first glance, but it's nothing. Life on earth  started 3.6 Billion years ago. In comparison,  

乍一看，但這不算什麼。地球上的生命始於36億年前。相比之下。

your life looks smaller than an atom. You  are not even guaranteed to live 80 years.  

你的生命看起來比一個原子還要小。你甚至不能保證能活到80歲。

You are born, you learn how to walk and  talk, you grow up and develop a personality  

你出生了，你學會了如何走路和說話，你長大了，形成了人格

till you hit 18. You get into college, graduate,  and your real-life starts there. From the moment  

直到你達到18歲。你進入大學，畢業，你的現實生活從那裡開始。從那一刻起

you are 22 or 23 till the time you hit  65 is your real-life because, after 65,  

你是22或23歲，直到你達到65歲的時候是你的現實生活，因為，65歲以後。

life isn't as great as it could be since most  people after 65 develop a lot of disabilities. 

生活並不像它可能的那樣美好，因為大多數人在65歲以後都會出現很多殘疾。

Your health is going to deteriorate.  You cant walk, think or live properly. 

你的健康會惡化。 你無法行走、思考或正常生活。

So while you are in your best years, the question  is, how are you spending that time? Are you simply  

是以，當你處於你最好的年華時，問題是，你是如何度過這段時光的？你是否只是

working in a 9-5 job that you hate and waiting  for the weekends to finally enjoy life? 

在一個你討厭的朝九晚五的工作中工作，等待著週末終於可以享受生活？

If you are 25, you have got 2085 weeks left  or 40 years. When you count it that way,  

如果你是25歲，你還有2085周或40年。當你這樣計算的時候。

life isn't as long as we are led  to believe. But the problem is that  

生命並不像我們被引導相信的那樣漫長。但問題是

most people don't take the best advantage  out of it because we are not taught how  

大多數人沒有利用它的最佳優勢，因為我們沒有被教導如何

to live. We go to school and college. We are  taught math, physics, chemistry but not life.  

來生活。我們去上學和上大學。我們被教導數學、物理、化學，但沒有被教導生活。

One of the best books that can teach you how  to take the best advantage out of your life  

可以教你如何從生活中獲取最佳優勢的最佳書籍之一

is the laws of human nature by Robert Greene.  It's a masterpiece and unique of its kind.  

是羅伯特-格林的《人性的法則》。 這是一部傑作，在同類作品中獨一無二。

So here are 5 most important lessons out of this  book that people often learn too late in life. 

是以，這裡是這本書中最重要的5個教訓，人們在生活中往往學得太晚。

If you are ready, give this  video a thumbs and lets dive in

如果你準備好了，請為這段視頻豎起大拇指，讓我們一起深入瞭解。

1. The law of Compulsive Behaviour You cannot survive in this world alone and  

1.強迫性行為法則 你無法獨自在這個世界上生存，而

definitely can't accomplish great things without  people. People usually present themselves as nice,  

沒有人，肯定無法完成偉大的事情。人們通常會把自己表現得很好。

charming, and hardworking. Don't let that  image distract you from who they really  

迷人的，勤奮的。不要讓這種形象分散你的注意力，讓你看不清他們的真實身份。

are. Otherwise, you will waste years of your  valuable time. People's character is formed in  

是。否則，你將浪費多年的寶貴時間。人們的性格是在以下方面形成的

their earliest years and by their daily habits.  It is what compels them to repeat certain actions  

他們最早的歲月和他們的日常習慣。 它是迫使他們重複某些行動的原因

in their lives and fall into negative patterns.  Look closely at such patterns and remember that  

在他們的生活中，落入負面模式。 仔細觀察這種模式，並記住

people never do something just once. If someone  is late to a meeting a few times, for example,  

人們從不只做一次事情。例如，如果有人在會議上遲到了幾次。

they probably always miss deadlines.  Just take a look at yourself,  

他們可能總是錯過最後期限。 看看你自己就知道了。

you keep repeating the same mistakes over  and over, and other people are no different.  

你不斷重複同樣的錯誤，而其他人也不例外。

Gauge the relative strength of their  character by how well they handle adversity,  

通過他們處理逆境的程度來衡量他們性格的相對強度。

their ability to adapt and work with other people,  their patience, and their ability to learn. Always  

他們適應和與他人合作的能力，他們的耐心，以及他們的學習能力。始終

gravitate toward those who display signs of  strength and avoid the many toxic types out there. 

