I believe in not settling for someone just because they're close to you.

我相信不要因為某人與你關係密切就滿足於此。

If your person is out there somewhere in the world and they're meant for you, you will end up together.

如果你的人就在世界的某個地方，而且他們與你有緣，你們最終會在一起。

I have always been the one to leave the relationship because I know when to quit and when my heart can't take anymore, I'm going through a lot and I can't really talk about everything because I feel like there's some things that are just kind of like personal, you just keep to yourself.

我一直是離開這段關係的人，因為我知道什麼時候退出，什麼時候我的心受不了了，我經歷了很多，我不能真的談論所有的事情，因為我覺得有些事情只是有點像個人的事情，你只是保持自己。

I don't really know what to say to the camera anymore to me, distance doesn't matter how you meet someone, doesn't matter the pace in which you fall in love doesn't matter.

我真的不知道該對鏡頭說些什麼了，對我來說，距離並不重要，你如何遇到一個人，並不重要，你戀愛的速度也不重要。

But how you choose to love someone does matter.

但你如何選擇愛一個人確實很重要。

A relationship is two people who love each other just the same.

一段關係是兩個同樣愛對方的人。

To love is not a chore to love is effortless.

愛不是一件苦差事，愛是毫不費力的。

Mhm Good morning everybody.

大家早上好。

So today is a sunny, warm day.

所以今天是一個陽光明媚、溫暖的日子。

It's becoming spring.

它正在成為春天。

I have a lot to get done today, but I thought I'd vlog because I have a lot on my mind and I just want to talk about these things because a lot of people are probably going through some similar things last night I worked, finished off what I was doing for my boyfriend.

我今天有很多事情要做，但我想我要發微博，因為我有很多心事，我只想談談這些事情，因為很多人可能正在經歷一些類似的事情，昨晚我工作了，完成了我為我男朋友做的事情。

It wasn't really originally a valentine's Day gift, but it was more Like an appreciation gift of how he's been towards me throughout the past couple of months or a few months, so I wrote 20 letters, I forgot to film the actual letters because I was just so like focused on it and then I packed it up right away because I was just so excited and I packed up some snacks and ramen and curry and pasta sauces that he wanted for himself because he misses those things in Japan, so I'm sending those things to him today and I'm really excited about it in three weeks, we're going to see each other for the first time and it's really exciting.

這並不是一份真正的情人節禮物，但它更像是一份感謝禮物，感謝他在過去幾個月或幾個月裡對我的態度，所以我寫了20封信。我忘了拍下真正的信，因為我太專注於它了，然後我馬上打包，因為我太興奮了，我還打包了一些零食、拉麵、咖喱和意大利麵醬，這是他自己想要的，因為他在日本很想念這些東西，所以我今天要把這些東西寄給他，我真的很興奮，三週後，我們將第一次見到對方，這真的很令人興奮。

Now we have a mutual friend and I failed to mention that in past videos, I have to say that we have been so talkative with each other, we're communicating every day.

現在我們有一個共同的朋友，我在過去的視頻中沒有提到這一點，我不得不說，我們之間已經很談得來了，我們每天都在交流。

We have a Skype date today, it's just nonstop, like 24 7, we are never too busy for each other and I feel like if you're in a long distance relationship you can't be too busy for your significant other.

我們今天有一個Skype約會，它只是不停地，像24 7，我們永遠不會為對方太忙，我覺得如果你在一個長距離的關係中，你不能為你的重要對方太忙。

Always been in relationships where one person loves the other more than the other and I feel like I've always been that girl that has put in so much love and effort into a relationship and I've never gotten really much in return and I've noticed that about this relationship, how we're on the same page and on the same level, he's so supportive, he encourages me every day, he watches all my videos and he just loves me no matter what happens or what I do or how I am.

一直以來，在關係中，一個人愛另一個人多於另一個人，我覺得我一直是那個在關係中投入如此多的愛和努力的女孩，而我從來沒有得到真正的回報，我注意到，關於這段關係，我們是如何在同一個頁面和同一個水準上，他是如此支持我，他每天鼓勵我，他看我所有的視頻，他只是愛我，無論發生什麼，我做什麼或我是如何。

He loves all my flaws and I think that's so important when you find somebody and I just, I have zero doubts.

他喜歡我所有的缺點，我認為當你找到某人時，這一點是如此重要，我只是，我沒有任何懷疑。

So yeah, I'm going to go and send this and go to the grocery store and come back.

所以，是的，我要去發送這個，然後去雜貨店，然後回來。

I will see you guys in a second.

