Can a narcissist fall in love?

自戀的人可以談戀愛嗎？

The short answer is yes.

簡短的回答是肯定的。

However, it's probably not the type of love

然而，這可能不是那種愛的類型

you are thinking of right now.

你現在所想的。

Love is different for everybody.

愛對每個人來說都是不同的。

This applies especially well in the case of narcissists.

這在自戀者的情況下尤其適用。

Since they have psychological deficits

由於他們有心理上的缺陷

that impact emotional assessment,

影響情緒評估。

they tend to show their love in a weird, selfish way.

他們往往以一種奇怪的、自私的方式來表達他們的愛。

So if you are an average person

是以，如果你是一個普通人

who sees love as something along the lines of understanding,

他把愛看成是一種理解的東西。

acceptance, and compromise,

接受，和妥協。

then you are in for a surprising ride,

那麼你將會有一個令人驚訝的旅程。

because this is what truly happens

因為這就是真正發生的事情

when a narcissist falls in love.

當一個自戀者墜入愛河。

Before we begin, this video is for educational purposes only

在我們開始之前，本視頻僅用於教育目的

and is not intended to be a substitute

並不打算取代

for professional advice or diagnosis.

以獲得專業建議或診斷。

With that said, here is what happens

說到這，下面是發生的情況

when a narcissist falls in love with you.

當一個自戀者愛上你時。

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Number one, they won't change.

第一，他們不會改變。

You may think that when a narcissist truly falls in love,

你可能認為，當一個自戀者真正墜入愛河時。

they change for the better.

他們的變化是為了更好的發展。

Unfortunately, in most situations, that is not the case.

不幸的是，在大多數情況下，情況並非如此。

Research shows that they have structural abnormalities

研究表明，他們有結構性的異常

in brain regions associated with emotional empathy.

在與情感共鳴相關的大腦區域。

And because of that, they tend to turn abusive

正因為如此，他們往往會變成虐待者。

or remain self-absorbed.

或保持自我陶醉。

Number two, they're turbulent in their ways of affection.

第二，他們的感情方式很動盪。

Narcissists can be extremely warm one second

自戀者可以在一秒鐘內變得非常熱情

and cold the next.

而下一次則是寒冷。

It's also common for them to love bomb their partners.

他們愛轟炸自己的伴侶也很常見。

Since they're playing a game of wanting to receive praise

既然他們在玩一個想得到讚美的遊戲

and admiration, they know exactly which buttons to push

和欽佩，他們清楚地知道該按哪些按鈕。

to elicit a good reaction.

以引起良好的反應。

However, since the act of receiving pleasure

然而，由於接受快樂的行為

is somewhat like a game to them,

對他們來說，這有點像一場遊戲。

they naturally lose interest once they win it

贏了之後自然會失去興趣

or receive the prize.

或領取獎品。

So, it won't be a surprise when one moment

是以，當某一時刻，它不會是一個驚喜

they're buying gifts

他們在買禮物

and booking honeymoon tickets for their partners

併為他們的伴侶預訂蜜月機票

and breaking up with them the next.

並在接下來的時間裡與他們分手。

Number three, they prefer casual dating or long distance.

第三，他們更喜歡休閒約會或長途旅行。

Commitment is a difficult thing to expect from narcissists.

對自戀者來說，承諾是一件很難期待的事情。

Since their sponges of attention,

由於他們的注意力的海綿體。

a single person's appreciation will tire them out quickly.

一個人的讚賞會讓他們迅速疲憊。

For them, the more people to receive praise from the better.

對他們來說，接受表揚的人越多越好。

This is why they're especially comfortable

這就是為什麼他們特別舒適

with casual dating or being in long distance relationships.

與休閒約會或處於長距離關係中。

In these types of setups,

在這些類型的設置中。

there are low expectations for intimacy,

對親密關係的期望很低。

but enough opportunities to satisfy their desire.

但有足夠的機會來滿足他們的願望。

Do any of these ring a bell so far? Comment blow.

