I was in spain natalia, I love you visiting a friend and she was talking to her father on the phone and all I heard was bala bala bala bala bala bala bala bala and I knew exactly what she was talking about, she was saying okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay.

And just from the tone and knowing what that word meant, I knew the conversation without airing another word.

僅僅從語氣和知道這個詞的意思，我就知道了談話的內容，不用再多說什麼。

Why am I telling you this?

我為什麼要告訴你這些？

Because I just said stop saying okay, okay, the last video I did say stop saying very, I literally said to people it is a very good word I even said very and people were you said stop saying very but didn't you use it?

因為我剛才說不要說好了，好了，上一個視頻我確實說不要說很，我真的對人們說這是一個非常好的詞，我甚至說很，人們被你說不要說很，但是你沒有用嗎？

And I said it's a great word, we use it.

我說這是個好詞，我們用它。

The difference between myself and a person learning english or english speakers and a person learning english is we have a wider vocabulary so we can express ourselves differently and I'm trying to introduce something for you to have greater clarification, that means being clear and when you're speaking and give you tools to do that and then if you want to say okay all the time please do.

我和一個學習英語的人或講英語的人和一個學習英語的人之間的區別是，我們有更多的詞彙，所以我們可以用不同的方式表達自己，我正試圖為你介紹一些東西，讓你有更大的清晰度，這意味著要清楚，當你說話時，給你工具來做，然後如果你想一直說好，請做。

But you might notice when you say things in a different variety, you will get different information from the people you're speaking to and one of the things I will teach you today is something many english speakers complain about that when foreign speakers learn, they say okay at this situation and they're like because I was thinking because in english we don't usually do it this way.

但是你可能會注意到，當你用不同的品種說事情的時候，你會從你說話的人那裡得到不同的資訊，我今天要教你的一件事是許多說英語的人抱怨的事情，當外國的人學習的時候，他們說好在這種情況下，他們就像因為我在想，因為在英語中我們通常不會這樣做。

I'll get there, you'll know exactly what it is.

我會到那裡的，你會清楚地知道它是什麼。

And if you're an english speaker watching this, you go, Yeah, all the all the freaking to every single time, you know what I mean?

如果你是一個講英語的人，你會說，是啊，所有的所有的每一次都是如此，你知道我的意思嗎？

Anyway, so I said stop saying okay.

總之，所以我說不要再說好了。

And I wrote to, okay, you can write both.

而我寫到，好吧，你可以同時寫。

Listen carefully.

仔細聆聽。

If you're doing a formal paper or something professional, please use this.

如果你要做正式的論文或專業的東西，請使用這個。

Okay.

好的。

That's why I wrote it in blue.

這就是為什麼我把它寫成藍色。

But if you're texting a friend or something and it's casual, you can use this.

但如果你給朋友或其他東西發短信，而且很隨意，你可以用這個。

Okay, Okay, okay, formal informal.

好的，好的，好的，正式的非正式的。

Hence read think carefully.

是以要仔細閱讀思考。

If you want to be safe, let's write this.

如果你想安全一點，我們就寫這個吧。

Okay, All the time.

好的，所有的時間。

You'll never have a problem.

你永遠不會有問題。

Okay, so why is okay popular?

好吧，那麼為什麼好的東西會流行呢？

I'll start with that because some of you will be like, well if we're not supposed to say it, why Dada It is a very good word.

我先說這個，因為你們中的一些人會說，如果我們不應該說，為什麼達達這是一個非常好的詞。

Okay, it's an exclamation.

好吧，這是個感嘆詞。

Okay, I'm exclaiming.

好吧，我在感嘆。

Yeah.

是的。

Okay, sounds good asking for permission.

好吧，聽起來很好的請求許可。

Right?

對嗎？

Is it okay if I do this?

如果我這樣做可以嗎？

Are you okay with that asking and giving permission sufficient, sufficient.

你是否可以接受這樣的要求，並給予足夠的許可，足夠的。

But not great.

但不是很好。

When I studied logic when I was in university was like something is sufficient but it doesn't have enough sufficient.

當我在大學裡學習邏輯學時，就像一些東西是充分的，但它沒有足夠的充分。

When you're saying this, it means it's I was gonna say it's okay, it's good, it works, but it's not the best.

當你這樣說的時候，這意味著它是我想說的，它是好的，它是有效的，但它不是最好的。

How's the food?

食物怎麼樣？

Okay?

好嗎？

It's okay, I can eat it.

沒關係，我可以吃。

I won't die.

我不會死。

It doesn't mean I'm enjoying it describing oneself.

這並不意味著我在享受它描述自己。

How are you?

你好嗎？

And this is the one I was talking about.

而這就是我說的那個人。

Yeah.

是的。

Mhm.