我馬上就會見到你們。

So I totally forgot to show the letters in my video, but I just Packaged up a bunch of things like Curry and Ramen.

所以我完全忘了在我的視頻中展示這些字母，但我只是打包了一堆東西，比如咖喱和拉麵。

I put 20 letters in here that I wrote him, I just wrote the letters and I put open and then open when you are feeling lonely or open when you can't sleep open when you wake up.

我在這裡放了20封信，是我給他寫的，我只是寫了這些信，我把打開，然後在你感到孤獨的時候打開，或者在你睡不著的時候打開，在你醒來的時候打開。

So every time he's feeling a certain way he can open a letter.

是以，每當他有某種感覺的時候，他可以打開一封信。

Okay, so that basically took forever.

好的，所以這基本上花了很長時間。

I was in there for like an hour trying to send the package and the lady was confused about cup ramen because they don't say cup ramen here.

我在那裡呆了大約一個小時，試圖發送包裹，那位女士對杯裝拉麵感到困惑，因為他們在這裡沒有說杯裝拉麵。

They say instant noodles.

他們說是方便麵。

So like they weren't sure if they were gonna like stop the package or not.

所以他們不確定是否要停止包裝。

So I don't know like exactly what happened, but hopefully it'll get to him what I learned through long distance relationships is to look to live in the present moment to keep your sanity, even though I know it's hard, don't focus on the future, focus on yourself and well being communicate with each other often make each other laugh as often as possible and think about how that makes you feel.

所以我不知道到底發生了什麼，但希望能讓他知道，我通過異地戀學到的東西是要看重活在當下，以保持你的理智，儘管我知道這很難，不要專注於未來，專注於自己和良好的溝通，經常讓對方儘可能多地笑，想想這讓你感覺如何。

Currently things will fall into place eventually.

目前，事情最終會落到實處。

So tiny.

這麼小。

Oh my God and why are they so expensive?

哦，我的上帝，為什麼它們這麼貴？

I want and I just get one I swear to God like I'm trying to eat less sugar and this place is taunting me.

我想，我只是得到了一個，我向上帝發誓，就像我試圖少吃糖，而這個地方在嘲弄我。

Oh my God, these are my favorites american soft one way and L.

哦，我的上帝，這些都是我最喜歡的美國人的柔軟的一種方式和L。

D.

D.

R.

R.

Will fail is if you care too much about what other people think and someone else's fears for your own relationship.

會失敗的是如果你太在乎別人的想法和別人對你自己的關係的恐懼。

Don't do that.

不要這樣做。

I got this aroma humidifier.

我得到了這個香薰加溼器。

It is so nice.

它是如此的好。

Oh my God I love the lights but you can put it on for one hour, three hours or six hours and it smells so good.

哦，我的上帝，我喜歡這些燈，但你可以把它放在一個小時，三個小時或六個小時，它聞起來非常好。

Oh my God.

哦，我的上帝。

So today's meal.

所以今天的飯菜。

This amazing delicious bento.

這個驚人的美味便當。

I get it at this supermarket called day and it has like everything, it has like tomato, yaki, it has some chicken fish, black beans, this is ginger, a bunch of vegetables and japanese potatoes and then this is like purple rice, it's supposed to be a little bit more nutritious than white rice.

我在這個叫天的超市買的，裡面什麼都有，有西紅柿、燒餅，有一些雞肉魚肉、黑豆，這是生薑，還有一堆蔬菜和日本的洋芋，然後這是紫米，應該比白米更有營養。

And then I usually eat this with NATO.

然後我通常和北約一起吃這個。

Um A lot of stress happened this past couple of weeks and I got sick again, I got a cold and I think I just get sick from stress.

過去幾周發生了很多壓力，我又生病了，我感冒了，我想我只是因為壓力而生病。

Mostly my immune system just dies when I'm stressed and I work with kids.

大多數情況下，我的免疫系統在我有壓力和與孩子一起工作時就會死亡。

So But also I didn't have pneumonia um that long ago.

是以，但我也沒有得過肺炎，嗯，很久以前。

So, I honestly, I don't think I'm completely better because I still am coughing up some stuff.

所以，說實話，我不認為我已經完全好了，因為我仍然在咳嗽一些東西。

Past couple weeks have been so long.

過去幾周是如此漫長。

I took on a lot of jobs, a lot of social media jobs.

我接了很多工作，很多社交媒體的工作。

So I'm just really busy.

所以我只是真的很忙。

It does get overwhelming after a while because of deadlines and things like that.

因為最後期限和類似的事情，一段時間後確實會讓人不知所措。

I think I'm also getting anxious because I'm going to meet my boyfriend for the first time.

