The first time I encountered in front of me, I was in gymnastics class and seven years old.

第一次遇到在我面前的，是上體操課的時候，七歲。

I I'm an a k Wow, I'm an A k two.

我我是一個K 哇，我是一個A K 2。

Yeah, you're right.

是的，你是對的。

You are a second place freeze frame on my chubby cheeked fat face.

你是我那張胖乎乎的臉的第二名定格。

I had no idea what had just happened to me.

我不知道剛才發生在我身上的事情。

Not only had the other An a k singlehandedly backhanded me in the face with her words, but she also somehow cemented herself as the Alfa in our newly formed fragile friendship, essentially making her my very first friend of May.

另一個An a k不僅用她的話語單刀直入地反手打了我的臉，而且她也在某種程度上鞏固了自己在我們新建立的脆弱友誼中的阿爾法地位，基本上使她成為了我的第一個五月的朋友。

And for the next 23 years, I have traversed across the world, immersed in different cultures and countries.

而在接下來的23年裡，我穿越了整個世界，沉浸在不同的文化和國家中。

I have encountered various kinds of frenemies and they always boil down to four distinct types.

我遇到過各種類型的情敵，他們總是歸結為四種不同的類型。

One, the controlling front of me.

一，我的控制力前。

This person gets mad when you make plans that don't include them dictates what you both should do without taking your opinion into account and overall tries to be the boss.

這種人在你制定的計劃不包括他們時就會生氣，支配你們兩個人應該做什麼，而不考慮你的意見，總體上試圖成為老闆。

You know, you're dealing with one because you will feel exhausted from constantly being controlled.

你知道，你在和一個人打交道，因為你會因為不斷被控制而感到疲憊。

The best way to flip this front of me into a friend is to speak up and don't back down about your own needs.

要想把我這個前面的人翻成朋友，最好的辦法就是大聲說出來，對自己的需求不要退縮。

To the jealous friend.

給嫉妒的朋友。

Me, this person cannot celebrate your success without tearing you down.

我，這個人不拆你的臺，就不能慶祝你的成功。

There's always conflict between you.

你們之間總是有矛盾的。

If you're the one who's succeeding in any aspect of your life, and they often come with passive aggression and negativity with them, you feel insecure and like yourself, worth a slowly tanking.

如果你是一個在生活中任何方面都很成功的人，他們往往會帶著被動的攻擊性和消極的情緒，你會覺得沒有安全感，像你自己，值得慢慢坦克。

So the best way to flip this friendship is to call them out on their behavior and draw Boundary.

所以，翻轉這段友誼的最好方法就是對他們的行為進行指責，並畫出Boundary。

Three.

三號

The competitive front of me.

競爭激烈的我前。

This one is pretty self explanatory.

這個就不言而喻了。

I thought you any young man, Osama.

我以為你是個年輕人，奧薩瑪。

Kalinda.

凱琳達

What about Espanola?

埃斯帕諾拉呢？

Vanessa, English.

凡妮莎，英語。

The fix for this type of front of me is to completely take yourself out of the game.

對付這類面前的我，解決的辦法就是讓自己徹底退出遊戲。

You'll never win, so why try?

你永遠也贏不了，為什麼要嘗試？

And finally, the I need something, and that's what you're hearing from in front of me.

最後，我需要的東西，這就是你在我面前聽到的。

You only hear from this person when they want something from you, whether it's to dump their latest emotional baggage, borrow a possession that they need or use you for a professional or personal relationship.

只有當這個人想要從你這裡得到什麼的時候，你才會聽到他的消息，不管是甩掉他們最新的情感包袱，借用他們需要的財產，還是利用你來建立職業或個人關係。

My personal advice with these kind of frenemies is if, after an honest conversation about the unrequited friendship they don't value your relationship enoughto actually nurture it during the times when they don't need something.

我的個人建議與這些類型的frenemies是，如果，在一個誠實的談話後，關於不求回報的友誼，他們不重視你的關係enoughto實際上培養它在時代，當他們不需要的東西。

Let them go because friendship is a two way street.

讓他們去吧，因為友誼是雙向的。

And remember, I do want to point out sometimes you could be these frenemies.

記住，我確實想指出，有時候你們可能是這些敵人。

I have definitely been all of them before.

我以前肯定都去過。

So examine the way that you react in your friendships and ask yourself, Am I controlling jealous, competitive or only talking to people when I want something from them?

所以，檢查一下你在朋友關係中的反應方式，問問自己，我是控制慾強嫉妒心強，競爭性強，還是隻有在我想從別人那裡得到什麼的時候才和別人說話？

If so, self awareness is the first step to change.

如果是這樣，自我意識是改變的第一步。

Don't be like an okay.

別像個沒事人一樣。

It's the other one, Not me.

是另一個人，不是我。

I'm great anyway.

反正我很好。

I'm Anaconda, and though you could be held back by your friends, you don't have to let your credit hold you back.

我是蟒蛇，雖然你可能會被朋友拖後腿，但你不必讓你的信用拖後腿。

That's right.

是的

Thank you to experience for sponsoring today's video.

感謝體驗者對今天視頻的贊助。

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益百利Boost開發了一個專屬體驗，就是讓消費者能夠瞬間提高自己的信用分數。

Experience boost works by giving you credit for the bills that you are already paying through your bank account like water, gas, electric, cable, Internet and cell phone bills.

體驗提升的工作原理是為您已經通過銀行賬戶支付的賬單提供信用額度，如水費、燃氣費、電費、有線電視費、網絡費和手機費。

This is actually the first time a credit bureau is allowing consumers to submit utility and telecom payments to be added to their credit score, making it also the very first time that credit scores can be raised instantly.

這其實是信用局第一次允許消費者提交水電費和電信費加入到自己的信用評分中，這也是信用評分可以瞬間提升的第一次。

Not only is this completely free, but most people who do boost see an increase greater than 10 points.

這不僅是完全免費的，而且大多數人在提升的時候，看到的增幅都大於10點。

You are in complete control and you could add or remove experience boost anytime.

你完全可以控制，隨時可以添加或刪除經驗提升。

Experience is trying to hashtag boost America's credit score, so boost yours today.

經驗正在努力提升美國的信用分數，今天就提升你的信用分數吧。

It is safe, secure and easy.

它安全、可靠、方便。

You know that 90% of lenders use FICO scores when making credit decisions.

你知道90%的貸款人在做信貸決定時都會使用FICO評分。

As an entrepreneur, having good credit has been essential and creating my various businesses.

作為一個創業者，擁有良好的信用是必不可少的，也是創造我各項事業的關鍵。

For example, my clothing line Ghost in Stars was initially funded completely through credit.

例如，我的服裝系列Ghost in Stars最初的資金完全來自於信貸。

And because I have a great credit score, I had favorable interest rates and lower monthly payments while I got ghost in stars off the ground.

而且因為我的信用分很高，所以我的利率很優惠，月供也比較低，而我卻把鬼子在星星裡脫胎換骨。

You can click the link below to boost your credit.

你可以點擊下面的鏈接來提升你的信用。

Score instantly at experian dot com slash anna.

在experian dot com slash anna即時比分。