Name: 約會時要注意自己的3個危險信號。 (3 red flags to look for in yourself when dating)
Uploaded: 2020-10-23T22:37:24.000Z
Duration: 3 min 13 s

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the other day I was talking to a friend about a new girl she's dating when she said There are just so many red flags.

有一天，我跟一個朋友說起她的一個新女友，她說有這麼多的危險信號。

And it made me realize, You know, we're always looking for these deal breakers and problematic behaviors and other people.

這讓我意識到，你知道，我們總是在尋找這些交易破壞者和有問題的行為和其他人。

But when do we ever look at our own red flags?

但我們什麼時候看過自己的紅旗？

And when we consider our side of the street when dating what would be a flag for us?

而當我們在約會的時候，考慮到我們這邊的情況，什麼會是我們的一面旗幟呢？

Well, red flag number one, what are you actually looking for?

那麼，紅旗一號，你到底在找什麼？

You'd be surprised how many people I go on dates with who have no idea what they want.

你會驚訝於有多少人我去約會誰不知道他們想要什麼。

So are you looking for something serious?

所以，你是在尋找一些嚴肅的東西嗎？

Oh, so you're just looking for something casual.

哦，所以你只是在尋找一些休閒的東西。

Well, eventually I want to settle down with someone.

好吧，最終我還是想找個人安定下來。

What are you actually hoping to get out of this?

Uh, whatever we're looking for, it's our job to know and communicate that in front when we're actively dating.

呃，不管我們在尋找什麼，我們的工作就是在前面積極約會的時候瞭解和溝通。

Honesty and straightforwardness are essential and could help us navigate another persons feelings in a respectful way.

誠實和直率是必不可少的，可以幫助我們以一種尊重的方式來引導他人的感情。

Even when I've met people whose goals don't line up with mine.

即使我遇到的人的目標和我的目標不一致。

I appreciated them being up front about it.

Do you actually like this person or do you just like the attention?

你是真的喜歡這個人，還是隻是喜歡關注？

Are you only dating because you're terrified of being alone?

你只是因為害怕孤獨才約會的嗎？

I have been guilty of not having the best motivations when dating sometimes.

我也曾犯過有時約會時沒有最好的動機。

And it has always led to me hurting someone's feelings.

而這總是導致我傷害了別人的感情。

So a quick check of what your motivations are will help spare others.

所以，快速檢查一下你的動機是什麼，會有助於放過別人。

And red flag number three, your ideas of relationships.

How much does your personality change when you're with someone?

當你和一個人在一起的時候，你的性格會有多大的變化？

Look, babe, you gotta stop dressing up like me.

聽著，寶貝，你不能再像我這樣打扮了。

Are you the type to be extremely co dependent?

你是那種極度依賴共同生活的人嗎？

It's like like your host and I'm your Paris A.

這就像你的主人，我是你的巴黎A。

Are you looking for someone to complement your life or complete it?

你是否在尋找一個人補充你的生活或完成它？

Once we get married, all of our problems will go away.

一旦我們結婚，所有的問題都會消失。

Often our ideas of relationships will affect how we operate in them, and when you're operating from a place of desperate need or thinking that this one person who is your romantic partner will fulfill your whole life.

很多時候，我們對感情的想法會影響到我們在感情中的操作，當你從一個急需的地方操作，或者認為這個人是你的浪漫伴侶，就會成就你的一生。

I mean, not always, but usually I'm Anaconda And, of course, thank you to square space for sponsoring today's episode from websites and online stores to marketing tools and analytics.

我的意思是，並不總是，但通常我是Anaconda，當然，感謝廣場空間贊助今天的節目，從網站和在線商店到營銷工具和分析。

Squarespace is the only one platform to build a beautiful online presence and run your business.

Squarespace是唯一一個建立一個美麗的在線存在和運行您的業務的平臺。

Squarespace allows for simultaneous posting so you can authenticate your social media profiles and auto post your website content.

Squarespace允許同時發佈，這樣你就可以認證你的社交媒體資料，並自動發佈你的網站內容。

If that is not enough for you, you can even do email campaigns, which make it easy to unify your brand voice, whether that's on your home page or in those in boxes.

如果這對你來說還不夠，你甚至可以做電子郵件活動，這讓你很容易統一你的品牌聲音，無論是在你的主頁上還是在那些盒子裡。

So I love the built in tools that allow me to gain insight into my traffic sources.

所以我喜歡內置的工具，讓我能夠深入瞭解我的流量來源。

I'm really interested in data about what device types of people using what browsers and operating systems are being used per visit.

我對每次訪問使用什麼設備類型的人使用什麼瀏覽器和作業系統的數據非常感興趣。

 You could go to squarespace dot com for a free trial, and when you're ready to launch, go to squarespace dot com slash anna to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain with the opera code. 

你可以去squarespace dot com進行免費試用，當你準備好啟動時，去squarespace dot com slash anna，用opera代碼為你首次購買網站或域名節省10%的費用。