because of my own unhappiness.

因為我自己的不快樂。

It didn't make sense to me because looking at my life

這對我來說是沒有意義的，因為看看我的生活

from the outside, things looked great.

從外面看，事情看起來很好。

But from the inside, it didn't feel that way.

但從內心來說，並沒有這種感覺。

We were told from a very young age,

我們在很小的時候就被告知。

whether explicitly or implicitly,

無論是明確的還是隱含的。

that it's all about success.

這都是為了成功。

It's all about the attainment of the next goal,

這都是為了實現下一個目標。

of the next milestone.

的下一個里程碑。

And yet, achieving these goals does not bring us

然而，實現這些目標並沒有給我們帶來

to a happier place, certainly not in the long-term.

到一個更快樂的地方，當然不是長期的。

And I wanted to figure out what is it

我想弄清楚它是什麼

if anything can lead us to a better,

如果有什麼可以引導我們走向更好。

happier, more fulfilled existence.

更快樂、更充實的生活。

And that is what I've been doing over the past 30 years,

而這正是我在過去30年中一直在做的事情。

looking for answers.

尋找答案。

Now, what drew me to studying happiness

現在，是什麼吸引我去研究幸福

was, of course, first and foremost, my personal experience.

當然，首先是我的個人經驗。

I wanted to feel better.

我想讓自己感覺更好。

I wanted to be happier.

我想變得更快樂。

One of the issues that people have

人們有的一個問題是

with the pursuit of happiness

與追求幸福

is that it's a selfish endeavor.

是，它是一個自私的努力。

Or is it?

或者是嗎？

Because when I pursue happiness,

因為當我追求幸福的時候

when I contribute to myself,

當我為自己做貢獻時。

I'm in a much better place to also help others.

我在一個更好的地方也能幫助別人。

The problem though, doesn't lie in the pursuit of happiness

不過，問題並不在於對幸福的追求。

but rather in our concepts.

而是在我們的概念中。

So is it selfish or selfless?

那麼它是自私的還是無私的？

Well, it's neither and both.

嗯，既不是，也不是。

It's self-ful.

這是很自我的。

Selfulness synthesizes the best of both worlds

自娛自樂綜合了兩個世界的優點

of selfishness and selflessness.

談到自私和無私的問題。

And they work together reinforcing one another

而且它們一起工作，相互加強

in an upward spiral of generosity and benevolence.

在慷慨和仁慈的螺旋式上升中。

Because we have mirror neurons in our brain

因為我們的大腦裡有鏡像神經元

and when we encounter an act of generosity

而當我們遇到一個慷慨的行為時

that has an impact on us,

這對我們有影響。

we're more likely to then act generously and benevolent.

我們就更有可能採取慷慨和仁慈的行動。

So giving is contagious.

是以，奉獻是會傳染的。

Now there is a double standard

現在有了雙重標準

when it comes to cultivating happiness.

當談到培養幸福感時。

In every other endeavor in life,

在生活中的其他每項努力中。

we understand that we need to practice.

我們明白，我們需要練習。

We need to put in the time.

我們需要投入時間。

Similarly with happiness.

幸福也是如此。

It's not enough to read a book or hear a lecture

僅僅讀一本書或聽一次講座是不夠的

or come up with an idea as good as it may be

或想出一個好主意，儘管它可能是

for us to become happier.

為我們變得更快樂。

What do we need to do is invest.

我們需要做的是投資。

Invest time and effort.

投入時間和精力。

Invest in finding meaning in what we do in life.

投資於尋找我們在生活中所做的事情的意義。

Go out and exercise.

走出去，鍛鍊身體。

Engage with text or nature.

與文字或自然接觸。

Invest in our relationships,

投資於我們的關係。

not just rely on the fact that there is good chemistry

不僅僅依靠有良好的化學反應的事實

or connection, we need to put in the work.

或聯繫，我們需要投入工作。

When we put in the work that is based on science,

當我們投入了基於科學的工作。

on evidence-based ideas,

基於證據的想法。

that is when we increase our levels of happiness.

這就是我們提高幸福水準的時候。

And because happiness is contagious,

而且因為幸福是會傳染的。

we do the same for others.

我們為他人做同樣的事。

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