with a disability have this conversation a lot?

殘障人士經常有這樣的對話？

- Sheena, how can I find someone to go on a date with?

- 謝娜，我怎麼才能找到一個人去約會？

- Wait, I should start from the beginning.

- 等等，我應該從頭說起。

This is me and my little brother Sean.

這是我和我的弟弟肖恩。

Ever since he came along, he was my best bud

自從他出現後，他就是我最好的朋友。

and I just wanted to take care of him.

我只是想照顧他。

Before he turned one, we found out

在他一歲之前，我們發現

that he had cerebral palsy, but to me

他得了腦癱，但對我來說。

he was always just Sean.

他一直只是肖恩。

So we were like any other pair of siblings.

所以我們就像其他的一對兄妹一樣。

And for a while there really got at each other.

有一陣子還真就互相打起來了。

(click)

(點擊)

But I swear, now we get along much better.

但我發誓，現在我們相處得更好了。

So my brother has cerebral palsy and a lot

所以我弟弟有腦癱，還有很多...

of things in life are a little more challenging for him.

的事情，對他來說更有挑戰性。

One of those things is dating

其中一件事就是約會

but I decided I'm going to sit down and talk

但我決定要坐下來好好談談

to him about dating and then I'm going to find him a date.

對他的約會，然後我要找到他的日期。

(electronic beats)

(電子節拍)

So first I asked him, why is it important for him to date?

所以我先問他，為什麼要和他約會？

- I feel lonely.

- 我覺得很孤獨。

I want to be with someone.

我想和某人在一起。

I try my best and asking my friends

我盡力而為，並請教我的朋友

like if they want to go on coffee dates.

像如果他們想去 咖啡日期。

- Mhm.

- 嗯

It's hard to know who to ask out.

不知道該約誰出去。

And when you just have things

而當你只是有事情

in common and when you're just friends

惺惺相惜

and when it's a genuine connection that could turn

而當它是一個真正的連接，可能會變成。

into something more romantic.

變成更浪漫的東西。

But I feel like it's easier

但我覺得這樣更容易

for people who have no disability at all.

對於完全沒有殘疾的人來說；

Like you, for example.

比如說，像你。

Me, I try and asking my crush in middle school.

我，我試著問我國中時的暗戀對象。

It was the junior-senior dance.

那是初三學長的舞蹈。

She stood me up.

她讓我站起來。

I think that's hard for me to find someone

我想我很難找到一個人了

because my disability.

因為我的殘疾。

People just look at me weird.

人們只是奇怪地看著我。

My walking, my talking.

我的走路，我的說話。

I feel like they say,

我覺得像他們說的那樣。

"I don't like, I don't want to go out with that."

"我不喜歡，我不想跟那個出去。"

I just wish people more flexible.

我只是希望人們更加靈活。

- So what kind of stuff would you want to do

- 那麼，你想做什麼樣的事情呢？

if you got a girlfriend?

如果你有女朋友？

(electronic beats)

(電子節拍)

- I would want to do hand gliding.

- 我想做手滑。

(laughing)

（笑）

- I'm talking about just like everyday stuff.

- 我說的只是像日常的東西。

- Okay.

- 好吧，我知道了

Stuff like going on the treadmill, working out.

比如去跑步機上，鍛鍊身體。

- You guys are both going to be on one treadmill

- 你們兩個人都要在一個跑步機上跑步

at the same time?

在同一時間？

- Yeah

- 是啊，是啊

Singing, playing video games.

唱歌，玩電子遊戲。

Playing board games, watching movies.

玩棋牌遊戲，看電影。

Going out.

要出去了

- Other than the treadmill part,

- 除了跑步機的部分。

all those sound like really fun date ideas.

所有這些聽起來像真的很有趣的約會想法。

- Yeah.

- 是啊。

- How about we find you a date?

- 我們給你找個對象怎麼樣？

- Yay.

- 呀。

- Since we are in the time of COVID,

- 由於我們正處於COVID的時代。

we are going to be looking

我們要看

for a virtual date, right?

為一個虛擬的日期，對不對？

And I will be using the power

而我將使用的力量

of the internet to find this lady.

的互聯網上找到這位女士。

So I'm going to take a few notes on what we are looking for

那麼我就來記錄一下我們要找的東西吧

and what you want to share about yourself.

以及你想分享的關於自己的東西。

So how would you describe yourself?

那麼，你會如何形容自己呢？

- Funny, creative and outgoing.

- 風趣、有創意、外向。

- Yes. Very true.

- 是的，非常正確。非常正確。

What is something else that you want people

你還想讓人們

to know about you?

要知道你的情況？

- My shirt business.

- 我的襯衫生意。

- Of course.

- 當然了

Should we show people?

要不要給人家看看？

- Yeah.

- 是啊。

- Let's see your shirt.

- 讓我看看你的襯衫

- Ta-da! - All right.

- 噠噠！- 好吧，我知道了

So this is ink man. - Yeah.

所以這是墨水的人。- 對啊

- And you have a few different designs that you've drawn?

- 你有一些不同的設計，你畫過嗎？

(popping)

（啪啪）

And where did these come from?

這些東西又是怎麼來的呢？

These characters?

這些人物？

- I just thought of them.

- 我只是想到了他們。

My imagination.

我的想象力。

- And where can we find your art and your t-shirts?

- 我們在哪裡可以找到你的藝術品和你的T恤？

- On my Instagram page.

- 在我的Instagram頁面。

- I think I have enough information now to scour the web

- 我想我現在有足夠的資訊在網上搜索了

and see if I can find a lovely lady

看看能不能找到一位可愛的女士

for you to go on a virtual date with.

讓你去虛擬約會。

- Awesome.

- 厲害啊

- Awesome.