嗯。

Foreign people When somebody says to you, how are you?

外國人民 當有人對你說，你好嗎？

Please don't say okay.

請不要說好。

In our brains.

在我們的大腦中。

Especially if a male is talking to your female, Hey baby, how you doing?

特別是如果一個男性正在和你的女性說話，嘿，寶貝，你怎麼樣？

I'm okay.

我很好。

What's wrong?

怎麼了？

Something's wrong.

有點不對勁。

Something's wrong.

有點不對勁。

We don't take it.

我們不接受。

As in it's good.

因為它很好。

We're like, something's wrong.

我們想，有些事情是不對的。

Usually if I can tell you right now, if you come to me and you know, how are you?

通常情況下，如果我現在能告訴你，如果你來找我，你知道，你怎麼樣了？

I'm okay.

我很好。

I'm not okay.

我不太行。

I am not okay.

我不太行。

But I don't want to talk about it.

但我不想談這個問題。

So please don't say that.

所以請不要這樣說。

I will teach you other things to say.

我將教你說其他的事情。

But this is the one that gets if you see people look funny when you say when and I have a good friend, she does this.

但這是一個得到如果你看到人們看起來很有趣，當你說當，我有一個好朋友，她這樣做。

She'll go, I'm okay with a big smile when I see her personally, I get it.

她會走的，我看到她本人的時候笑得很開心，我明白。

But when I don't feel text, I'm okay and I'm like, did I do something wrong?

但當我沒有感覺到文字時，我就沒事了，我就想，我是不是做錯了什麼？

Is something wrong?

有什麼不對嗎？

What's going on?

發生了什麼事？

You know, I'm okay.

你知道，我很好。

I'm like, you don't get it.

我想，你不明白。

That's not how we work.

這不是我們的工作方式。

You have to say I'm good, I'm great and you want the truth.

你必須說我很好，我很偉大，你想知道真相。

We don't care if you're good or you're great.

我們不關心你是好是壞。

Just don't say okay, okay, okay.

只是不要說好，好，好。

And I did that on purpose for all those people?

我是為了所有這些人而故意這麼做的？

He said 10 times?

他說10次？

And when you're agreeing with someone, you're like, ok, okay.

而當你同意某人的觀點時，你會覺得，好吧，好吧。

Yeah, okay, you're agreeing you're letting the conversation continue.

是的，好的，你同意你讓談話繼續下去。

So now that I've said why it's popular, why don't we talk about why you should stop that saying?

那麼，現在我已經說了為什麼它很流行，為什麼我們不談談為什麼你應該停止這句話？

Stop saying, okay.

不要再說了，好吧。

Why should stop saying?

為什麼要停止說？

Okay, number one, it lacks strong commitment.

好吧，第一，它缺乏強有力的承諾。

If you've ever asked somebody to do something with you, like, hey, you wanna go for dinner and they're like, okay, do you feel like they want to go?

如果你曾經要求別人和你一起做一件事，比如，嘿，你想去吃飯，而他們卻說，好吧，你覺得他們想去嗎？

You don't feel like they want to go?

你不覺得他們想去嗎？

So what you might want to say is use this instead?

所以你可能想說的是用這個代替？

For sure.

可以肯定的是。

Yeah, for sure.

是的，肯定的。

Yes, yes.

是的，是的。

Why don't you just say yes, Absolutely.

你為什麼不直接說是，絕對是。

All right.

好的。

Or this one?

還是這個？

Why not?

為什麼不呢？

It sounds brilliant.

這聽起來很精彩。

Why not?

為什麼不呢？

Because I'm so excited.

因為我太興奮了。

Why not?

為什麼不呢？

I can't think of anything better to do.

我想不出有什麼更好的事情可以做。

This is better than saying, okay, now it lacks emotion.

這比說，好吧，現在它缺乏情感要好。

How was the meal?

這頓飯吃得怎麼樣？

It's okay.

沒關係的。

This is black and white and not black.

這是黑白分明的，不是黑的。

It's gray.

它是灰色的。

It's okay.

沒關係的。

Like I told you it's like a great day.

就像我告訴你的，這就像一個偉大的日子。

It's not really cold.

這不是真的冷。

It's not wet.

它不溼。

It's not really much of a sudden, it's okay.

其實也沒有多突然，還好。

It's a day you're alive.

這是你活著的一天。

That's about it.

就這些了。

So we can turn around and say, or I can say it's you relax motion if I want to talk about my day.

所以我們可以轉身說，或者我可以說是你放鬆運動，如果我想談談我的一天。

Sorry, I can say it's great, fantastic.

對不起，我可以說它很好，太棒了。

It's interesting or brilliant.

這很有趣，或者說很精彩。

And you go, why would you write interesting?