我想我也開始焦慮了，因為我將會第一次見到我的男朋友。

And that's really strange to say because I feel like I know him already.

這樣說真的很奇怪，因為我覺得我已經認識他了。

But yeah, I don't know, I'm just nervous.

但是，是的，我不知道，我只是緊張。

Like there's so much going through my head like what is he going to think of me?

我腦子裡想了很多，比如他將會怎麼看我？

Like am I going to be, is he gonna like me any different when we meet in person?

比如我是否會，當我們見面時，他是否會喜歡我有什麼不同？

How are we going to be together in person physically?

我們要如何親自在一起的身體呢？

So it's it's exciting because we're so in love and I love that about us that we just click I don't know, I'm just really, I'm feeling like these mix of emotions but they're not necessarily bad.

所以這很令人興奮，因為我們是如此相愛，我喜歡我們之間的這種關係，我們只是一拍即合，我不知道，我只是真的，我感覺這些混合的情緒，但它們不一定是壞的。

I don't know how to explain them but I think it's just anxious nous and getting there and but I'm excited and nervous at the same time.

我不知道如何解釋它們，但我認為這只是焦慮的神經和到達那裡，但我同時也很興奮和緊張。

I just want to plan out something so I'm gonna lesson plan and plan out my meals for the next three weeks I think.

我只是想計劃一些事情，所以我打算制定課程計劃，並計劃好未來三週的飲食，我想。

Mm hmm.

嗯，嗯。

Mhm Do you miss Japan?

你想念日本嗎？

I missed Japan.

我想念日本。

Yeah.

是的。

What do you miss about Japan food?

你對日本的食物有什麼懷念？

Yeah.

是的。

I feel like the food is way better here.

我覺得這裡的食物要好得多。

I think so too.

我也這麼認為。

Everything is like it tastes way better.

一切都像它的味道好得多。

Like if I go to a family restaurant.

比如我去一家家庭餐館。

Yeah.

是的。

I think in Japan ties area.

我認為在日本的領帶地區。

Yes.

是的。

Everything is like size area and just are like american western style restaurant.

一切都像大小區，只是像美國的西式餐廳。

What are you going to miss when you leave?

當你離開時，你會懷念什麼？

L.

L.

A.

A.

Yeah.

是的。

Um not tropic.

嗯，不是熱帶。

What are you gonna miss?

你會錯過什麼呢？

Yeah, I know.

是的，我知道。

I know.

我知道。

Um I'm thinking nothing because your life is better here.

嗯，我覺得沒什麼，因為你在這裡的生活更好。

Um There are like a lot of creative people here.

嗯，這裡有很多有創造力的人。

So it's not a creative people in Japan.

所以在日本，這不是一個有創造力的人。

I'm sure you know you don't even know anymore.

我相信你知道你甚至不知道了。

I'm excited to like see your reaction to everything again.

我很高興能再次看到你對一切的反應。

Yeah.

是的。

I'm gonna get excited about everything.

我對一切都會感到興奮。

Just like me when I'm in the States.

就像我在美國的時候一樣。

Watch me freak out at a supermarket.

看我在超市裡發飆。

Yes, I'll take it to the supermarket.

是的，我會把它帶到超市去。

I'm gonna be holding the camera and I'm gonna be filming your whole, I'm gonna be going crazy.

我將拿著攝影機，拍下你的整個過程，我將會變得很瘋狂。

Alright.

好吧。

I'm super behind on life right now.

我現在在生活上超級落後。

I haven't started editing the video that the deadline.

我還沒有開始編輯視頻，截止日期。

Is this coming saturday I believe for my next series.

我相信這個星期六是我的下一個系列。

So that's what I'm gonna be doing the rest of the night.

所以這就是我今晚要做的事。

I'm just going to eat.

我只是去吃飯。

Get my pajamas.

拿到我的睡衣。

Get all cozy and just work?

得到所有的舒適，只是工作？

Work work.

工作工作。

I have a little bit of organic frozen broccoli.

我有一點有機冷凍西蘭花。

So I'm gonna heat this up to add to the chili and and an IRB.

所以我要把這個加熱，加入辣椒和和IRB中。

I got medium spicy Amy's chili, black bean chili.

我買了中辣的艾米辣椒，黑豆辣椒。

I'm gonna just cook this up really quick and we're gonna make it with the broccoli and the pasta and I have some whole wheat crackers to eat with it.

我只是要把這個煮得非常快，我們要把它與西蘭花和意大利麵一起做，我有一些全麥餅乾可以一起吃。

And that's gonna be my dinner for tonight.

