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  • - How do you start a conversation in English?

  • Well, if you want to learn some natural English small talk

  • so that you can start conversations easily,

  • you're in the right place.

  • (upbeat music)

  • Hello, this is Keith from the YouTube channel,

  • English Speaking Success, and I also run the website,

  • The Keith Speaking Academy.

  • And I'm here, why am I here?

  • Oh, yes, I'm here, well, not only to help you study English,

  • but also I really want to help you speak better English

  • and become a better communicator in English.

  • Yes, that's what I would like to help you with today

  • and the days coming.

  • And I think that's why small talk is important, right?

  • Because when we meet people,

  • we often talk about unimportant things.

  • What we call trivial, things like the weather, right?

  • And this is just a way to break the ice,

  • or it's a conversation starter.

  • It's a way to get to know the person better sometimes,

  • sometimes it's just a way of saying hello, right.

  • Sometimes it's just one sentence and then bye-bye,

  • other times you wanna get to know the person better

  • and find some common ground

  • that you can talk about and discuss.

  • So I wonder, what do people in your country talk about

  • when you meet somebody, or you meet a new person

  • for the first time?

  • Let me know, leave me a comment down below.

  • So in this video,

  • we're gonna be talking about three typical situations

  • where you might use small talk,

  • the common topics that you might talk about,

  • and I'll show you some natural,

  • easy to use phrases that you can be using

  • and putting to action, well, right away.

  • Also, I have a bonus at the very end of the video,

  • because, you know, I think around the world,

  • by and large, people talk about the same things

  • in small talk, however,

  • it does depend sometimes on the culture and the country,

  • there are certain topics that are more popular

  • and there are certain topics

  • which are taboo, taboo just means

  • you shouldn't talk about them.

  • So the bonus is at the end of this video,

  • I'm gonna tell you some of the taboo topics

  • for British people, right?

  • The things that you shouldn't say to British people

  • when you're engaged in small talk.

  • And just before we move on,

  • I'd like to say a big, big, thank you to Cambly,

  • who are sponsoring this video.

  • If you don't know Cambly,

  • it's an online platform where you can learn English

  • with qualified native English speaking teachers,

  • very practical, very easy to use,

  • fantastic way to practice your English

  • and become a better communicator.

  • I'm gonna tell you more about that later in the video

  • right now, let's get into that first situation

  • where we may be using small talk.

  • Okay, so the first scenario

  • if you like is parties and social events.

  • So maybe it's a birthday party or an office party,

  • Christmas party, social events, you know,

  • it could be a wedding, could be a conference,

  • a networking event, that kind of situation

  • where you're meeting people

  • and you want to start conversations

  • to get to know them better.

  • Now, there may be different things you can talk about.

  • And I think you can talk about location, about food,

  • about people, about travel and hobbies

  • to name a few, probably others,

  • but let's have a look at each of these in turn.

  • So first of all, the first one,

  • when you're kind of wanting to break the ice,

  • the location can be a good thing to talk about.

  • Location can be either where you are now

  • or where you're from.

  • So for example, I mean, if you're at a conference,

  • for example, have you been here before?

  • It's a classic sentence, right?

  • A classic question, and also, what brings you here today?

  • Which is nicer than, why did you come here today?

  • Which sounds a bit, why did you come here today?

  • Sounds a bit strong.

  • What brings you here today is much softer and polite.

  • And of course you can ask about where people are from.

  • So where are you from?

  • Where are you from?

  • And just be careful with this one.

  • Because sometimes people say, you know,

  • I come from, well, for example,

  • I come from China and the other person says,

  • oh right, I met a woman one from China, Mrs. Wang,

  • maybe you know her?

  • It's like, come on, seriously?

  • And I think what happens is people are so eager

  • to find this common ground and keep the conversation going,

  • they say rather silly things, right.

  • It's much better sometimes just to say, well,

  • if you've never been there, right, well, oh,

  • I've never been to China, what's it like?

  • And that's great because then you give them the opportunity

  • to talk about where they're from.

  • People love talking about where they're from

  • and their hometown.

  • Okay, location, next food.

  • If you're at an event where they have put on some food

  • or they've given you some food or a dinner

  • or a buffet or a finger buffet,

  • of course you can say, how's the food here?

  • How's the food here?

  • Great, or even, it's a nice spread, isn't it?

  • It's a nice spread, isn't it?

  • A spread is a meal because you spread the food on the table.

  • That's a meal, typically like a buffet.

  • It's a nice spread, isn't it?

  • Isn't it is a very high level of English.

  • This, we call it a question tag.

  • It is a nice spread isn't it, is quite difficult

  • to use and many learners of English

  • find it very challenging to use naturally.

  • If you can, great.

  • You'll show you've got a high level.

  • If not, you can just say, right.

  • It's a nice spread right.

  • Next, people.

  • So you can talk about the other person

  • or you can talk about yourself

  • or about other people at the event, okay.

  • The first thing I always do when I introduce myself

  • at parties is I keep it super simple.

  • Hello, I'm Keith.

  • And I say, my name,

  • I say my name really slowly.

  • And that's it because people are not gonna remember.

  • I mean, you'll be lucky if they remember your name,

  • but some people go, hello,

  • my name is Keith's, I'm an English teacher.

  • I'm from Manchester, and at the moment I'm living in Spain.

  • and all the other person hears is, and that's it.

  • That's all they get, so keep it super simple.

  • Hello I'm, right.

  • Now, if it's for example,

  • Matthew's party or Matthew's wedding,

  • you could say, so how do you know Matthew?

  • Nice question, and then if you're digging deeper

  • to get to know the person better, and what do you do?

  • Even deeper, how did you get into that?

  • How did you get into that?

  • Meaning how did you start that work

  • or that job or that activity?

  • People love to tell their life story

  • about how they started a business

  • or how they started working in a certain field.

  • That's a great question, how did you get into that?

  • And if things are going well and you're digging even deeper,

  • right, you could say,

  • and what are you working on at the moment?

  • What are you working on at the moment?

  • Notice the stress, what are you working on at that moment?

  • Try.

  • Yeah, that's great.

  • And again, people love to tell you

  • about the projects they're doing,

  • or what's keeping them busy at the moment.

  • It's a really nice way to dig deeper into the conversation.

  • Now you've talked, that's going quite deep.

  • You may at times want to switch and make things lighter,

  • a bit more lighthearted, right?