Name: 4個讓人追捧的祕密方法 (4 SECRET WAYS To Make Anyone Chase You)
Uploaded: 2022-11-01T18:45:15.000Z
Duration: 5 min 29 s

do you feel like you're always the one chasing people around?

你是否覺得你總是那個追著別人跑的人？

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Do you wish the tables were reversed for once?

How much effort should you put in to make people interested?

你應該付出多大的努力才能讓人們感興趣？

You may feel silly for asking yourself these questions, but sometimes it just feels nice to be wanted.

你問自己這些問題可能會覺得很傻，但有時被需要的感覺就是很好。

Self validation and contentment, no amount of appreciation and attention from others will give you the peace and love that you deserve.

自我驗證和滿足，無論別人如何讚賞和關注，都不會給你應有的平靜和愛。

But without further ado here are four helpful ways to make anyone chase you.

但是，不用多說，這裡有四種有用的方法，可以讓任何人追趕你。

為什麼神祕的人如此有吸引力？

What is it about the silent and mysterious types that make you want to learn more about them?

是什麼讓你想更多地瞭解這些沉默而神祕的類型呢？

Let's look at Levi Ackerman from the attack on titan series.

讓我們來看看《攻殼機動隊》系列中的列維-阿克曼。

He is pretty silent and attached, but somehow has a whole army of fans screaming in support and adoration.

他相當沉默和依戀，但不知何故有一大群粉絲尖叫著支持和崇拜。

So what makes his brooding character so appealing?

那麼，是什麼讓他這個憂鬱的角色如此吸引人？

According to Simone, Read daily PhD mystery is linked to fascination.

根據西蒙尼的說法，每天讀博士的神祕感與著迷有關。

When humans encounter something unfamiliar, They'll most likely explore to acquire more information.

當人類遇到不熟悉的事物時，他們很可能會探索以獲得更多的資訊。

This type of behavior may be linked to the early humans who are constantly faced with danger and had to develop strategies to overcome them according to readily, A mysterious setting easily attracts us as a potential source of unprecedented knowledge and is therefore a source of fascination.

這種類型的行為可能與早期人類有關，他們經常面臨危險，不得不發展出克服危險的策略，根據現成的說法，一個神祕的環境很容易吸引我們，作為前所未有的知識的潛在來源，是以是一個迷人的來源。

So, if you want to become that source, try finding more ways to add mystery to your life.

是以，如果你想成為那個源頭，試著找到更多的方法來為你的生活增添神祕感。

You can start by spending less time on social media and more on your hobbies.

你可以從減少花在社交媒體上的時間開始，多花在你的愛好上。

Focus on your own goals and practice listening more than speaking, shifting the focus to the other person and less on you.

專注於你自己的目標，練習聽多於說，將注意力轉移到對方身上，而不是你。

Number two, develop your physical appearance.

Have you ever been interested in someone because of their appearance alone?

你是否曾僅僅因為某人的外表而對其感興趣？

There's no shame in following people online because you find them drop dead gorgeous, good looking people just tend to receive more attention.

在網上關注別人並不丟人，因為你發現他們美得讓人窒息，好看的人往往會得到更多的關注。

Several different studies have found that when we rate people as good looking, we tend to believe that they have positive personality traits and that they're more intelligent, so are more likely to receive benefits, like being paid more, getting considered for more jobs and having stronger social skills.

一些不同的研究發現，當我們把人評為好看的時候，我們傾向於相信他們有積極的個性特徵，而且他們更聰明，所以更有可能得到好處，比如得到更多的報酬，被考慮做更多的工作，有更強的社交能力。

This contrast and treatment is also highlighted in the Web tune lookism where the main character Daniel Park, who was bullied for being chubby and weak, suddenly becomes a highly popular and agreeable individual after waking up with a more attractive body.

這種對比和處理方式在網絡曲藝《lookism》中也得到了強調。主角丹尼爾-帕克因為胖乎乎的身體而受到欺負，在醒來後，他的身體更加迷人，突然變得非常受歡迎和合群。

Another study showed attractiveness is also highly linked with higher levels of self esteem.

