I’m Sam.

我是山姆。

And I’m Roy.

而我是羅伊。

Nowadays many people use online

現在，許多人使用在線

dating apps to find love and romance.

約會應用程序來尋找愛情和浪漫。

This involves writing a dating profile –

a short description of yourself  which you hope makes you

對自己的簡短描述，你希望能讓你

appear attractive to other  people looking for love online.

顯得對其他在網上尋找愛情的人有吸引力。

Online dating started with the

網上約會始於

internet, but the idea is not new.

互聯網，但這個想法並不新鮮。

In the days before the internet, people

在互聯網之前的日子裡，人們

put dating adverts in newspapers.

在報紙上刊登約會廣告。

Because they paid a price  per word, people described

因為他們是按字數付費的，所以人們描述了

themselves in as few words as possible,

儘可能少的話語來表達自己。

using abbreviations like GSOH,

使用GSOH這樣的縮寫。

which meant a Good Sense Of Humour.

這意味著要有良好的幽默感。

Eventually, GSOH became a  part of everyday English.

最終，GSOH成為日常英語的一部分。

Amazingly, the same thing is now

令人驚訝的是，現在同樣的事情是

happening in the world of online dating.

發生在網上約會的世界。

In this programme we’ll be learning some

在這個節目中，我們將學習一些

of the newly invented words and phrases

的新發明的詞彙和短語

being used by people who are looking for love on the internet.

被那些在互聯網上尋找愛情的人所利用。

Every year thousands of romantic

每年都有數以千計的浪漫

relationships start through online

關係通過網上開始

dating apps.

約會應用程序。

But as always with information found

但與以往一樣，發現的資訊

on the internet, there’s a danger that

在互聯網上，有一種危險，即

someone’s dating profile doesn’t tell

某人的約會資料並沒有說明

the whole truth.

全部真相。

That’s right, Roy, so my question is this:

這是正確的，羅伊，所以我的問題是這樣的。

according to research, what do men tend

根據研究，男性傾向於什麼

to lie about in their dating profile?

在他們的約會資料中撒謊？

Is it:

是的。

a) their hair?

a) 他們的頭髮？

b) their height?

b) 他們的身高？

or,

或。

c) their age?

c) 他們的年齡？

Well, most people want to appear younger,

好吧，大多數人都想讓自己看起來更年輕。

so I’ll say it’s c) their age.

所以我說是c）他們的年齡。

We’ll find out if that’s the correct

我們會發現這是否是正確的

answer later.

以後再回答。

The person behind the online

網上的那個人

dating research I mentioned was

我提到的約會研究是

Dr Nicola Fox Hamilton.

尼古拉-福克斯-漢密爾頓博士。

She describes herself as cyber-psychologist

她自稱是網絡心理學家

and has interviewed both men and

並採訪了男性和

women about what they hide from

婦女關於她們所隱瞞的事情

potential online dating partners.

潛在的網上約會夥伴。

Listen as she tells BBC Radio 4’s,

請聽她告訴英國廣播公司第四臺的。

Word of Mouth, what she  discovered from her interviews:

口口相傳，她從採訪中發現了什麼。

If you’re very deceptive, so if

如果你很有欺騙性，那麼如果

you have no friends, and you

你沒有朋友，而你

never go to the pub, and you said in your

從不去酒吧，而且你在你的報告中說

profile that your most fun  thing to do is hanging out

簡介：你最喜歡做的事情是閒逛

with your friends on a Saturday

與你的朋友們在星期六的時候

night, then that becomes a problem

晚上，那就成了一個問題

because then you’ve been very deceptive.

因為這樣你就很有欺騙性了。

If you occasionally do it

如果你偶爾這樣做

and you made it sound a bit more

而你讓它聽起來更像是

like you do it all the time, that’s more

就像你一直在做的那樣，這更像是

exaggeration – a lot of people do that,

誇大其詞--很多人都這麼做。

where they exaggerate things about

他們在那裡誇大了關於

themselves to make them seem more

他們自己，以使他們看起來更

attractive. But they’re walking a

有吸引力。但他們在走一個

fine line in trying to balance between

試圖在以下方面取得平衡的細微界限

being attractive and not completely disappointing…

有吸引力且不完全令人失望...

People often exaggerate things

人們經常誇大事情

about themselves to seem more

對自己的看法，以便看起來更

attractive online, for example that

在網上很有吸引力，比如說那

they love hanging out, or spending

他們喜歡閒逛，或花時間

time with friends.

與朋友相處的時間。

Nicola also says there’s

尼古拉還說，有

a difference between exaggerating

誇大其詞的區別

and being deceptive - deliberately lying

和欺騙性的--故意撒謊

and making someone believe things

和讓人相信的東西

that are not true.

