Name: 為什麼你不要再給孩子施加壓力 (Why you need to stop pressuring your children)
Uploaded: 2020-10-23T22:30:16.000Z
Duration: 3 min 9 s

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Here's why you should stop pressuring your child.

以下是為什麼你應該停止給孩子施加壓力。

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You love your Children and you want what's best for them.

你愛你的孩子，你想為他們做最好的事情。

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You make sure they eat healthy, are physically active, loved and nurtured.

你要確保他們吃得健康，身體健康，得到愛和培養。

But we live in a competitive culture, and you have to prepare them in this always comparing always judging and fast moving society.

但我們生活在一個競爭的文化中，你必須讓他們在這個總是比較總是判斷和快速發展的社會中做好準備。

You as a responsible parent, make sure that your child receives the best chances in life.

你作為一個負責任的父母，要確保你的孩子得到人生中最好的機會。

But is this constant goal reaching attitude really what's best for your Children?

但這種不斷達成目標的態度，真的是對孩子最好的嗎？

Or should a carefree childhood be reclaimed?

還是應該找回無憂無慮的童年？

You've learned that you will only receive the best paid job if you are the best.

你已經瞭解到，只有你是最優秀的，你才會收到最好的薪水工作。

In order to be the best, you have to attend the best schools.

要想成為最優秀的人，就必須上最好的學校。

You know that it's important to start early with the best education.

你知道，最好的教育要儘早開始。

If your Children don't attend the best preschool, they will not get into the best high school, and then they won't get into an Ivy League college in order to defy competition.

如果你的孩子上不了最好的學前班，就上不了最好的高中，就上不了常青藤大學，才能不畏競爭。

You set high goals for your Children because that's the only way for them to become successful adults, your Children not top of their class.

你為你的孩子設定高目標，因為只有這樣才能讓他們成為成功的成年人，你的孩子不是班上的佼佼者。

Now let's make them win the Physics Olympiad while adding the violin to their hobbies.

現在讓我們讓他們在物理奧賽中奪冠，同時在他們的興趣愛好中加入小提琴。

Not to forget multiple sports off course.

當然也不能忘了多種運動的關。

You believe you just lay the foundation of success.

你相信你只是奠定了成功的基礎。

Setting high expectations doesn't have to be a bad thing, as long as you consider your child's response to them.

設定高期望不一定是壞事，只要你考慮到孩子對期望的反應。

When being pushed too far, your Children may develop nightmares or start pulling out their own hair.

當被逼得太緊時，你的孩子可能會做噩夢或開始拔自己的頭髮。

They may start using drugs, for example, to improve their performance in school tests.

例如，他們可能會開始使用藥物，以提高他們在學校考試中的表現。

Or they develop a homework resistance, anxieties and low confidence.

或者他們對作業產生牴觸情緒，焦慮不安，信心不足。

And you won't be the only one putting pressure on your Children.

而且你不會是唯一一個給你的孩子施加壓力的人。

In order to please you the parent, your Children will add even more pressure.

為了討好你這個家長，你的孩子會增加更多的壓力。

Your Children will believe that they are only loved if they succeed.

你的孩子會相信，只有他們成功了，他們才會被愛。

Why don't you love your child if it makes missed aches?

如果讓孩子錯過了疼痛，你為什麼不愛孩子？

If it fails in a test, stop adding pressure to the one your Children face every day.

如果在一次考試中失敗了，就不要再給你的孩子每天面對的壓力增加了。

Their teachers pressure them as well as their friends.

他們的老師給他們壓力，也給他們的朋友壓力。

Allow them to make mistakes, allow them to be carefree, become your child's supporter and biggest fan.

允許他們犯錯，允許他們無憂無慮，成為孩子的支持者和最大的粉絲。

Don't make your love dependent on their success.

不要讓你的愛情依賴於他們的成功。

 Accept and love them for who they are, not for who they could be. 

接受並愛他們，因為他們是誰，而不是因為他們可以成為誰。