傾向於那些顯示出力量跡象的人，並避開那裡的許多有毒類型。


 2. The Law of Short-sightedness 

2.短視的規律

We are marked by a continual desire  to possess what we don't have. 

我們的特點是不斷地渴望擁有我們沒有的東西。

As soon as we get something we want, we want  something else, a phenomenon that's known as  

一旦我們得到我們想要的東西，我們就會想要別的東西，這種現象被稱為

the grass-is-always-greener syndrome. And even  though getting what we want is never satisfying,  

草總是更綠的綜合症。而且，儘管得到我們想要的東西永遠不會令人滿意。

we still pursue our next want, hoping that  one will make us happy. Once we get it,  

我們仍然追求我們的下一個願望，希望這個願望能讓我們快樂。一旦我們得到它。

we immediately get bored of it. 
 

我們馬上就會對它感到厭煩。

Take an example of a relationship. Once you spend  some time with your partner, you get bored of her  

以一段關係為例。一旦你和你的伴侶相處了一段時間，你就會對她感到厭煩

or him so you start looking up to other people. We  chase the perfect man or woman and end up alone.

或他，所以你開始仰視其他人。我們追尋完美的男人或女人，結果是孤獨的。

There is nobody perfect.

世上沒有完美的人。

Instead, come to terms with the flaws of your  partner and accept or even find charm in their  

相反，要接受你的伴侶的缺陷，接受甚至發現他們的魅力所在。

weaknesses. Learn the art of compromise.  Make the most out of what you have. 
 

弱點。學習妥協的藝術。 充分利用你所擁有的。

On the other side, become an object of desire.  Learn how to create a mystery around you.  

在另一邊，成為慾望的對象。 學習如何在你周圍創造一個神祕的環境。

Use strategic absence to make people desire  your return, to want to possess you.  

利用戰略性的缺席，使人們渴望你的迴歸，想要擁有你。

Letting people know all your likes and dislikes,  fears and loves and believing that people should  

讓人們知道你所有的喜歡和不喜歡，恐懼和愛，並相信人們應該

love you for who you are is a mistake because  what people really want is their fantasies to  

愛你是誰是一個錯誤，因為人們真正想要的是他們的幻想。

be stimulated, but if you become too familiar,  there is no mystery and room for imagination.  

被刺激，但如果你變得太熟悉，就沒有神祕感和想象力的空間。

Know when and how to withdraw. Be a little cold  and never be needy or never be too obvious with  

知道何時和如何退出。要有一點冷漠，千萬不要有需求，也不要太明顯地與

your opinions, feelings, values, or tastes.  Let others create a picture of you in their  

你的意見、感覺、價值觀或品味。 讓別人在他們的眼中創造一個你的形象

imagination. 
 

想象力。

3. See through people's masks
 People are like the moon;  

3.看穿人們的面具 人們就像月亮一樣。

they only show you one of their sides. People wear masks that show them in  

他們只向你展示他們的一個側面。人們戴著面具，顯示他們在

the best possible light, especially on social  media. Presenting a completely different image  

儘可能以最好的方式，特別是在社交媒體上。呈現一個完全不同的形象

than who they really are.  They say the right things,  

而不是他們真正的身份。 他們說的是正確的事情。

smile, and seem interested in our ideas.  Politicians are a perfect example of that.  

微笑，並且似乎對我們的想法感興趣。 政治家就是一個完美的例子。

However, the reality is that we all wear masks. 

然而，現實是，我們都戴著面具。

Fortunately, the mask has cracks on it. People  continuously leak out their true feeling and  

幸運的是，這個面具上有裂縫。人們不斷地洩露出他們的真實感受和

unconscious desires in the non-verbal  queues they cannot completely control,  

在他們無法完全控制的非語言隊列中，無意識的慾望。

such as facial expression, vocal inflection,  the tension in the body, and nervous gestures.

如面部表情、聲音語調、身體的緊張程度和緊張的手勢。

They present their authentic self  especially when they are angry  

他們呈現出真實的自我，特別是在他們生氣的時候

and under pressure when they  lose control over their true  

和壓力下，當他們失去對自己真實的控制時

feelings. If we take their appearances for  reality, we will never get what we want.