這些都是不真實的。

Nicola says deceptive daters are walking a

尼古拉說，欺騙性的約會者正走在一個

fine (or thin) line – they’re

細（或薄）線 - 他們是

finding a balance between two

尋找兩者之間的平衡

opposing attitudes or ideas.

對立的態度或想法。

Online dating has also created

網上約會也創造了

new vocabulary of its own.

自己的新詞彙。

Here’s Nicola Fox Hamilton again

這裡又是尼古拉-福克斯-漢密爾頓

explaining the meaning of two

解釋兩個的含義

new words, catfishing and

新詞，貓捉老鼠和

wokefishing, to BBC Radio 4’s, Word of Mouth.

wokefishing，向英國廣播公司第四臺的《口碑》節目。

Wokefishing is a version of

Wokefishing是一個版本的

catfishing, and catfishing is where someone creates a profile

貓捉弄人，貓捉弄人是指有人創建一個個人資料

that isn’t them at all, so a complex false identify usually with

這根本就不是他們，所以一個複雜的虛假識別通常與

the purpose of looking for, or pretending to get into involved in,

的目的是尋找，或假裝進入參與。

love or romance.

愛情或浪漫。

Woke-fishing is when the person is generally

醒著釣魚是指當人在一般情況下

who they say they are, but they say that they’re much more

他們說他們是誰，但他們說他們是更大的

liberal in their values and political attitudes than they actually are.

他們的價值觀和政治態度比他們實際的要自由。

Catfishing is when someone

貓捕獵是指有人

tries to be more attractive by creating a false profile and

試圖通過創造一個虛假的形象，使自己更有吸引力。

pretending to be someone else on social media.

在社交媒體上假裝成別人。

Related to this is the term, wokefishing.

與此相關的是一個術語，wokefishing。

Here someone asks about your political and social

這裡有人問起你的政治和社會

opinions, and pretends to share them in order to get closer to you.

觀點，並假裝和他們一樣，以接近你。

They may pretend to have more liberal or

他們可能會假裝有更多的自由主義或

progressive attitudes than they really do.

比起他們的實際情況，他們的進步態度。

Looking for love is never easy.

尋找愛情從來不是一件容易的事。

The internet has helped thousands find romance and

互聯網已經幫助成千上萬的人找到了浪漫和

created some interesting new vocabulary, but there are dangers

創造了一些有趣的新詞彙，但也有危險。

and disappointments too

也有失望的時候

Speaking of which,

說到這一點。

it’s time to reveal the  answer to your question, Sam.

是時候揭示你問題的答案了，山姆。

You asked what men tend to lie about in their dating profiles.

你問的是，男人在約會資料中往往會對什麼事情撒謊。

I guessed it was their age.

我猜這是他們的年齡。

You were… wrong.

你是......錯了。

According to research by Dr Fox Hamilton, men tend to lie

根據福克斯-漢密爾頓博士的研究，男人傾向於撒謊

about their height – and  women, about their weight.

關於他們的身高--而女性，關於他們的體重。

OK, let’s recap the new vocabulary we’ve learnt in this programme

好了，讓我們回顧一下本節目中所學的新詞彙吧

about the language of online romance starting with dating profile –

關於網上戀情的語言，從約會資料開始 --

a brief written description of yourself which you hope will attract a partner.

對自己的簡要書面描述，你希望能吸引一個合作伙伴。

Being deceptive means lying so

欺騙性意味著撒謊，所以

people believe something that is not true.

人們相信一些不真實的東西。

Hanging out is an informal way to

閒逛是一種非正式的方式來

say spending time with someone, usually friends.

說與某人共度時光，通常是朋友。

The phrase, walking a fine line means finding a

這句話的意思是，走好每一步意味著找到一個

balance between two opposing ideas or attitudes,

兩種對立的思想或態度之間的平衡。

or between two opposing sides  so as not to annoy either side.

或在兩個對立面之間，以免惹惱任何一方。

And finally, we learnt two

最後，我們學到了兩個

newly invented expressions.

新發明的表達方式。

Catfishing means trying to  appear more attractive by

貓捉老鼠是指通過以下方式使自己看起來更有吸引力

pretending to be someone else on social media.

在社交媒體上假裝成別人。

And wokefishing is when someone pretends to

而wokefishing是指有人假裝為

share the same opinions as the person they are attracted to.

與他們所吸引的人有相同的觀點。

Once again, our six minutes are up.

再一次，我們的六分鐘時間到了。

Good luck if you are looking

如果你正在尋找，祝你好運

for love online, and remember - there’s probably

在網上尋找愛情，並記住--可能有

someone out there interested in the real you.

有人對真實的你感興趣。

Bye for now!

暫時再見

Bye!

再見！