- 厲害啊

(sentimental piano music)

(傷感鋼琴曲)

Sean has been wanting a girlfriend for ages.

肖恩一直想要一個女朋友，好久了。

Like he has been talking about wanting to go

就像他一直在說想去。

on dates and meet someone for so long.

約會，認識了這麼久的人。

He just wants to experience romance

他只是想體驗一下浪漫

and love and not unrequited love.

和愛而不是單相思。

We all just want to be loved and to love, right?

我們都只是想被愛，想去愛，對嗎？

And I sure hope he finds that one day.

我當然希望他有一天能找到那個人。

And in the meantime, I'm going to do what I can to help.

同時，我也會盡我所能地幫助你。

Okay, Sean.

好吧，肖恩。

I have found a few lovely ladies who are interested

我找到了幾位可愛的女士，她們都很感興趣

in going on a virtual date with you and we're going to look

在去與你的虛擬約會，我們要去看看

through them and you're going to choose one.

通過他們，你要選擇一個。

- Okay.

- 好吧，我知道了

- Okay.

- 好吧，我知道了

Option number one, she's looking

選項一，她在尋找

for a long-term relationship

長期合作

with someone who she can be comfortable around

和她可以放心的人在一起

who is her best friend, and they can have fun together.

誰是她最好的朋友，他們可以一起玩耍。

And number two, she plays the keyboard, plays video games.

第二，她會玩鍵盤，玩電子遊戲。

Likes to go on hikes.

喜歡去遠足。

This is our final option.

這是我們最後的選擇。

She is looking for a man who is kind

她要找的是一個善良的男人

and is able to get her out of her shell a bit.

並能夠讓她從殼裡出來一下。

She loves movies and going to concerts.

她喜歡看電影和去聽音樂會。

Want to see more about her?

想看更多關於她的資訊嗎？

- Yeah.

- 是啊。

- Hi, I'm Melissa.

- 嗨，我是梅麗莎。

I live outside of Pittsburgh, PA

我住在賓夕法尼亞州匹茲堡市外

and my hobbies are I like reading and watching TV

而我的愛好是我喜歡看書和看電視

and jigsaw puzzles.

和拼圖遊戲。

- Yeah.

- 是啊。

- Is she your winner?

- 她是你的贏家嗎？

- Yeah.

- 是啊。

- Yeah?

- 是嗎？

- Yes.

- 是的，我知道

- All right.

- 好吧，我知道了

We will be setting you up on a date with Melissa.

我們會給你安排和梅麗莎的約會。

- Yay.

- 呀。

- [Sheena] Hey bud, you excited for your date today?

- [希娜]嘿，芽，你興奮的今天你的日期？

- Yeah.

- 是啊。

- [Sheena] Then let's get ready.

- [希娜]那麼我們準備一下.

- Hi.

- 嗨，我的天

- Hi, nice to meet you.

- 嗨，很高興認識你。

How are you?

你好嗎？

- Oh I'm good, how are you?

- 哦，我很好，你呢？

- Good.

- 很好啊

- Okay, I'm sitting in the other room

- 好吧，我坐在另一個房間裡。

and I'm so nervous for him.

我真為他緊張。

She seems very high functioning and maybe even neuro-typical

她看起來功能很強，甚至可能是神經類型的人

with just some physical disabilities.

只是有一些身體殘疾。

And that's something that's really interesting about CP is

而這也是CP真正有趣的地方。

that CP is a very kind of umbrella term,

CP是一個很好的總稱。

where there are a lot of variations

千變萬化

in what CP can look like.

在CP可以是什麼樣子的。

So some people just have a little bit

所以有些人只是有一點

of a waddle in their walk and some muscle weakness

步履蹣跚，肌肉無力

but they're totally neuro-typical.

但他們完全是神經型的。

Some people are very severely disabled

有些人是非常嚴重的殘障人士

and need 24/7 care and can't really do much on their own.

並需要24小時的照顧，自己也做不了什麼。

So Sean falls kind of in the middle of everything.

所以，肖恩屬於那種在中間的一切。

And that's why he can be so tricky, I think,

我想，這也是他為什麼會如此棘手的原因。

when it comes to dating and finding a partner

當涉及到約會和找到一個合作伙伴

because a lot of the people he knows kind of fall

因為他認識的很多人都是這樣的人

on either one end or the other.

在一端或另一端。

He just needs to find someone

他只是需要找一個人

that will love him for who he is.

會愛他的人，因為他是誰。

And it's not about the disability, right?

而且這不是關於殘疾的問題，對吧？

It's just about finding someone who intellectually

這只是關於找到一個人誰的智力。

can match him in a fun way.

可以用有趣的方式來配合他。

We'll see how this goes.

我們將拭目以待。

How did it go?

進展如何？

- It went really well,

- 它真的很順利。

but I want to keep as friends

但我想保持作為朋友

because she lives too far away.

因為她住得太遠。

And I don't want to move there.

我也不想搬到那裡去。

- [Sheena] Yeah. That makes sense.

- 是的.這是有道理的.

Well, I'm glad you had fun though.

好吧，我很高興你有樂趣，雖然。

And it sounds like you made a new friend.

而且聽起來你好像交了個新朋友。

- Yay.

- 呀。

I'm so excited to see who else is out there.

我很想看看還有誰在那裡。

And I want to keep on dating.

而且我想繼續約會。

- So ladies, if he's your type

- 所以女士們，如果他是你喜歡的類型

I am still down to match-make.

我還是下來做媒的。

So hit us up.

所以，打我們了。

Also, if anyone else knows other ways to meet people

另外，如果有誰知道其他認識人的方法

for people like Sean,

對於像肖恩這樣的人。

let us know.

讓我們知道。

(happy guitar music)

（快樂的吉他音樂）