到目前為止，這些人中有誰想起來了嗎？評論打擊。

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說到鐘聲，如果你喜歡我們的內容。

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每當我們發佈新的視頻，就會得到通知。

While you're at it, hit the like button too.

當你這樣做的時候，也按下喜歡按鈕。

Your support means so much to us.

您的支持對我們來說意義重大。

Number four, they're passionate at first.

第四，他們一開始就很有激情。

Narcissists are supposed to be vain, selfish people, right?

自戀者應該是虛榮、自私的人，對嗎？

Well, while it's true

嗯，雖然這是事實

that a sense of entitlement characterizes them,

他們的特點是有一種權利感。

narcissists have also been proven

自戀者也被證明是

to possess emotional intelligence.

要擁有情商。

This means that they're highly capable

這意味著，他們有很強的能力

of showing their interest,

顯示他們的興趣。

especially to gain what they want.

特別是為了獲得他們想要的東西。

Adoration.

崇拜。

For this reason, they may act all lovey-dovey

由於這個原因，他們可能會表現得很有愛意

during the early stages of a relationship.

在一段關係的早期階段。

They may be touchy, generous, dreamy,

他們可能是感性的，慷慨的，有夢想的。

and all the good things.

和所有的好東西。

But don't be fooled.

但不要被騙了。

A narcissist love also means

自戀者的愛也意味著

putting themselves first, always.

始終把自己放在第一位。

Number five, they won't know how to resolve conflicts.

第五，他們將不知道如何解決衝突。

Disagreements and arguments are common in relationships.

分歧和爭吵在人際關係中很常見。

If handled well,

如果處理得好。

they may even promote growth and closeness between partners.

它們甚至可能促進夥伴之間的成長和親近。

But since narcissists always want to seem perfect,

但由於自戀者總是希望自己看起來很完美。

they tend to avoid things

他們傾向於迴避事情

that may make them seem like a bad person.

這可能使他們看起來像個壞人。

This means that when there's conflict,

這意味著，當有衝突的時候。

they're highly expected to shift the blame, point fingers,

他們被寄予厚望，推卸責任，指手畫腳。

and use manipulation tactics to keep the upper hand.

並使用操縱戰術來保持優勢。

And number six, they may commit narcissistic abuse.

第六，他們可能會實施自戀性虐待。

Narcissistic abuse is defined as a type of emotional abuse

自戀型虐待被定義為一種情感虐待的類型

where the abuser only cares about themselves

虐待者只關心自己的地方

and may use words and actions

並可使用語言和行動

to manipulate their partner's behavior

操縱其伴侶的行為

and emotional state.

和情緒狀態。

Since narcissists tend to see themselves as superior beings,

因為自戀者往往把自己看作是高人一等的存在。

they often forget about the needs of their partners.

他們經常忘記他們的伴侶的需求。

They do everything for themselves first.

他們做任何事都先為自己著想。

And this behavior can be especially damaging

而這種行為可能特別具有破壞性

to the person they're in a relationship with.

對與他們有關係的人。

Victims of narcissistic abuse

自戀型虐待的受害者

may experience anxiety, depression,

可能會出現焦慮、抑鬱的情況。

post traumatic stress, loss of self worth, and more.

創傷後壓力，自我價值的喪失，以及更多。

So, did anyone come to mind when you heard these signs?

那麼，當你聽到這些跡象時，是否想到了誰？

Narcissists can often make life difficult

自戀者往往會使生活變得困難

for who they love and vice versa.

為他們所愛的人，反之亦然。

There isn't a cure for narcissistic personality disorder,

自戀型人格障礙是無法治癒的。

but therapy can help.

但治療可以幫助。

If this video is relevant to you or someone you know,

如果這個視頻與你或你認識的人有關。

please don't hesitate to reach out for guidance or help.

請不要猶豫，聯繫我們尋求指導或幫助。

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Do you think we missed anything?

你認為我們錯過了什麼嗎？

Leave it in the comments below.

請在下面的評論中留言。

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如果你覺得這個視頻有幫助。

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喜歡並與朋友分享

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這可能也會發現其中的洞察力。

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謝謝你的觀看。直到下一次。

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