Do you still feel lonely and empty, loneliness is not always obvious and sometimes it may feel like a weakness.

你是否仍然感到孤獨和空虛，孤獨並不總是顯而易見的，有時它可能感覺是一種弱點。

You may try to make yourself believe you don't really need anybody, especially if you've been alone for a long time.

你可能試圖讓自己相信你並不真正需要任何人，特別是如果你已經孤獨了很久。

But we all need at least some kind of warmth from the ones around us.

但我們都需要至少從我們周圍的人那裡獲得某種溫暖。

If you noticed you've been feeling down lately, check out these six signs to see if you are secretly lonely, Number one, you're often bored.

如果你注意到你最近情緒低落，請看看這六個跡象，看看你是否在暗中感到孤獨，第一，你經常感到無聊。

Do you often feel bored with?

你是否經常感到厭煩？

Nothing to do and no one to hang out with humans?

無所事事，沒有人和人類一起玩耍？

Are social beings, Our brains are wired for social connection.

我們是社會人，我們的大腦是為社會聯繫而設的。

We need people to talk to.

我們需要找人談話。

Have fun and spend quality time with people who give us emotional support and connection and make our days more fun.

與那些給予我們情感支持和聯繫並使我們的日子更有樂趣的人一起玩耍，度過高質量的時間。

But if you don't have many friends or if you're not close with the ones you have, you may start feeling bored.

但是如果你沒有很多朋友，或者你和你的朋友關係不密切，你可能會開始感到無聊。

You spend your days alone doing activities alone, eating alone, just scrolling through your phone mindlessly.

你每天都在獨自做活動，獨自吃飯，只是無意識地滾動你的手機。

In this case the boredom you feel could actually mean you're feeling lonely.

在這種情況下，你感到的無聊實際上可能意味著你感到孤獨。

# two, you are jealous of others.

# 第二，你妒忌別人。

Having fun.

有樂趣。

How do you feel when you see a group of friends hanging out outside or when you see all those pictures on social media of people having fun?

當你看到一群朋友在外面閒逛，或者看到社交媒體上那些人們玩得很開心的照片時，你有什麼感覺？

Are you indifferent or does it make you feel a tiny bit jealous?

你是無動於衷還是讓你覺得有一絲絲的嫉妒？

If yes, you should know that's totally fine.

如果是的話，你應該知道那是完全可以的。

If you're feeling lonely and left out, it's normal that you wish you could spend time with others rather than being alone.

如果你感到孤獨和被遺棄，你希望能與他人共度時光而不是獨處，這很正常。

And even if they don't talk about it, many others feel the same way.

即使他們不談論這個問題，許多其他人也有同樣的感覺。

# three, you're taking long showers or baths.

#三，你正在進行長時間的淋浴或洗澡。

This may sound kind of weird because who doesn't love a nice warm shower or bubble bath after a long day.

這聽起來可能有點奇怪，因為誰不喜歡在漫長的一天後洗一個漂亮的熱水澡或泡泡浴。

But if a nice stream of hot water brings you comfort that you can't find outside, it could be a sign of loneliness.

但是，如果一股漂亮的熱水給你帶來外面找不到的舒適感，這可能是孤獨的標誌。

A study published in 2012 in the journal emotion found that the lonelier person is, the more showers and baths they take, the hotter the water and the longer they stay under the water.

2012年發表在《情感》雜誌上的一項研究發現，越是孤獨的人，淋浴和洗澡的次數越多，水溫越高，在水中停留的時間越長。

Researchers believe that the physical warmth that you feel from hot water may actually be a substitute for social warmth that you're lacking.

研究人員認為，你從熱水中感受到的身體溫暖實際上可能是你所缺乏的社會溫暖的替代品。

But this finding can be used to your advantage when there are no friends around.

但是當週圍沒有朋友時，這一發現可以為你所用。

Maybe you can feel a bit better with a nice cup of hot chocolate.

也許你可以用一杯漂亮的熱巧克力來感覺好一點。

Number four, you have no one to turn to imagine this.

第四，你沒有人可以向你想象這個。

You had a long bad day.

你度過了漫長的糟糕一天。

You finally get home, but your mind is still racing, you're feeling overwhelmed and want to get it off your chest.

你終於回到了家，但你的大腦仍在飛速運轉，你感到不知所措，想一吐為快。

You take out your phone to call or text someone who do you call?

