Oh, my God.

哦，我的上帝。

Hi.

嗨，我的天

In this video, I'm going to be as honest and open as possible.

在這個視頻中，我要儘可能地坦誠相待。

Guy talk.

男人說話。

I'm a guy, and I hear guy talk all the time.

我是個男人，我經常聽到男人說話。

Guy talk is basically conversations about women about sex that some of them can get disrespectful and some of them can get sexist.

男生談話基本都是關於女性關於性的對話，有些會不尊重女性，有些會有性別歧視。

Guy talk happens.

男人的談話發生。

Too many guys in private.

私下裡的男人太多。

It happened to me in private, but one day it happened to me in public.

它發生在我的私下裡，但有一天它發生在我的公開場合。

Some TV host in Albania invited me on his TV show for a quick interview.

阿爾巴尼亞的某個電視節目主持人邀請我參加他的電視節目，進行快速採訪。

I said yes.

我說是的。

And I brought my girlfriend Ellen with me.

我還帶了我的女朋友Ellen一起去。

But little did I know that throughout the whole conversation, the guy was talking to me in guy talk, and that made me feel a bit uncomfortable.

但我不知道，在整個談話過程中，這傢伙一直在用男人話跟我說話，這讓我覺得有點不舒服。

Nuff, uh, most likely Koken.

Nuff，呃，很可能是Koken。

He would make sexual jokes.

他會開一些性的玩笑。

He would disrespect women and me in the process, and he would force women to ask questions on his No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

在這個過程中，他會不尊重女人和我，他會逼迫女人對他的不不不不不不不不不不不不不問。

We have a question now.

我們現在有一個問題。

Oh, yeah, We have a question.

哦，是的，我們有一個問題。

Okay, well, we'll take it from here.

好吧，好吧，我們將從這裡開始。

What is the question?

問題是什麼？

Yeah, no travel.

是的，沒有旅行。

Do you do it to meet other girls?

你這樣做是為了認識其他女孩嗎？

I tried to let it go and laugh it off uncomfortably, but my girlfriend Ellen, didn't.

我試著讓它過去，不舒服地一笑了之，但我的女友艾倫，沒有。

Yeah, I know that Albania and you guys have, like, really breathing.

是啊，我知道阿爾巴尼亞和你們有一樣，真正的呼吸。

But this is too far.

但這也太遠了。

No, she she said that she has a problem which is disrespecting No, no, no.

不，她她說她有一個問題是不尊重 不，不，不。

She said that you have that.

她說，你有那個。

And to be honest, at the time, I thought that was a bit too much, but at the end of the day, she was right.

說實話，當時我覺得這樣做有點過分，但到最後，她是對的。

This is funny.

這很有趣。

No, no, no, no.

不，不，不，不。

I'm sorry.

我很抱歉

It was stupid to think of this world, but the TV show host thought this was not a big deal.

想到這個世界，真是蠢蠢欲動，但電視節目主持人卻認為這不是什麼大事。

Why?

為什麼？

Because he thought it was funny and too, because many people do it.

因為他覺得好笑，也因為很多人都這樣做。

If I'm sexist, then what are these costs?

如果我是性別歧視，那麼這些成本是什麼？

You didn't think I was gonna look down their mutual respect?

你以為我不會看不起他們的相互尊重嗎？

Yeah.

是啊。

That's what I have for you to respect.

這就是我對你的尊重。

Yeah.

是啊。

I would love to respect you like crazy.

我很想瘋狂地尊重你。

What's going on?

發生什麼事了？

That's exactly the problem.

這正是問題所在。

G talk is everywhere in the world.

世界上到處都是G話。

It starts in private conversations.

這是從私下的談話開始的。

We laugh it off because it didn't harm anyone.

我們一笑置之，因為它沒有傷害任何人。

This is funny, but this experience has taught me that when guy talk is okay in private, slowly but surely it becomes okay in public.

這很有趣，但這個經驗告訴我，當男人的談話在私下還好，慢慢地，但肯定會在公共場合變得還好。

Slowly, most T V shows are sexist.

慢慢地，大多數T V節目都是性別歧視。

Slowly we find this funny and okay Suicide the father when in fact it's wrong and terrible for society.

慢慢的我們覺得這個好笑還好自殺的父親，其實這是不對的，對社會很可怕。

Slowly, it hurts.

慢慢的，就疼了。

Wendy Mhm.

Wendy Mhm.

One day after day, year after year, you are treated like an object.

一天又一天，一年又一年，把你當做一個物品。

You are treated like less when you are objectified and sexualized and even if you are not, when you see the people around you treated like that, it gets really old really fast.

當你被物化、性化的時候，你就會被當做是少的，即使你不是，當你看到周圍的人被這樣對待的時候，真的很快就會變老。

At the end of the day, I laughed off his sexist remarks, hoping the interview would end fast.

最後，我對他的性別歧視言論一笑置之，希望採訪快點結束。

But to be honest with you, laughing it off was not enough.

但說實話，一笑泯恩仇是不夠的。

And guys like me should have stopped it.

而像我這樣的人應該阻止它。

What I learned from this video is that I need to control my reactions when I get angry.

從這個視頻中我學到的是，當我生氣時，我需要控制自己的反應。

But what I also learned is that I'm happy that I at least try to speak up because if we're not speaking up when sexism happens to us in our daily life, it's just going to keep happening.

但我也學到的是，我很高興，至少我嘗試著說出來，因為如果我們在日常生活中，當性別歧視發生在我們身上時，我們不說出來，它就會一直髮生。

We need to put an end to guy talk wherever it happens in private conversations or public ones, even if they happen or national television.

我們需要結束男人的談話，無論它發生在哪裡，在私人談話或公共談話中，即使他們發生或國家電視。

See, you know it's funny.

你看，你知道這很有趣。

It's funny.

這很有趣。

It's like, This is funny.

這就像，這很有趣。