Sometimes you may find yourself letting other people's opinions and thoughts of you dictate the way you live, Whether it's done in fear of being disapproved of or to impress or satisfy the expectations placed on you.

有時你可能會發現自己讓別人對你的意見和想法決定了你的生活方式，不管是為了害怕不被認可，還是為了打動或滿足放在你身上的期望。

This constant worry over what others think can place a huge weight on your shoulders.

這種對他人想法的持續擔憂會給你的肩膀帶來巨大的負擔。

So if this is something you worry about here are seven ways to stop caring about what others think.

是以，如果這是你擔心的事情，這裡有七個方法可以讓你不再關心別人的想法。

Number one showing gratitude for yourself and your accomplishments.

第一，對自己和自己的成就表示感謝。

Have you taken a moment recently to look at how far you've come?

你最近有沒有花點時間看看你已經走了多遠？

It's all too easy to get caught up in trying to impress those around you with the best grade skills and financial income.

試圖用最好的成績技能和經濟收入來打動你周圍的人，這太容易了。

Maybe you feel as though you aren't earning enough money or accomplishing enough or worried that others may look at you with shame scorn or even pity according to a study posted in the Journal of Happiness states that showing gratitude not only to those around you but to yourself, is an effective way of enhancing your mental well being.

也許你覺得自己賺的錢不夠多，或者成就不夠大，或者擔心別人會用羞恥、蔑視甚至憐憫的眼光看你，根據《幸福雜誌》刊登的一項研究，不僅對你周圍的人而且對你自己表示感謝，是提高你心理健康的有效方法。

Think about all of the things that you've done in the past couple of years, chances are you're not in the exact same place that you were and that you've had to overcome some of your own personal challenges and difficulties to get where you are today, Be your own cheerleader.

想想你在過去幾年裡所做的所有事情，你有可能不在原來的地方，你必須克服一些個人的挑戰和困難，才能取得今天的成就，做你自己的拉拉隊長。

And look inward to find validation and pride in what you do and who you are?

並向內看，在你所做的事情和你是誰中找到驗證和自豪感？

Number two alone time is okay?

二號的獨處時間可以嗎？

Unplug and step away.

拔掉插頭，走到一邊。

How often do you use social media?

你多長時間使用一次社交媒體？

A thorough review of multiple research papers over the years has come to the conclusion that usage of social media may help those who don't have much contact with others feel more connected.

對多年來的多篇研究論文進行徹底審查後得出的結論是，使用社交媒體可能會幫助那些與他人接觸不多的人感到更多的聯繫。

However, for others, correlations can be spotted for the opposite as well.

然而，對於其他人來說，也可以發現相反的相關性。

Using social media when you're going through tough times, maybe making it harder for you to shake off the way you feel as it may be constantly reminding you of how you stand compared to others.

在你經歷艱難時期時使用社交媒體，也許會使你更難擺脫你的感覺，因為它可能會不斷提醒你與其他人相比你的地位如何。

It's no doubt that when we connect with other people we can let their opinions, successes, mindsets and actions overpower hours.

毫無疑問，當我們與其他人聯繫時，我們可以讓他們的意見、成功、心態和行動壓倒小時。

So it may be helpful to take some time alone and get away from the internet and social media from time to time number three we are all human, nobody is superman.

是以，花點時間獨處，不時地遠離互聯網和社交媒體可能會有幫助。 第三，我們都是人，沒有人是超人。

Do you compare yourself to others or belittle your achievements in the face of somebody else?

你是否將自己與他人進行比較，或在別人面前貶低自己的成就？

This is such a common occurrence that just about everybody on earth has done it.

這是一種常見的情況，地球上幾乎每個人都做過這種事。

However, when you put others on a pedestal, you may end up deluding yourself from the person they really are.

然而，當你把別人放在一個基座上時，你最終可能會自欺欺人地遠離他們真正的人。

You might even look up to your heroes so much that you end up feeling insignificant in comparison.

你甚至可能如此仰視你的英雄，以至於你最終感到自己在比較中微不足道。

This can be especially true when your hero is somebody you know like a parent boss or a very smart friend, but it helps to remember that even if they seem to be perfect, they make mistakes too.

當你的英雄是你認識的人，如父母老闆或非常聰明的朋友時，這可能尤其正確，但記住即使他們看起來很完美，他們也會犯錯。

There is no magic gift that only a handful of people get when they're born and everyone can mess up from time to time.

沒有什麼神奇的天賦，只有少數人在出生時得到，每個人都可能時不時地搞砸了。

Remember that this person is a breathing, living human being that has made and still makes mistakes.

請記住，這個人是一個會呼吸的、活生生的人，曾經犯過錯誤，現在仍然在犯錯誤。

Even if you may not see them, Number four, keeping the focus on what you want.

即使你可能看不到它們，第四，把重點放在你想要的東西上。

Are you doing the things you want to do?

