And what you think is missing is motivation.

而你認為缺少的是動力。

At some point, everything's gonna go south on you.

在某些時候，一切都會對你不利。

Everything's gonna go south and you're gonna say This is it.

一切都會變糟，你會說這就是了。

This is how I end now.

這就是我現在的結局。

You can either accept that or you could get to work.

你可以接受，也可以去工作。

That's all it is.

就是這樣的。

You just begin.

你剛剛開始。

You do the math, you solve one problem, then you solve the next one.

你算一算，解決了一道題，再解決下一道題。

Yeah.

是啊。

400 trillion toe one.

400萬億到一。

I just want everybody to hear this.

我只是想讓大家聽到這個。

This is the reason I'm happy.

這就是我高興的原因。

24 73 65 for the rest of my life.

24 73 65我的餘生。

400 trillion toe.

400萬億趾。

One the odds of becoming a human being.

一個成為人的機率。

If you want to be a grocer or a general or a politician or a judge, you will invariably become it.

如果你想成為一名雜貨商、將軍、政治家或法官，你總會成為它。

That is your punishment.

這就是對你的懲罰。

You can decide that you're going to stand upto life.

你可以決定你要站起來面對生活。

You could decide that I'm gonna live each day as if it were my last.

你可以決定我把每一天都當作最後一天來過。

They've crunched the numbers on you being born.

他們已經計算了你出生的數字。

And do you realize that the odds the odds of you at the moment in time he was born to the parents you were born to with the DNA structure that you have one and 400 trillion if you never know what you want to be.

而你是否意識到，你在他出生的那一刻，你的父母與你出生的DNA結構，你有1和400萬億的機率，如果你永遠不知道你想成為什麼。

If you live what some might call the dynamic life.

如果你過著一些人可能稱之為動態的生活。

But I will call the artistic life If each day you are unsure of who you are and what you know, you will never become anything That is your reward.

但我要把它稱為藝術人生 如果每天你都不確定自己是誰，不確定自己知道什麼，你就永遠不會成為什麼，這就是你的回報。

If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you if you can trust yourself when all men doubt you but make allowances for their doubting too.

如果你能保持你的頭，當所有關於你的人都失去了他們的，並指責你，如果你能相信自己，當所有的男人懷疑你，但允許他們的懷疑也。

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting or being lied about, don't deal in lies or being hated.

如果你能等待，不因等待或被欺騙而感到疲憊，就不要用謊言或被仇恨來交易。

Don't give way to hating one and 400 trillion all day long.

不要讓位給恨一個人，一天到晚400兆。

You have ideas that could change your life.

你的想法可以改變你的生活。

That could change the world.

這可能會改變世界。

That could change the way that you feel.

這可能會改變你的感覺。

What do you do with them?

你怎麼處理它們？

Things we've worked the hardest for, we value the most.

我們最辛苦的事情，我們最重視。

So I think you know the purpose of the goal is not getting it.

所以我想你知道目標的目的是得不到的。

Anyway.

總之...

The purpose goal.

目的目標。

You know who you become, who you become is gonna make you happier gonna make you sad.

你知道你成為誰，你成為誰會讓你更快樂... ...會讓你更悲傷。

So I'm not looking for an effortless approach.

所以，我並不是在尋找一種不費吹灰之力的方法。

It is too late to be scared, not had an encouraging, bloody word.

害怕為時已晚，沒有過一句鼓勵，血淋淋的話語。

Israel encouraging word in their entire life.

以色列人一生中鼓勵的話語。

It just takes a little bit of of encouragement and care so that they're willing to set themselves straight to some degree and start trying.

只是需要一點點的鼓勵和關心，讓他們願意在一定程度上擺正自己的位置，開始嘗試。

It's just a catastrophe that that's that's so rare in their lives that if you're doing something that you're not totally committed to, if you're doing something that you're not totally passionate about, your compromising yourself every day, some people want to ultra racist.