感受。如果我們把他們的表象當作現實，我們將永遠無法得到我們想要的東西。

For example, if someone likes you and is  comfortable around you, they will stand closer  

例如，如果有人喜歡你，在你身邊很舒服，他們會站得更近。

to you, and not be protective of their body parts  by folding their arms. In their tone of voice,  

對你，而不是通過摺疊他們的手臂來保護他們的身體部位。用他們的語氣說。

you can sense playfulness or a high-pitched  sound. If they are indifferent and uninterested,  

你可以感覺到玩耍或高亢的聲音。如果他們無動於衷，不感興趣。

you'll hear a more monotonous, quiet tone. If someone has deeper feelings for you,  

你會聽到一個更單調、安靜的音調。如果有人對你有更深的感情。

such as love, their pupils would  dilate and their eyes would widen,  

如愛情，他們的瞳孔會放大，眼睛會睜大。

a rush of blood to their face will animate  them, their lips will seem full and exposed.
 

血液湧向他們的臉，使他們充滿活力，他們的嘴脣會顯得飽滿和暴露。

On the other hand, since appearances  are what people judge you by,  

另一方面，由於外表是人們判斷你的依據。

you must learn how to present the best front  and play your role to maximum effect.  
 

你必須學會如何展現最好的一面，併發揮你的作用，達到最大效果。

4. The law of irrationality

4.非理性的規律

We like to think of ourselves in control of our  fate, consciously planning the course of our  

我們喜歡認為自己能掌控自己的命運，有意識地規劃自己的人生道路。

lives as best as we can. But you are deeply  unaware of how your emotions dominate you.  

盡我們所能的生活。但你卻深深不知道你的情緒是如何支配你的。

They make you look for evidence that  proves what you already want to believe.  

他們讓你尋找證據，證明你已經想相信的東西。

They make you see what you want  to see, depending on your mood.  

他們讓你看到你想看到的東西，取決於你的心情。

And this disconnection from reality is the  source of your bad decisions that ruin your life.

而這種與現實的脫節是你的錯誤決定的來源，毀了你的生活。

For example, to convince ourselves that we  came to our ideas and opinions rationally,  

例如，讓自己相信我們是理性地得出我們的想法和意見的。

we go and search for evidence that supports our  point of view, but because we unconsciously want  

我們去尋找支持我們觀點的證據，而是因為我們不自覺地想要

to please ourselves, we look for evidence  that proves that we want to believe.  

為了取悅自己，我們尋找證明我們想相信的證據。

This is known as confirmation bias.  It's also clear when people are asking for advice.  

這就是所謂的確認偏見。 當人們在徵求意見時，這一點也很明顯。

If people find your advice counter to what they  think, they will find ways to dismiss your advice.  

如果人們發現你的建議與他們的想法背道而馳，他們會想辦法駁回你的建議。

On the internet, it's easy to find studies that  confirm two entirely opposite opinions. So,  

在互聯網上，很容易找到證實兩種完全相反意見的研究。所以。

don't simply believe people just because they have  supplied evidence but rather examine the evidence  

不要因為人們提供了證據就相信他們，而是要審查證據。

yourself with as much skepticism as you can. Or the Halo effect. People who are good-looking  

儘可能多地對自己持懷疑態度。或暈輪效應。長得好看的人

generally seem trustworthy. If a person is  successful, they are probably ethical, conscious,  

一般看來是值得信賴的。如果一個人是成功的，他們可能是有道德的，有意識的。

and deserving of their good fortune. This hides  the fact that many people who have built massive  

並配得上他們的好運氣。這掩蓋了一個事實，即許多人已經建立了大規模的

fortunes had done that through less moral  actions, which they cleverly hide from view. 
 

財富是通過不太道德的行為完成的，他們巧妙地隱藏了這些行為。

Or We are tempted to look for explanations for  everything. For example, after the 2008 financial  

或者說，我們很想為一切尋找解釋。例如，在2008年的金融

crash, people blamed greedy banks, bad regulators,  a broken system etc… but in reality, it was  

崩潰，人們指責貪婪的銀行，糟糕的監管者，破碎的系統等......但實際上，這是

just millions of people making bad investment  decisions. There is no explanation other than  

只是數百萬人做出了錯誤的投資決定。沒有其他解釋，只有

many people behaved irrationally. There were many  people who warned that the crash would happen,  

許多人的行為是不理性的。有很多人警告說車禍會發生。

but people simply didn't listen.
 Rational people learn from their mistakes,  

但人們根本不聽。理性的人從他們的錯誤中學習。

they adjust their strategy when it fails, and they  constantly achieve victories across their life.  

