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  • An average person lives around 80 years in the  developed world. That looks like a long time at  

    在發達國家,一個人的平均壽命約為80歲。這看起來是一個很長的時間,在

  • first glance, but it's nothing. Life on earth  started 3.6 Billion years ago. In comparison,  

    乍一看,但這不算什麼。地球上的生命始於36億年前。相比之下。

  • your life looks smaller than an atom. You  are not even guaranteed to live 80 years.  

    你的生命看起來比一個原子還要小。你甚至不能保證能活到80歲。

  • You are born, you learn how to walk and  talk, you grow up and develop a personality  

    你出生了,你學會了如何走路和說話,你長大了,形成了人格

  • till you hit 18. You get into college, graduateand your real-life starts there. From the moment  

    直到你達到18歲。你進入大學,畢業,你的現實生活從那裡開始。從那一刻起

  • you are 22 or 23 till the time you hit  65 is your real-life because, after 65,  

    你是22或23歲,直到你達到65歲的時候是你的現實生活,因為,65歲以後。

  • life isn't as great as it could be since most  people after 65 develop a lot of disabilities

    生活並不像它可能的那樣美好,因為大多數人在65歲以後都會出現很多殘疾。

  • Your health is going to deteriorateYou cant walk, think or live properly

    你的健康會惡化。 你無法行走、思考或正常生活。

  • So while you are in your best years, the question  is, how are you spending that time? Are you simply  

    是以,當你處於你最好的年華時,問題是,你是如何度過這段時光的?你是否只是

  • working in a 9-5 job that you hate and waiting  for the weekends to finally enjoy life

    在一個你討厭的朝九晚五的工作中工作,等待著週末終於可以享受生活?

  • If you are 25, you have got 2085 weeks left  or 40 years. When you count it that way,  

    如果你是25歲,你還有2085周或40年。當你這樣計算的時候。

  • life isn't as long as we are led  to believe. But the problem is that  

    生命並不像我們被引導相信的那樣漫長。但問題是

  • most people don't take the best advantage  out of it because we are not taught how  

    大多數人沒有利用它的最佳優勢,因為我們沒有被教導如何

  • to live. We go to school and college. We are  taught math, physics, chemistry but not life.  

    來生活。我們去上學和上大學。我們被教導數學、物理、化學,但沒有被教導生活。

  • One of the best books that can teach you how  to take the best advantage out of your life  

    可以教你如何從生活中獲取最佳優勢的最佳書籍之一

  • is the laws of human nature by Robert GreeneIt's a masterpiece and unique of its kind.  

    是羅伯特-格林的《人性的法則》。 這是一部傑作,在同類作品中獨一無二。

  • So here are 5 most important lessons out of this  book that people often learn too late in life

    是以,這裡是這本書中最重要的5個教訓,人們在生活中往往學得太晚。

  • If you are ready, give this  video a thumbs and lets dive in

    如果你準備好了,請為這段視頻豎起大拇指,讓我們一起深入瞭解。

  • 1. The law of Compulsive Behaviour You cannot survive in this world alone and  

    1.強迫性行為法則 你無法獨自在這個世界上生存,而

  • definitely can't accomplish great things without  people. People usually present themselves as nice,  

    沒有人,肯定無法完成偉大的事情。人們通常會把自己表現得很好。

  • charming, and hardworking. Don't let that  image distract you from who they really  

    迷人的,勤奮的。不要讓這種形象分散你的注意力,讓你看不清他們的真實身份。

  • are. Otherwise, you will waste years of your  valuable time. People's character is formed in  

    是。否則,你將浪費多年的寶貴時間。人們的性格是在以下方面形成的

  • their earliest years and by their daily habitsIt is what compels them to repeat certain actions  

    他們最早的歲月和他們的日常習慣。 它是迫使他們重複某些行動的原因

  • in their lives and fall into negative patternsLook closely at such patterns and remember that  

    在他們的生活中,落入負面模式。 仔細觀察這種模式,並記住

  • people never do something just once. If someone  is late to a meeting a few times, for example,  

    人們從不只做一次事情。例如,如果有人在會議上遲到了幾次。

  • they probably always miss deadlinesJust take a look at yourself,  

    他們可能總是錯過最後期限。 看看你自己就知道了。

  • you keep repeating the same mistakes over  and over, and other people are no different.  

