Name: 失去孩子的媽媽遇到失去媽媽的孩子。 (Moms Who Have Lost Children Meet Children Who Have Lost Moms)
Uploaded: 2020-10-31T19:10:44.000Z
Duration: 14 min 7 s

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過去簡單式

I'm pretty sure she's sitting right next to you now, right.

我很確定她現在就坐在你旁邊，對吧。

I think it's destiny that you and I are talking to each other.

我想，你我之間的對話是緣分。

Yeah, actually, my father Navy After Nina Simone, he was like one of her biggest fan.

是啊，其實，我的父親海軍後尼娜-西蒙尼， 他就像她的最大的球迷之一。

你 你的名字是以一個真正的傳說命名的。

I will get emotional probably throughout this, and I just I will say I'm sorry.

我可能會在整個過程中變得情緒化，我只是我會說對不起。

She really struggled with Depression anxiety.

她真的在與抑鬱焦慮症作鬥爭。

Um, and one of the things that that I feel like she did for others was she always took other people's grief and pain, made it her own and tried to help other people.

嗯，其中一件事，我覺得她為別人做的是她總是把別人的悲傷和痛苦，使其成為自己的，並試圖幫助其他人。

She was in the midst of trying different medicine when she just decided she couldn't, um she couldn't do it anymore.

她正在嘗試不同的藥物，當她剛剛決定她不能，嗯，她不能再做了。

She tried hard, and we miss her every day.

她很努力，我們每天都在想念她。

Thank you so much for starting that often sharing all that.

非常感謝你開始經常分享這些。

I really appreciate having this conversation with you.

So thank you for being so vulnerable and open.

She kind of reminded me sometimes of like this over the top movie star, some of my memories of her, just like her driving this old old Mercedes Benz she would always wear, like, leopard print.

她有時讓我想起了像這種過氣的電影明星，我對她的一些記憶，就像她開著這輛老舊的奔馳車，她總是穿著，像，豹紋。

And, like, big black sunglasses on, she would be just like, honestly, just like smoking cigarettes and blasting like Fleetwood Mac and Prince and Cat Stevens.

而且，就像，大黑墨鏡上， 她會就像，說實話，就像抽菸 和爆破像弗利特伍德麥克和王子和貓史蒂文斯。

She had this really beautiful suite energy at times, on the other side of that of all this beautiful qualities that she had, she also really struggled with addiction, alcoholism?

她有時有這種非常美麗的套房能量，在她的這些美麗品質的另一面，她也真的在與毒癮、酗酒作鬥爭？

Um, for most of her adult life when she was 47.

嗯，在她47歲的時候，她成年後的大部分時間裡。

Um, in about a week, uh, before my 22nd birthday, she did pass by suicide.

在我22歲生日前的一個星期 她自殺了。

He was, like, the biggest prankster forever.

他是，像，最大的惡作劇永遠。

You know, he kept me smelling People always would mistake me as his sister opposed to.

你知道，他讓我聞到了人們總是會誤以為我是他的妹妹，而不是。

His mom always wanted to feed everybody in the neighborhood, you know, because I'm a chef You know, I used to always bring people over, you know?

他的媽媽總是想喂每個人 在附近，你知道，因為我是一個廚師，你知道，我經常帶人過來，你知道嗎？

He actually wasn't feeling well the night of the 27th in July of 2000 and 16 and I called the ambulance to go and pick him up, lo and behold, rushing on the scene, they hit him, and then they left him for day.

其實2000年7月27日晚上他身體不舒服，16日我叫救護車去接他，瞧，衝在現場，他們打了他，然後就把他丟在了天。

So losing him was like, you know, I don't have nothing else to live for.

所以，失去他就像，你知道，我沒有什麼其他的生活。

感謝上帝的恩典，我還在這裡。

I'm sorry, e feel like our Our family knew each other because my mom is exactly what your son done.

我很抱歉，我覺得我們的家人都認識對方 因為我媽媽就是你兒子所做的事。

Like she always wanted my friend come over.

就像她一直想讓我的朋友過來一樣。

她的名字叫瑪麗-貝爾-佩拉塔。

She was a woman who came to this country undocumented.

她是一個來到這個國家的女人，沒有證件。

Um, a woman who came here toe build a better life.

嗯，一個女人誰來到這裡建立一個更好的生活。

I'm like, remembering memories of her scraping through the bottom of her person that she could buy, like cold cuts have dinner.