你拿出手機給別人打電話或發短信，你會給誰打電話？

If you're having trouble answering on top of feeling stressed, you might be lonely too, loneliness is not just about not having any friends, it's about not having a close friend.

如果你在感到壓力的基礎上還難以回答，你可能也很孤獨，孤獨不僅僅是指沒有朋友，而是指沒有一個親密的朋友。

You can talk about work or school with your colleagues or to chat about the weather with your neighbor.

你可以和你的同事談論工作或學校，或者和你的鄰居聊一哈拉氣。

But it's also important to have someone to turn to.

但有個人可以求助也很重要。

Who can help you when you're feeling down.

當你感到沮喪時，誰能幫助你。

Not having someone like that in your life can make you feel lonely.

在你的生活中沒有這樣的人，會讓你感到孤獨。

Number five over sharing.

五號超過分享。

When someone is willing to listen, another sign of loneliness could be over sharing.

當有人願意傾聽時，孤獨的另一個跡象可能是過度分享。

Do you talk quickly when you're having a conversation?

你在談話時是否說話很快？

Do you talk in great detail sharing lots of personal stuff that you might feel bad afterwards for saying the reason is simple.

你是否談得很詳細，分享很多個人的東西，事後你可能會覺得不好說，原因很簡單。

If you're lonely, you probably don't talk much or at all.

如果你很孤獨，你可能不怎麼說話或根本不說話。

You're left with all your thoughts and ideas and emotions, but there's no one to listen.

你留下了你所有的思想、想法和情緒，但沒有人聽。

So when you finally find someone to have a conversation with, you have so much to say so much to make up for that.

是以，當你終於找到一個可以交談的人時，你有那麼多話要講，那麼多東西要彌補。

It just comes out at once and number six, you keep buying and hoarding stuff.

它只是一下子就出來了，第六，你不斷地購買和囤積東西。

When we're little, we find comfort in our blank ease and teddy bears.

當我們小的時候，我們在空白的輕鬆和泰迪熊中找到安慰。

They give us a sense of security.

他們給了我們一種安全感。

But as we grow older, we learn to turn to people rather than stuffed animals.

但隨著年齡的增長，我們學會了求助於人而不是毛絨動物。

That is if we don't feel lonely.

那是在我們不感到孤獨的情況下。

If you are lonely, you may find yourself compulsively buying or hoarding items you don't really need such as clothes ornaments and jewelry that can become a substitute for the company you're lacking.

如果你很孤獨，你可能會發現自己強迫性地購買或囤積你並不真正需要的物品，如衣服裝飾品和珠寶，這些物品可以成為你所缺乏的陪伴的替代品。

You feel like you don't have people to make you happy.

你覺得你沒有人讓你快樂。

So you see happiness and material things and become emotionally attached to those items.

所以你看到了幸福和物質的東西，並對這些物品產生了感情。

According to a recent 2020 study, loneliness, hoarding and object attachment are all associated with one another.

根據2020年的一項最新研究，孤獨、囤積和物體依戀都是相互關聯的。

Being attached to material objects might actually be an attempt to compensate for the loneliness you feel if you're feeling lonely, know that there are some small steps you can take to try and help feel less lonely.

對物質物品的依戀實際上可能是為了彌補你的孤獨感，如果你感到孤獨，要知道你可以採取一些小步驟來嘗試和幫助減少孤獨感。

The first is talking to someone and sharing your feelings.

首先是與人交談，分享你的感受。

This can be a mental health professional.

這可以是一個心理健康專家。

If you don't feel like opening up to someone else in your life, you could also try engaging with others.

如果你覺得不願意向你生活中的其他人敞開心扉，你也可以嘗試與其他人接觸。

Maybe by volunteering, joining a sports club or enrolling in language or art classes.

也許可以通過做志願者、加入體育俱樂部或報名參加語言或藝術課程。

Lastly, take care of your body, since the body and mind are connected, drink enough water, Get some sunlight and exercise as much as you can.

最後，照顧好你的身體，因為身體和心靈是相通的，喝足夠的水，接受一些陽光照射，儘可能多地鍛鍊。

Can you relate to any of these points?

你能體會到其中任何一點嗎？

If so let us know in the comments, ensure this video with others who you think it might help.

如果是這樣，請在評論中告訴我們，並確保這個視頻與其他你認為可能有幫助的人分享。

The studies and references used are in the description below.

所用的研究和參考文獻在下面的描述中。

Until next time.

直到下一次。

Friends and thanks for watching.

朋友們，感謝你們的觀看。