    你不斷重複同樣的錯誤,而其他人也不例外。

  • Gauge the relative strength of their  character by how well they handle adversity,  

    通過他們處理逆境的程度來衡量他們性格的相對強度。

  • their ability to adapt and work with other peopletheir patience, and their ability to learn. Always  

    他們適應和與他人合作的能力,他們的耐心,以及他們的學習能力。始終

  • gravitate toward those who display signs of  strength and avoid the many toxic types out there

    傾向於那些顯示出力量跡象的人,並避開那裡的許多有毒類型。

  • 
 2. The Law of Short-sightedness 

    2.短視的規律

  • We are marked by a continual desire  to possess what we don't have

    我們的特點是不斷地渴望擁有我們沒有的東西。

  • As soon as we get something we want, we want  something else, a phenomenon that's known as  

    一旦我們得到我們想要的東西,我們就會想要別的東西,這種現象被稱為

  • the grass-is-always-greener syndrome. And even  though getting what we want is never satisfying,  

    草總是更綠的綜合症。而且,儘管得到我們想要的東西永遠不會令人滿意。

  • we still pursue our next want, hoping that  one will make us happy. Once we get it,  

    我們仍然追求我們的下一個願望,希望這個願望能讓我們快樂。一旦我們得到它。

  • we immediately get bored of it. 
 

    我們馬上就會對它感到厭煩。

  • Take an example of a relationship. Once you spend  some time with your partner, you get bored of her  

    以一段關係為例。一旦你和你的伴侶相處了一段時間,你就會對她感到厭煩

  • or him so you start looking up to other people. We  chase the perfect man or woman and end up alone.

    或他,所以你開始仰視其他人。我們追尋完美的男人或女人,結果是孤獨的。

  • There is nobody perfect.

    世上沒有完美的人。

  • Instead, come to terms with the flaws of your  partner and accept or even find charm in their  

    相反,要接受你的伴侶的缺陷,接受甚至發現他們的魅力所在。

  • weaknesses. Learn the art of compromiseMake the most out of what you have. 
 

    弱點。學習妥協的藝術。 充分利用你所擁有的。

  • On the other side, become an object of desireLearn how to create a mystery around you.  

    在另一邊,成為慾望的對象。 學習如何在你周圍創造一個神祕的環境。

  • Use strategic absence to make people desire  your return, to want to possess you.  

    利用戰略性的缺席,使人們渴望你的迴歸,想要擁有你。

  • Letting people know all your likes and dislikesfears and loves and believing that people should  

    讓人們知道你所有的喜歡和不喜歡,恐懼和愛,並相信人們應該

  • love you for who you are is a mistake because  what people really want is their fantasies to  

    愛你是誰是一個錯誤,因為人們真正想要的是他們的幻想。

  • be stimulated, but if you become too familiarthere is no mystery and room for imagination.  

    被刺激,但如果你變得太熟悉,就沒有神祕感和想象力的空間。

  • Know when and how to withdraw. Be a little cold  and never be needy or never be too obvious with  

    知道何時和如何退出。要有一點冷漠,千萬不要有需求,也不要太明顯地與

  • your opinions, feelings, values, or tastesLet others create a picture of you in their  

    你的意見、感覺、價值觀或品味。 讓別人在他們的眼中創造一個你的形象

  • imagination. 
 

    想象力。

  • 3. See through people's masksPeople are like the moon;  

    3.看穿人們的面具 人們就像月亮一樣。

  • they only show you one of their sides. People wear masks that show them in  

    他們只向你展示他們的一個側面。人們戴著面具,顯示他們在

  • the best possible light, especially on social  media. Presenting a completely different image  

    儘可能以最好的方式,特別是在社交媒體上。呈現一個完全不同的形象

  • than who they really areThey say the right things,  

    而不是他們真正的身份。 他們說的是正確的事情。

  • smile, and seem interested in our ideasPoliticians are a perfect example of that.  

    微笑,並且似乎對我們的想法感興趣。 政治家就是一個完美的例子。

  • However, the reality is that we all wear masks

    然而,現實是,我們都戴著面具。

  • Fortunately, the mask has cracks on it. People  continuously leak out their true feeling and  

    幸運的是,這個面具上有裂縫。人們不斷地洩露出他們的真實感受和

  • unconscious desires in the non-verbal  queues they cannot completely control,  

    在他們無法完全控制的非語言隊列中,無意識的慾望。

  • such as facial expression, vocal inflectionthe tension in the body, and nervous gestures.

    如面部表情、聲音語調、身體的緊張程度和緊張的手勢。

  • They present their authentic self  especially when they are angry  

    他們呈現出真實的自我,特別是在他們生氣的時候

  • and under pressure when they  lose control over their true  

    和壓力下,當他們失去對自己真實的控制時

  • feelings. If we take their appearances for  reality, we will never get what we want.