我就像，記得她在她的人底裡蒐羅能買的東西，比如冷盤有飯吃的記憶。

And it was always just, like, beautiful moment, because like like Nina.

它總是隻是，喜歡，美麗的時刻， 因為喜歡喜歡尼娜。

My mom loved to cook, and we didn't have a lot of money, but she could feed the whole neighborhood.

我媽媽喜歡做飯，我們的錢不多，但她可以養活整個小區的人。

It was my junior year of college, and I just remember being in a final phone is ringing and ringing and ringing.

那是我大三的時候，我只記得在最後電話是響了又響，響了又響。

So I'm like, OK, something has got to be up.

所以我就想，好吧，一定有什麼事。

I sneak away to the bathroom and it's this nurse.

我偷偷跑去衛生間，是這個護士。

She just took a deep breath and she was like, I'm so sorry, E.

她只是深吸一口氣，她說，我很抱歉，E。

Your mom had a brain aneurysm, and she's not gonna make it.

你媽媽得了腦動脈瘤，她活不了了。

B was just a healthy, normal 11 year old boy before he was diagnosed.

B在被確診之前，只是一個健康、正常的11歲男孩。

He loved music and singing, you know, even from the time he was little people always said he had an old soul.

他喜歡音樂，喜歡唱歌，你知道的，甚至從他小的時候人們就一直說他有一個老靈魂。

So you kind of wonder if, like, he needed to have that soul compacted into his 11 years because he wasn't gonna have the lifetime that we all thought he would have on.

所以你會想，如果一樣，他需要有 靈魂壓縮到他的11年，因為他不會有一生 我們都認為他將有上。

He just was having some numbness in his hand, and the next day hey was having trouble walking.

他只是手有些麻木，第二天嘿嘿走路都困難。

So my husband took him over to the Children's Hospital on a on a tumor in his brain.

於是我老公帶著他去了兒童醫院，在他腦部的腫瘤上。

I had finished chemotherapy a month before his diagnosis.

在他診斷前一個月，我已經完成了化療。

So it was just his moment of like he can't have cancer.

所以，這只是他的時刻，像他不能有癌症。

我只是為了家人而承受了這一擊。

He was given diagnosis of 12 to 18 months.

我們的整個生活就這樣停止了。

We said, Well, what we hope for now, right?

我們說，嗯，我們現在希望的是什麼，對吧？

What do you hope for when you know your kid is dying and you know all the things that we imagine, like graduations and marriages and bar mitzvah, and being a productive member of society was just up in the air and he said, You just hope for what you can't His farm Ato was scheduled for December of 2017 and he hung on to get to that bar mitzvah.

當你知道你的孩子快死了，你知道我們想象中的所有事情，比如畢業，結婚和成人禮，成為社會的生產者只是在空中，他說，你只是希望你不能他的農場阿託被安排在2017年12月，他堅持到那個成人禮。

The whole community was there, the sanctuary was stilled and Kobe was just singing his heart out.

全社會都到了，聖殿靜止了，科比只是在唱著自己的心聲。

It was like the Holy Angels for shining on him and and then a few days after his four months, But the tumor just group like it was his body, saying it was enough.

這就像聖天使為照耀他，然後幾天後，他的四個月，但腫瘤只是組像它是他的身體，說這是足夠的。

And then, seven weeks after his bar mitzvah.

然後，在他的成人禮後的七個星期。

He passed away kind of a mentally pointed.

You know, Kobe has such an amazing spirit that it couldn't last the entire lifetime.

你知道嗎，科比有這樣一種神奇的精神，它不可能持續一輩子。

And that's kind of how I looked at my mom was like, she was just so amazing that it would have been fair if I had to.

而這也算是我看我媽的方式是，她就是這麼神奇，如果我不得不這樣做，那就太公平了。

她是我的母親，也是我的父親。

She was like a real spiritual kind of Well, we were Jewish, Jewish.

她就像一個真正的精神的那種 嗯，我們是猶太人，猶太人。

You know, the fact that my sisters are black and she understood that society might look at this a little differently.

你知道，事實上，我的姐妹們都是黑人，她明白，社會可能會用不同的眼光看待這個問題。

She always made sure that we knew we were just as valuable as everybody else.

她總是確保我們知道我們和其他人一樣有價值。

She had the biggest heart that anybody a no and maybe two of to a fault.

她有最大的心臟，任何人一個沒有，也許兩個到一個錯誤。

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