five, positive self talk, think about all of the wonderful things your body does for you during sex.

第五，積極的自我對話，想想你的身體在性愛中為你做的所有美好的事情。

It allows you to feel pleasure, connect with your partner and experience new sensations.

它使你能夠感受到快樂，與你的伴侶聯繫，並體驗新的感覺。

Focus on what you love about your body.

專注於你對自己身體的喜愛。

Positive self talk can go a long way when it comes to sexual confidence and also helps boost your overall self esteem.

當涉及到性自信時，積極的自我談話可以走很長的路，也有助於提高你的整體自尊心。

You might even find it improves your mood to practice it.

你甚至可能發現練習它可以改善你的情緒。

Try repeating these affirmations out loud or in your mind.

試著大聲地或在心中重複這些肯定語。

I love and accept my body.

我愛並接受我的身體。

I deserve to feel good.

我應該感覺良好。

I embrace my sexuality.

我擁護我的性行為。

Finally, if you don't feel sexually confident, try to be gentle with yourself.

最後，如果你對性生活沒有信心，試著對自己溫柔一些。

It's totally normal to feel self conscious at times, especially in a situation where you're being so vulnerable and intimate with someone.

有時感到自我意識是完全正常的，特別是在你與某人如此脆弱和親密的情況下。

We all have our insecurities.

我們都有自己的不安全感。

We hope that by practicing these five tips, you can gradually become more sexually confident over time.

我們希望通過練習這五個技巧，隨著時間的推移，你可以逐漸變得更有性自信。

What are your thoughts on this topic?

你對這個話題有什麼看法？

Do you feel sexually confident share in the comments below and see what others in the community have to say if you want to hear more about the psychology behind sex and relationships.

你對性有信心嗎？如果你想聽到更多關於性和關係背後的心理學，請在下面的評論中分享，並看看社區中其他人怎麼說。

Don't forget to subscribe and hit the like button to learn more about why you might not feel sexually confident in the first place.

不要忘記訂閱並點擊喜歡按鈕，以瞭解更多關於為什麼你可能一開始就沒有性自信。

Check out our video on five signs, you're sexually repressed.

請看我們的視頻：五個跡象，你是性壓抑。

It might give you some insight in your behaviors and beliefs around sex.

它可能會給你一些關於你在性方面的行為和信仰的洞察力。

As always, the references and studies used are listed in the description below.

一如既往，下面的描述中列出了所使用的參考文獻和研究。

Thanks so much for watching and see you next time.

非常感謝您的觀看，下次再見。