而這將是我今晚的晚餐。

The chili cooking in the pot and this is my pasta, brown rice pasta that I made.

辣椒在鍋裡煮，這是我做的意大利麵，糙米麵。

I'm not going to eat all of this, but I'm gonna put like a cup of it in another cup, crackers, broccoli in this and that's my meal.

我不打算吃完這些，但我要把它放在另一個杯子裡，餅乾，西蘭花放在這裡面，這就是我的飯。

It's the finished product.

這就是成品。

So we have the chili and the Broccoli, the brown rice pasta and I'm gonna add some crackers, one package 90 calories.

是以，我們有辣椒和西蘭花，糙米麵，我要加一些餅乾，一包90卡路里。

And these are like whole wheat crackers or whatever.

而這些就像全麥餅乾之類的東西。

So these are the ones that I'm gonna be eating with my meal.

所以這些是我要在吃飯時吃的。

Have goals, Make sure when you're with someone long distance you won't be in one forever.

要有目標，確保當你和一個長距離的人在一起時，你不會永遠在一起。

This is how you're going to have to be in my videos for the next six months.

在接下來的六個月裡，你就必須在我的視頻中這樣做。

I'm sorry.

我很抱歉。

I like it.

我喜歡它。

It looks nice.

它看起來不錯。

I'm just showing off my new camera strap.

我只是在炫耀我的新相機帶。

Is that your new camera.

這是你的新相機嗎。

Wait, is that your, is that your new camera?

等等，那是你的，那是你的新相機嗎？

Yeah, you never showed it to me.

是的，你從未給我看過。

I think I did.

我想我做到了。

You didn't show it to me on.

你沒有向我展示它。

Oh FM to buy, How much was it?

哦，調頻買的，多少錢？

$300 decent film cameras.

300美元的體面的膠片相機。

It's like $100 with lens but this one I have to pay more because it's like It's got the shadow speed of 4000.

帶鏡頭的相機好像是100美元，但這個相機我必須支付更多，因為它的影速是4000。

How fancy you are Became with 24 mm 2.8, which is a decent lens.

你是多麼的花哨 成為24毫米2.8，這是一個體面的鏡頭。

I'm 28 years old now and I have learned quite a lot about relationships like this one, here's what I learned and what you need to know.

我現在28歲了，我對這樣的關係學到了不少東西，以下是我學到的東西和你需要知道的東西。

Hey guys, so it's a couple of days later and I just didn't get a chance to film an ending for this.

嘿，夥計們，所以現在已經過了幾天，我只是沒有機會為這個拍攝一個結局。

But today when I was shopping, we were just texting each other all day.

但今天我在購物時，我們只是一整天都在給對方發短信。

We're calling each other.

我們正在給對方打電話。

He had the day off today.

他今天放了一天假。

He wasn't working even on his workdays.

他甚至在工作日也不工作。

He answers my text messages and he calls me when he wants to and he reads my messages.

他回覆我的簡訊，他想給我打電話的時候就給我打電話，他讀我的資訊。

It it just, that's how it should be because my last relationship, as you saw in the beginning of this video, it was so toxic and I wouldn't hear from my boyfriend for a couple of days, my last relationship long distance and it was just frustrating and I remember I told my ex boyfriend how I felt and that I was like, I can't keep going with this if you're not going to respect the relationship and you're not going to make time for me because long distance is hard.

它只是，它應該是這樣的，因為我的上一段關係，正如你在這個視頻的開頭所看到的，它是如此的有毒，我不會聽到我的男朋友幾天的消息，我的上一段關係是長距離的，它只是令人沮喪，我記得我告訴我的前男友我的感受，我想，如果你不打算尊重這段關係，你不打算為我騰出時間，我不能繼續這樣下去，因為長距離是困難的。

You can't physically touch each other.

你們不能在身體上接觸對方。

You can't physically be there there for each other.

你不能在身體上陪伴對方。

So you have to really work hard in the relationship harder than normal?

所以你必須在這段關係中真正努力工作，比正常情況下更努力？

It was just very upsetting.

這只是非常令人不安。

I was depressed every day, I was sad, I didn't feel like he cared and he, even though he said I do care, but there's just things that you need to do when you're with somebody that you love and if you want to keep it going, if you want to keep the long distance relationship strong, and I didn't believe in the things that he felt, maybe some people can do that.