而你去，為什麼你會寫得很有趣？

Well, if you said how's your day and I go interesting Now you're gonna, whoa, what makes it interesting?

好吧，如果你說你今天怎麼樣，我說有趣，現在你會，哇，什麼使它有趣？

Well I just got this great job offer or or this person over.

好吧，我剛剛得到這個偉大的工作機會，或者這個人過來。

It draws conversation by point about not using Okay.

它通過對不使用Okay的點來吸引談話。

Is this when you dispense with the word or not?

這時你到底是不是免除了這個詞呢？

Use the word Okay?

使用 "好 "字？

You open up more communication because your choice of words leads people to want to investigate and no more.

你打開了更多的交流，因為你的選擇導致人們想要調查，而不是更多。

When you say okay, it's like being something great.

當你說好的時候，就像做一件偉大的事情。

There's nothing more to it.

沒有更多的東西了。

No conversation is the death of your conversation or language and you're here to learn how to speak more with others communicate better.

沒有任何談話是你的談話或語言的死亡，你在這裡學習如何與他人更好地交流。

This is what we're doing here.

這就是我們在這裡所做的事情。

So now you start seeing how these words and even a word like interesting can draw out more conversation.

是以，現在你開始看到這些詞，甚至像有趣這樣的詞可以引出更多的對話。

Cool.

酷。

Especially if you say interesting, they're gonna go, why is that person saying this?

特別是如果你說有趣，他們就會去，為什麼那個人要這樣說？

Now?

現在？

That's it doesn't demonstrate you really want authentic permission.

那是它並不表明你真的想要真實的許可。

If you say is it okay if I take your book it means I'm just asking you because I've been told I have to ask you.

如果你說我拿你的書可以嗎，這意味著我只是在問你，因為有人告訴我必須要問你。

But if I say, hey, are you sure?

但如果我說，嘿，你確定嗎？

It's okay if I take your book I'm saying are you sure I want to confirm with you?

如果我拿著你的書也沒關係，我說你確定我想和你確認嗎？

Another thing you can say, is it alright?

另一件事，你可以說，這樣好嗎？

If because it's right means correct.

如果因為它是正確的就意味著正確。

Right.

對。

Is it alright if I take off next monday, I'm asking I'm genuinely asking you for your permission.

如果我下週一請假，可以嗎？我是真心實意地請求你的同意。

I want authentic means real.

我要的是真實的意思。

You're real permission because I wanted to know it's okay with you.

你是真正的許可，因為我想知道這對你來說沒有問題。

I know I want it, but I want to know you're okay with it and say okay again, I want to know that you're happy with this as well.

我知道我想要它，但我想知道你對它沒有意見，再說好吧，我想知道你對這個也很滿意。

I really care.

我真的很關心。

Okay, now here not giving authentic permission.

好吧，現在這裡不給真實的許可。

Do you mind if I take your car?

你介意我開你的車嗎？

Okay?

好嗎？

Do you really think I want to say?

你真的認為我想說嗎？

It's like it's like I'm being forced to do it.

這就像我是被強迫做的一樣。

But if I say to you, yeah, go ahead.

但如果我對你說，是的，去吧。

Of course.

當然了。

Yeah, no problem.

是的，沒問題。

I'm totally into it.

我完全投入其中。

I'm not just giving non authentic permission.

我不只是給予非真實的許可。

I'm saying I'm really believing this.

我說我是真的相信這個。

I'm happy to do this with you or for you.

我很高興與你一起或為你做這件事。

And the last one I just told you is this one here.

而我剛剛告訴你的最後一個是這裡的這個。

It's when you can create unnecessary concern.

這時你就會產生不必要的擔憂。

If I say how are you?

如果我說你好嗎？

And you're like, okay, okay, I'm gonna freak out.

而你就像，好吧，好吧，我要抓狂了。

Dude, what's wrong with you?

老兄，你怎麼了？

He said I'm great.

他說我很好。

I'm good.

我很好。

I'm well, once again, nobody cares.

我很好，再一次，沒有人關心。

We don't.

我們不知道。

It's like when you say how are you, you say it because it's a social convention.

這就像你說你好嗎，你說它是因為這是一個社會慣例。

That's what we do when we meet each other.

這就是我們遇到對方時的做法。

Hey, how are you?

嘿，你好嗎？

I'm good.

我很好。

Me too.

我也是。

I'm dying.

我快要死了。

But I'm not gonna tell you that because we're just crossing each other on the street, right?

但我不會告訴你，因為我們只是在大街上擦肩而過，對嗎？

But when you say, okay, that might stop the person to go because that's not a usual response.

但是當你說，好吧，這可能會阻止這個人去，因為這不是一個通常的反應。

Now I'm gonna give you one little thing about this and I kind of lied when somebody says how are you If for instance, if I was walking, I fell on the ground, I'm okay.