這只是一個災難，那是那是如此罕見的在他們的生活中，如果你做的東西，你不是完全致力於，如果你做的東西，你不是完全的激情，你妥協自己的每一天，有些人想極端種族主義。

They're starting a PR during training.

他們在訓練中開始公關。

Some people won't be a lawyer or a medical student, so they're taking these practice tests.

有些人不會成為律師或醫學生，所以他們要參加這些實踐測試。

Guess what happens.

猜猜會發生什麼？

Where'd you get the actual event?

你從哪裡得到的實際事件？

Your mind isn't ready.

你的思想還沒有準備好。

Your mind's not prepared.

你的思想還沒有準備好。

You've been studying.

你一直在學習。

You've been training.

你一直在訓練。

You've been working out.

你一直在鍛鍊。

But your mind's not prepared.

但你的思想還沒有準備好。

Yeah, Mhm, Yes, transforming the walls into doors, changing obstacles into opportunities.

是的，是的，把牆變成門，把障礙變成機會。

By the time that they closed the second restaurant, it was an $800,000 loss e mean.

到他們關閉第二家餐廳的時候，已經虧損了80萬美金e意思。

That meant our entire home equity line gone.

這意味著我們的全部房屋產權額度沒有了。

It meant kids college.

這意味著孩子們的大學。

I get just choked up just thinking about how terrifying it waas.

一想到那是多麼可怕的事情，我就哽咽了。

And so I found myself at the age of 41 like just feeling like a complete failure because the way that our minds are wired and the fact about human beings is that we are not designed to do things that are uncomfortable or scary or difficult, our brains air designed to protect us from those things because our brains are trying to keep us alive and in order to change in order to build a business in order to be the best parent, the best spouse to do all those things that you know you want to do with your life.

所以我發現自己在41歲的時候感覺自己是個徹頭徹尾的失敗者，因為我們的思維方式是有線的，而關於人類的事實是，我們不是被設計來做不舒服的事情，或者是可怕的，或者是困難的，我們的大腦空氣被設計來保護我們免受這些事情的影響，因為我們的大腦正在試圖讓我們活著，為了改變，為了建立一個企業，為了成為最好的父母，最好的配偶，為了做所有這些事情，你知道你想用你的生命來做。

With your work, with your dreams, you're gonna have to do things that are difficult, uncertain or scary.

你的工作，你的夢想，你要做的事情是困難的，不確定的或可怕的。

Which sets up this problem for all of us.

這就為我們大家設置了這個問題。

You're never gonna feel like it.

你永遠都不會喜歡它。

Motivations garbage.

動機垃圾。

You only feel motivated to do the things that are easy, right, And at some point, I think we all hit that moment in life where things just are not going how you thought they would go and what's amazing about those moments is we all respond very differently.

你只會覺得有動力去做那些容易的事情，對吧，而在某些時候，我想我們都會遇到生活中的那一刻，事情並沒有按照你想象的那樣去做，而那些時刻令人驚奇的是我們的反應非常不同。

I believe desire and will to win is everything.

我相信勝利的慾望和意志就是一切。

I don't know why I'm like I am, but my butts, always burning is always something.

我不知道為什麼我會這樣，但我的屁股，總是在燃燒著，總是有什麼。

Say our dad gum, but you're supposed to go for it.

說我們爸爸口香糖，但你應該去做。

Our dad come, but you're supposed to be somebody.

我們的爸爸來了，但你應該是一個人。

You're supposed to make a difference with your life.

你應該用你的生命去改變。

What does the $500,000 year person do?

年薪50萬的人是幹什麼的？

The $50,000 year person doesn't do.

5萬元年的人不做。

You look it outside.

你到外面看看

In study those two individuals, everything seems to be the same.

在研究那兩個人的時候，一切似乎都是一樣的。

They, both of the same sex.

他們，都是同性。

They, both of the same age, had the same train, the same positions, the same contract.