另一項研究顯示，吸引力也與較高的自尊水準高度相關。

This means that if you're interested in increasing your appeal, it may help to develop confidence in your capabilities and looks.

這意味著，如果你有興趣增加你的吸引力，這可能有助於培養對你的能力和長相的信心。

Maybe you need a haircut or even a new style, whatever it is, it's good to explore and do things that make you feel empowered and self assured.

也許你需要理髮，甚至需要一種新的風格，不管是什麼，探索和做一些讓你感到有力量和自我保證的事情是很好的。

Practice dressing well, taking care of your hygiene and learning how to best express yourself socially, exercise and having a balanced diet have also been shown to have positive effects on your self esteem.

練習穿戴整齊，注意衛生，學習如何在社會上最好地表達自己，鍛鍊和擁有平衡的飲食也被證明對你的自尊心有積極影響。

Lastly try embracing your bad qualities and highlighting the good ones, developing your physical appearance isn't something done in a day.

最後，嘗試擁抱你的壞品質，突出好品質，發展你的身體外觀不是一天就能完成的。

It's a byproduct of how you choose to live your life.

這是你選擇如何生活的副產品。

You're already stunning but maybe it's time to elevate it.

你已經很迷人了，但也許是時候提升一下了。

Number three, keep yourself busy aside from being mysterious, it's also good to fill your schedule with fun and productive activities.

第三，讓自己保持忙碌除了神祕之外，讓你的日程表充滿有趣和富有成效的活動也是不錯的。

Of course if people start asking you out and you want to socialize with them, do it.

當然，如果人們開始邀請你出去，你想和他們交往，就去做吧。

Try to avoid playing mind games like breadcrumb ng benching and playing hard to get to make them miss you more.

儘量避免玩心理遊戲，如麵包屑Ng凳子和玩硬的，讓他們更想念你。

Those tactics are defense mechanisms and survival instincts for people with insecure attachment styles.

這些策略是具有不安全依戀風格的人的防禦機制和生存本能。

Sometimes you may feel like you aren't being chased because you have too much free time on your hands.

有時你可能覺得自己沒有被追趕，因為你手上有太多的空閒時間。

It's good to be preoccupied with other things and let life flow naturally.

忙於其他事情，讓生活自然流淌，這很好。

You could try hiking, going to the gym or maybe even partying by being more active and productive.

你可以嘗試徒步旅行，去健身房，甚至可能通過更加積極和富有成效的方式來參加聚會。

You can meet new people, create more relationships and increase the quality of your social life and number four be the best version of yourself at this moment.

你可以認識新的人，創造更多的關係，提高你的社會生活品質，第四是成為此刻最好的自己。

Everyone is different and therefore chases after different types of people.

每個人都是不同的，是以追逐的是不同類型的人。

So how can you be the best version of yourself, whether you're an introvert, extrovert or introvert, there's always an aspect of yourself that you can work on.

是以，你如何才能成為最好的自己，無論你是內向、外向還是內向，總有一個方面是你可以努力的。

Try not to fight it too much in learning ways to make people chase after you.

儘量不要在學習讓人追著你跑的方法上打得太厲害。

It may get easy to forget the most important tip of all being genuine as much as possible.

我們可能很容易忘記最重要的提示，那就是儘可能的真誠。

Avoid pretending to be someone you're not.

Instead identify the qualities you admire and slowly integrate them into your life.

相反，找出你所欣賞的品質，並慢慢將其融入你的生活。

Which qualities do you chase after and why if it's physical attractiveness, then perhaps it might help to focus on exercise and developing your looks and if its personality or self esteem, you may want to focus on self reflection, developing habits and saying affirmations.

如果是身體上的吸引力，那麼也許專注於鍛鍊和發展你的外表會有幫助，如果是個性或自尊，你可能想專注於自我反思，培養習慣和說肯定的話。

Remember we are all works in progress, then there will always be someone appreciating you.

記住我們都是正在進行的工作，那麼總會有人欣賞你。

If you know someone who may enjoy this video, please share it with them as usual.

如果你知道有人可能喜歡這個視頻，請像往常一樣與他們分享。

The references and studies used are in the description below.

所用的參考文獻和研究報告在下面的描述中。

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