我每天都很沮喪，我很傷心，我不覺得他在乎，而他，儘管他說我在乎，但當你和你愛的人在一起時，你需要做的只是一些事情，如果你想讓它繼續下去，如果你想保持長距離關係的牢固，我不相信他所感受到的事情，也許有些人可以做到。

Maybe some people can go days without talking to somebody, but I personally cannot and I, I wanted his time and he wasn't giving it to me and he would make excuses and he would say, you don't need to know everything that I'm doing, which is one thing if, if a guy says that to you in a long distance relationship, you don't need to know everything that I'm doing and it's true, you don't need to know every single little thing that you're doing and that's not what I mean, that's not what he meant by it and it's true, you don't need to know like when he's eating or when he's going to the bathroom, like that's not important, but if someone fails to tell you things like, oh I'm going on a camping trip this weekend, I kind of asked him what he was doing and he got upset about it and then he's like, I'm going on a camping trip and I'm like, since when were you going on this camping trip?

也許有些人可以幾天不和別人說話，但我個人不能，我想要他的時間，但他沒有給我，他會找藉口，他會說，你不需要知道我做的一切，這是一件事，如果，如果一個男人在長距離關係中對你說，你不需要知道我做的一切，這是真的，你不需要知道你做的每一件小事，這不是我的意思。這不是他的意思，是真的，你不需要知道他什麼時候吃飯，什麼時候上廁所，這些都不重要，但如果有人不告訴你，比如，哦，我這個週末要去露營，我問他在做什麼，他就不高興了，然後他就說，我要去露營了，我就說，你什麼時候開始去露營的？

I had no idea about it and I'm talking about long distance, I'm not talking about in the same area, in the same city, whatever, but when someone gets mad at you, if you ask some questions, if you call them and they don't want to talk to you, like if you call them and they pick up and they say, why are you calling me?

我對此一無所知，我說的是長途電話，我不是說在同一個地區，在同一個城市，不管怎麼樣，但是當有人對你生氣時，如果你問一些問題，如果你給他們打電話，他們不想和你說話，比如你給他們打電話，他們接起來，他們說，你為什麼給我打電話？

Why are you calling me?

你為什麼要給我打電話？

I'm busy.

我很忙。

That's a red flag.

這是個紅旗。

It just, there's just so many things that you really need to look out for when you do start a long distance relationship and I've learned that.

只是，當你開始一段異地戀時，你真的需要注意很多事情，我已經學會了。

So hopefully anybody that's out there that's in one now, I can help you understand what to do at this point.

是以，希望任何現在身處其中的人，我可以幫助你瞭解在這一點上應該做什麼。

If you're feeling down all the time, if you're feeling bad, it's just not a good sign is it just means that you're not a good match, your values and your priorities just aren't matching up.

如果你一直感到沮喪，如果你感覺不好，這不是一個好兆頭，它只是意味著你不是一個好的匹配，你的價值觀和你的優先事項只是不匹配。

And if that's the case, then it's just something that you need to end.

如果是這種情況，那麼這只是你需要結束的事情。

But I'm really lucky to have my boyfriend, I worry a lot.

但我真的很幸運，有我的男朋友，我經常擔心。

I have anxiety.

我有焦慮症。

My boyfriend has always made me feel so calm and he'll call me and text me within the a couple of hours or whatever.

我的男朋友總是讓我感到很平靜，他會在幾個小時內給我打電話，給我發簡訊或其他什麼。

If he's busy at work or something and that's how it should be thinking about my last long distance versus this one, I just know and understand what's what should be happening and what shouldn't be happening.

如果他忙於工作或其他事情，而這是應該的，想想我上一次的異地戀與這一次的異地戀，我就知道和明白什麼是應該發生的，什麼是不應該發生的。

I feel like we're in this together and that's the most important thing and I'm just so happy and I feel like myself and I feel like I'm the best version of myself anyway.

我覺得我們在一起，這是最重要的事情，我只是很高興，我覺得自己是自己，我覺得我是最好的自己。

I hope you guys enjoyed this, I'm sorry if there's too much talking in it, but I just want to help anybody out there who is in a long distance relationship as well and if they're struggling with, should I stay with this person or not know what's right and what's wrong and the red flags and I'm sure your heart will guide you.

我希望你們喜歡這個，如果裡面有太多的談話，我很抱歉，但我只是想幫助任何在異地戀中的人，如果他們在掙扎，我是否應該和這個人在一起，或者不知道什麼是對的，什麼是錯的，以及紅旗，我相信你的心會引導你。

I think that's the most important thing and I have been through bad relationships but I know when to quit and that's when, what you need to learn and it can be hard, Don't forget to hit the like button if you want more videos like this, subscribe to this channel if you want to see more Japan related videos as well as life tips and lifestyle type things.