他們，都是同齡人，同車、同崗位、同合同。

The same friends benefits.

同樣的朋友福利。

They both are successful.

他們都是成功的。

They work hard.

他們努力工作。

They're good family.

他們是好家庭。

People make tough commitments.

人們做出了艱難的承諾。

But what's the difference?

但有什麼區別呢？

What does the $500,000 year person do?

年薪50萬的人是幹什麼的？

The $50,000 year person doesn't do.

5萬元年的人不做。

He pays the price and a little bit.

他付出的代價和一點點。

Mawr.

Mawr.

He works hard in a little bit mawr.

他在一點點毛爾努力工作。

He's loyal to the country in a little bit Mawr.

他對國家的忠誠，在一點點毛爾。

He believes in a little bit more.

他相信多一點。

He makes money in a little bit more.

他賺的錢在多一點。

He saves money a little bit.

他有點省錢。

Mawr if you wanna win in these United States, you gotta be tough and you can't quit.

莫爾... ...如果你想在美國贏得比賽，你必須要堅強，不能放棄。

I wore one branch manager down to the point that he says to me, Gardner, based on persistence alone, we're gonna give you a shot because at some point, we all bought into this lie that you've got to feel ready in order to change.

我把一個分公司經理磨得很慘，他對我說，加德納，單憑毅力，我們要給你一個機會，因為在某些時候，我們都相信了這個謊言，你要覺得自己已經準備好了，才能改變。

You know what?

你知道嗎？

You said I couldn't do it, But guess what.

你說我做不到，但你猜怎麼著？

I start in two weeks.

兩週後開始

We bought into this this complete falsehood that at some point you're gonna have the courage.

我們相信這個... ...這個完全錯誤的說法... ...在某些時候你會有勇氣。

At some point, you're gonna have the confidence and it's total bullshit.

在某些時候，你會有信心，它是總的廢話。

Maybe watching this right now and you have these incredible ideas and what you think is missing his motivation.

也許現在看這個，你有這些不可思議的想法，你覺得缺少他的動力。

Failure is part of life.

失敗是生活的一部分。

The difference for me, though, is I look a failure is a stepping stone to success.

不過對我來說，不同的是，我看失敗是成功的墊腳石。

It's a speed bump.

這是一個減速帶。

Every time you learn something, you learn because something you did didn't work and that exposes you to the part of the world that you don't understand.

每一次學習，都是因為你做的某件事情沒有成功，這讓你接觸到了你不瞭解的那部分世界。

Every time you're exposed to part of the world that you don't understand, you have the possibility of rebuilding the structures that you use to interpret the world.

每當你接觸到一部分你不理解的世界時，你就有可能重建你用來解釋世界的結構。

I know I'm gonna fail, but it's not failure if you learn something.

我知道我會失敗，但如果你能學到一些東西，那就不是失敗。

And so every time I do, it just becomes it becomes a way for me to explain to someone else what it takes.

所以每次我做的時候，它只是成為它成為我向別人解釋需要的一種方式。

That's often why it's more important to notice that you're wrong than it is to prove that you're right.

這往往就是為什麼注意到你是錯的比證明你是對的更重要。

People don't value what they don't fight for.

人們不珍惜自己不爭取的東西。

Baby steps count, too.

小步子也算數。

As long as you're going forward.

只要你往前走。

And one day you had all those baby steps up, you might be surprised where you can get Thio.

有一天你有了這些小步子，你可能會驚訝於你能在哪裡得到Thio。

People have an unbelievable capacity to face and overcome things they don't understand.

人有一種不可思議的能力去面對和克服自己不理解的事情。

And not only that, that's essentially what gives life its meaning.

不僅如此，這也是生命的本質意義所在。

The Buddhists say life is suffering.

佛家說人生是苦。

And you think Well, if that's the case, why bother with it?

然後你就會想 如果是這樣的話，為什麼還要去做呢？

Well, now that we could see how short life really can be, what are you gonna do with the rest of your life?