你在做你想做的事情嗎？

Every person has different perceptions, desires, hobbies and passions that they love because of this, You may find yourself caring about what other people tell you that you should want.

每個人都有不同的看法、慾望、愛好和激情，因為這樣，你可能會發現自己關心別人告訴你的你應該要什麼。

Others may try to reframe your wants or desires to fit their thoughts and feelings without fully thinking about yours.

其他人可能試圖重新規劃你的願望或慾望，以適應他們的想法和感受，而沒有充分考慮到你的想法和感受。

So try to be selective of the things you care about.

是以，儘量對你所關心的事情有所選擇。

If you spend all your time dealing with everyone's issues, you're going to worry about things that you aren't passionate about or things that make you think, why am I doing this or wait?

如果你把所有的時間都花在處理每個人的問題上，你就會為那些你不熱衷的事情或讓你覺得我為什麼要這樣做或等待的事情擔心。

I don't like doing this thing at all.

我一點也不喜歡做這件事。

So to avoid falling into these sinkholes, spend less time worrying about every small thing and try to re paint a picture of what you truly want.

是以，為了避免陷入這些沉淪，少花點時間擔心每件小事，試著重新描繪你真正想要的東西。

Number five sculpt the person you are.

第五項是雕塑你的人。

Do you know why you feel the way you feel when someone else laughs at you or why do certain words, phrases or types of personalities bother you in the way that they do when you take the time to focus on what everyone else wants.

你知道為什麼當別人嘲笑你時，你會有這樣的感覺，或者為什麼當你花時間去關注別人想要的東西時，某些詞、短語或類型的個性會以這樣的方式困擾你。

You may forget that there is a lot about yourself that you don't know.

你可能會忘記，有很多關於你自己的事情你並不瞭解。

Do you ever feel confused about your emotions?

你是否曾經對自己的情緒感到困惑？

This can be a good indicator that you need to learn more about yourself to find out why you may feel nervous or scared of what others think of you.

這可能是一個很好的指標，說明你需要更多地瞭解自己，找出你可能感到緊張或害怕別人對你的看法的原因。

Knowing the source of this anxiety and worry may help you understand what it is you're struggling with.

瞭解這種焦慮和擔心的來源可能有助於你瞭解你正在掙扎的是什麼。

So you can work towards becoming better.

所以你可以努力變得更好。

Number six, don't try to make everyone happy, You can't, no matter who you are, you can't make everyone happy, Personalities clash, opinions differ and everyone is constantly changing not only how they view you, but also themselves.

第六，不要試圖讓每個人都高興，你不能，無論你是誰，你都不能讓每個人都高興，個性衝突，意見不同，每個人都在不斷改變，不僅是他們如何看待你，還有他們自己。

So while you may think that the whole world is laughing and pointing at you when you've made a mistake, this is never the case.

是以，雖然你可能認為當你犯錯時，整個世界都在嘲笑和指責你，但情況絕非如此。

People move on and forget.

人們繼續前進並忘記。

This is why it's important to make the distinction between how something makes you feel versus what actually happened, striving to make everyone happy with your actions is truly an impossible act, one of which nobody in the world can achieve or has ever accomplished.

這就是為什麼要區分一件事給你的感覺和實際發生的事情，努力使每個人都對你的行為感到滿意確實是一種不可能的行為，世界上沒有人可以實現或曾經實現過。

And number seven, building your self esteem, Are you your own worst critic, given that we are responsible for making and learning from our experiences, we tend to put ourselves at the center of blame as a result.

第七，建立你的自尊，你是你自己最糟糕的批評者嗎？鑑於我們要對創造和學習我們的經驗負責，我們往往是以而把自己放在責備的中心。

However, when you only criticize yourself instead of trying to learn and correct your mistakes, you run the risk of hurting and worsening your self esteem.

然而，當你只責備自己，而不是試圖學習和糾正你的錯誤時，你有可能傷害和惡化你的自尊心。

Having good self esteem is important as it can help you assert your thoughts and needs and be more realistic when making decisions.

擁有良好的自尊心很重要，因為它可以幫助你堅持自己的想法和需求，並在做決定時更加現實。

In turn, it can help pry away that seemingly compulsive need to check or analyze how and what other people think of you.

反過來，它可以幫助撬開那種看似強迫性的需要，即檢查或分析別人對你的看法和如何看待。

When you're able to maintain a clear and wholesome image of yourself with all of your strengths and talents, you may find that other people's perceptions and opinions of you will just roll right off your back.

當你能夠以你所有的長處和才能保持一個清晰和健康的形象時，你可能會發現，其他人對你的看法和意見將直接從你身上滾落。

Is there something you struggle with at some point in another?

在另一個時間點上，你是否有什麼糾結的事情？

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The references and studies used in this video as always, are added in the description below.

本視頻中使用的參考資料和研究報告一如既往地添加在下面的描述中。

Thanks for watching and see you in the next one.

謝謝你的觀看，下一集見。