    感受。如果我們把他們的表象當作現實,我們將永遠無法得到我們想要的東西。

  • For example, if someone likes you and is  comfortable around you, they will stand closer  

    例如,如果有人喜歡你,在你身邊很舒服,他們會站得更近。

  • to you, and not be protective of their body parts  by folding their arms. In their tone of voice,  

    對你,而不是通過摺疊他們的手臂來保護他們的身體部位。用他們的語氣說。

  • you can sense playfulness or a high-pitched  sound. If they are indifferent and uninterested,  

    你可以感覺到玩耍或高亢的聲音。如果他們無動於衷,不感興趣。

  • you'll hear a more monotonousquiet tone. If someone has deeper feelings for you,  

    你會聽到一個更單調、安靜的音調。如果有人對你有更深的感情。

  • such as love, their pupils would  dilate and their eyes would widen,  

    如愛情,他們的瞳孔會放大,眼睛會睜大。

  • a rush of blood to their face will animate  them, their lips will seem full and exposed.
 

    血液湧向他們的臉,使他們充滿活力,他們的嘴脣會顯得飽滿和暴露。

  • On the other hand, since appearances  are what people judge you by,  

    另一方面,由於外表是人們判斷你的依據。

  • you must learn how to present the best front  and play your role to maximum effect.  
 

    你必須學會如何展現最好的一面,併發揮你的作用,達到最大效果。

  • 4. The law of irrationality

    4.非理性的規律

  • We like to think of ourselves in control of our  fate, consciously planning the course of our  

    我們喜歡認為自己能掌控自己的命運,有意識地規劃自己的人生道路。

  • lives as best as we can. But you are deeply  unaware of how your emotions dominate you.  

    盡我們所能的生活。但你卻深深不知道你的情緒是如何支配你的。

  • They make you look for evidence that  proves what you already want to believe.  

    他們讓你尋找證據,證明你已經想相信的東西。

  • They make you see what you want  to see, depending on your mood.  

    他們讓你看到你想看到的東西,取決於你的心情。

  • And this disconnection from reality is the  source of your bad decisions that ruin your life.

    而這種與現實的脫節是你的錯誤決定的來源,毀了你的生活。

  • For example, to convince ourselves that we  came to our ideas and opinions rationally,  

    例如,讓自己相信我們是理性地得出我們的想法和意見的。

  • we go and search for evidence that supports our  point of view, but because we unconsciously want  

    我們去尋找支持我們觀點的證據,而是因為我們不自覺地想要

  • to please ourselves, we look for evidence  that proves that we want to believe.  

    為了取悅自己,我們尋找證明我們想相信的證據。

  • This is known as confirmation biasIt's also clear when people are asking for advice.  

    這就是所謂的確認偏見。 當人們在徵求意見時,這一點也很明顯。

  • If people find your advice counter to what they  think, they will find ways to dismiss your advice.  

    如果人們發現你的建議與他們的想法背道而馳,他們會想辦法駁回你的建議。

  • On the internet, it's easy to find studies that  confirm two entirely opposite opinions. So,  

    在互聯網上,很容易找到證實兩種完全相反意見的研究。所以。

  • don't simply believe people just because they have  supplied evidence but rather examine the evidence  

    不要因為人們提供了證據就相信他們,而是要審查證據。

  • yourself with as much skepticism as you can. Or the Halo effect. People who are good-looking  

    儘可能多地對自己持懷疑態度。或暈輪效應。長得好看的人

  • generally seem trustworthy. If a person is  successful, they are probably ethical, conscious,  

    一般看來是值得信賴的。如果一個人是成功的,他們可能是有道德的,有意識的。

  • and deserving of their good fortune. This hides  the fact that many people who have built massive  

    並配得上他們的好運氣。這掩蓋了一個事實,即許多人已經建立了大規模的

  • fortunes had done that through less moral  actions, which they cleverly hide from view. 
 

    財富是通過不太道德的行為完成的,他們巧妙地隱藏了這些行為。

  • Or We are tempted to look for explanations for  everything. For example, after the 2008 financial  

    或者說,我們很想為一切尋找解釋。例如,在2008年的金融

  • crash, people blamed greedy banks, bad regulators,  a broken system etcbut in reality, it was  

    崩潰,人們指責貪婪的銀行,糟糕的監管者,破碎的系統等......但實際上,這是

  • just millions of people making bad investment  decisions. There is no explanation other than  

    只是數百萬人做出了錯誤的投資決定。沒有其他解釋,只有

  • many people behaved irrationally. There were many  people who warned that the crash would happen,  

    許多人的行為是不理性的。有很多人警告說車禍會發生。

  • but people simply didn't listen.
 Rational people learn from their mistakes,  

    但人們根本不聽。理性的人從他們的錯誤中學習。

  • they adjust their strategy when it fails, and they  constantly achieve victories across their life.  