好了，現在我們可以看到生命是多麼的短暫，你打算用你的餘生做什麼？

That's a trigger.

這是一個觸發器。

Uh, that's the biggest trigger that I have ever experienced.

呃，這是我經歷過的最大的觸發器。

What are you gonna do?

你打算怎麼做？

The rest of the cavalry ain't coming.

其餘的騎兵隊不會來了。

You got to do this yourself.

你得自己來

Ain't no backup.

沒有備份。

Okay?

好嗎？

Is our minds air designed to stop you at all costs from doing anything that might hurt you.

我們的思想空氣是為了不惜一切代價阻止你做任何可能傷害你的事情。

And the way that that that that this all happens, is it all starts with something super subtle that none of us ever catch.

而這一切發生的方式， 是這一切都開始與一些超級微妙的東西， 我們從來沒有抓住。

And that is with this habit that all of us have that nobody is talking about.

而這與我們每個人都有的這個習慣，卻無人談論。

We all have a habit of hesitating.

我們都有猶豫的習慣。

We have an idea.

我們有一個想法。

You're sitting in a meeting, you have this incredible idea and instead of just, you know, saying it, you stop and you hesitate.

你坐在會議上，你有一個不可思議的想法，而不是，你知道，說出來，你停下來，你猶豫不決。

Now, what none of us realize is that when you hesitate just that moment, that micro moment, that small hesitation, it sends a stress signal to your brain.

現在，我們都沒有意識到的是，當你猶豫的時候，只是那一瞬間，那微不足道的一瞬間，那小小的猶豫，就會向你的大腦發出壓力信號。

It wakes your brain up in your brain.

它能喚醒你的大腦中的大腦。

All of a sudden goes, Oh, wait a minute.

突然去，哦，等一下。

Why is he hesitated?

他為什麼猶豫不決？

He didn't hesitate when he put on his killer spiky sneakers.

當他穿上他那雙殺手級的尖頭運動鞋時，他沒有猶豫。

He didn't hesitate with the really cool track pants.

他毫不猶豫地穿上了那條非常酷的運動褲。

He didn't hesitate with the NASA T shirt.

他毫不猶豫地穿上了NASA的T桖。

Now he's hesitating to talk, so it must be up.

現在他猶豫不決，所以一定是起來了。

So then your brain goes toe work to protect you.

所以你的大腦就會去保護你。

It has a million different ways to protect you.

它有千變萬化的方法來保護你。

One of them is called the spotlight effect.

其中一種叫聚光燈效應。

It's a known phenomenon where your brain magnifies risk.

這是一個眾所周知的現象，你的大腦會放大風險。

Why?

為什麼？

To pull you away from something that it perceives to be a problem.

要把你從它認為有問題的東西上拉開。

And so you can truly trace every single problem or complaint in your life to silence and hesitation.

於是，你可以真正地把生活中的每一個問題或抱怨都追溯到沉默和猶豫。

Those air decisions and what I do and what's changed my life is waking up and realizing that motivations garbage.

那些空氣的決定和我所做的事情，以及改變我生活的是醒來後意識到動機是垃圾。

I'm never gonna feel like doing the things that are tougher difficulty and certain or scarier new.

我永遠不會覺得做那些難度比較大的事情和某些或者比較可怕的新事物。

So I need to stop waiting until I feel like it.

所以，我需要停止等待，直到我覺得喜歡它。

And number two, I am one decision away from a totally different marriage, a totally different life, a totally different job, a totally different income, a totally different, uh, relationship with my kids.

第二，我只差一個決定，就會有一個完全不同的婚姻，完全不同的生活，完全不同的工作，完全不同的收入，完全不同的，呃，和孩子們的關係。

Your life comes down to your decisions, and if you change your decisions, you will change everything.

你的生活歸根結底取決於你的決定，如果你改變了你的決定，你將改變一切。