他們在失敗時調整自己的策略，並在生活中不斷取得勝利。

Irrational people repeat the same mistakes, always  finding excuses for their behaviour, and never  

不理智的人重複同樣的錯誤，總是為自己的行為尋找藉口，而且從不

trying to look for the root of their problems. 
 

試圖尋找他們問題的根源。


 5. Transform self-love into empathy
 

5.將自愛轉化為同理心

From the moment we are born, we humans  feel a never-ending need for attention.  

從我們出生的那一刻起，我們人類就感覺到對關注的需求永無止境。

We are social animals to the core. Our survival  and happiness depend on the bonds we form with  

我們是社會的核心動物。我們的生存和幸福取決於我們與他人形成的聯繫。

others. If people do not pay attention to  us, we cannot connect to them at any level.  

其他人。如果人們不注意我們，我們就不能在任何層面上與他們聯繫。

Some of this is purely physical.
 But this need is also deeply psychological.  

這其中有些是純粹的生理需求。但這種需要也是深刻的心理需求。

Through the quality of attention we receive from  others, we feel recognized and appreciated for who  

通過我們從他人那裡得到的高質量的關注，我們感到自己是被認可和讚賞的人。

we are. Our sense of self-worth depends on this.  Because this is so important to the human-animal,  

我們是。我們的自我價值感取決於此。 因為這對人與動物的關係是如此重要。

people will do almost anything to get  attention, including committing a crime  

人們為了獲得關注，幾乎什麼都可以做，包括犯罪。

or attempting suicide. Look behind any action, and  you will see this need as the primary motivation. 

或企圖自殺。看看任何行動的背後，你會看到這種需求是主要動機。

In trying to satisfy our hunger for attention,  we face a problem. There is so much of it to  

在試圖滿足我們對注意力的飢渴時，我們面臨一個問題。有這麼多的注意力可以

go around. In the family, we have to complete  with our siblings or with classmates at school  

走來走去。在家庭中，我們必須與我們的兄弟姐妹或在學校的同學一起完成

or with colleagues at work.  Since people crave so much attention, you  

或與工作中的同事一起。 由於人們渴望得到如此多的關注，你

can exploit this human weakness in your favor.  Don't assume you already understand people. Each  

可以利用這個人類的弱點對你有利。 不要以為你已經瞭解人們。每一個

new person you meet is like a new country with  new treasures for you to explore. It's not easy to  

你遇到的新人就像一個新的國家，有新的寶藏等著你去探索。要做到這一點並不容易

explore other people's thoughts, but feelings and  moods are much more visible and easier to read.  

探索別人的想法，但感覺和情緒更明顯，更容易讀懂。

Pay attention to the body language and the  tone of voice. Instead of judging people  

注意身體語言和語音語調。而不是評判別人

and jumping to conclusions, try to look at the  things they have done from their perspective.  

和妄下結論，試著從他們的角度來看待他們所做的事情。

Being emphatic is a long process that  requires a great amount of time and patience.  

強調是一個漫長的過程，需要大量的時間和耐心。

But in the long run, it's a skill that will help  to connect with others on a much deeper level.

但從長遠來看，這是一種技能，將有助於在更深的層次上與他人聯繫。

These are just some of the  ideas from Robert green's book,  

這些只是羅伯特-格林書中的一些想法。

the laws of human nature. It's definitely one  of the best books I have ever laid my hands on.  

人性的規律。這絕對是我所接觸過的最好的書之一。

I will leave an affiliate link in the  description. It is definitely worth your time.

我將在描述中留下一個聯盟鏈接。這絕對值得你花時間。

If you have enjoyed this video, make sure to  give this video a thumbs up that it deserves  

如果你喜歡這個視頻，請務必給這個視頻一個應有的大拇指。

and subscribe if you are new around here. Thanks for watching, and until next time.

如果你是新來的，請訂閱。謝謝你的觀看，直到下一次。