現在我要給你一個關於這個的小東西，我有點撒謊，當有人說你怎麼樣的時候，如果打個比方，如果我在走路，我摔在地上，我就沒事。

I'm okay.

我很好。

That's alright.

這倒沒什麼。

That's okay.

那也沒關係。

That's what you're saying.

這就是你所說的。

I'm not injured, I'm not damaged.

我沒有受傷，我沒有受到損害。

In that case it's okay.

在這種情況下，它是可以的。

But if someone is saying how are you like today?

但如果有人說你今天怎麼樣？

Because I haven't seen you totally different.

因為我還沒有看到你完全不同。

So if it's just hey tom, how are you?

那麼，如果只是嘿，湯姆，你好嗎？

I'm good man.

我很好的人。

Don't say I'm okay.

不要說我很好。

But if tom falls, you go tom tom are you okay?

但如果湯姆摔倒了，你就說湯姆你還好嗎？

Yeah, I'm ok.

是的，我很好。

It's all good.

這一切都很好。

Fine note the difference because you'll say, oh well that's it.

細緻地注意到這一區別，因為你會說，哦，就這樣吧。

If you have an accident, I'm okay, it's fine, perfectly fine and acceptable.

如果你出了事故，我沒事，這很好，完全可以接受。

You probably wouldn't say I'm great.

你可能不會說我是偉大的。

I'm great.

我很好。

That wouldn't make sense.

這就說不通了。

I'd be like he's he's hurt seriously.

我想他是他受傷嚴重。

Okay.

好的。

So I hope this lesson has given you an expansion in your vocabulary.

所以我希望這一課能給你帶來詞彙量的擴展。

I know there's some repetition but it's not the repetition.

我知道有一些重複，但這不是重複的問題。

That's important.

這很重要。

Is your understanding of why we're saying it.

是你對我們為什麼要這樣說的理解。

We want to give a stronger commitment to what we're saying.

我們希望對我們所說的內容給予更有力的承諾。

We want to give more emotion.

我們希望給予更多的情感。

We want to give a greater demonstration.

我們想給大家一個更大的示範。

I'm giving permission or I really care when I'm asking for permission.

我在給予許可，或者說我在請求許可的時候真的很在意。

I really care how you feel and I don't want to create unnecessary concern or create a situation that didn't need to happen because of lack of communication.

我真的很關心你的感受，我不想造成不必要的擔憂，也不想因為缺乏溝通而造成本不需要發生的情況。

Cool, So use these, you'll get better communication, but why don't we test that right away and I'm gonna go back off this little click trick you.

酷，所以使用這些，你會得到更好的溝通，但為什麼我們不馬上測試一下，我將回去關閉這個小點擊技巧你。

Yeah that's not the click, I'll click, we'll go to the board, I'll teach you a couple other things you might want to know about the word okay.

是的，這不是點擊，我將點擊，我們將去董事會，我將教你一些其他的事情，你可能想知道這個詞的好。

And a quick quiz to make sure you understand how to use this and use it in your next conversation right away.

還有一個快速測試，以確保你瞭解如何使用這個，並在你的下一次談話中立即使用它。

Cool.

酷。

So you have no idea how much I wanted to say okay but I'm doing this lesson.

所以你不知道我有多想說好吧，但我要做這個課。

So so here's our quiz to start off with and then I'm going to move to your homework and extra information first.

是以，這裡是我們的測驗開始，然後我將首先轉移到你的家庭作業和額外資訊。

Win the first one is if someone says to you, how is your day how should you respond interesting or absolutely interesting?

贏得第一個是如果有人對你說，你今天怎麼樣你應該如何迴應有趣或絕對有趣？

Remember what I said?

記得我說過什麼嗎？

If you say interesting, it says something happened that was not normal.

如果你說有趣，就說明發生了不正常的事情。

So the other person now wants to talk to you and we've created a conversation that they'll go what happened?

所以對方現在想和你談談，我們已經創造了一個對話，他們會去發生了什麼？

Right and that's what you want more conversation.

對，而這正是你想要的更多對話。

How about # 2?

2號怎麼樣？

Do you want to see a movie later?

你以後想看電影嗎？

Why not?

為什麼不呢？

Why not?

為什麼不呢？

It's like well why not?

這就像為什麼不呢？

There's I can't think of anything better to do.

我想不出有什麼更好的事情可以做。

If you say I'm good, you could say I'm good but don't if I say hey you wanna see a movie you're like I'm good means no no not with you.

如果你說我很好，你可以說我很好，但不要如果我說嘿，你想看電影，你就會說我很好，意思是不不和你在一起。

I'm good, no thanks, no thank you.

我很好，不謝，不謝。

So I just taught you something that has nothing to do with okay if you want to be kind of mean?