Name: 失去父親："一切看起來都是一樣的，但事實並非如此"--BBC News (Losing my dad: 'Everything looks the same but it isn't' - BBC News)
Uploaded: 2020-12-17T18:30:34.000Z
Duration: 5 min 25 s

現在進行式

It doesn't quite feel like it's Friday because nothing is happening, but yeah, no Freddie feeling?

雖然不怎麼覺得今天是週五，因為什麼都沒發生，但也是，沒有弗萊迪的感覺？

是的，我在四月失去了我的父親。

Was a bit of a shock because he was quite a healthy guy.

是一個有點震驚，因為他是一個相當健康的傢伙。

Hey, was just a very kind encouraging and nurturing man.

嘿，就是一個很善良的鼓勵和培養的人。

Spent a lot of time doting on nurses, his family.

花了很多時間寵愛護士，他的家人。

Tohave toe happen is my dad's very lucky, but you lost your father as well.

發生這種事是我爸爸的幸運，但你也失去了你的父親。

So I lost my dad two years ago now, and he was quite like, quiet, but like confident guy.

所以，我兩年前失去了我的父親，現在，他是相當喜歡，安靜，但像自信的傢伙。

Yeah, we go on like, really well, like we used to make fun of each other and, like also have, like, lots of, like, dinner table like debates be always kind of Let me speak my mind, like without judgment.

是啊，我們去喜歡，真的很好， 喜歡我們用來取笑對方，喜歡也有，喜歡， 很多，喜歡，餐桌像辯論 總是那種讓我說出我的想法， 像沒有判斷。

Kind of bean drooling kind of locked down.

I think the things that you usually do to comfort yourself haven't really been able to see people that much.

我覺得平時做的那些安慰自己的事情，還真沒能見到那麼多的人。

I think the kind of toughest part was falling asleep and waking up, because when you wake up, you kind of your you know, you have a dream.

我覺得最艱難的部分是入睡和醒來，因為當你醒來時，你會覺得... ...你知道，你做了一個夢。

You have that, like, split second and then you like, remember And it, like, dawns on you like your reality.

你有那一瞬間，喜歡，然後你喜歡，記得它，喜歡， 恍然大悟你喜歡你的現實。

This point I feel like I'm going and saying The world sometimes feels really strange and disconnected because everything looks the same.

這一點我覺得我想說這個世界有時候感覺真的很奇怪，很斷層，因為一切看起來都一樣。

But nothing feels the same When you don't feel great.

但當你感覺不好的時候，一切都不一樣了。

People who care about you want toe help, you feel better.

關心你的人要趾高氣揚地幫助你，你會感覺更好。

But sometimes it's just like, No, I feel bad.

但有時它只是喜歡，不，我覺得不好。

I don't I don't want to feel any better or you don't want to feel Yeah, I don't want you to try and cheer me up right now.

我不想，我不想感覺更好，或者你不想感覺 是啊，我不想讓你嘗試，讓我高興起來，現在。

I just feel bad if you're just honest, not friend, and be like, Hey, I'm not feeling great, But also don't you don't need to cheer me up.

我只是覺得不好，如果你只是誠實，而不是朋友，並像，嘿，我不舒服，但也不要你不需要讓我高興起來。

I just want I just want to speak at people.

People are happy to listen So did you get to say goodbye to your dad?

大家聽了都很高興，那麼你有機會和你爸爸說再見嗎？

I'm I'm a bit of softly, so I tell people I love them all the time, But I kind of wish that I had, uh, e don't know, spent more time saying that and making it clear.

我... ...我很溫柔，所以我一直告訴別人我愛他們，但我有點希望，呃，我不知道，花更多的時間說，並使其明確。

And I really wish that I told him that I was proud of him, that I appreciated what he done, um, in in building our family on board the second crisis he made on that I was never ashamed Thio to say that he was my dad and just that it was really I was an honor e o b his son.

我真的希望我告訴他，我為他感到驕傲，我很感激他所做的，嗯，在建立我們的家庭在船上的第二個危機，他做了，我從來沒有慚愧Thio說，他是我的爸爸，只是，這真的是我是一個榮譽Ø B他的兒子。

So when we knew, he was really I got a phone call from work kind of rush back on.

所以當我們知道的時候，他真的是我接到工作電話那種急急忙忙的回上。

He was in his bed and I remember kind of set next and then, like holding them or whatever.

他是在他的床上，我記得那種集接下來，然後，像抱著他們或什麼。

I was like thinking of everything in my head, like what I should say.

我當時就像在想一切，比如我應該說什麼。

My dad, he was quite an emotional person on I was thinking like, how would he be feeling right now?

我的爸爸，他是一個相當情緒化的人，我在想，他現在會是什麼感覺？

What does he kind of want me to see and I remember, like thinking it like I see it, see, See it and I could just kind of sat there for ages.

他想讓我看到什麼，我記得，就像想我看到了，看到了，看到了，我可以只是那種坐在那裡好久。

Look after my mom and my sisters, This will be the first, like Christmas.

照顧好我媽媽和我的姐妹們，這將是第一個，就像聖誕節一樣。

Now, like, how's that been dealing with those events That uh huh We kind of changed their in like traditions, like ones that would involve my dad.

現在，就像，如何一直處理 這些事件，呃，呵呵，我們有點改變了他們在像傳統， 像那些會涉及到我的父親。

It's too sore toe like re enact or do again.

太痛的腳趾頭像重新頒佈或再做。

We're like doing something completely different.

我們就像在做一些完全不同的事情。

Any kind of advice I would give to anyone would be like respect each other's leaving processes on all that you've got.

我給任何人的建議都是，比如尊重對方的離開過程，對你的所有。

很明顯，比如兄弟姐妹和媽媽。

Everyone grieves differently, so don't expect someone to grieve like you're grieving.

每個人悲傷的方式都不一樣，所以不要指望別人會像你一樣悲傷。

 I've been listening to podcasts and reading things and just feeling help me feel like I'm not alone but also understand that this is, unfortunately the part of life on. 

我一直在聽播客和閱讀的東西，只是覺得幫助我覺得我不是一個人，但也明白，這是，不幸的生活的一部分上。

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