    他們在失敗時調整自己的策略,並在生活中不斷取得勝利。

  • Irrational people repeat the same mistakes, always  finding excuses for their behaviour, and never  

    不理智的人重複同樣的錯誤,總是為自己的行為尋找藉口,而且從不

  • trying to look for the root of their problems. 
 

    試圖尋找他們問題的根源。

  • 
 5. Transform self-love into empathy
 

    5.將自愛轉化為同理心

  • From the moment we are born, we humans  feel a never-ending need for attention.  

    從我們出生的那一刻起,我們人類就感覺到對關注的需求永無止境。

  • We are social animals to the core. Our survival  and happiness depend on the bonds we form with  

    我們是社會的核心動物。我們的生存和幸福取決於我們與他人形成的聯繫。

  • others. If people do not pay attention to  us, we cannot connect to them at any level.  

    其他人。如果人們不注意我們,我們就不能在任何層面上與他們聯繫。

  • Some of this is purely physical.
 But this need is also deeply psychological.  

    這其中有些是純粹的生理需求。但這種需要也是深刻的心理需求。

  • Through the quality of attention we receive from  others, we feel recognized and appreciated for who  

    通過我們從他人那裡得到的高質量的關注,我們感到自己是被認可和讚賞的人。

  • we are. Our sense of self-worth depends on thisBecause this is so important to the human-animal,  

    我們是。我們的自我價值感取決於此。 因為這對人與動物的關係是如此重要。

  • people will do almost anything to get  attention, including committing a crime  

    人們為了獲得關注,幾乎什麼都可以做,包括犯罪。

  • or attempting suicide. Look behind any action, and  you will see this need as the primary motivation

    或企圖自殺。看看任何行動的背後,你會看到這種需求是主要動機。

  • In trying to satisfy our hunger for attentionwe face a problem. There is so much of it to  

    在試圖滿足我們對注意力的飢渴時,我們面臨一個問題。有這麼多的注意力可以

  • go around. In the family, we have to complete  with our siblings or with classmates at school  

    走來走去。在家庭中,我們必須與我們的兄弟姐妹或在學校的同學一起完成

  • or with colleagues at workSince people crave so much attention, you  

    或與工作中的同事一起。 由於人們渴望得到如此多的關注,你

  • can exploit this human weakness in your favorDon't assume you already understand people. Each  

    可以利用這個人類的弱點對你有利。 不要以為你已經瞭解人們。每一個

  • new person you meet is like a new country with  new treasures for you to explore. It's not easy to  

    你遇到的新人就像一個新的國家,有新的寶藏等著你去探索。要做到這一點並不容易

  • explore other people's thoughts, but feelings and  moods are much more visible and easier to read.  

    探索別人的想法,但感覺和情緒更明顯,更容易讀懂。

  • Pay attention to the body language and the  tone of voice. Instead of judging people  

    注意身體語言和語音語調。而不是評判別人

  • and jumping to conclusions, try to look at the  things they have done from their perspective.  

    和妄下結論,試著從他們的角度來看待他們所做的事情。

  • Being emphatic is a long process that  requires a great amount of time and patience.  

    強調是一個漫長的過程,需要大量的時間和耐心。

  • But in the long run, it's a skill that will help  to connect with others on a much deeper level.

    但從長遠來看,這是一種技能,將有助於在更深的層次上與他人聯繫。

  • These are just some of the  ideas from Robert green's book,  

    這些只是羅伯特-格林書中的一些想法。

  • the laws of human nature. It's definitely one  of the best books I have ever laid my hands on.  

    人性的規律。這絕對是我所接觸過的最好的書之一。

  • I will leave an affiliate link in the  description. It is definitely worth your time.

    我將在描述中留下一個聯盟鏈接。這絕對值得你花時間。

  • If you have enjoyed this video, make sure to  give this video a thumbs up that it deserves  

    如果你喜歡這個視頻,請務必給這個視頻一個應有的大拇指。

  • and subscribe if you are new around here. Thanks for watching, and until next time.

    如果你是新來的,請訂閱。謝謝你的觀看,直到下一次。

An average person lives around 80 years in the  developed world. That looks like a long time at  

在發達國家,一個人的平均壽命約為80歲。這看起來是一個很長的時間,在

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人們在生活中學得太晚的5條教訓--《人性的法則》 作者:Robert Greene (5 LESSONS People Learn TOO LATE in Life - The Laws of Human Nature By Robert Greene)

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